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adorable

man + slaughter = manslaughter

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JUST LOVE.....

 

People who love in the expectation of being loved in return are wasting their time.

 

I remember dati di ako tumataya sa lotto, sabi ko sa sarili ko dati, napakaliit ng chance na manalo ako, at di ko naman kailangan ng ganyang kadaming pera.

 

Pero now every chance I have tumataya ako, di alam ng mga friends ko kung bakit.

 

Kasi pag nanalo ako may babalatuhan ako para tumigil na sya sa work nya. Pag nanalo ako afford ko na at kaya ko na sya ampunin. I love her so much na, i feel ko na sa kanya lang ako magiging happy.

 

Six numbers lang kailangan ko. At sandamukal na swerte. Sana manalo ako. Hehe

 

Kasi pag kasama ko sya daig ko pa nanalo sa lotto.

 

Haaays

 

Ang binibili mo sa lotto ay pag-asa. Sa halagang bente petot eh magkakaroon ka ng pag asa hanggang sa oras ng draw.

 

Pagtumama ka ng jackpot, swerte mo. Pag olats, edi...at least di ka nawalan ng pag-asa. So, bili ka ulit ng pag-asa..and the vicious cycle continues.

 

Pero para sa mga thera loves, sana wag puro paasa ibibigay ng mga GMs. Wag paasahin si thera loves na pwedeng maging kayo kung di naman pwede...upfront, pwede mo naman sabihin na "mag-masaya" lang relasyon na kaya kung ibigay sa iyo hanggang sa umalis ka na sa industriyang yan. Happy happy lang..."mag-masaya" lang dapat ang thera-client relationship.

 

Then once na umalis na si thera loves sa spa, dapat tigil na rin si GM at saka dun na nila pag-usapan kung gusto nila i level-up and relasyon or "just friends" na lang or pwedeng mere acquaintance na lang. Pwede rin dedmahan na lang kung yan ang gusto nilang dalawa.

 

Just my two cents.

Wag mo pahirapan sarili mo sir. Just enjoy the company, dont go in there looking for love. Pag dumating e d dumating, pero you have to look out for yourself first, specially sila e mas matigas talaga ang puso nila. Why dont u try other theras for a change. The good thing about them is they rarely take offense kung kumuha ka ng iba, awkward nga lng kung minsan pag nagkita kyo at iba kinuha mo. Hehehe... just enjoy whatever makes you happy about her but also look after yourself. Sometimes kahit GM ka, mas maganda mag pakipot ka dn. Para habol habulin ka dn ng txt. Hahaha...

 

Agree ako dito.

 

Hmmm...masubukan ngang magpakipot din....hehehe

Here's my two cents... just go with the flow and let your conscience be your guide in doing what is right or wrong actions, feelings or emotions. At the end of the day, you can always say what GM Rebel_Yell have said... "no regrets."

 

WE CANNOT PLEASE EVERYBODY.

 

As long as you're doing it right (based on your conscience), you don't have to worry.

 

That's a nice thought sir, but you have to realize we theras made this choice because of circumstances in life which guided us in this industry. I am a degree holder, i already got accepted in a bank, but I chose this profession. Why? Because I have dreams for me and my family and going the usual employment route would not allow me to reach my goals in the timeline that I desire. Do I have plans to exit the spa world? Of course, that is always the long term objective. As you said, we have the FV/BV puhunan, thus, I am maximizing my "assets" at this point of my life to earn and save for tomorrow. I felt that doing this is the best chance I have to provide my family with a good life at the soonest possible time.

 

Cheers sir. Good afternoon all.

 

"...to earn and to save for tomorrow."

 

Sadly, a lot of therapist has yet to develop the habit of saving. Parati kong sinasabihan mga nakikila kong theras na ang labanan pag dating sa pera ay hindi paramihan ng kita (income)...ang sukatan ng pera at paramihan ng natira sa kita (yung net or yung savings). Pag ang isang tao hindi marunong mag-ipon or save ng income, parating kakapusin yan kahit gaano pa kalaki ang kikitain or income niya. Parati siyang kulang sa budget, kahit gaano pa kalaki ang ibibigay or gaano pa karami ang kangyang sponsor GMs...kasi nga walang ipon.

 

So if the GM would like to seriously help the therapist, he must also teach financial literacy to her. I might be mistaken, but for me, this can be the GM's best legacy to the therapist...much better than just giving her outright money.

So let's say that in the long run there will be a relationship between one GM and one thera

 

For this relationship to work, financial issues should be thrown out of the window. The GM should not give any monetary support to thera. The thera should not ask any monetary support from the GM. When that happens, you now enter the Sugar Daddy - Sugar Baby relationship which is not based on love but on Money.

 

Second, the GM should not visit the girl in her workplace. Also the GM should not try to pry into whatever what happens between the thera and other guys. Conversely, the thera should also not ask the guy what his activities are. When you two are together, nothing else matters.

 

I think one of the best ways to ruin this relationship if the guys asks ano ES ng girl sa ibang guys or the girl offers to say what she does with the other guy.

 

(This is OT, I am not in a relationship with a thera, but sometimes with a regular it is quasi type one and hearing your regular thera do things with other guys minsan nakakasama ng loob in a way that I went to a different thera just to do the same thing)

 

Third, there should always be intimacy. Regardless of the activities the one have or how tired the guy is from work there should be sex, Mahirap na. Baka manumbat si guy na maraming partners si girl or manumbat si girl na tinatabangan na yung guy. I don't think any relationship survive long without the intimacy.

 

And to make this really work, both of them should leave the industry at the same time...

 

Agree with master sir galahad, especially the last line...that both of them must leave the industry at the same time!

 

For the GM, it is like attempting to seat at the "The Perilous Seat" wherein it is fatal to attempt if one is not worthy or deserving. Only the likes of Sir Galahad, with pure heart (and deep pockets), would one day be successful in the quest for the "Holy Grail."

I can tell myself all day "be HEARTless,

f*ck em" but in all reality, I have a big

ass HEART and can't treat people bad,

that's just not me.

 

So here, I offer you my crazy (baliw) and unfaithful (salawahan) HEART...to tell you with all honesty and clear conscience...that you have a special place in that big ass HEART of mine.

 

So SMILE...strive to be happy...and may you always have JOY and hapiness in your HEART! =)

Theras actually put more on the line when they fall for a client.

 

When the relationship shifts from transactional to relational, each if the concerned party must not expect any fair exchange deals for time, money and effort.

 

Taken from the web, herewith are some major distinctions between transactional (client-thera) vis-a-vis relational (i.e., falling for a client) engagements;

 

Transactional Relational

professional friendly

self-interest mutual interest

what you get what you give

stay in touch keep informed

understand the process understand the person in the process

judge the results evaluate the relationship

win conflict resolve conflict

agreement acceptance

evaluate the results evaluate how the other feels about the results

.., nagkasundo na maging tropa na lang,...

 

Palagay ko ito ang tamang paraan ng pag move-on, ang pagiging mag tropa o mag barkada, after ng relasyon sa isang therapist na minahal mo at alam mong minahal ka rin niya (..kahit gfe lang...hehehe).

 

After all, meron din naman kayong pinagsamahan, pinagdaanan at mga masasayang ala-ala.

Please indulge me my dear Therapists, GMs and readers to share my experiences regarding this topic.

 

So far, there have been two (2) significant therapists in all of my Spa adventures to date. I have spoiled them both, to the maximum, as long as it does not do harm or damage to myself or family. On the other hand, I have made them as my inspiration to improve myself.

 

Allow me to elaborate. I started my Spa escapades just like any other GM. Browse MTC (or other similar forums), select Spa within the vicinity, chose therapist, have a sESsion, and then move on to the next Spa/Thera....and the vicious cycle continues.

 

Then one day, my target therapist was not available and so I told the recep that "yung nasa line-up na lang ang kukunin ko." That decision to get the one in the line-up proved to be a fortunate stroke of serendipity. Nag "click" kami nun thera, so naging repeat client niya ako because of her outstanding Attitude/GFE, or I prefer to call it "Chemistry." She became my significant therapist and made her my inspiration to strive better at work. My career improved by leaps and bounds, mainly due to the inspiration given by my significant therapist, until I've got the top possible position for a local employee in our company (next higher position are only for expatriates). I sent my significant therapist to school but she dropped-out. I provided her capital for business venture, and it did not succeed as most start-ups do. Tinustusan ko ang mga bisyo niya, since in the first place eh siya ang naging dahilan sa pag increase ng income ko because of the promotions. We have a lot of happy memories with my significant therapist.

 

Then nalipat ako ng office location, and I have tried the spas within proximity of my new assignment. There I was able to meet my other significant therapist. Maganda rin ang naging "Chemistry" namin, so nagkaroon ulit ako ng inspirasyon...this time around to improve my health. I was obese that time and our set-up was that, pag gumaan ang timbang ko this week, next week eh magpapagawa ako sa kanya...no weight loss means no session the following week. I lose 10 pounds on the first week!!! Sinita niya ako, wag daw "panic diet" ang gagawin ko at mas lalong nakakasama sa health yun...dapat daw nasa 2 or 3 pounds per week lang. So ganun nga ang nangyari, almost consistently nag lose ako ng 1, 2 or 3 pounds every week (with matching weekly session sa kanya as a reward)...pero meron din mga pagkakataon na bumigat ako (and the consequence is syempre no session). From obese, naging overweight ako and now I am only 3 pounds shy of having a normal BMI (Body Mass Index). I have to ditch my old wardrobe (Size: XL) since I am already wearing "Medium" shirts. Losing more than 30 pounds of body weight is no walk in the park, and I have done it due to the inspiration of my significant therapist.

 

I might be mistaken, but it seems that most of the therapists (not all) will communicate with you if there is a need on their part. Pag maganda ang takbo ng buhay, eh minsan "who you" ka sa kanila. For me, OK lang dahil naiintindihan ko ang sitwasyon nila, especially if the therapist is open and honest enough to explain her circumstances. If I were in their shoes, perhaps I would do the same. Kaya I always apply the "Golden Rule" in my dealings with my significant therapist. At the end of the day, when all are said and done, and it's time for her to move-on to the next chapter/s of her life, she will not regret knowing you and you will not regret knowing her. Now, if she is willing to continue with your relationship on the next episode of her life (after retirement in the spa industry), then it is up for both of you to decide. The point is, fall for a thera if you may while she is still working in a spa, but focus or strive also to improve yourself!

 

 

P.S.

 

i thought it was love...until i stopped paying her. then i knew it wasnt.

 

 

Salamat mga braders kumuha nga ako ng bato na pinukpok sa sarili ko, sobrang hirap 3 days nkong laseng gabi gabi at ngyn sa trabho lagi akong tulala at lutang ang hirap mga paps kelangan pag isipan mabuti over the hy week bka dun magkaroon ng kasagutan mga taning ko sa sarili ko, for now inum inum nlng muna kasi dko na alam gagawin ko, gusto ko tumakas sa totoong mundo kht sandali lng

 

@jayze031...try mo pagnilayan ngayong holy week ang post ni GM camus bro.

 

It is a classic dilemma of choice between facts and feelings.

 

My unsolicited suggestion to you is that your next decision (next move) MUST be based on facts and not feelings. Facts are facts...you have a prospective work abroad, you have a career, you have to earn a living for you to eat, drink, have a roof above your head and buy decent clothing. Feelings are changeable, and we have mood swings from time to time. Now your feeling down and confused, the next day you will be sober and have a clear direction.

 

Parang ganito lang yan, masarap matulog sa umaga lalong lalo na pag inaantok (feeling) ka pa, pero kelangan mo pumasok sa work ng 9:00AM at meron negative consequences ang tardiness or pagiging late (fact). So ano ang gagawin mo? Syempre, pipilitin mong bumangon at maliligo, mag-ayos ng sarili upang makapasok ng maaga at hindi ma-late sa work.

 

Para sa akin, yan ang dapat mong gawin...kontrahin ang masarap na feeling (e.g., matulog, or yan nafefeel mo towards your therapist) dahil meron mga katotohanan sa buhay (facts of life) na dapat nating harapin (e.g., trabaho) sa araw araw.

 

Between facts and feelings, facts must win hands-down.

 

Goodluck and have a blessed holy week.

seriously, i think it's not worth the aggravation. she needs you more than you need her and cursing you is not something a woman who is respectful will show. maybe it's her coping mechanism because she is ashamed of the fact that she need to approach you for money but still that is not something anyone will do.

 

you did the right thing by calling it off and you can just consider the loan you gave her as donating a "good" cause. cut off all contact and go somewhere else for the meantime. no need to run into her when you are in the spa.

 

I agree with sir master wheeljack, that to continue with this kind of relationship will be an onerous task.

 

As it was written in the Good Book, "You will know them by their fruits..." and her attitude towards you (e.g., cursing) shows well the "fruits" of her character and upbringing.

 

We GMs must be careful to distinguish between feelings of love, lust, pity (awa), charity and infatuation. Each of these feelings have similarities and if would be disastrous to mistake one for the other.

I wish to wish the wish you wish to wish...

 

I wish the best for you...

 

I wish...

 

...to see you SMILE =)

Sometimes, this is the case. Lumalaki talaga ang ulo pero the real superstar therapists don't let the praises and criticisms affect them. They just do their job and do it with aplomb.

 

If the GM is prudent and sensitive, he knows (or can sense) if the thera is just "stroking" his ego or if she is giving an honest feedback and a real compliment.

 

Just my two cents.

Alam mo boss gusto ko yung pangforever masaya..hahahahhaha

Ito lang ang forever boss..."change"...lahat ng bagay/tao/hayop/feelings/kahit ano...ay nagbabago....let's just say that "only the dead will not change it's mind."

 

So yan lang talaga ang totoong forever...pagbabago...or CHANGE!!!

 

 

 

 

...pwede rin barya yun change..forever meron barya sa bulsa...hahaha

Yeah..may tumatagal naman..pero di mo sure kung forever naba..haha.wala nga daw forever.heheheh..so habang magjowa kayo enjoy nyo nalang..

 

 

Kapag may bf ako client..di ko pinapabasa sa mtc..kasi mababasa nya mga fr sakin..so magseselos sya..heheheh..

hey boss beemer...pwede naman mag-masaya...di ba?

Hey boss!!gusto ko yan na magmasaya relationship..pwede din yan maramihan????heheheh peaceee..

 

Basta maganda ang "chemistry" boss, pwede maging mag-masaya...hehehe....palagay ko yung stage ng mag-masaya relationship is a compromise or transition stage habang nasa indstriya pa si therapist...then pwede siya mag move on later (pag wala na sa spa si thera) into ...mag-jowa or mag-asawa or pwede rin mag-friends.

 

Ang importante, masaya kayong pareho habang kayo ay mag-masaya. Ang mag-masaya na relasyon ay hindi permanent at matatapos rin itong stage na ito someday...it may be sooner or later...depende na kung kelan aalis sa industriya si therapist. Basta, maging masaya lang kayo habang kayo ay mag-masaya....hahaha

 

Mag-masaya relationship is ephemeral....

 

 

PS...the following is an excerpt from the book of Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, The Little Prince