Edmund Dantes Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 Yes. I'm not one to sugar coat what I have to say. Glad that you are over that episode in your life. Ako kasi much as I would like to live in the moment- I would also like to anticipate that how I do things right now will definitely have an impact on my future. So balanse dapat. You have to be both practical and logical as emotions cannot be trusted. Love like all others take judgment. It's a decision. Pinaninindigan. If I'd be in the position (god forbid) to be tested with a temptation, I would like to be fair and cut clean first- before I pursue another. It's also the same kind of thing I expect no less from my partner. Kahit masaktan ako. Basta Kung gusto na niyang mag loko- tapusin na niya Muna un sa akin. Life is too beautiful to be wasted on someone who is not truthful to you. Marriage after all is based on love, respect and trust. You take one off- parang it loses all it's essence. I had to learn it the very very painful way. I went through a battle with alcoholism and depression lol. Obviously I get to laugh about it now. One thing kasi that blinded me nung nandun ako sa ganung klaseng relasyon was that sobrang saya ko. I had relationships before at hindi ako naging ganito kasaya at fulfilled. Kahit payo ng mismong pamilya di ko pinakinggan. Akala ko kasi, dahil masaya ako, I should pursue this. Pero di ko narealize that by being in this relationship, maraming taong pwedeng masaktan and most of them do not deserve to. Second is that, by aggreeing to be someones dirty little secret, I was not being fair to myself, hence not loving myself. Kaya natutunan ko, Happiness is not a gauge for right or wrong. Just because something makes you happy, it does not mean you should pursue it. Because in an instant kung gaano ka kasaya magiging 10 beses naman sakit na kapalit. Quote Link to comment
great_escape Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 I had to learn it the very very painful way. I went through a battle with alcoholism and depression lol. Obviously I get to laugh about it now. One thing kasi that blinded me nung nandun ako sa ganung klaseng relasyon was that sobrang saya ko. I had relationships before at hindi ako naging ganito kasaya at fulfilled. Kahit payo ng mismong pamilya di ko pinakinggan. Akala ko kasi, dahil masaya ako, I should pursue this. Pero di ko narealize that by being in this relationship, maraming taong pwedeng masaktan and most of them do not deserve to. Second is that, by aggreeing to be someones dirty little secret, I was not being fair to myself, hence not loving myself. Kaya natutunan ko, Happiness is not a gauge for right or wrong. Just because something makes you happy, it does not mean you should pursue it. Because in an instant kung gaano ka kasaya magiging 10 beses naman sakit na kapalit. I'm sorry to hear that bro. It must be one f*kcng whack in the head to be going thru a heart ache and worst, have to battle out depression and alcoholism. For a girl? Or was it just because of compounded disappointments in life? Since you are comfortable mentioning it, I have to assume that you have already overcome that chapter in your life. I also have to assume that you're single- and that you're the third person in this girls life. My apologies for being too candid if not insensitive on my previous posts. Ikaw pala Ang Hindi pinanindigan. I must say - girls really are different nowadays. Or should I say far from what society has stereotyped them to be. Anyway, when you age like I do- happiness is not all that matters. Marriage is about sacrifice kasi you do out of love for the person. Things you don't so before- or you think do not imagine doing- you wil just act it out naturally. I say good luck to you. You sound young. You will meet your partner in life who later on would make it right for you. Not because she will complete you but because she will brig out the very best in you. Quote Link to comment
Edmund Dantes Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 I'm sorry to hear that bro. It must be one f*kcng whack in the head to be going thru a heart ache and worst, have to battle out depression and alcoholism. For a girl? Or was it just because of compounded disappointments in life? Since you are comfortable mentioning it, I have to assume that you have already overcome that chapter in your life. I also have to assume that you're single- and that you're the third person in this girls life. My apologies for being too candid if not insensitive on my previous posts. Ikaw pala Ang Hindi pinanindigan. I must say - girls really are different nowadays. Or should I say far from what society has stereotyped them to be. Anyway, when you age like I do- happiness is not all that matters. Marriage is about sacrifice kasi you do out of love for the person. Things you don't so before- or you think do not imagine doing- you wil just act it out naturally. I say good luck to you. You sound young. You will meet your partner in life who later on would make it right for you. Not because she will complete you but because she will brig out the very best in you. Lets just say that its so complicated aabutin tayo ng ilang pages kung ikweikwento ko pa lahat. You have no idea how excruciating my pain was. So difficult na I was actually living 5 mins at a time. But those 5 mins marched into days and weeks and months, and a year. And I made it! The journey has been difficult but I can honestly say I am a much better person now. Yun lang naman ang key eh, patawarin mo sarili mo, at umpisahan itong mahalin sarili mo, at matuto ka. You just need to refuse to keep being a victim and be a survivor. Now I am single and I am enjoying having a relationship with myself lang muna. Kasi when I was swinging from one relationship to the other, masyado kong di tiniran sarili ko kaya dapang dapa ako nun. Eto pa isang magandang aral from a female friend. Ang puso parang bata yan na masarap pasiyahin. Pero pag nasobrahan na, nagiging sutil na at hindi na makikinig sa pagpapayo. Kaya kelangan dinidisiplina din natin ito para huwag maging spoiled masyado Quote Link to comment
great_escape Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 Lets just say that its so complicated aabutin tayo ng ilang pages kung ikweikwento ko pa lahat. You have no idea how excruciating my pain was. So difficult na I was actually living 5 mins at a time. But those 5 mins marched into days and weeks and months, and a year. And I made it! The journey has been difficult but I can honestly say I am a much better person now. Yun lang naman ang key eh, patawarin mo sarili mo, at umpisahan itong mahalin sarili mo, at matuto ka. You just need to refuse to keep being a victim and be a survivor. Now I am single and I am enjoying having a relationship with myself lang muna. Kasi when I was swinging from one relationship to the other, masyado kong di tiniran sarili ko kaya dapang dapa ako nun. Eto pa isang magandang aral from a female friend. Ang puso parang bata yan na masarap pasiyahin. Pero pag nasobrahan na, nagiging sutil na at hindi na makikinig sa pagpapayo. Kaya kelangan dinidisiplina din natin ito para huwag maging spoiled masyado Hmmm I can only imagine. Yes, true mark of maturity is to endure to be by yourself in the midst of your confusion/ pain. If its not to imposing pare, may i just ask...If it hurts so much and it's painful to be apart from this person, why not fight for her? Sure she is committed and it also takes for her to fight for you as well-- pero all those time to just get over her, di ba parang that's rare? I mean we don't usually fall that hard for somebody? Parang Ang Hirap ulit hanapin un ganun. I mean that's just me. Pero I guess it's meant to be that way. Sabi nga Kung masalimuot talaga- it's not God given. You will know that it's right- if everything just fall in to its proper place naturally. Very light. Very spontaneous. Quote Link to comment
BingoXOXO Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 Parang ipinagbabawal na gamot lang yan..... Masarap ang bawal!!! Quote Link to comment
Edmund Dantes Posted October 17, 2014 Share Posted October 17, 2014 Hmmm I can only imagine. Yes, true mark of maturity is to endure to be by yourself in the midst of your confusion/ pain. If its not to imposing pare, may i just ask...If it hurts so much and it's painful to be apart from this person, why not fight for her? Sure she is committed and it also takes for her to fight for you as well-- pero all those time to just get over her, di ba parang that's rare? I mean we don't usually fall that hard for somebody? Parang Ang Hirap ulit hanapin un ganun. I mean that's just me. Pero I guess it's meant to be that way. Sabi nga Kung masalimuot talaga- it's not God given. You will know that it's right- if everything just fall in to its proper place naturally. Very light. Very spontaneous. I did fight for her. Kahit nga sa sarili kong pamilya who has been with since lumabas ako sa mundo kinalaban ko para sa kanya. The thing is the breakup itself was more of my fault really and I accept that. I am man enough to accept that. Isa pa, its not really the worst that could have happened. So as painful as what I have gone through has been, maswerte pa din ako kahit papano. And besides after some time in solitude marami kang nakikita na di mo napapansin noon eh. The thing is, its not that I should fight for her. I should fight for me. I lost myself in all that happiness passion etc. Di ko tiniran ang sarili ko. Looking back now, kung talagang minahal ko sarili ko, dapat di ako papayag na maging maruming sikreto. But what happened happened and all I can do now is learn. I am in a better place though. Nakatulong talaga yung time for me to be wiser and emotionally stronger. Hindi kasi ako emotionally independent noon eh. Now mahal ko sarili ko and I wont lose that love again for anyone. Quote Link to comment
coconutJuice Posted December 15, 2014 Share Posted December 15, 2014 yes i would.. i like the adventure of it ... Quote Link to comment
glimmer5150 Posted December 15, 2014 Share Posted December 15, 2014 No I wouldn't....it's hard on a person emotionally if you keep it secret. Quote Link to comment
darthvader0917 Posted December 30, 2014 Share Posted December 30, 2014 Definitely Quote Link to comment
thespywhoshags Posted January 1, 2015 Share Posted January 1, 2015 Yeah just for the experience! Quote Link to comment
anjon2800 Posted January 6, 2015 Share Posted January 6, 2015 I am in one and happy Quote Link to comment
glut_func Posted January 7, 2015 Share Posted January 7, 2015 kasi masarap ang bawal. yun lang yun. problema lang, nagkakaroon na ng komplikasyon pag lumalim na ang emosyon ng isa. Quote Link to comment
Ms Take Posted January 8, 2015 Share Posted January 8, 2015 I did. It was good until it wasn't a secret anymore. Quote Link to comment
joke12 Posted January 10, 2015 Share Posted January 10, 2015 masarap lang hanggan secret sya Quote Link to comment
gh33phx Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 Kung may pera at oras... Quote Link to comment
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