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  • 2 weeks later...

good am

 

1. drop down your "age+attitude". if shes on her early 20's act like your on your 22's, you have your own car, a stable work, resource capable,

dont get too serious with her, treat her with respect not only because you have fallen inlove with her but because thats how you treat all women alike.

AND ofcourse guys on early 20's dont want to commit on any serious relationship yet like MARRIAGE. but there is a catch... your 36 will end up becoming 36+++. like everybody else...

 

2. You have to understand that by being honest to her have made an impression of you being possesive. specially with your age gap. maybe thats how she feels,

on her side ofcourse she wants to enjoy her youth and thats were you come along, help her enjoy her youth. "It takes 5 dates to make a man fall inlove, while women takes 10." (eh sa 4th date palang tinakot muna hehe peace!)

 

3. It is evident that the opportunity to make her fall inlove with you is already gone but not permanently,

you just have to begin from scratch... 0, ZERO, 1-1=?. look on the bright side you can change your attitude from there, act naturally if not possible read the Laws of Seduction book or sounded like that BWAHAHAHA!!!

 

4. In the end its either you Raise the Flag or Raise the Roof !!! ruuf ruff!! ehem.

 

im out of here, what am i talking about...hehe

 

i agree. Especially on "if shes on her early 20's act like your on your 22's"

Pag pareho kayo ng vibe, sayo na yun. Kaso puro problema iniisip mo kaysa solution. :)

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Kalma lang, relax n chill.

 

If ur gonna ask me in my own opinion, find a diff girl, dami jan, maganda mabait n yun pahahalagahan yun effort mo.

 

ur d guy, u should be in control, wag kang parang desperado, pag naging kayo nyan bka maging under k pa.

 

just go out, socialize and enjoy. U deserve better.

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  • 2 months later...

Thanks for all comments and advise. I really appreciate it. To JT Blackknight, I guess you hit the nail on the head!

 

Here's what happened:

 

We went out today at nagsimba since nung Wednesday pa siya nagyaya to go to church. After church, ayaw niyang mag mall kasi lagi na daw kami nagmall at gusto niya magmerienda then uwi na daw coz di daw siya nagpaalam at gusto niya magusap kami. I sensed something's wrong kaya kinulit ko siya konti until nag open up siya regarding what her colleagues said about, bakit di namin napaguusapan kung mga personal matters among ourselves like naka ilan gf na ako at naka ilan bf na siya. It turns out wala pa siya naging bf. She also opened up to me na hindi pa siya ready sa commmitment and is actually afraid of it pa which made thought initially that she's turning me down na. Yun pala she's worried na baka kasal na agad gusto ko so I reassured her that we will still go along the process of nurturing the relationship, if ever, until she's ready or both of us are ready to tie the knot. Naginhawaan siya sa sinabi ko. After that, nagbanggit ako kung ok lang ba ituloy ko panliligaw ko and she blurted out "nanliligaw ka ba?" so I said yes. Then I asked kung pwede ba namin icontinue what we have started and also kung pwede ko siyang ligawan and she said yes. I then muster the guts and ask kung may pagasa ako, she said yes..meron. I didn't ask her about age issues anymore since sinagot na niya na may pag asa ako.

 

She gave me a birthday gift pa nga e - a belated one. What made the gift special was the effort behind it because it consisted of different items like humor cards, 3 kinds of sweet candies, a tshirt with a cute message and a pringle. Aside from those, she put post-it on each item with a sweet message handwritten by her. I really appreciated the gift very much.

 

Sana magtuloy tuloy na ito. smile.gif

 

Good luck sau brad.. Now that you've seen a light at the end of the tunnel, dont rush everything. If you really love her, wait, since ikaw nga ang magiging 1st BF niya and she's young, she wants to enjoy and experience GF/BF relationship not Marriage agad tulad ng sinabi niya. Tip lang, you have to lengthen more your patience dahil mas mahirap amuin or i please ang mga younger lovers, demanding sa attention at sumpungin dahil nga yung maturity level niyo hindi pareho.

 

and one more thing, ngayong nakukuha mo na ang trust niya, make sure na wala ka na talagang tinatago like illegitimate child, ex-wife, etc. Dahil pag nalaman niya to ng hindi mo sinasabi - Boom, bubble pop ka na. Back to reality ika nga.

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bro, wag masyadong clingy... parang stalker na kasi dating mo na pati FB nya e mukhang araw araw mong binibisita... tapos pag may di ka nagustuhan sa mga post nya or comment nya or worst sa nagcomment sa kanya e maglulupasay ka sa galit... learn to control yourself and always know where you stand...

 

let your love be the source of your happiness not the beginning of many of your future problems.

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  • 7 months later...

bro, wag masyadong clingy... parang stalker na kasi dating mo na pati FB nya e mukhang araw araw mong binibisita... tapos pag may di ka nagustuhan sa mga post nya or comment nya or worst sa nagcomment sa kanya e maglulupasay ka sa galit... learn to control yourself and always know where you stand...

 

let your love be the source of your happiness not the beginning of many of your future problems.

 

 

good advice.

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  • 3 weeks later...

I dont know where to put my questions.kaya dito na lang. Kapag nagmessage ako sa guy at seen zone siya ano pwede ko gawin? Wait until he's ready to talk? We had a fight at kasalanan niya. But he's not sorry. Galit ako 1 week na hindi pa rin siya nagpaparamdam. What to do? Tia.

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I dont know where to put my questions.kaya dito na lang. Kapag nagmessage ako sa guy at seen zone siya ano pwede ko gawin? Wait until he's ready to talk? We had a fight at kasalanan niya. But he's not sorry. Galit ako 1 week na hindi pa rin siya nagpaparamdam. What to do? Tia.

 

sorry to tell you this, pero ibig sabihin wala kang halaga at pakialam sayo... imposible naman na for a week very busy and can't even reply by saying at least the word "wait " or "sorry"...

 

truth really hurts but the only way to lessen the pain is acceptance.

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