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  • 3 months later...

I knew she existed. He and I, we've talked about her and I knew that she was in his life for quite some time now. I guess I didn't believe she would last long with him. Some silly part of my brain thought that they would eventually break up so when I saw that they had a photo out of town (another one) I wasn't prepared for it.



Stupid right?



We haven't even spoken. The last time we spoke to each other was on my birthday where he called to greet me perfunctorily. I'm pretty sure it meant nothing to him. It was just something he had to do.



Wake up.


Eat.


Take a bath.


Go to work.


Call Geom and greet her.


Forget about her.


Go on with my life.


Go back to my girl.



We haven't seen each other since October as well when I saw him back in his hotel when he was sick. It's been 2 months and so I don't understand why it affected me the way that it did. Is it because at the back of my head, I thought that the fact that we kept seeing each other even though we have broken up meant something? He was always there years after we parted ways. It had to mean something right?



IT DIDN'T.



Last night, when I saw that photo, I realized, no matter how much time has passed by, no matter how much I delude myself, it seems I will never really get over him. He will always have the ability to hurt me without even trying simply because he has moved on and I am left, stranded, standing on the same spot where he left me.



And last night, I learned that hurt hurts ... no matter how long ago it has been, hurt still hurts. I'm just glad that he no longer reads my blog nor view my posts. After all, he's moved on and is finally happy. Hopefully, I'll be able to say the same thing soon.


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Sasabihan ko siya ng "alam mo ba ung 3 month rule????" hahaha!

 

 

For real, if I was the one who let go, I'd nod, smile and even say hi. Walk away and be happy for them. If I was the one left w/o closure or an answer to my why? It'll sting a bit and memories would torment me for a while but at the end of the day I keep my heads up and move on.

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Sasabihan ko siya ng "alam mo ba ung 3 month rule????" hahaha!

 

 

For real, if I was the one who let go, I'd nod, smile and even say hi. Walk away and be happy for them. If I was the one left w/o closure or an answer to my why? It'll sting a bit and memories would torment me for a while but at the end of the day I keep my heads up and move on.

 

I never believed in that three-month rule. Victim ako niyan nung undergrad ako and she was my first heartbreak. I think they're getting married na which is kinda worse if you thought of it but I was a wee 18-year old back then so I've managed to move on. I think I'd say "kailan ang kasal niyo?" without feeling bitter when I see them :)

 

Pero tama yung idea mo sabs. Na iba pag ikaw kasi ang bumitaw at mas iba yung ikaw ang binitawan.

 

been almost 3 years. pero may akward feeling parin pag naiisip kong baka magkasalubong kami. Part of me wishes sana hindi mangyari yung. or kung mangyari man ako lang sana yung makakita sa kanya kung may kasama mang syang iba.

 

i dont think hurt is the right word. no one really moves on pag alam mong minahal mo yung taong iniwan mo. iniwan mo for a reason at di mo narin babalikan for a reason. Still cant find a word for it. pero alam mong something is there that cant be explained

 

Time heals all wounds daw, ika nga. Pero minsan iisipin ko nalang na more than the time, it's about accepting realities. Na baka iba lang ang gusto niya sa buhay niya. That I ought to learn to be happy with myself first :)

 

Tama din kasi yung mahalin mo muna yung sarili mo ng sobra sobra, ibigay mo nalang sa iba yung matitira. Siguro ganun ako. Ewan ko kung tira yung binigay ko na pagmamahal pero alam ko meron pa ding puwang sa puso ko na minamahal ko ang sarili ko kaya di ako magpapakain sa lungkot ng pang-iiwan niya :)

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