Would You Go After Someone Who is Taken?

[marvinmc]

kapag sumama sa akin sa motel, yari sya. kahit pa bukas ang kasal nya

[daysleeper]

All is fair in love and war.

 

But if she's already married then definitely no.

[SNEAKYSOUNDSYSTEM]

Before, I have ALWAYS told myself na I will never be "involved" with some 1 whus, married, into a relationship or engaged.

 

And thru the years, I've lived up to it. Cause being a Yoga practitiner, I always believe in KARMA. And am damn sure even non yoga practitioners do believe in it.

 

 

Now , lately I discovered that there are certain EXCEPTIONS.

 

I now have a FUBU, a very HOT MILF from southern part,22 yrs old,, she is engaged to a 70 yr old foreigner , whom she met only on line. She admitted that she NEVER EVER loves the guy, and gus2 lang nya makapunta ng US for her and her kids future( and take note,..her buong ANGKAN approves of such plans with the old foreigner).

 

 

and even the OLD guy doesnt love her,...gus2 lang nya ng "care giver" na sexy at maganda na pwde nya LANDI LANDIIN atleast every other nite.

 

 

So, is there guilt feelings on my part??????? HELL NO! Besides, this fubu of mine was my ex, naging gf ko din cya last yr,...and she rlly has a history of PLAYING with SEVERAL fires....

 

 

so, ayun!..............am juz sharing land po

[GamerBoy01]

not for me. there's a lot of single women out there...

 

i will find the one for me.. :headsetsmiley:

[amflitz]

im experiencing it now.. pero ayoko naman agawin siya sa bf niya

 

share ko lang

 

classmate ko siya nung high school. muntik nang maging kame but unfortunately nawalan ako ng contact with her before magcollege, sa iba na siya nag college, until nakita niya ko sa isang Friend connecting website at dun na nagstart ulet communication namin. nasa canada na siya that time and ako sa dubai naman, tapos sabay kame umuwi ngayon ng pinas at nagkita kame kgabe and may ngyare samin. we both have partners, ayaw ko siyang agawin sa bf niya, pero ayoko rin iwan gf ko. sorry kung nagiging selfish ako pero ndi ko maiwasan. natatakot din ako sa karma,

 

sumama siya sakin sa alam mo na. pero at first ayaw niya may mangyare kase nga iba na daw un. sabi niya pagmayngyare samin ndi na daw siya magpaparamdam. pero may ngyare pa rin. sabi niya binibigyan ko daw siya ng reason para agawin ako sa gf ko. which is ayoko naman mangyare din

 

pero nacoconfuse na ko ngayon. para kaseng nafafall na ko sa kanya, pero alam kong mas mahal ko gf ko ngayon. and 7 years na kame and planning to get married next month.

 

ang hirap pala ng pinasok ko.

 

need help guys.. i need some advise

[iankupal]

im experiencing it now.. pero ayoko naman agawin siya sa bf niya

 

share ko lang

 

classmate ko siya nung high school. muntik nang maging kame but unfortunately nawalan ako ng contact with her before magcollege, sa iba na siya nag college, until nakita niya ko sa isang Friend connecting website at dun na nagstart ulet communication namin. nasa canada na siya that time and ako sa dubai naman, tapos sabay kame umuwi ngayon ng pinas at nagkita kame kgabe and may ngyare samin. we both have partners, ayaw ko siyang agawin sa bf niya, pero ayoko rin iwan gf ko. sorry kung nagiging selfish ako pero ndi ko maiwasan. natatakot din ako sa karma,

 

sumama siya sakin sa alam mo na. pero at first ayaw niya may mangyare kase nga iba na daw un. sabi niya pagmayngyare samin ndi na daw siya magpaparamdam. pero may ngyare pa rin. sabi niya binibigyan ko daw siya ng reason para agawin ako sa gf ko. which is ayoko naman mangyare din

 

pero nacoconfuse na ko ngayon. para kaseng nafafall na ko sa kanya, pero alam kong mas mahal ko gf ko ngayon. and 7 years na kame and planning to get married next month.

 

ang hirap pala ng pinasok ko.

 

need help guys.. i need some advise

 

 

you're getting laid a lot and you are still complaining!, dun sa pangalawa tell her about your real situation tapos pag nagtagal tagal at napagtimbang mo na then choose kung sino nga sa dalawa, just enjoy the moment for the meantime, tapos if you want to keep both of them at paldo ka naman o mayaman then keep both of them.

 

Initially talaga ganun, andun agad sa isip mo na me emotional connection agad kayo. Try to picture yourself kung kanino ka hindi mauumayan pagtagal tagal at yun na lang ang piliin mo.

[badassprovider]

ill go after them if i really like the girl. its a case to case basis actually, naturally i wouldn't go after them if i were attached. If I am single and I really like the girl, then I'd go after her with all my might. :goatee:

[amflitz]

you're getting laid a lot and you are still complaining!, dun sa pangalawa tell her about your real situation tapos pag nagtagal tagal at napagtimbang mo na then choose kung sino nga sa dalawa, just enjoy the moment for the meantime, tapos if you want to keep both of them at paldo ka naman o mayaman then keep both of them.

 

Initially talaga ganun, andun agad sa isip mo na me emotional connection agad kayo. Try to picture yourself kung kanino ka hindi mauumayan pagtagal tagal at yun na lang ang piliin mo.

 

alam nung pangalawa ang situation ko, she said before na ndi naman daw niya ko papipiliin between sa kanya and sa current gf ko, so kala ko ok na yun sa ganun. tapos kagabi parang nagpapahaging na siya na papiliiin ako ako between them, i know i can't have them both.. ndi pwdeng silang dalawa, meron at merong masasaktan..

 

nung before kame magkita ang sabi niya wala daw dapat mafall samin, I controlled it pero mahirap, pero tinatry ko pa rin na wag ma fall, and then siya pala na fafall na, nauna kase ko umuwi sa kanya dito sa pinas ng 15 days. ndi ko siya nakakachat minsan kase ksma ko si gf, tapos aun nagseselos na,tapos ngayong dumating na siya dito sya naman ang nawalan ng time sakin at ako naman ang napunta sa ganung situation..

 

ndi kaya masyado lang ako naooverwhelm sa situation ngayon kaya mejo nacoconfuse ako? mahal ko 7 yrs. gf ko. and gusto siya na tlga..

[cydney_maldita]

nah.......

[86bangher]

alam nung pangalawa ang situation ko, she said before na ndi naman daw niya ko papipiliin between sa kanya and sa current gf ko, so kala ko ok na yun sa ganun. tapos kagabi parang nagpapahaging na siya na papiliiin ako ako between them, i know i can't have them both.. ndi pwdeng silang dalawa, meron at merong masasaktan..

 

nung before kame magkita ang sabi niya wala daw dapat mafall samin, I controlled it pero mahirap, pero tinatry ko pa rin na wag ma fall, and then siya pala na fafall na, nauna kase ko umuwi sa kanya dito sa pinas ng 15 days. ndi ko siya nakakachat minsan kase ksma ko si gf, tapos aun nagseselos na,tapos ngayong dumating na siya dito sya naman ang nawalan ng time sakin at ako naman ang napunta sa ganung situation.....

'amflitz' sir... yan ang itinutukoy ko (at ang iba) na 7-years' "itch". 7yrs kayo ng GF mo, diba?

 

IMHO & experiences... having a "long-term" relationship as gf/bf all in all wasn't a good thing!!! The longest i would advise in such situation is between 1~ 3yrs. If nothing happen between you & partner, split and look for another one. Lamang ang boyz sa ganitong situations, kulelat naman ang gals diyan. That's why, either you as a guy - make up your decision fast or nothing. Just don't waste the gal's time coz their 'freshness' (overseas, ok yan. But locally once a gal reached 28 & above, medyo kulelat na sila) easily fades.

 

7 years with your current GF is quite a long time. Ask yourself conscientiously - have both of you gone through good & bad times? Thru those situations, in what ways have both of you solved it amicably? Do you really knew her weaknesses, advantages & disadvantges (in terms of emotion/psychological/intellectual) & vice-versa? Were both your family approved of this relations or anyone inbetween has gripes on either of you?

 

Those questions i had explicitly raised for you - think deeply. If your mind were mudied, then wrote it down and wrote your answers down in private. Then review what you wrote & i'm sure you could get something out of it.

 

Now let's get back to this 2nd gal you were involved now - Just because you knew her & had a very recent tryst with her doesn't meant you love her. At kung mayroon nga diyan, pasensiyahan na kung maka-barako ang sagot ko - LIBOG lang yan (...or should i termed it as infatuation?)!

 

Took off your emotionality in that recent tryst of yours, then wear your tinfoil hat for once & ask yourself... "why did i fall into this situation with her that day? Was it because of seductions? Was it because of old acquaintances? Or was it because of lust due to homesickness???"

 

IMO again... it would most plausibly bec of seductions & the last one! Eh kung ganyan... LIBOG pa din ang pinaguusapan. Sa kalakihang mong iyan, alam mo naman kapag Libog ang pinaguusapan... pwedeng makamtan sa pagbabayad, diba?

 

Puwes, ngayon... itanung mo sa sarili mo - sinung mas mabigad masaktan, si old original of 7 years o ang bago mong lumang kaibigan? Sino sa kanila ang mas kilala mo ng matagalan at nakakaunawa sa iyong ugali ng wasto?

 

Pagigihan mo ng pagiisip, 'amflitz'. Kung tutuusin - Mahirap na madali maukulan ng desisyon ang problema mong ito.

 

Last thing i can give you on a friendly advice... Kung ayaw mong maguluhan ang darating mong mga taon Kung ikaw ay nagasawa na, mas siguradong tumaya sa isang kabayo na kabisado mo ang ugali. Unless you see in your 7 years of relations, something that you think might be an obstacle for you to become a caring hubby!

[Pantasya]

i won't go for someone who's already taken.... but if he shows interest, and we jive and it's all just for play, I might give it a thought.

[babyphat]

nope! not worth the time.

[gilghost]

been there and is very very messy....

[amflitz]

'amflitz' sir... yan ang itinutukoy ko (at ang iba) na 7-years' "itch". 7yrs kayo ng GF mo, diba?

 

IMHO & experiences... having a "long-term" relationship as gf/bf all in all wasn't a good thing!!! The longest i would advise in such situation is between 1~ 3yrs. If nothing happen between you & partner, split and look for another one. Lamang ang boyz sa ganitong situations, kulelat naman ang gals diyan. That's why, either you as a guy - make up your decision fast or nothing. Just don't waste the gal's time coz their 'freshness' (overseas, ok yan. But locally once a gal reached 28 & above, medyo kulelat na sila) easily fades.

 

7 years with your current GF is quite a long time. Ask yourself conscientiously - have both of you gone through good & bad times? Thru those situations, in what ways have both of you solved it amicably? Do you really knew her weaknesses, advantages & disadvantges (in terms of emotion/psychological/intellectual) & vice-versa? Were both your family approved of this relations or anyone inbetween has gripes on either of you?

 

Those questions i had explicitly raised for you - think deeply. If your mind were mudied, then wrote it down and wrote your answers down in private. Then review what you wrote & i'm sure you could get something out of it.

 

Now let's get back to this 2nd gal you were involved now - Just because you knew her & had a very recent tryst with her doesn't meant you love her. At kung mayroon nga diyan, pasensiyahan na kung maka-barako ang sagot ko - LIBOG lang yan (...or should i termed it as infatuation?)!

 

Took off your emotionality in that recent tryst of yours, then wear your tinfoil hat for once & ask yourself... "why did i fall into this situation with her that day? Was it because of seductions? Was it because of old acquaintances? Or was it because of lust due to homesickness???"

 

IMO again... it would most plausibly bec of seductions & the last one! Eh kung ganyan... LIBOG pa din ang pinaguusapan. Sa kalakihang mong iyan, alam mo naman kapag Libog ang pinaguusapan... pwedeng makamtan sa pagbabayad, diba?

 

Puwes, ngayon... itanung mo sa sarili mo - sinung mas mabigad masaktan, si old original of 7 years o ang bago mong lumang kaibigan? Sino sa kanila ang mas kilala mo ng matagalan at nakakaunawa sa iyong ugali ng wasto?

 

Pagigihan mo ng pagiisip, 'amflitz'. Kung tutuusin - Mahirap na madali maukulan ng desisyon ang problema mong ito.

 

Last thing i can give you on a friendly advice... Kung ayaw mong maguluhan ang darating mong mga taon Kung ikaw ay nagasawa na, mas siguradong tumaya sa isang kabayo na kabisado mo ang ugali. Unless you see in your 7 years of relations, something that you think might be an obstacle for you to become a caring hubby!

 

thanks dude..

 

you're a big help.. kelangan ko talaga mag isip, pero definitely si 7 yrs. gf pa rin pipiliin ko, pero tingin ko ndi "LUST" ang naramdaman ko sa old friend ko, I courted her nung high school days namin, tapos ndi naging kame kase nagtransfer siya.. so masasabi kong parang unfinished business ang naramdaman ko kaya nagawa ko un..

 

I need you guys and ladies to react to this..

what do you think? is it right to text the 2nd gal involve in this after na may mangyari samin. kase para sakin ang pangit naman kung ndi ko siya itetext after nun, baka isipin niya un lang ang habol ko which is not true..

pero at some part, pwde ko rin naman siyang ndi itext para at least ndi ako ganong maattached emotionally sa kanya..

 

pero nagawa ko naman na siyang itext right after that.. gusto ko lang malaman ung both side ng men and women about this "text" thing..

[compadrei]

if that person is worth the risk, why not..

 

as long as that person is not married..