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    Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

    in Matters of the heart

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    22 hours ago, Exec said:

    I am writing this not to seek advice but to share to those who might still be trying to find answers.

     

    She’s a veteran, disciplined, single and endowed with top tier beauty both outside and inside -  good heart, above average height, slim, very fair complexion, pretty face, etc.  My thera GF lives less than ten-minute drive from me.  Her work discipline accumulated her a few properties which she is leasing and producing just enough passive income to support her parents and brothers.

     

    I am in my early 50’s,  an executive of concurrent corporations.  Hindi ako guwapo pero hindi naman pangit -  just ordinary.  I’m in good shape because my work requires me to be physically active. My married life is blessed and happy.  I was loyal to my wife for many years and am not prolific in the flesh trade.

     

    When I first availed my thera GF last Apr,  the previous one was decades ago when I worked overseas.  After much thought,  I decided to let loose of my feelings and our relationship progressed in recent months.  We see each other almost daily occasionally more than once.  The decision required considerable effort to find the answers to difficult questions.   The actual task of carrying out with the relationship came with heart aches as I rewired my mindset.

     

    There are very few articles about relationships with sex workers.  This thread is a treasure and I wish I’ve found it earlier. So here is my share.

     

    If a GM decides to pursue this kind of relationship,  then the GM must embrace the mindset that what the thera does is just work.  It is simply society’s prejudice that labels it dirty.  Minsan marangal ang tingin natin sa mga politiko pero alam natin na karamihan sa kanila ay kawatan.  When a GM needs to release,  the thera is there to offer the service for a fee within the bounds of her rules.  Even GFE can be purchased so don’t fool yourself that it is not fakery.

    To avoid grief,  both the GM and thera must carefully delineate between work and personal.  In the West/NA,  personal starts when the hooker goes for a date without a fee.

     

    Most of them started at the poorest of conditions.  The home of my GF was subject to squatter demolition in the long past.  When a thera gets to a relatively comfortable level,  she can be earning much more than an average manager in a corporation.  Theras know they are earning more than some of their clients.  Do not be surprised if you find a thera not wanting to be saved.  At this point,  she would have already acquired the trait of being independent.

     

    Many theras do not know much about any other work likely because of limited education and lack of training.  My GF really tried and was swindled a few times -  eSabong, pautang, etc.  She has purchased another vacant lot and aims to build apartments there.  Now going to her dawn,  she has set herself to retire in just a few years with that little project as an end goal.  She’s independent and won’t accept money from me.  She knows it is within her means to earn it with her ‘work’.

     

    Many of her friends did not succeed in the profession – got hooked with the wrong guy, drugs, hosto, casino, etc.  She’s relatively well off compared to her peers mainly due to her discipline and being a hard worker.  Be that as it may,  I concluded that even the better thera does not come to that high point without being severely scarred -  as in battle scars.

     

    She has developed addiction to solitude.  She has loved several times and failed.  When we talk about relationships,  she would always brag – ‘been there,  done that’.  I am the amateur in those discussions.  She has a good heart and loved faithfully in the past.  Her last break up was in 2018,  she found out that her GM BF lied of being a married.  It took severe depression and two years with most nights in tears for her to move on.    I can still see telltale signs of that past.  She still has occasional bouts of depression.  There are also signs that she is now a man hater and perhaps I am the luckiest to have penetrated her barrier of distrust.

     

    Why do I do this.  I loved my wife faithfully for two decades.  I thought that love was constant,  but the reality is the feelings fade in time.  When I crossed path with my thera GF,  I ‘really felt in love’ again and,  boy,  I was missing so huge.  This is like how it truly felt in my 20’s.  Love songs which I ignored for years has now acquired new meaning for me.  The sun shines differently now and in full colors.  It is grace.  It is priceless.  The least I can do is pay it back by truly loving her.

     

    She is resigned to the notion she will grow old single and alone.  I always disagree with her.  She claims she has really prayed to God for me to arrive ‘kaya lang may sabit ang dumating’ -  i.e.,  married.  She is in no illusion that she’ll still find a mature and kind hearted bachelor,  thus her ‘will grow old single and alone’ disposition.  I promised to her that that will not happen because I intend to be there for her for life.  That is, unless she finds a better man than I am -  it will hurt bad but I will let go.  For now,  we try to enjoy each other. She is toying with the notion of bearing a child a few years from now.

    Sir, thank you for sharing your story. It was a nice read and the fact that I could relate to it.. 

    Writings of the Heart

    in Matters of the heart

    Posted

    You are unique.

    Every time I see you I just can't seem to know the time.

    Everything around you are a total blur.

    With your beautiful smile and eyes,

    The way your hair flows in the wind,

    You always take me by surprise,

    You are just one of a kind.

    Your laugh lightens my day.

    When I see you, my body goes weak.

    But you are giving me the time of my life.

    You are so unique.

    Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

    in Matters of the heart

    Posted

    1 hour ago, PedroPaterno said:

    Maraming salamats bossing. Pag may karagdagang katanungan bukas ang aking "wall" (I think pwede magpost mga tao dun?

    Limited posts pa kasi ako uli, kakabalik lang sa MTC.

    Anyway, to stay on topic.

    This has been said countless times sa kahit anong platform na maaring puntahan pero maganda na iremind parin kung sino man ang makakabasa:

    "When you meet someone, it's either they're a blessing or a lesson."
    (pero para saakin, para saakin lang ah, every lesson is a blessing. ;))

    Amen Sir!

    Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

    in Matters of the heart

    Posted

    45 minutes ago, Chou30 said:

    So sad bosing piling ko mapupunta ko sa situation na yan pag binalikan ko sya. Nag-try ako ng iba bosing kaso kakapagtaka lagi ko iniisip na rereplyan ko ba at sabihing namimiss ko sya. 

    Boss, magiging "long road" yan for you. Pero syempre one step at a time boss, hindi natin pwede kunin yan ng mabilisan. Pero in the end malalampasan mo din yung feeling na yan. :D 

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