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Unless the situation of the BF changes (annulment), i think in time the sponsor eventually wins out. As time goes by, the thought of being just the BFs #2 and his inability to fully provide will eventually erode whatever feelings the woman has. Jus my 2 cents.

Update: I reached out to her before Christmas. One time as I was cleaning my phonebook, my heart skipped a beat when I reached her name in my entries. Should I delete or should I try to see if she still has the same digits? I chose the latter and dialled her work number, it was already unreachable. Then, i tried her personal line, it rang. When she picked up the phone, all I could say was "Hi". I did not expect her reaction, she immediately recognized my voice and blurted out my 1st name twice. Me:"How did you know it was me? Iba # gamit ko ngaun". Her:"How can i forget? kmsta kna?" We began to catch up on our personal lives. She totally quit the industry after paying of her families debts brought about by her sisters sickness and eventual passing. Her family sold their house and paid in full a condo unit in Pasig to be their new home. She went back to her corporate career she put on pause when she became a walker. Then I asked the question I have been meaning to ask: Me:"Are you with someone now?" Her:"Yes, I am...You?" Me:"Yes, there is someone as well." Silence. Dead silence. It took awhile before I finally spoke: Me:"I hope you are happy?" Her:" I am. He doesnt know my past. Perhaps, thats for the best." Me:"Good, thats all I wanted to hear. You deserv to be happy after what you have been through." We have been speaking for 30 minutes or so but the convo was getting awkward when this topic came up. I was about to say goodbye and wish her well but she spoke first before I can do so: Her:" Maybe we can meet sometime, coffee or lunch...would be nice to see you again." Me:"Yes, maybe we can do that." Afterwhich, i ended the convo. I havent contacted her since for a couple of reasons, one she said she was happy and I did not want to complicate that. Second, I wanted to giv her a chance to completely leave her past behind. I was a remnant of a stage in her life she would rather forget, and I feel her seeing me would remind her of what she had done.

Haizt, c Lebron pa dn MVP. LOL

Friends are friends. It doesnt really matter if they are theras or not, if they show me kindness, then most likely I will reciprocate how they treat me. I started my red light hobby early 2000s and yes, some theras, walkers I met then have remained to be friends/acquaintances up to now. Of course, karamihan ng nakilala ko then, retired na sa industry, may kanya2x na life but the friendships remained. Last week, I had cofee wid a former stag momma and her legit work colleague. Nsa real estate na cya and long retired from her walker days. Those that demean theras and think of them as nothing else but leeches that dont deserv to be treated as something more, the most likley scenario is they have emotional scars. Either nabasted ng thera or napaasa, thinking that they have bought a theras love but apparently nde pala. Theras are people. Beyond the facade, they are women with real emotions. They get hurt, they appreciate kindness and they value people who see them as more than sex objects. As one GM said above, kindness is free. Try showing it sa theras, who knows, that might go a long way.