Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[Larry]

this thread makes the baby jesus cry

[SugarPrincess]

ang ganda ng story...pero sana di ka nalang nahiya...sana hayaan mo na lang syang mahirapan...mahal ka naman nya eh..at mahal mo rin naman sya...i'm sure masaya sya sa ginagawa nya para sayo....sana di ka na sumideline....sana sana...ipaliwanag mo na rin sa akin bat ang lalaki ng lahat ng O mo?

 

 

 

yah alam kO masaya sya sa ginagawa nya perO kung nararamdaman kO naman na nahihirapan sya bakit kO pagpapatulOy diba??? bOut my letter "O"... wala lang pO...

[iwalkalone]

yah alam kO masaya sya sa ginagawa nya perO kung nararamdaman kO naman na nahihirapan sya bakit kO pagpapatulOy diba??? bOut my letter "O"... wala lang pO...

 

Oh,was it that obvious? how?

you see...i think i"m going through the same situation as you sis....but then...i can't see it in him...na nahihirapan sya..that or maybe i'm just too insensitive....

Oh pero ako naman di ko naman inaasa sa kanya lahat....but he's always there to pag kinakapos...I do love him....kaibahan lang....hehehe....malaki ang kaibahan....he says he treats me as a long lost sister...wahahahaha....still...i've been faithful to him ever since i saw how good his heart was to me...and i plan to keep it at that...until...he throws me out of his life ....hard...but....that's just how grateful a person i am.

Edited December 26, 2006 by iwalkalone

[SugarPrincess]

kakalungkot naman itong kuwento. siguro kung di lang malalaki ang "o" mo, umiyak na ako ng tuluyan.

 

whether we like it or not, werious relationships between psps/mpas and their clients always start in shaky ground. the guy tries to make the girl feel that her past doesn't matter, while the girl tries her best to prove that she's worthy of trust. and when that trust is breached because of money, especially when he's trying his darn best to be a good provider, the relationship is over.

 

in a way, ok na rin siguro na iyong guy lumayo at di na gumanti.

 

pero sayang. sana pag may nagmahal sa iyo, mas maganda ang ending.

 

ok po diko na lalakihan "O" ko...

 

for all the good things na ginawa nya saken....then pinili ko ang psp kesa sa kanya.. in the end hindi din naman sya pumyag na ganun ganun lang.nandun ung "revenge" nya saken... di ko na sasabihin ung ginawa nya... i just kip it secret nalng between me and him. which is di maganda kinalabasan sa part ko..cguro naisip nya na un ung way to get even with me..dun ko naramdaman na nasaktan sya ng todo sa ginawa ko... and im sorry for that...

 

 

 

 

ung ganti na ginawa nya saken before which is di nakatulong saken and cause me a lot of pain... di madaling situation pero napatawad ko na sya dun... its good to cherish the good times with him and throw away the bad...the best part is that we both chose to leave that chapter of our life and move on.....

[SugarPrincess]

Oh,was it that obvious? how?

you see...i think i"m going through the same situation as you sis....but then...i can't see it in him...na nahihirapan sya..that or maybe i'm just too insensitive....

Oh pero ako naman di ko naman inaasa sa kanya lahat....but he's always there to pag kinakapos...I do love him....kaibahan lang....hehehe....malaki ang kaibahan....he says he treats me as a long lost sister...wahahahaha....still...i've been faithful to him ever since i saw how good his heart was to me...and i plan to keep it at that...until...he throws me out of his life ....hard...but....that's just how grateful a person i am.

 

 

oo...madali kase akong makaramdam......

[iwalkalone]

oo...madali kase akong makaramdam......

 

that's too bad....i can understand....mahirap talaga yung feeling na para kang umaasa lang o nanghihingi ng tulong lalo na sa mga katulad natin.....pero sana...kung nararamdaman mo naman yung pagmamahal nya...sana you kept your faith....

[spongebobby]

that's too bad....i can understand....mahirap talaga yung feeling na para kang umaasa lang o nanghihingi ng tulong lalo na sa mga katulad natin.....pero sana...kung nararamdaman mo naman yung pagmamahal nya...sana you kept your faith....

 

may masama ba dun, kung umaasa ka sa kanya, lalo na kung bukal naman sa kalooban ang pagbibigay? at di naman inaabuso ng babae?

[iwalkalone]

walang masama....ang masama lang....i've learned to love him...i mean....REALLY love him....but yun nga he sees me like a long lost sister... and i can't shake away the "i dnt knw hw to say it" that i should be faithful to him....and only him!dunno abt her.....pumpkin....

Edited December 26, 2006 by iwalkalone

[mangjose]

walang masama....ang masama lang....i've learned to love him...i mean....REALLY love him....but yun nga he sees me like a long lost sister... and i can't shake away the "i dnt knw hw to say it" that i should be faithful to him....and only him!dunno abt her.....pumpkin....

 

 

good for you then. do what you think you must do. bilib ako sa commitment mo!

 

this is a topic close to my heart kasi i once made the mistake of falling in love. ginago lang ako ng girl.

up to know i still wonder if it was just all about the money. but now i see why it could have never had worked out.

1. difference in values and view point. i could never understand her pains (nor did she ever let me get close enough for me to understand her).

2. mpas / psps have needs and though the immediate need may be money, money is never the solution.

3. usually mpas/psps have a lot of scars, excess baggage to contend with. they are people with lot's of hurts. hurt people hurt people. their difficult past and lifestyle make it difficult for them to respond. they may feel unworthy and thus just reject your love.

 

but then again marami rin namang clients diyan na gago rin. you can hear lots of stories of girls na pinaasa then iniwan sa ere. this just adds to the hurt and makes having a genuine relationship difficult.

 

I'm no sociologist or psychologist so if you think that i'm just generalizing or my comments are out of line feel free to comment. but the way i see things having a relationship between a client and an mpa/psp is not impossible but it will certainly be difficult on both sides. both sides will have to put 10 times the effort for a normal relationship to make it work. odds are really against this type relationship.

 

my solid advice don't fall into this trap.

[acl]

I know someone who fell in love with a MPA, niligawan nya yung girl but it didn't come easy dahil iniwasan sya ng girl knowing that such a relatioship won't work. The guy is a Tsinoy from a well to do and very conservative family. But the guy is persistent, and eventually, they got married and are now living in the states.... happily.

[MasturVader]

I think the key word is 'persistence'. I think an MPA/PSP would be very cautious when it comes to this kind of thing, they'd want to see a lot of 'effort' on your part so they'd know if you're really serious or just playing around. Feeling ko yun ang ginagawa sakin ngayon, medyo nagpapahabol siya. But I also feel that she might just be leading me on... It's so hard to tell.

[bodybumping]

good for you then. do what you think you must do. bilib ako sa commitment mo!

 

this is a topic close to my heart kasi i once made the mistake of falling in love. ginago lang ako ng girl.

up to know i still wonder if it was just all about the money. but now i see why it could have never had worked out.

1. difference in values and view point. i could never understand her pains (nor did she ever let me get close enough for me to understand her).

2. mpas / psps have needs and though the immediate need may be money, money is never the solution.

3. usually mpas/psps have a lot of scars, excess baggage to contend with. they are people with lot's of hurts. hurt people hurt people. their difficult past and lifestyle make it difficult for them to respond. they may feel unworthy and thus just reject your love.

 

but then again marami rin namang clients diyan na gago rin. you can hear lots of stories of girls na pinaasa then iniwan sa ere. this just adds to the hurt and makes having a genuine relationship difficult.

 

I'm no sociologist or psychologist so if you think that i'm just generalizing or my comments are out of line feel free to comment. but the way i see things having a relationship between a client and an mpa/psp is not impossible but it will certainly be difficult on both sides. both sides will have to put 10 times the effort for a normal relationship to make it work. odds are really against this type relationship.

 

my solid advice don't fall into this trap.

 

tumpak ka dyan isko.

minsan kasi nasanay na sila na ganun na lang and that they feel they don't deserve better.

so pag may busilak na pusong nag-alay ng dalisay na pagmamahal sa kanila, hindi nila alam kung papaano magre-respond.

tapos yun na nga, makakaramdam sila ng guilt kasi madaming ibinibigay sa kanila na feeling nila kailangan nilang bumawi, tapos pag sa tingin nila di sila nakaka compensate, ayun na, maghahanap ng exit criteria.

kakayamot yung ganun. mas gusto pang maging kabit ng lalakeng ang turing sa kanila ay spare tire, pasko ng dec 26, valentine's ng feb 15. samantalang meron namang nagmamahal na willing bigyan sya ng maginhawang buhay, pakasalan at ariin na parang kanya yung anak nung babae.

 

girl, you deserve better. do not settle.

 

good for you then. do what you think you must do. bilib ako sa commitment mo!

 

this is a topic close to my heart kasi i once made the mistake of falling in love. ginago lang ako ng girl.

up to know i still wonder if it was just all about the money. but now i see why it could have never had worked out.

1. difference in values and view point. i could never understand her pains (nor did she ever let me get close enough for me to understand her).

2. mpas / psps have needs and though the immediate need may be money, money is never the solution.

3. usually mpas/psps have a lot of scars, excess baggage to contend with. they are people with lot's of hurts. hurt people hurt people. their difficult past and lifestyle make it difficult for them to respond. they may feel unworthy and thus just reject your love.

 

but then again marami rin namang clients diyan na gago rin. you can hear lots of stories of girls na pinaasa then iniwan sa ere. this just adds to the hurt and makes having a genuine relationship difficult.

 

I'm no sociologist or psychologist so if you think that i'm just generalizing or my comments are out of line feel free to comment. but the way i see things having a relationship between a client and an mpa/psp is not impossible but it will certainly be difficult on both sides. both sides will have to put 10 times the effort for a normal relationship to make it work. odds are really against this type relationship.

 

my solid advice don't fall into this trap.

 

tumpak ka dyan isko.

minsan kasi nasanay na sila na ganun na lang and that they feel they don't deserve better.

so pag may busilak na pusong nag-alay ng dalisay na pagmamahal sa kanila, hindi nila alam kung papaano magre-respond.

tapos yun na nga, makakaramdam sila ng guilt kasi madaming ibinibigay sa kanila na feeling nila kailangan nilang bumawi, tapos pag sa tingin nila di sila nakaka compensate, ayun na, maghahanap ng exit criteria.

kakayamot yung ganun. mas gusto pang maging kabit ng lalakeng ang turing sa kanila ay spare tire, pasko ng dec 26, valentine's ng feb 15. samantalang meron namang nagmamahal na willing bigyan sya ng maginhawang buhay, pakasalan at ariin na parang kanya yung anak nung babae.

 

girl, you deserve better. do not settle.

[jhun29]

tumpak ka dyan isko.

minsan kasi nasanay na sila na ganun na lang and that they feel they don't deserve better.

so pag may busilak na pusong nag-alay ng dalisay na pagmamahal sa kanila, hindi nila alam kung papaano magre-respond.

tapos yun na nga, makakaramdam sila ng guilt kasi madaming ibinibigay sa kanila na feeling nila kailangan nilang bumawi, tapos pag sa tingin nila di sila nakaka compensate, ayun na, maghahanap ng exit criteria.

kakayamot yung ganun. mas gusto pang maging kabit ng lalakeng ang turing sa kanila ay spare tire, pasko ng dec 26, valentine's ng feb 15. samantalang meron namang nagmamahal na willing bigyan sya ng maginhawang buhay, pakasalan at ariin na parang kanya yung anak nung babae.

 

girl, you deserve better. do not settle.

 

i agree....200%

[iwalkalone]

tumpak ka dyan isko.

minsan kasi nasanay na sila na ganun na lang and that they feel they don't deserve better.

so pag may busilak na pusong nag-alay ng dalisay na pagmamahal sa kanila, hindi nila alam kung papaano magre-respond.

tapos yun na nga, makakaramdam sila ng guilt kasi madaming ibinibigay sa kanila na feeling nila kailangan nilang bumawi, tapos pag sa tingin nila di sila nakaka compensate, ayun na, maghahanap ng exit criteria.

kakayamot yung ganun. mas gusto pang maging kabit ng lalakeng ang turing sa kanila ay spare tire, pasko ng dec 26, valentine's ng feb 15. samantalang meron namang nagmamahal na willing bigyan sya ng maginhawang buhay, pakasalan at ariin na parang kanya yung anak nung babae.

 

girl, you deserve better. do not settle.

 

i appreciate your comment...but the last part...i take it...it's for me...right?

all i can say is... he's the best there is. Mahirap kase makakita ng...mamahalin...hindi ako ganun ka easy ma fall...and besides i wasn't even looking for one when he came along...it just happened...and he was just everything i could ever want....and yes... busilak ang puso nya at nag-alay sya ng dalisay na pagmamahal....i think tama lang na maging faithful ako sa kanya kahit ano pang mangyari...hanggang sa kung iwan man nya ako. BTW...we're not even mag ON huh

[spongebobby]

i appreciate your comment...but the last part...i take it...it's for me...right?

all i can say is... he's the best there is. Mahirap kase makakita ng...mamahalin...hindi ako ganun ka easy ma fall...and besides i wasn't even looking for one when he came along...it just happened...and he was just everything i could ever want....and yes... busilak ang puso nya at nag-alay sya ng dalisay na pagmamahal....i think tama lang na maging faithful ako sa kanya kahit ano pang mangyari...hanggang sa kung iwan man nya ako. BTW...we're not even mag ON huh

 

wow. ang pag-ibig nga naman. biglang naging makata si iwalkalone.

 

tama ba iyong intindi ko--na minahal mo siya pero ang mahal niya ay iba?

[spongebobby]

ok po diko na lalakihan "O" ko...

 

for all the good things na ginawa nya saken....then pinili ko ang psp kesa sa kanya.. in the end hindi din naman sya pumyag na ganun ganun lang.nandun ung "revenge" nya saken... di ko na sasabihin ung ginawa nya... i just kip it secret nalng between me and him. which is di maganda kinalabasan sa part ko..cguro naisip nya na un ung way to get even with me..dun ko naramdaman na nasaktan sya ng todo sa ginawa ko... and im sorry for that...

ung ganti na ginawa nya saken before which is di nakatulong saken and cause me a lot of pain... di madaling situation pero napatawad ko na sya dun... its good to cherish the good times with him and throw away the bad...the best part is that we both chose to leave that chapter of our life and move on.....

 

question: is it also possible that you went back to being a psp because, though he loved you, he could not satisfy you physically? or did the relationship fail to compensate for the "thrill and dangers" of being a psp?

 

i can only imagine the extent of his anger, and since you loved him, i can also only imagine how much it hurt.

[iwalkalone]

wow. ang pag-ibig nga naman. biglang naging makata si iwalkalone.

 

tama ba iyong intindi ko--na minahal mo siya pero ang mahal niya ay iba?

inulit ko lang yung lines na sinabi ni bodybumping. kung mahal nya ay iba?...i don't know...wala naman akong right pagbawalan sya...or mag usisa...but so far...i have faith in him....kahit hindi halata

[bodybumping]

i appreciate your comment...but the last part...i take it...it's for me...right?

all i can say is... he's the best there is. Mahirap kase makakita ng...mamahalin...hindi ako ganun ka easy ma fall...and besides i wasn't even looking for one when he came along...it just happened...and he was just everything i could ever want....and yes... busilak ang puso nya at nag-alay sya ng dalisay na pagmamahal....i think tama lang na maging faithful ako sa kanya kahit ano pang mangyari...hanggang sa kung iwan man nya ako. BTW...we're not even mag ON huh

 

di ko alam applicable pala sayo.

never naman ako nag ask sayo directly about your life and what you're going through.

all i do is read your numerous posts sa iba't ibang thread, read between the lines so i could know more about you.

sorry if it feels like i am judging you or i am intruding upon your privacy.

[Mobius Stripper]

http://www.helloziyi.us/Galleries/new/memoirs-of-a-geisha-hq-set2-01-thumb.jpg

There are many like her in real life, I believe.

Edited December 28, 2006 by Mobius Stripper

[SugarPrincess]

question: is it also possible that you went back to being a psp because, though he loved you, he could not satisfy you physically? or did the relationship fail to compensate for the "thrill and dangers" of being a psp?

 

i can only imagine the extent of his anger, and since you loved him, i can also only imagine how much it hurt.

 

 

 

 

your too inquisitive ha...

[iwalkalone]

QUOTE(spongebobby @ Dec 27 2006, 06:44 PM)

 

question: is it also possible that you went back to being a psp because, though he loved you, he could not satisfy you physically? or did the relationship fail to compensate for the "thrill and dangers" of being a psp?

 

i can only imagine the extent of his anger, and since you loved him, i can also only imagine how much it hurt.

 

 

since ayaw kang sagutin ni pumpkin...masyado ka daw inquisitive eh...

 

i don't think that should be ("he could not satisfy you physically? or did the relationship fail to compensate for the "thrill and dangers" of being a psp?") a valid reason to betray someone you really love and who's proven himself worthy of your love.

[Mobius Stripper]

I'd rather fall in love with an MPA/PSP/Escort/Geisha ... whatever & be loved by one in return ... than to fall in love with a trapo, pseudo-revolutionary or an NGO hypocrite, no matter how rich, beautiful, intelligent or powerful she may be.

Edited December 28, 2006 by Mobius Stripper

[spongebobby]

I'd rather fall in love with an MPA/PSP/Escort/Geisha ... whatever & be loved by one in return ... than to fall in love with a trapo, pseudo-revolutionary or an NGO hypocrite, no matter how rich, beautiful, intelligent or powerful she may be.

 

now, this is a good and mature atitude, mobius. in the end, it doesn't matter how beautiful, rich, intelligent, or "honorable,wholesome, and clean" your partner is, as long as you truly love each other and are living happily.

[transcience]

siguro without the pressures of society, doable.

 

to moby & spongebobby - nothwithstanding chastisement from your peers and family, would you really go with your heart given the circumstances?

[spongebobby]

siguro without the pressures of society, doable.

 

to moby & spongebobby - nothwithstanding chastisement from your peers and family, would you really go with your heart given the circumstances?

 

i want to say absolutely yes, but honestly, i don't know. my idealism says it is possible, but pragmatism dictates otherwise.

 

several pages back, i detailed my involvement with an mpa before she became the superstar that she is now. she is one reason i avoid the mp threads: everytime someone writes an fr about her like she's a piece of meat, i want to rip the guys' balls apart and shove it down his throat. yet i know that i have no right to do that, as those frs are among the incidentals of her job.

 

it is difficult. for example, how can i introduce her to to my family without even thinking that one of them might've availed of her services. or what will she say if asked where she works?

 

i really don't know the answer. when we were together, i felt she was always bracing herself for the eventuality that we will separate. one night, she tearfully declared her love then disappeared, only to reappear a couple of years later as a superstar mpa.

 

she left without saying goodbye, changed her number and address.

 

haaay....