AD3

Unless the situation of the BF changes (annulment), i think in time the sponsor eventually wins out. As time goes by, the thought of being just the BFs #2 and his inability to fully provide will eventually erode whatever feelings the woman has. Jus my 2 cents.

Update: I reached out to her before Christmas. One time as I was cleaning my phonebook, my heart skipped a beat when I reached her name in my entries. Should I delete or should I try to see if she still has the same digits? I chose the latter and dialled her work number, it was already unreachable. Then, i tried her personal line, it rang. When she picked up the phone, all I could say was "Hi". I did not expect her reaction, she immediately recognized my voice and blurted out my 1st name twice. Me:"How did you know it was me? Iba # gamit ko ngaun". Her:"How can i forget? kmsta kna?" We began to catch up on our personal lives. She totally quit the industry after paying of her families debts brought about by her sisters sickness and eventual passing. Her family sold their house and paid in full a condo unit in Pasig to be their new home. She went back to her corporate career she put on pause when she became a walker. Then I asked the question I have been meaning to ask: Me:"Are you with someone now?" Her:"Yes, I am...You?" Me:"Yes, there is someone as well." Silence. Dead silence. It took awhile before I finally spoke: Me:"I hope you are happy?" Her:" I am. He doesnt know my past. Perhaps, thats for the best." Me:"Good, thats all I wanted to hear. You deserv to be happy after what you have been through." We have been speaking for 30 minutes or so but the convo was getting awkward when this topic came up. I was about to say goodbye and wish her well but she spoke first before I can do so: Her:" Maybe we can meet sometime, coffee or lunch...would be nice to see you again." Me:"Yes, maybe we can do that." Afterwhich, i ended the convo. I havent contacted her since for a couple of reasons, one she said she was happy and I did not want to complicate that. Second, I wanted to giv her a chance to completely leave her past behind. I was a remnant of a stage in her life she would rather forget, and I feel her seeing me would remind her of what she had done.