napV200 Posted July 25, 2003 Author Share Posted July 25, 2003 Hmmmmmm!!!!! may mga nagreply na pala... thanks guys. You're all right but all women here said men are harder to understand as they dont express/show themselves that much unlike women and men are more hypocrite than women. Friends po tayong lahat... Mga tsong, some more tips pls. on how to keep a man, ano ba yong mga ayaw at gusto niyo... Many thanks... Quote Link to comment
Goddessa Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 here's something to ponder about guys... MEN by nature are goal-oriented...they see the big picture, the finished product and they don't care too much about the process of achieving these goals as long as they achieve them...kinda Machiavellian if ya ask me. So most of the time Women call them insensitive, manhid, callous. But really, it's unintentional naman on their part...Ganun lang talaga ang psychological make-up nila. Blame society for this or maybe their biological make-up too...para kasi silang may tunnel vision, alang ibang nakikita kundi ang dulo... WOMEN on the other hand are detail-oriented. We see the nitty-gritty of things and every given situation, we scrutinize, we think twice, thrice before acting, we speculate on possibilities of errors along the way. Men would often call us makulit, maarte, sensitive, konting kibot tampo, nagger, at kung ano-ano pa. It's not really intentional on our part din. Ganun lang talaga kami, gifted ng intuition. Mas matalas siguro ang senses namin, specially sa emotional aspect that sometimes we give out the wrong signal . Kaya hayun, away. advice to women...remember, men are not confrontational. if ya wanna drive a point, don't do so with your machinegun mouths...try a different tactic...u can still use your mouths , but choose an easier target eh? the ones which would likely respond positively to whatever you want to happen...afterwards hmmm, they'd most like be more amenable for " serious talk advice to men...women talk too much i know, we like to express our feelings verbally...it can get pretty damn annoying, but if you only have the sensitivity to listen to what we are NOT saying, man, things would be so simple and you can be king of our Eden for as long as you want ala lang...yun lang Quote Link to comment
napV200 Posted July 25, 2003 Author Share Posted July 25, 2003 here's something to ponder about guys... MEN by nature are goal-oriented...they see the big picture, the finished product and they don't care too much about the process of achieving these goals as long as they achieve them...kinda Machiavellian if ya ask me. So most of the time Women call them insensitive, manhid, callous. But really, it's unintentional naman on their part...Ganun lang talaga ang psychological make-up nila. Blame society for this or maybe their biological make-up too...para kasi silang may tunnel vision, alang ibang nakikita kundi ang dulo... WOMEN on the other hand are detail-oriented. We see the nitty-gritty of things and every given situation, we scrutinize, we think twice, thrice before acting, we speculate on possibilities of errors along the way. Men would often call us makulit, maarte, sensitive, konting kibot tampo, nagger, at kung ano-ano pa. It's not really intentional on our part din. Ganun lang talaga kami, gifted ng intuition. Mas matalas siguro ang senses namin, specially sa emotional aspect that sometimes we give out the wrong signal . Kaya hayun, away. advice to women...remember, men are not confrontational. if ya wanna drive a point, don't do so with your machinegun mouths...try a different tactic...u can still use your mouths , but choose an easier target eh? the ones which would likely respond positively to whatever you want to happen...afterwards hmmm, they'd most like be more amenable for " serious talk advice to men...women talk too much i know, we like to express our feelings verbally...it can get pretty damn annoying, but if you only have the sensitivity to listen to what we are NOT saying, man, things would be so simple and you can be king of our Eden for as long as you want ala lang...yun lang Galing mo sis. Thanks... Quote Link to comment
SideWinderX Posted July 28, 2003 Share Posted July 28, 2003 most of the time sex siguro. minsan companionship Quote Link to comment
HanSolo Posted July 28, 2003 Share Posted July 28, 2003 here's something to ponder about guys... MEN by nature are goal-oriented...they see the big picture, the finished product and they don't care too much about the process of achieving these goals as long as they achieve them...kinda Machiavellian if ya ask me. So most of the time Women call them insensitive, manhid, callous. But really, it's unintentional naman on their part...Ganun lang talaga ang psychological make-up nila. Blame society for this or maybe their biological make-up too...para kasi silang may tunnel vision, alang ibang nakikita kundi ang dulo... WOMEN on the other hand are detail-oriented. We see the nitty-gritty of things and every given situation, we scrutinize, we think twice, thrice before acting, we speculate on possibilities of errors along the way. Men would often call us makulit, maarte, sensitive, konting kibot tampo, nagger, at kung ano-ano pa. It's not really intentional on our part din. Ganun lang talaga kami, gifted ng intuition. Mas matalas siguro ang senses namin, specially sa emotional aspect that sometimes we give out the wrong signal . Kaya hayun, away. advice to women...remember, men are not confrontational. if ya wanna drive a point, don't do so with your machinegun mouths...try a different tactic...u can still use your mouths , but choose an easier target eh? the ones which would likely respond positively to whatever you want to happen...afterwards hmmm, they'd most like be more amenable for " serious talk advice to men...women talk too much i know, we like to express our feelings verbally...it can get pretty damn annoying, but if you only have the sensitivity to listen to what we are NOT saying, man, things would be so simple and you can be king of our Eden for as long as you want ala lang...yun lang hmmm..interestin....these could go EITHER way...i see a fairly good commentary but not "accurate" as it is...women have this keen sense or instinct of "always" tryin to generalize men or women....putting it all together makes it seem easier to understand... but that is not always the case.... for one...not all men by "nature" are goal oriented(eg.one night stand..men like it more than women else prove me wrong, that is definitely not goal oriented but very..very short term)....if we do accept this statement....does this mean that women by nature are not goal oriented as well?and all they care about are nitty gritty details? Great Scientist, Engineers, Inventors, even philosophers are a great majority--MEN..and these are the people to had to make sure of the nitty gritty details. And not all WOMEN are makulit, maarte, sentitive etc.....I've seen a lot of powerful women who would greatly object to this... I think the question of the thread of "what men wants on women" is so general we have to consider age, status, education, and family. But since the author has asked this thread....i think there is nobody else is so QUALIFIED to answer the most than your MAN--- Go ahead NapV200, ask your man.... because in making things work.....i believe contrary to the saying...."what you dont know..would actually hurt you..." ---Hans Quote Link to comment
Goddessa Posted July 28, 2003 Share Posted July 28, 2003 hmmm..interestin....these could go EITHER way...i see a fairly good commentary but not "accurate" as it is...women have this keen sense or instinct of "always" tryin to generalize men or women....putting it all together makes it seem easier to understand... but that is not always the case.... for one...not all men by "nature" are goal oriented(eg.one night stand..men like it more than women else prove me wrong, that is definitely not goal oriented but very..very short term)....if we do accept this statement....does this mean that women by nature are not goal oriented as well?and all they care about are nitty gritty details? Great Scientist, Engineers, Inventors, even philosophers are a great majority--MEN..and these are the people to had to make sure of the nitty gritty details. And not all WOMEN are makulit, maarte, sentitive etc.....I've seen a lot of powerful women who would greatly object to this... I think the question of the thread of "what men wants on women" is so general we have to consider age, status, education, and family. But since the author has asked this thread....i think there is nobody else is so QUALIFIED to answer the most than your MAN--- Go ahead NapV200, ask your man.... because in making things work.....i believe contrary to the saying...."what you dont know..would actually hurt you..." ---Hans Point taken, dude I guess i've kinda generalized things and i've read a comment somewhere (by Ginny if I'm not mistaken) that generalization is always false... you have a point when you said that not all men are goal-oriented and not all women are detail-oriented... i've just been speaking from my own experiences, and personal observations and based on a lot of readings din, mostly psychological/self-help/history books... i'll say some more later...work calls Quote Link to comment
pestor Posted July 28, 2003 Share Posted July 28, 2003 napv200, simple lang sagot ko...d more you try to understand... lalo ka lang magugulohan... kaya don't! hayaan mo na lang na sya maubusan ng buhok na intindihin ka... marami na ko nakita na nabaliw kaiisip... don't take life so seriously! enjoy! baka talagang d kayo para sa isa't isa. but to answer your question , i like simple witty women... Quote Link to comment
johnnybgood Posted July 28, 2003 Share Posted July 28, 2003 most of the time sex siguro. minsan companionship correct ka dyan...sex ang #1 answer Quote Link to comment
Guest ginny Posted July 28, 2003 Share Posted July 28, 2003 ...but all women here said men are harder to understand as they dont express/show themselves that much unlike women and men are more hypocrite than women. Again... it's not gender-sensitive. Some women are also like that. It's really hard to generalize.. every person is special kaya iba-iba yan. Now, what I can advise you... men generally loves challenges. Mas sineseryoso nila ang girl na hindi madali makuha.. pero tingnan mo ha, ganun din naman ang mga babae di ba? Ayaw natin yun mga patay na patay sa tin. Kaya sa dulo dulo nyan.. unahan na lang yan... pag nauna ka.. panalo ka.. hehehe.. teka panalo ka nga ba? Doesnt really work that way.. what's important is that you're happy with him. Kung hindi, di stop mo na ang relationship. Ganun lang kasimple yun. As I've posted earlier.. just learn to live with them (guys)... don't even try to understand or analyze their actions.. kung ayaw mo lang naman maloka ha.. .. ang tawag jan, ACCEPTANCE.... na hindi talaga kayo pareho ng diskarte sa buhay. Quote Link to comment
Guest templar Posted July 28, 2003 Share Posted July 28, 2003 Again... it's not gender-sensitive. Some women are also like that. It's really hard to generalize.. every person is special kaya iba-iba yan. Now, what I can advise you... men generally loves challenges. Mas sineseryoso nila ang girl na hindi madali makuha.. pero tingnan mo ha, ganun din naman ang mga babae di ba? Ayaw natin yun mga patay na patay sa tin. Kaya sa dulo dulo nyan.. unahan na lang yan... pag nauna ka.. panalo ka.. hehehe.. teka panalo ka nga ba? Doesnt really work that way.. what's important is that you're happy with him. Kung hindi, di stop mo na ang relationship. Ganun lang kasimple yun. As I've posted earlier.. just learn to live with them (guys)... don't even try to understand or analyze their actions.. kung ayaw mo lang naman maloka ha.. .. ang tawag jan, ACCEPTANCE.... na hindi talaga kayo pareho ng diskarte sa buhay.Galing mo talaga pards! This is exactly the same advice I would give to a "friend" who is so perplexed by the very same topic you just replied to ..... you must have eaten something special for lunch Quote Link to comment
Guest ginny Posted July 28, 2003 Share Posted July 28, 2003 Hahahaha! Boss T ha! Honga no? Tinamaan yata ako dun.. wehehe... I'm not really trying to understand men's actions... I'm more of, think muna.. translate it somehow.. pag hindi ko tlaga ma-translate.. either I'll tell him that it's bugging me (if I want to clear things out) or I'll just leave it as it is as in deadma na lang.. I'll just try to live with it nga eh.. In my case pare.. in case you're interested to know... I told him exactly what's on my mind.. hehehe.. ayos ba pare? Quote Link to comment
Guest templar Posted July 28, 2003 Share Posted July 28, 2003 In my case pare.. in case you're interested to know... I told him exactly what's on my mind.. hehehe.. ayos ba pare? Ayush! .... now the plot thickens ...... Now to reply to the thread's topic - In my opinion, part of the problem in understanding either sex stems from our desire to fit men or women into a compartmentalized and predictable behavior .... why? because it makes it easy for us to understand them .... what we forget, however, is that we can never use a static model for a dynamic subject Men and women will fit a certain behavior sometimes, maybe even most of the times, but not all times .... and it is these "unfit" times when we fail to understand them that we are prone to make conclusions about them .... oftentimes, erroneous ones .... So how to deal with men/women? .... be like the waves, they can't predict which direction the wind will blow but they manage to wave along and reach the shore just the same .... Quote Link to comment
[PauL] Posted August 2, 2003 Share Posted August 2, 2003 the support.. the feeling that they are there for yah Quote Link to comment
in_style Posted August 3, 2003 Share Posted August 3, 2003 (edited) ngee... double posting! sorry. Edited August 3, 2003 by ccc3 Quote Link to comment
in_style Posted August 3, 2003 Share Posted August 3, 2003 mornin'! i will have to agree with an earlier post in this thread that the issue is non-gender sensitive. expectations and how to maintain a relationship is not just a responsibility of the man or the woman in the relationship. it takes two to tango, right? i think what's important is to have trust, respect and an open communication line between the two of you. i believe that a relationship is a partnership. thus, that would mean an equal 50-50 sharing in everything. it cant be helped though that there will times that one will exert more effort to maintain the relationship than the other. the love for each other will bind you to accept the other person regardless of the good and bad points that he/she has. i used to think before that ladies are far more emotional and caring than the guys. but i was proven wrong time and again. in fact there had been opportunities that he is more sensitive (not just the literal meaning of this word, mr dear), than i am. it's really how the two of you try to work things out. thus, when u get in a relationship u should be ready to give and take. we dont need to quantify and measure. go more for the quality. as for the question of how long can u stay in a relationship, i believe ur gut feel will tell u if it's still working for you. does he still make you feel good and a better person? cause if he doesnt, then maybe it's time to move on with your life without him. your partner and the relationship should be an asset and not a liability to you. cause if it is, u'll grow tired of it and eventually hit rock bottom. **angel eyes hugs napV200. ** Quote Link to comment
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