Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[Itto Ogami]

 

well said..

 

ganyan din kami dati ng X ko.. exciting.. happy, pero nauubusan din kami ng bala, paguusapan, pupuntahan.. sa umpisa lang masaya at kakakilig.

 

ako may BF ngaun, nagumpisa din kami ng super saya.. but 1 year na kme halos eh.. so,, nagkakakilala kame, nagkakainisan na,, i mean, ako madalas mainis,, but ganun din yun.

 

ang babae kasi emotional.. syempre kau din, pero di lang halata kaya sa MTC lang ihihinga lahat diba?

 

minsan ang tao nagdedecide lang and ang basis ay ang FEELINGS lang..

nagbabago ang feelings, araw araw..

 

isipin nga nung ibang may asawa jan,, kung anong feelings nio before, bago nio ligawan mga ex wives no.. diba extreme din? ginawa nio din naman lahat..

 

kaya lang eto iba diba? kasi parang tama lahat.. pero WAG MO ISIPIN SARILI MO..

 

ISIPIN MO SILA.. BABAE MO AT ASAWA AT ANAK MO..

 

PALAGAY MO HAPPY SILA KNOWING NA NAGHAHATI SILA SA ISANG LALAKE?

 

syempre mamimili ka, i know.. ibig kong sabihin.. kelangan or kakailanganin ka nila sa takdang panahon, at iiwanan mo saglit ang isa,,,

 

bday ng anak mo, family day sa skul, bday ng byenan mo, graduation at celebration ng anak mo,, and worst MAY SAKIT ANG ANAK MO..

 

diba?

 

wag sarili iisipin.. ako?? bilang babae.. ayokong may kahati.. pero kung love kita,, magtitiis ako..

 

matitiis mo nananaman ba,,, na mamahalin ka at sasaktan nia sarili nia para tanggapin ang mga pedeng occasion na WALA KA SA TABI NIA?

 

lupettt mo naman kuya..

 

pagsasawaan mo lang yan e, kung love mo yan, tulungan mo na lang magbagong buhay yan,, words of advice.. hindi pera, kasi kung LOVE ka nian,, hindi ka nian hihingan ng pera kahit singkong DULING..

 

at ang love.. walang hinihiling na kapalit..

 

wag mo sia paalisin sa work, dahil kusa yan titigil, dahil love ka nia, ayaw nia ikaw may ka-share sa kanya.. eh ikaw/kayo? kaya nio bang wala sia kahati?

 

i mean,, pag ssleep ka ba.. hindi mo naiisip ang family mo? at sya? diba nahaHATI ka? so sad no? kelangan isa lang piliin, you cant have it all...

 

madamot ka kung sarili mo lang iisipin mo, at maybe you are just attracted to her, maybe not physically but intellectually.. diskarte nia sa buhay, or way ng pagiisip,,

 

TEST lang yan.. pumasa na yung iba,, its your turn now. andami na dumaan jan,, same lines, same stories.. nagback read ka diba? pinagdadaanan lang yan.. 1/100 lang ang nag succeed.. hindi ka kasali dun MAYBE. i mean going all in sa gro/mpa/psp

 

someday,, pagtatawanan mo tong mga sinulat mo dito,, someday masasabi mong dapat FAMILY ang una sa lahat.. kahit hindi masaya sa bahay., ikaw ang hahanap ng contentment mo, wag mo hanapin sa iba.. tingan mo lang sa loob ng bahay nio. habang buhay pa yan.. ipakita mo love mo sila.. yan ang purpose mo no,, hindi magmahal ng iba.

 

kung may anak ka bang babae, at ang asawa nia ay dumaan sa pinagdadaanan mo at halimbawang sobrang halos iwanan na anak mo,, at kitang kita mo naman na NASASAKTAN ANAK MO,, kaya ba?

 

minsan ang karma hindi bumabagsak sa tin mismo.. kadalasan sa taong importante sa tin.

 

good luck,, next month,, feb.. or march,, ibang wento nanaman mababasa mo,, ibang victim nanaman ng attraction..

 

been there... DONE THAT sir. fyi

 

 

 

finally, the female perspective.

salamat, ma'am, sa mga nabanggit ninyo.

 

hayaan nyo po't pag-iisipan kong mabuti ang mga ito.

 

wala akong masabi - mas brutal pa itong mga katotohanan na pinamukha nyo sa kin.

tagos sa buto...

[monazario]

i cant lie to you, you're a good man, hindi mo inisip kung san sya nanggaling para ma-inlove ka, naramdaman mo na TAO ka lang...

 

kaya lang sir, tao din kami,, mas fragile kami, mas madali magiba,, especially pag nagmahal na kmi,, hindi mo dapat ito paglaruan, dahil bigay todo kami pag nagdecide na magseryoso..

 

dahil wala na kami dapat itago, dahil tinanggap nio kami bilang kami, at may maihihiling pa ba kami?? mahal kami? tanggap kami?? wala na..saludo nakmi sa inyo..

 

pero hindi namin matatanggap na sa HULI,, talo parin kami,, diba?

 

kasi kasal ka eh, kasi may asawa ka,, so ang pag HONOR sa salita ay importante.. like "YES I DO"..

 

women dont like material things.. as gifts.. TIME lang.. so ibigay mo yan, sa TAONG DESERVING.. kasi kahit gano kahirap, kahit gano kasimple ang buhay, basta anjan MAHAL mo,, iikot na mundo diba? pero hanggang kelan??

 

naisip ko ang TAO hindi lang LOVE and respect ang kailangan.. SECURITY din.

 

may guilt feeling ka pa kung iiwan mo family mo(example lang)... kasi ikaw ang nauna ma-fall out of love and respect.. lalu na kung hindi ka nia PAPALITAN..

 

babalik ka..

 

maniwala ka sakin, hindi kita ni-rereverse psych darling..

 

bilang attendant, naranasan ko mainlove, iwan ang trabaho, iwan ako ng akala kong mahal ako,,, at masaktan lang ng saglit..(hindi pedeng matagalan,, ano sya swerte?)

 

at bumalik sa trabaho..to move on pa lalo.. hindi ako naging man hater. hindi naman ako naging bitter,, naging totoo lang ako, naging OPEN sa mga POSSIBILITIES.. dahil LAHAT PALA POSSIBLE..

 

mahal mo sya ngayon,, pano naman next year? parang bagong cellphone lang yan.. USO eh.. pag luma na at madami nang depekto or gasgas,, mag-uupgrade ka,, or babalikan mo ang mas simpleng FONE, dahil hindi takaw sa MAGNANAKAW.. mas simple, mas masaya..

 

1+1 lang yang situation mo, madaling madaling i-solve.. :thumbsupsmiley: kaya mo yan,, parang kagat lang ng langgam,, sa UMPISA lang masakit.. (kung bibitawan mo na)

 

 

very well said i-angel

ang ganda ng pagpapaliwanag mo sa side nyo.

kaso hindi naman lahat ng babae katulad mo...

may mga babae na hindi totoo sa sarili...

may iba na linalaro lang ang mga kalalakihan..

 

but dont get me wrong...

i respect women more than ever now after my sad experience.

credit should be given to persons such as yourself..

[Itto Ogami]

i cant lie to you, you're a good man, hindi mo inisip kung san sya nanggaling para ma-inlove ka, naramdaman mo na TAO ka lang...

 

kaya lang sir, tao din kami,, mas fragile kami, mas madali magiba,, especially pag nagmahal na kmi,, hindi mo dapat ito paglaruan, dahil bigay todo kami pag nagdecide na magseryoso..

 

dahil wala na kami dapat itago, dahil tinanggap nio kami bilang kami, at may maihihiling pa ba kami?? mahal kami? tanggap kami?? wala na..saludo nakmi sa inyo..

 

pero hindi namin matatanggap na sa HULI,, talo parin kami,, diba?

 

kasi kasal ka eh, kasi may asawa ka,, so ang pag HONOR sa salita ay importante.. like "YES I DO"..

 

women dont like material things.. as gifts.. TIME lang.. so ibigay mo yan, sa TAONG DESERVING.. kasi kahit gano kahirap, kahit gano kasimple ang buhay, basta anjan MAHAL mo,, iikot na mundo diba? pero hanggang kelan??

 

naisip ko ang TAO hindi lang LOVE and respect ang kailangan.. SECURITY din.

 

may guilt feeling ka pa kung iiwan mo family mo(example lang)... kasi ikaw ang nauna ma-fall out of love and respect.. lalu na kung hindi ka nia PAPALITAN..

 

babalik ka..

 

maniwala ka sakin, hindi kita ni-rereverse psych darling..

 

bilang attendant, naranasan ko mainlove, iwan ang trabaho, iwan ako ng akala kong mahal ako,,, at masaktan lang ng saglit..(hindi pedeng matagalan,, ano sya swerte?)

 

at bumalik sa trabaho..to move on pa lalo.. hindi ako naging man hater. hindi naman ako naging bitter,, naging totoo lang ako, naging OPEN sa mga POSSIBILITIES.. dahil LAHAT PALA POSSIBLE..

 

mahal mo sya ngayon,, pano naman next year? parang bagong cellphone lang yan.. USO eh.. pag luma na at madami nang depekto or gasgas,, mag-uupgrade ka,, or babalikan mo ang mas simpleng FONE, dahil hindi takaw sa MAGNANAKAW.. mas simple, mas masaya..

 

1+1 lang yang situation mo, madaling madaling i-solve.. :thumbsupsmiley: kaya mo yan,, parang kagat lang ng langgam,, sa UMPISA lang masakit.. (kung bibitawan mo na)

 

 

 

sorry for the late reply.

pinag-isipan ko lang ang mga sinabi nyo.

i have some thoughts and questions on some of them.

 

pls don't think i'm engaging you in a discussion.

batikan na kayo sa forums na ito. alam kong lalamunin nyo ako ng buhay.

 

am i good man? salamat kung yun ang assessment nyo sa kin. am i good man for sleeping around? NO, but i figure it's way better kaysa awayin ko yung asawa ko sa mga pagkukulang nya sa kin (working executive kasi sya, i.e., busy - no time for me). am i a good man for wanting this MPA i fell in love with to get out of the business? YES, i would like to think so.

 

bakit naman po sa pananalita nyo parang wala nang karapatan lumigaya yung mga nasa propesyon nyo? at kami ba, dahil may mga asawa na, di na rin capable na magmahal ng tunay sa iba? di naman po lahat ng lalaki assh*le. sa mga kwentong nabasa ko sa thread na ito, mas marami ang lalaking iniwanan kaysa sila nang-iwan.

 

you say you have a boyfriend. may i ask po kung single o married sya? bakit di ka nya patigilin sa work?

nasabi ko na minsan dun sa MPA ko, "look, i know we met at your work, but know this as well: my heart bleeds everytime you have to go there because i know what will happen to you." malalaspag, mabababoy, magagamit - and the very thought of that is tearing me apart. i don't know how your bf handles that. i still can't up to now.

 

i'm a working-class man. pang-masa lang po kinikita ko kaya di ko mapondohan yung pag-alis niya.

if i did have the money, i won't have second thoughts getting her out and mapping a plan for her future.

 

alam nyo, madam, i wish there was a way for you to search my heart and look if i have any intention of playing with her feelings. hindi cellphone o gamit ang tingin ko sa kanya - MAHAL KO SYA. will this feeling last forever? i don't know. but, then again, puede rin namang sya maunang ma-out-of-love sa kin, di ba? di ko naman ginusto ma-in-love ako sa kanya, eh. pero nangyari, so dapat panindigan ko na.

 

come to think of it, all this discussion seems moot and academic.

binasted nya naman ako, eh.

ako lang yung umaasa na magbago sya ng isipan.

 

...

HER: Alam mo wala namang kumpetensyang nangyayari. Ikaw lang nagsasabi non. At friendship lang kaya ko ibigay sa yo dahil di ko rin naman pinangarap na maging homewrecker. At sa tingin ko di na rin naman ako magmamahal pa. Hard as a rock na ko simula ng pumasok ako sa ganitong trabaho. Sobrang mali na trabaho ko tapos dadagdagan ko pa ng pakikipagrelasyon sa taong pamilyado. Labag na labag na sa ten commandments yun, noh? Malaki pa rin naman takot ko kay Bro.

ME: I know. Di ko rin naman ginustong mahulog ako sa yo.

...

 

just sharing thoughts.

peace...

[pangitnamabait79]

PLEASE Don't leave me .... este US IMurAngel ... because your my Angel...

We badly needed more of your insights lalo na sa Babae na almost the same line of work.

 

As for me halos pareho kami ni Itto.... we fell in love at the wrong place..

Sometimes Love don't choose kasi... either it's on the wrong time at the right place or just like what happened the right time at the WRONG place..

Sabi ko nga ... hindi naman hanapan ng LOVE yung pupuntahan ko pero bakit nahulog naman ako (kami.. tayo... sorry po tao lang din!)

 

At first the Sex was good..... isipin ko na lang na ginagawa nya sa lahat yun para hindi ako mahulog ng husto....

Kaso kahit anong isip mo ... you always felt na your something special sa kanya.... bakit?? dahil ba sa lakas mong mag tip???

 

I offered my choice sa kanya.. and hoping na hindi sya magregret sa pagpili......

Aminin ko na kaya ko namang bumuhay ng 2 (kahit nga 3 pamilya.... hahaha)

pero i just hope she'll learn to stand on her own... sabi ko nga... hindi naman kita habang buhay susuportahan... i'll just help you to make a new start.

hindi naman habambuhay kitang tutulungan.... i'll just be here hanggang kailangan mo ng tulong ko.. syempre darating din ang araw na masusuportahan mo na sarili mo...

Hindi rin habambuhay akong nandito... syempre tatanda rin tayo.. at darating ang araw... panahon na lang ang makakapagsabi....

 

 

I just hate those men na sinasabing mahal nila ang mga gaya nyo .. but still doing nothing to make your life more better...

Kung wala kang pera.. totoo yun.. wala kang karapatang sakluban ang choice nyo.. dahil sa totoo lang baka mas malakas pa kayong kumita sa kanila..

What? isang buka mababa 1k?? hahaha wow easy money easy cum.. hehehe

 

If you really love someone... make her decide in her own.. pero ipakita mo ang kapursigiduhan mo... ipakita mo na kaya mo!

hindi yung puro ka dada! OO mahal kita! Pero dyan ka muna... patira ka ... pakasawa ka... kasi wala ako pansustento sa yo! Basta free mo na lang ako next time ha? rofl!

 

ANg masasabi ko sa mga nagmamahal sa mga gaya nyo.. na walang ginagawa sa kanya kunong minamahal ay LALAKENG PURO B@Y@G!

Puro yun lang pinaiiral.... kung magmamahal ka dapat may Sakripisyo ka sa kanya... hindi yung pinaiiral mo lang libog mo... feeling mo naman palilibrehin ka!?

 

Assess you assets kung kaya mo nga! Huwag dumive sa relasyon na alam mo na malulunod ka!|

Never go beyond your head! Huwag maging HERO..... hindi ka si Superman!

And please Stop saying I Love You .. tapos iiwan mo sya sa same place tapos sasabihin mo INGAT KA HA! GALINGAN MO PARA MALAKI TIP SA YO! Para makaalis ka na agad dito! STFU! Lalake kang puro B@YAG! Kung wala ka diskarte.. kung wala ka pera.. huwag mo na silang pakialaman! tama na yung nasarapan ka.. nasarapan sya.... OK na yun! leave the LOVE Thing somewhere else!

 

Ngayon kung ikaw naman ay may kakayahan na paalisin sya at bigyan sya ng BAGONG BUHAY! Then support her... give her what you can afford...bugyan mo sya ng pagkakaabalahan... kasi sila .. sanay nag mag "ginagawa" , "kinakalikot" , "gala sa bahay" .. kaya give her all the work na makapagpapaubos ng oras nya... then kapag nandoon na kayo... tsaka mo sya tanungin!

 

"LOVE MO BA 'KO?"

 

 

Nalaman ko kasi sa dami nila ang kasabihang ...'Never LOVE what you can't afford... dahil masasaktan ka lang.... maglalaway ka lang....."

 

 

 

Good morning po!

[herkzkimmie]

my God i never thought i will post any message on this thread. I'm also getting in love with my favorite mpa. God forgive me.

 

 

 

not a mistake to love some1 lalo na sa mga ganitong work, and for me marami pa rin nagdidisguised na mga tao, just to take advantage. But you know wat jason.. naniniwala aq sau, Nag effort ka to post here. Mahirap ganitong situation hindi mo sya maipagmamalaki sa mga friends nd parents mo, what if malaman nila na ganito pala work nya, di ba nakakahiya sa side mo... bka naawa ka lang kaya ka nainlove... darating ang time mapag-isip mo, na wala lng, di pala totoo nararamdaman mo. goodluck to U darl...

[scofield]

hi guys...

 

nothing wrong with allowing yourselves to be vulnerable and fall in love. Falling in love chooses no race, family background, stature in life, work etc. etc., you dont go out everyday choosing to be inlove. It just happens. Falling in love is the best feeling in the world. Just as long as you don't end up hurting yourself or others.

[StoicVampire]

Guys....I really don't want to let go of this girl. I've really fallen in love with her and I don't want to lose her. Mas matagal na kayo sa mga ganitong sitwasyon and suggestions will be very much appreciated. I already told her the feelings that I have for her. She didn't hesitate to tell me that she is willing to give me a chance. I was very grateful for that. Anyways she is a PSP and still loved her knowing that. I'm not telling bullshit but this was the very first time I fell in love with a girl. I had prospects before but I sorted out my feelings. One, the girl is just gorgeous (of course sino ba naman ang di maaakit dun di ba), malambing at mabait (kahinaan ng mga lalaki). But kung sasabihin kong didiskartehan ko if ever may chance ako, di ko ginawa dahil di ako sigurado. Turned out to be true. But with her, I know we can work something out. Kung lust lang to, I could get another PSP and get laid. Then I'm off. Ang hirap. Minsan tinanong ko siya kung bakit nya napili tong ganitong trabaho at sabi ko marami pa ring alternatives. Malabo yung sagot eh. Di naman ako nangungulit kaya hinayaan ko na lang. Then one time nagtext sa kin at kung pwedeng humingi ng favor. Tinanong ko kung ano. Kung pwede ko raw siyang bigyan ng client. Ouch! Tinamaan ako. Sabi ko sa kanya pag ginawa ko yun para ko na ring sinampal yung sarili ko. Sabi ko sa kanya nun di ko siya pipigilan sa trabaho niya at di na namin pag-uusapan kong anuman yung "extrang" ginagawa niya. Para ba namang ibinugaw ko siya pag ginawa ko yun. Ang sakit naman na tulong yun sabi ko sa kanya. I don't know if what I said was right because she really needed the money. Pero di ko talaga makakaya na manggaling sa kin yun. Ang sakit! Mahal na mahal ko yung tao! Estudyante pa siya at nag-aaral sa isang private school. Then tinanong ko kung bakit wala siyang budget. I told her na nag-aral din ako sa isang private school but may budget pa rin naman kahit papano. Ang reply "ako daw yun at di siya". Patay....sabi ko nagalit ata. Everything turned out cold. I'm still single and working right now but my salary is not enough to get her out of it. Kung sasabihin nyong libog lang, nasasainyo yan. I'm in a dilemma right now. Cannot think, or judge and I don't want to mess things up. I want to straighten things up with her....... :sadsmiley02:

[TanglewoodBoy]

Guys....I really don't want to let go of this girl. I've really fallen in love with her and I don't want to lose her. Mas matagal na kayo sa mga ganitong sitwasyon and suggestions will be very much appreciated. I already told her the feelings that I have for her. She didn't hesitate to tell me that she is willing to give me a chance. I was very grateful for that. Anyways she is a PSP and still loved her knowing that. I'm not telling bullshit but this was the very first time I fell in love with a girl. I had prospects before but I sorted out my feelings. One, the girl is just gorgeous (of course sino ba naman ang di maaakit dun di ba), malambing at mabait (kahinaan ng mga lalaki). But kung sasabihin kong didiskartehan ko if ever may chance ako, di ko ginawa dahil di ako sigurado. Turned out to be true. But with her, I know we can work something out. Kung lust lang to, I could get another PSP and get laid. Then I'm off. Ang hirap. Minsan tinanong ko siya kung bakit nya napili tong ganitong trabaho at sabi ko marami pa ring alternatives. Malabo yung sagot eh. Di naman ako nangungulit kaya hinayaan ko na lang. Then one time nagtext sa kin at kung pwedeng humingi ng favor. Tinanong ko kung ano. Kung pwede ko raw siyang bigyan ng client. Ouch! Tinamaan ako. Sabi ko sa kanya pag ginawa ko yun para ko na ring sinampal yung sarili ko. Sabi ko sa kanya nun di ko siya pipigilan sa trabaho niya at di na namin pag-uusapan kong anuman yung "extrang" ginagawa niya. Para ba namang ibinugaw ko siya pag ginawa ko yun. Ang sakit naman na tulong yun sabi ko sa kanya. I don't know if what I said was right because she really needed the money. Pero di ko talaga makakaya na manggaling sa kin yun. Ang sakit! Mahal na mahal ko yung tao! Estudyante pa siya at nag-aaral sa isang private school. Then tinanong ko kung bakit wala siyang budget. I told her na nag-aral din ako sa isang private school but may budget pa rin naman kahit papano. Ang reply "ako daw yun at di siya". Patay....sabi ko nagalit ata. Everything turned out cold. I'm still single and working right now but my salary is not enough to get her out of it. Kung sasabihin nyong libog lang, nasasainyo yan. I'm in a dilemma right now. Cannot think, or judge and I don't want to mess things up. I want to straighten things up with her....... :sadsmiley02:

 

well, here's my 2 cents bro...

 

since di mo naman siya kaya pang buhayin, i really suggest you stick it out muna, just hold on, but please tell her na wag na wag ka niyang sabihan to get clients for her, tell her di mo kayang sikmurain yung thought na yun....

 

if you're financially ready, then i guess that's the time you take it one step further, you're playing a lose lose game bro pag sumabay ka ng gastusan kasi nga di mo kaya...

 

i think this is better kaysa mawala siya sa yo ng tuluyan, just tell her i will always be your friend, you will always be my girl!!

 

good luck bro!!

[Itto Ogami]

PLEASE Don't leave me .... este US IMurAngel ... because your my Angel...

We badly needed more of your insights lalo na sa Babae na almost the same line of work.

 

As for me halos pareho kami ni Itto.... we fell in love at the wrong place..

Sometimes Love don't choose kasi... either it's on the wrong time at the right place or just like what happened the right time at the WRONG place..

Sabi ko nga ... hindi naman hanapan ng LOVE yung pupuntahan ko pero bakit nahulog naman ako (kami.. tayo... sorry po tao lang din!)

 

At first the Sex was good..... isipin ko na lang na ginagawa nya sa lahat yun para hindi ako mahulog ng husto....

Kaso kahit anong isip mo ... you always felt na your something special sa kanya.... bakit?? dahil ba sa lakas mong mag tip???

 

I offered my choice sa kanya.. and hoping na hindi sya magregret sa pagpili......

Aminin ko na kaya ko namang bumuhay ng 2 (kahit nga 3 pamilya.... hahaha)

pero i just hope she'll learn to stand on her own... sabi ko nga... hindi naman kita habang buhay susuportahan... i'll just help you to make a new start.

hindi naman habambuhay kitang tutulungan.... i'll just be here hanggang kailangan mo ng tulong ko.. syempre darating din ang araw na masusuportahan mo na sarili mo...

Hindi rin habambuhay akong nandito... syempre tatanda rin tayo.. at darating ang araw... panahon na lang ang makakapagsabi....

 

 

I just hate those men na sinasabing mahal nila ang mga gaya nyo .. but still doing nothing to make your life more better...

Kung wala kang pera.. totoo yun.. wala kang karapatang sakluban ang choice nyo.. dahil sa totoo lang baka mas malakas pa kayong kumita sa kanila..

What? isang buka mababa 1k?? hahaha wow easy money easy cum.. hehehe

 

If you really love someone... make her decide in her own.. pero ipakita mo ang kapursigiduhan mo... ipakita mo na kaya mo!

hindi yung puro ka dada! OO mahal kita! Pero dyan ka muna... patira ka ... pakasawa ka... kasi wala ako pansustento sa yo! Basta free mo na lang ako next time ha? rofl!

 

ANg masasabi ko sa mga nagmamahal sa mga gaya nyo.. na walang ginagawa sa kanya kunong minamahal ay LALAKENG PURO B@Y@G!

Puro yun lang pinaiiral.... kung magmamahal ka dapat may Sakripisyo ka sa kanya... hindi yung pinaiiral mo lang libog mo... feeling mo naman palilibrehin ka!?

 

Assess you assets kung kaya mo nga! Huwag dumive sa relasyon na alam mo na malulunod ka!|

Never go beyond your head! Huwag maging HERO..... hindi ka si Superman!

And please Stop saying I Love You .. tapos iiwan mo sya sa same place tapos sasabihin mo INGAT KA HA! GALINGAN MO PARA MALAKI TIP SA YO! Para makaalis ka na agad dito! STFU! Lalake kang puro B@YAG! Kung wala ka diskarte.. kung wala ka pera.. huwag mo na silang pakialaman! tama na yung nasarapan ka.. nasarapan sya.... OK na yun! leave the LOVE Thing somewhere else!

 

Ngayon kung ikaw naman ay may kakayahan na paalisin sya at bigyan sya ng BAGONG BUHAY! Then support her... give her what you can afford...bugyan mo sya ng pagkakaabalahan... kasi sila .. sanay nag mag "ginagawa" , "kinakalikot" , "gala sa bahay" .. kaya give her all the work na makapagpapaubos ng oras nya... then kapag nandoon na kayo... tsaka mo sya tanungin!

 

"LOVE MO BA 'KO?"

 

 

Nalaman ko kasi sa dami nila ang kasabihang ...'Never LOVE what you can't afford... dahil masasaktan ka lang.... maglalaway ka lang....."

 

 

 

Good morning po!

 

congratulations, sir!

you are twice as lucky as i am.

 

first and foremost, because she reciprocated her feelings for you.

second, because you have the means to get her out of the business.

 

i still have neither, but new year na, eh.

bagong taon, bagong pag-asa.

 

i still recall the advice given by SCAM: kung libog lang ito, lilipas din ito.

eh, kung hindi? ah, leche... LABAN!!!

[monazario]

i really love reading this thread, its very informative

not to mention an eye opener.

 

ive been trying to post advice here...

hopefully some heed them...

 

a final note before i leave the thread...

love is a concept of being.. a relation towards another

and conviction on oneself. check list yan

[lankaface]

Guys....I really don't want to let go of this girl. I've really fallen in love with her and I don't want to lose her. Mas matagal na kayo sa mga ganitong sitwasyon and suggestions will be very much appreciated. I already told her the feelings that I have for her. She didn't hesitate to tell me that she is willing to give me a chance. I was very grateful for that. Anyways she is a PSP and still loved her knowing that. I'm not telling bullshit but this was the very first time I fell in love with a girl. I had prospects before but I sorted out my feelings. One, the girl is just gorgeous (of course sino ba naman ang di maaakit dun di ba), malambing at mabait (kahinaan ng mga lalaki). But kung sasabihin kong didiskartehan ko if ever may chance ako, di ko ginawa dahil di ako sigurado. Turned out to be true. But with her, I know we can work something out. Kung lust lang to, I could get another PSP and get laid. Then I'm off. Ang hirap. Minsan tinanong ko siya kung bakit nya napili tong ganitong trabaho at sabi ko marami pa ring alternatives. Malabo yung sagot eh. Di naman ako nangungulit kaya hinayaan ko na lang. Then one time nagtext sa kin at kung pwedeng humingi ng favor. Tinanong ko kung ano. Kung pwede ko raw siyang bigyan ng client. Ouch! Tinamaan ako. Sabi ko sa kanya pag ginawa ko yun para ko na ring sinampal yung sarili ko. Sabi ko sa kanya nun di ko siya pipigilan sa trabaho niya at di na namin pag-uusapan kong anuman yung "extrang" ginagawa niya. Para ba namang ibinugaw ko siya pag ginawa ko yun. Ang sakit naman na tulong yun sabi ko sa kanya. I don't know if what I said was right because she really needed the money. Pero di ko talaga makakaya na manggaling sa kin yun. Ang sakit! Mahal na mahal ko yung tao! Estudyante pa siya at nag-aaral sa isang private school. Then tinanong ko kung bakit wala siyang budget. I told her na nag-aral din ako sa isang private school but may budget pa rin naman kahit papano. Ang reply "ako daw yun at di siya". Patay....sabi ko nagalit ata. Everything turned out cold. I'm still single and working right now but my salary is not enough to get her out of it. Kung sasabihin nyong libog lang, nasasainyo yan. I'm in a dilemma right now. Cannot think, or judge and I don't want to mess things up. I want to straighten things up with her....... :sadsmiley02:

Alam mo bro, you may be love struck kaya ka parang under a spell. Pero many ways to go aboput this, like the suggestions of one of the members na hanapan mo ng trabaho na iba, then di na siya mapapasok sa situation na involved ang sex and gfe. Its been a while na since i visited this site, at nakikita ko how the situation has evolved. The situations are more romantic na, unlike before was more stressful in asense na nagkaka hiwalay na ang mag asawa. As in your case, puwede mong timbangin sarili mo kung she is really for you in the sense na di ka pa ba ma inlove saiba pag pumunta ka ng ibang club at akitin ka ng isang mas higit pa sa kanya less the problems. Try mo pumunta sa ibang lugar at tumingin sa iba, you might just snap out of it when a different situation crosses your path. Just a thing that I went through when iI was in that situation that you are in now. Reading your posts made think of my life in the bars a long time ago. I was strong willed kaya na lusutan ko ang masiraan ng bait.

[scofield]

The problem here is that a job wont pay as much as a MPA/PSP makes in a month. Unless the MPA/PSP can speak fluent english wherein she can get in a good call center job. Which brings us to the reason why the girl is a MPA/PSP, they need additional money for tuition, for their family...

 

 

The problem here is that a job wont pay as much as a MPA/PSP makes in a month. Unless the MPA/PSP can speak fluent english wherein she can get in a good call center job. Which brings us to the reason why the girl is a MPA/PSP, they need additional money for tuition, for their family...

[lankaface]

The problem here is that a job wont pay as much as a MPA/PSP makes in a month. Unless the MPA/PSP can speak fluent english wherein she can get in a good call center job. Which brings us to the reason why the girl is a MPA/PSP, they need additional money for tuition, for their family...

 

 

The problem here is that a job wont pay as much as a MPA/PSP makes in a month. Unless the MPA/PSP can speak fluent english wherein she can get in a good call center job. Which brings us to the reason why the girl is a MPA/PSP, they need additional money for tuition, for their family...

Thats true, being a psp could earn more than what a regular salary job has to offer, but this gives you the liberty of courting a career girl rather than the issue of mixed emotions. You dont have to be jealous of her being in the sex or gfe industry but as a regular girl friend that you can bring home. I think the carreer of the girl is the main issue here, thats why i always think of giving them the opportunity to change and give the situation a try if the scenario will be a normal one. I once changed the career of my bar girl,( she now sells vegtables in the palenke) and she is so grateful to me, that she still texts me up to now even though she is married to someone else. Another thing nis that the bar girls and the sex trade is a shrinking industry due to the poor economy. Notice that the price of psps are getting cheaper every year, and to some girls, di na namimili ng customer unlike before, kailangan pang ligawan sila .

[StoicVampire]

well, here's my 2 cents bro...

 

since di mo naman siya kaya pang buhayin, i really suggest you stick it out muna, just hold on, but please tell her na wag na wag ka niyang sabihan to get clients for her, tell her di mo kayang sikmurain yung thought na yun....

 

if you're financially ready, then i guess that's the time you take it one step further, you're playing a lose lose game bro pag sumabay ka ng gastusan kasi nga di mo kaya...

 

i think this is better kaysa mawala siya sa yo ng tuluyan, just tell her i will always be your friend, you will always be my girl!!

 

good luck bro!!

 

 

Alam mo bro, you may be love struck kaya ka parang under a spell. Pero many ways to go aboput this, like the suggestions of one of the members na hanapan mo ng trabaho na iba, then di na siya mapapasok sa situation na involved ang sex and gfe. Its been a while na since i visited this site, at nakikita ko how the situation has evolved. The situations are more romantic na, unlike before was more stressful in asense na nagkaka hiwalay na ang mag asawa. As in your case, puwede mong timbangin sarili mo kung she is really for you in the sense na di ka pa ba ma inlove saiba pag pumunta ka ng ibang club at akitin ka ng isang mas higit pa sa kanya less the problems. Try mo pumunta sa ibang lugar at tumingin sa iba, you might just snap out of it when a different situation crosses your path. Just a thing that I went through when iI was in that situation that you are in now. Reading your posts made think of my life in the bars a long time ago. I was strong willed kaya na lusutan ko ang masiraan ng bait.

 

Dude, ginawa ko na nga yong mag-suggest ng ibang alternatives. sinagot lang ako ng ewan. Ok di ko nabanggit yung buong scenario eh. Actually dalawang beses na nya ako tinanong tungkol nga sa paghahanap ng potential clients. The first time, I explained to her that I will leave the situation as it is. Di ko siya pipigilan. Napunta na ko sa lugar nila and I could say why she has been involved in this sort of thing. I'll just keep it in the back of my mind sabi ko. E di ok na. Then just the other day, mahilig lang kasi yung mag hehe sa text eh. E yung hehe na yun may kahulugan. Sinabi ko sa kanya and turned out na tama ang hinala ko. I told her any favor but that. Then pumasok na nga yung suggestions para sa ibang alternatives. Tapos nasabihan ako ng ewan. I told her she's studying in a private school but she goes short (not everytime). Sabi ko nag-aral din ako sa isang private school at mabigat din ang tuition pero may natitira pa rin kahit papano. Ang exact reply "ikaw yun at di ako." I got a little upset from that. Umaga yun at kakagising ko lang tapos masabihan ka ng ganun. I ended the text messaging right there and then. Nagkaayos din kami before the evening ended. I haven't been involve with someone as intimate as this and it burdens me a lot. Pero ngayon di ko alam kung yung pag-recognize niya sa kin when I told her about my feelings dwindled down or near to gone. Alam ko nagkamali ako sa sinabi ko dahil magkaiba kami ng sitwasyon sa pag-aaral nung nag-aaral pa ako. I am willing to accept my mistake. But I couldn't let her go nang ganun lang. Bro, napunta na rin ako sa mga bars and I could say that the girls there could take your mind off your girl for a second. Lalaki lang tayo at naaakit di ba? Pero nung nakilala ko siya, instead of boozing off and going to nightclubs, I told myself na iipunin ko na lang yung pera na kinikita ko para sa kanya if ever na magkita kami, may panlakad man lang. Di ako heavy drinker pero pag sumagi sa isip ko na uminom, papakalasing ako. Pero nag-iba yung ganung thinking ko when I met her. I could lose all my vices (inom lang pala bisyo ko tsaka arcade....hehe) just for her. I'm trying to get control of my emotions as much as possible. Pero pano ba gagawin ko? Ang hirap eh................. :cry:

[btdeadlock]

I've been reading the posts here since I'm finding myself in the same situation. I wish I could post the details but the girl that's driving me crazy tends to read this board from time to time and knows my MTC username.

 

However, something did occur to me while reading the posts on this thread. The fact is, there is very little difference between falling in love with an MPA/PSP/GRO and a 'normal' girl. I've read all wrong things that could happen in such a relationship, and guess what? They've happened to me and my friends and there were no MPAs/PSPs/GROs involved. Let's go down the list shall we...

 

She won't be accepted by family and friends - This is classic Romeo and Juliet. I remember back in college, there was this one cardinal rule when courting girls,... never court a Chinese girl if you're not Chinese because the odds are against you. Heck, I've heard my boss saying he hated his daughter's boyfriend for no other reason than the way he carries himself.

 

She's a sex worker - My dad had an affair with someone from a wealthy family. She was an alumna of a Catholic all-girls private school and had good breeding. It turned out, she was so much of a slut, she would make most MPAs/GROs/PSPs look like saints by comparison.

 

She won't leave her job for you - If a sex worker won't leave her job for you, people will say she's addicted to the easy money. If she was a corporate executive and won't leave her job for you, people will say she's career minded.

 

She's only after the money - Really. A girl does not have to be an MPA/PSP/GRO to be a gold digger.

 

I could go on, but I guess you can see my point.

 

The real difference is, with MPAs/PSPs/GROs, we know what we're getting into. We know what could happen. We know the odds are against us.

 

With a 'normal' girl, we only think we know. In reality it's a crapshoot. She could be a saint, or she could be a whore.

 

The other difference is the feeling that no one will understand our situation, no one except those who've been through the same thing.

 

I guess that's why I'm posting on this thread.

[lankaface]

Dude, ginawa ko na nga yong mag-suggest ng ibang alternatives. sinagot lang ako ng ewan. Ok di ko nabanggit yung buong scenario eh. Actually dalawang beses na nya ako tinanong tungkol nga sa paghahanap ng potential clients. The first time, I explained to her that I will leave the situation as it is. Di ko siya pipigilan. Napunta na ko sa lugar nila and I could say why she has been involved in this sort of thing. I'll just keep it in the back of my mind sabi ko. E di ok na. Then just the other day, mahilig lang kasi yung mag hehe sa text eh. E yung hehe na yun may kahulugan. Sinabi ko sa kanya and turned out na tama ang hinala ko. I told her any favor but that. Then pumasok na nga yung suggestions para sa ibang alternatives. Tapos nasabihan ako ng ewan. I told her she's studying in a private school but she goes short (not everytime). Sabi ko nag-aral din ako sa isang private school at mabigat din ang tuition pero may natitira pa rin kahit papano. Ang exact reply "ikaw yun at di ako." I got a little upset from that. Umaga yun at kakagising ko lang tapos masabihan ka ng ganun. I ended the text messaging right there and then. Nagkaayos din kami before the evening ended. I haven't been involve with someone as intimate as this and it burdens me a lot. Pero ngayon di ko alam kung yung pag-recognize niya sa kin when I told her about my feelings dwindled down or near to gone. Alam ko nagkamali ako sa sinabi ko dahil magkaiba kami ng sitwasyon sa pag-aaral nung nag-aaral pa ako. I am willing to accept my mistake. But I couldn't let her go nang ganun lang. Bro, napunta na rin ako sa mga bars and I could say that the girls there could take your mind off your girl for a second. Lalaki lang tayo at naaakit di ba? Pero nung nakilala ko siya, instead of boozing off and going to nightclubs, I told myself na iipunin ko na lang yung pera na kinikita ko para sa kanya if ever na magkita kami, may panlakad man lang. Di ako heavy drinker pero pag sumagi sa isip ko na uminom, papakalasing ako. Pero nag-iba yung ganung thinking ko when I met her. I could lose all my vices (inom lang pala bisyo ko tsaka arcade....hehe) just for her. I'm trying to get control of my emotions as much as possible. Pero pano ba gagawin ko? Ang hirap eh................. :cry:

To me it sounded like she did not like to leave the industry for some reason, that only you might know. Maybe the real answer lies on that reason, from whereon you will find the answer to your problems. I had a girl who refused to order when i tabled her, maybe paimpress sa akin. I did not tip her for the succeeding nights that i was there. She still never ask for money, considering she only had 1 ld. That was one of my test to see how she will react after a few visits. It was a little research of mine to find their real intentions. In the end gusto nang mangutang, thats when i said good bye na. Maybe you should do your own observation and see her reaction to different things you say to her. Be firm and just say it to her, show her your in control.

[StoicVampire]

To me it sounded like she did not like to leave the industry for some reason, that only you might know. Maybe the real answer lies on that reason, from whereon you will find the answer to your problems. I had a girl who refused to order when i tabled her, maybe paimpress sa akin. I did not tip her for the succeeding nights that i was there. She still never ask for money, considering she only had 1 ld. That was one of my test to see how she will react after a few visits. It was a little research of mine to find their real intentions. In the end gusto nang mangutang, thats when i said good bye na. Maybe you should do your own observation and see her reaction to different things you say to her. Be firm and just say it to her, show her your in control.

 

Thanks bro. I'll do my observation and just see how things will work out. Actually I have no idea what the reason is. Maybe time will tell. There's still a long road ahead and I am willing to learn everything may it be the easy or hard way.

[Rasc]

Thanks bro. I'll do my observation and just see how things will work out. Actually I have no idea what the reason is. Maybe time will tell. There's still a long road ahead and I am willing to learn everything may it be the easy or hard way.

 

 

just my 2 cents,

 

Never Give 100% of your life, dapat may natitira para sa atin. sabi mu pareho kau nag-aaral, means hindi naman sya ang katapusan para sau, pag hindi nya talaga kaya iwan ang work nya para sa inyong 2, dapat mapag isipan mu na rin kung ano gagawin mu sa future mu... to the fact na sabihan ka ng hanapan ng client, iba na yun... hindi masama magmahal, basta hindi ka takot masaktan. there no easy way lahat may kapalit... maganda man or hindi... just move on...

[lankaface]

Thanks bro. I'll do my observation and just see how things will work out. Actually I have no idea what the reason is. Maybe time will tell. There's still a long road ahead and I am willing to learn everything may it be the easy or hard way.

Just bear in mind, the longer it takes for you to find out, the more damage it might have given you. Get it over and test her faithfullness to you. No one wants an unfaithfull partner di ba? Justify things on your behalf naman pare.

[Itto Ogami]

here's a tale of 3 ladies. all of them MPAs.

itago na lang natin sila sa mga pangalang...

 

let:

MERRY - ex-FB

SETH - a good friend of mine

RAIN - girl i fell in love with

 

i first met MERRY. we hit it off the first time we met and we became close. there were times i stayed a couple of days in her apartment - good times.

then i got posted somewhere else and we lost touch with one another. eventually, i learned she got a fil-am boyfriend who set up a business for her selling Victoria's Secret undies and perfumes, on top of a monthly allowance. unfortunately, she ended up with a lot of uncollected receivables and stopped selling altogether. now, when her bf's abroad, she goes back to work (patago nga lang). she said she's bored out of her wits just staying in her shack. she's in her mid-20s, and i think she should already retire from the MP scene.

MY ASSESSMENT: MERRY is ideal wife material. she's a simple provinciana lass who was an ex-factory worker before going to the MP business. i think the bf did her a disservice by shoving a business in her face without being prepared or even asking her if that's what she wanted to do. that's why even if he did give her an alternate source of income, it was doomed to fail. i believe she's the kind of girl who'd be happy simply as a homemaker. and that is my wish for her - for her bf to marry her and take her abroad to start a new life.

 

SETH came after a couple of years when i re-explored the MP scene. we had good vibes, pero never naging "tamang libog" ako sa kanya. it was always "tamang barkada." she's the eldest in her family - typical "pasan ko ang mundo" scenario - but she carries herself quite well. heck, she's even able to make fun of her own situation. she's in her mid-20s. she's looking to retire this year and hopefully, have enough funds to start her agri-business in the province.

MY ASSESSMENT: of these 3 women, i'm proudest of SETH . she's driven. she knows what she wants - and more importantly - she has a plan. i wouldn't have second thoughts helping her out if i had the funds. i'll be praying for her early retirement and success of her new business.

 

finally, RAIN , who i met a couple of months after SETH. yun na nga, i fell in love with her. i desperately wanted to get her out of the business but didn't have the resources. even if i did, i'm having second thoughts now helping her out. why? she doesn't seem to know what to do yet with her life. when i ask her what she wants to do in the future - she vacillates from one goal to another. one time, she said she wants to study; another, put up an internet cafe; yet another, finish their house in the province.

MY ASSESSMENT: RAIN grew up in a broken family in the city. maagang nabarkada, maagang nagbisyo (drinking & smoking lang naman - no drugs). she's also different from the first two because she's a single mom. maybe, it's also because of her youth that she doesn't really know what to do yet. but, i do hope she starts thinking hard about the future if only for her child. she started in the MP business in her teens and now she's in her early 20s. going with the rule of thumb that MPA's should stay in the business for a maximum of 3 years - that means she's already retirable. i'm still hoping to get to the point where i will be financially able to get her out of the business. but, when that time comes, i have to sit down with her and plan everything - find out what she really wants to do - help her achieve her goals and then for me to get out of her life.

 

the point of this post is this: DIFFERENT WOMEN, DIFFERENT GOALS, DIFFERENT NEEDS.

we cannot generalize that this or that is the best for these women. everything should be treated on a case-by-case basis.

 

just sharing...

[lankaface]

here's a tale of 3 ladies. all of them MPAs.

itago na lang natin sila sa mga pangalang...

 

let:

MERRY - ex-FB

SETH - a good friend of mine

RAIN - girl i fell in love with

 

i first met MERRY. we hit it off the first time we met and we became close. there were times i stayed a couple of days in her apartment - good times.

then i got posted somewhere else and we lost touch with one another. eventually, i learned she got a fil-am boyfriend who set up a business for her selling Victoria's Secret undies and perfumes, on top of a monthly allowance. unfortunately, she ended up with a lot of uncollected receivables and stopped selling altogether. now, when her bf's abroad, she goes back to work (patago nga lang). she said she's bored out of her wits just staying in her shack. she's in her mid-20s, and i think she should already retire from the MP scene.

what you said is so true, thats why I asked our friend to find out more about the girl through her reactions and assess what her intentions are. Its hard to decide for them, for all you know, their just making excuses to hind their desire to stay in the trade. If they really want to stay because they enjoy their jobs, then I dont think they could be considered GF material.

[Itto Ogami]

what you said is so true, thats why I asked our friend to find out more about the girl through her reactions and assess what her intentions are. Its hard to decide for them, for all you know, their just making excuses to hind their desire to stay in the trade. If they really want to stay because they enjoy their jobs, then I dont think they could be considered GF material.

 

well, sir, in her case, i don't think she's staying because she enjoys the job. it's because she doesn't have the tools to go to another trade. high school grad lang siya - not too many employment options ba.

 

if i were her bf, i'd ask her what she'd want to do. put up a business? fine. what kind? dapat galing sa kanya para walang sisihan. next, what does she need to know for the business to succeed? send her to school, make her attend seminars, ganun.

 

on the other hand, if she says she's happy just staying home and taking care of the mister and the kids, well, dapat pakasalan na siya nung bf if he really loves her.

[lankaface]

well, sir, in her case, i don't think she's staying because she enjoys the job. it's because she doesn't have the tools to go to another trade. high school grad lang siya - not too many employment options ba.

 

if i were her bf, i'd ask her what she'd want to do. put up a business? fine. what kind? dapat galing sa kanya para walang sisihan. next, what does she need to know for the business to succeed? send her to school, make her attend seminars, ganun.

 

on the other hand, if she says she's happy just staying home and taking care of the mister and the kids, well, dapat pakasalan na siya nung bf if he really loves her.

In her case having no background in business and then trying to succeed in it could be suicidal. Their environmental upbringing and culture is not of the business norm. Wala yung tyaga, since easy money ang bar or mpa industry laging bagsak ang pag bayad sa kanila. In business kailangan yung pagiging masinop at marunong magtipid sa work place. But there is always an exception in everything. Help is definitely needed in their success.

[Itto Ogami]

In her case having no background in business and then trying to succeed in it could be suicidal. Their environmental upbringing and culture is not of the business norm. Wala yung tyaga, since easy money ang bar or mpa industry laging bagsak ang pag bayad sa kanila. In business kailangan yung pagiging masinop at marunong magtipid sa work place. But there is always an exception in everything. Help is definitely needed in their success.

 

exactly, sir.

which is why, knowing her, she'd rather go for the latter option - being a homemaker.

[StoicVampire]

just my 2 cents,

 

Never Give 100% of your life, dapat may natitira para sa atin. sabi mu pareho kau nag-aaral, means hindi naman sya ang katapusan para sau, pag hindi nya talaga kaya iwan ang work nya para sa inyong 2, dapat mapag isipan mu na rin kung ano gagawin mu sa future mu... to the fact na sabihan ka ng hanapan ng client, iba na yun... hindi masama magmahal, basta hindi ka takot masaktan. there no easy way lahat may kapalit... maganda man or hindi... just move on...

 

 

Just bear in mind, the longer it takes for you to find out, the more damage it might have given you. Get it over and test her faithfullness to you. No one wants an unfaithfull partner di ba? Justify things on your behalf naman pare.

 

Dude, I'm already working as a professional though I cannot say that my earnings could already start something. I still have a lot to do and obligations with my family but I can finish it in a considerable amount of time. Di ako takot masaktan at handa ako dun. Sa totoo lang mas matagal pa yung pag-uusap namin sa text kesa sa actual na pagkikita. Huling kita ko sa kanya nung nagtapat ako. Eversince puro plano na lang lahat. Iba naman ang text message sa actual na pag-uusap di ba? Despite of it, I still have faith in her though slim, I still want to give it a shot. I'm looking for ways to get in touch with her personally and tell everything. Alam kong timbangin ang feelings ko and I went through a lot in life. It's just that I cannot give up on her just yet.....

Salamat sa mga payong ibinibigay nyo mga bro. Dito lang ako sa MTC nakapaglabas ng mga nasasaloob ko and I'm very grateful for that. Don't worry, your comments and advices will not be taken for granted.