seductivevenus Posted December 7, 2013 Share Posted December 7, 2013 then her boyfriend is definitely not a virgin either! alam nia eh. when are we going to put this double standard down? Quote Link to comment
friendly0603 Posted December 7, 2013 Share Posted December 7, 2013 (edited) then her boyfriend is definitely not a virgin either! alam nia eh. when are we going to put this double standard down? Never. Virginity in women is quite rare and therefore more sought after. That same rarity for men isn't something that women highly regard. Edited December 7, 2013 by friendly0603 Quote Link to comment
jgc813 Posted December 9, 2013 Share Posted December 9, 2013 Let me distinguish some more and breakdown my answers to this question: what comes to your mind when your GF is not a virgin? 1A. At the initial stage: If I am attracted to a girl at the onset, and I would come to know she has had several boyfriends before me, I would really think long and hard to consider courting her. Somehow, alert bells ring when I know a girl has had several failed relationships before me. The odds will be against me, and I know that the probability I will be another statistic for her would be very high. 1B. In connection with the above, I will always wonder what kind of sex she has had prior me. Having several failed relationships before me would me she has had very many sexual partners, and I would also presume some of them were just casual sex. In this regard, I will start to think she may have some high standards as far as sex is concerned, and I may fail her expectations. (Let's face it guys... sex, whether out of love or out of lust differs among men and women.) 2. If I take the challenge of courting and eventually would fall in love with her, I probably would forego 1A and 1B AFTER some time she will show ample proof she can maintain a serious honest-to-goodness relationship. Of course, it will take some time before I really get convinced about this. Having undergone several failed relationships, for me, is a matter not to be taken for granted. 3. Again, alarm bells would also sound if I know a girl has had several sex partners prior me. If she's in for casual sex, then, she can go on doing that even after we have become steadies. You see, my recent ex taught me a lot of lessons, and after her, my outlook on women with several failed relationships, and who are easy with sex, has changed drastically. My recent ex has two kids from two other guys. According to her, she has had 7 serious BFs before me, not counting the other guys she has gone to bed with. Despite her 'track record,' I gave her a shot. We lasted more than a year, until she left for work abroad. Lo and behold, it just took 3 months before she found another guy. I found it out early, and she continually denied it for another 3 months until I pressured her to call it quits. More revelations came out, and I came to the conclusion she was something close to a pathological liar. Until the very end, she never admitted she has another BF. I must say, though, during the times we were with each other, she put her best foot forward. She was malambing, loving, and caring. She was definitely very good in bed, and she made so many promises which one would really believe she could keep. It was good while it lasted, but I don't think she can really hold on to a relationship for long. Aside from that, I also think she's on to variety when it comes to sex. I also discovered she can easily be enticed to go to bed with just a little prodding. This is a caveat: be very wary of women who have had several failed relationships, are easy with sex, and are liars! 1 Quote Link to comment
*Jessie* Posted December 9, 2013 Share Posted December 9, 2013 I might be getting any negative remarks from this but as a woman, I wouldnt be surprised if the following comes to his mind if he fonds out thst im no longer a virgin. Love and other romanticism aside. 1. When was the first time - He should be plain curious. 2. How many did she sleep with? - Stil curious. 3. Did these men get involved with her in a relationship she believed to be serious or she got involved in casual sex with her full consent and awareness? 4. If she got involved in casual sex set up in the past, ill wonder about her level of being sexual adventurous. Will I make her happy in bed? Will she be contented with me? Does she have this sexual apetite switch when shes in a romantic serious relationship? 5. How jaded can she be? How strong should I be to make her believe I could be the one. 6. How sure I am that she didnt acquire any std? 7. May future ba sa babaeng to? Quote Link to comment
kingjeff Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Edi 2nd hand.. hehe joke not a big deal past is past mahalaga is loyal ang masama hindi. Quote Link to comment
PhalanxAngel Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Better way to think about is if it weren't for the things that happened to her in the past, she wouldn't be the same girl as she is today. Quote Link to comment
neville Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 If my guy is so concerned about my virginity, that should make me very concerned about his as well. Quote Link to comment
_iceman_ Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 she would be normal if she's no longer a virgin.. Quote Link to comment
Matty Ghas Posted December 17, 2013 Share Posted December 17, 2013 Wouldn't change a thing. Men devirginize so why expect a virgin? If she is no longer a virgin then she is not that naive anymore. Quote Link to comment
gorilladong Posted August 7, 2014 Share Posted August 7, 2014 Let me distinguish some more and breakdown my answers to this question: what comes to your mind when your GF is not a virgin? 1A. At the initial stage: If I am attracted to a girl at the onset, and I would come to know she has had several boyfriends before me, I would really think long and hard to consider courting her. Somehow, alert bells ring when I know a girl has had several failed relationships before me. The odds will be against me, and I know that the probability I will be another statistic for her would be very high. 1B. In connection with the above, I will always wonder what kind of sex she has had prior me. Having several failed relationships before me would me she has had very many sexual partners, and I would also presume some of them were just casual sex. In this regard, I will start to think she may have some high standards as far as sex is concerned, and I may fail her expectations. (Let's face it guys... sex, whether out of love or out of lust differs among men and women.) 2. If I take the challenge of courting and eventually would fall in love with her, I probably would forego 1A and 1B AFTER some time she will show ample proof she can maintain a serious honest-to-goodness relationship. Of course, it will take some time before I really get convinced about this. Having undergone several failed relationships, for me, is a matter not to be taken for granted. 3. Again, alarm bells would also sound if I know a girl has had several sex partners prior me. If she's in for casual sex, then, she can go on doing that even after we have become steadies. You see, my recent ex taught me a lot of lessons, and after her, my outlook on women with several failed relationships, and who are easy with sex, has changed drastically. My recent ex has two kids from two other guys. According to her, she has had 7 serious BFs before me, not counting the other guys she has gone to bed with. Despite her 'track record,' I gave her a shot. We lasted more than a year, until she left for work abroad. Lo and behold, it just took 3 months before she found another guy. I found it out early, and she continually denied it for another 3 months until I pressured her to call it quits. More revelations came out, and I came to the conclusion she was something close to a pathological liar. Until the very end, she never admitted she has another BF. I must say, though, during the times we were with each other, she put her best foot forward. She was malambing, loving, and caring. She was definitely very good in bed, and she made so many promises which one would really believe she could keep. It was good while it lasted, but I don't think she can really hold on to a relationship for long. Aside from that, I also think she's on to variety when it comes to sex. I also discovered she can easily be enticed to go to bed with just a little prodding. This is a caveat: be very wary of women who have had several failed relationships, are easy with sex, and are liars! So thorough! I agree! but I still believe in second chances. Quote Link to comment
little_finger Posted August 8, 2014 Share Posted August 8, 2014 at least hindi na ako mahihirapan... kidding aside, does it really matter? when you love someone you love her for all that she is. you take her as a complete package, you accept her for who she is and there must never be any conditions or inhibitions. Quote Link to comment
White Walker Posted August 10, 2014 Share Posted August 10, 2014 It's ok. I believe that there is a reason behind our experiences, and destined to be like this. Embrace it with your whole heart. Quote Link to comment
insurgent Posted August 11, 2014 Share Posted August 11, 2014 Nothing, hindi naman panahon ito nila maria Clara. Kailangan we have to be open minded to the things. Very rare kang makakakilala na virgin pa na tao, guy or girl. If you have, then you have to commend them for their willingness to wait and their dedication to making a very tough decision. But as far as if the girl your with isn't a virgin anymore. So what? I'm not either. I don't have any problem with that. The important thing is, she's with me now. That's what matters Quote Link to comment
toruk makto Posted February 10, 2015 Share Posted February 10, 2015 its not important that your not the first, what is important is you will be the last. Quote Link to comment
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