DaChosen1

I feel like the training ground for my EXs. Most have become very successful in what they were doing/or pursuing while with me; hindi lang sila successful to get me to the altar :thumbsupsmiley: But I can still be friends with them even after we go our own ways.

One EX actually dated me for a weekend the week before she got married. That one I could have refused if I knew. Another one told me that she wishes that it was me she was about to marry tsk tsk. Perhaps just my luck, I was either their first or second BF so they learned a lot from me, physically and emotionally.

So, even if I see them out in public with my GF/or dating, I am never afraid of chatting with them. Wag daw akong pakawalan sabi nila haha! Uy, lumalaki ulo ko!

my opinion? she's just wondering how far you can go.pashy effect lang yan! and most girls are narcissist talaga, she may become your gf in the future but she wont let go of her admirers.SERIOUSLY a girl conservative kissing on a first date? and follow up kisses, cupping breasts? i dont think so! the girl is mixed up, trying to be coy and trying to be who's she's not...trying to be goody goody..and so are most of the women in the philippines, there's no such thing as conservative as a person who's a protestant. period. My boyfriend is a protestant! that girl isnt for real. which reminds me, you can check her out at home and see for yourself. Check out her mom too, She'll end up just like her when she gets old.heheheheheh

Funny feedback with honest truth in it! :upside:

The first date kiss I initiated which was very light. The follow kisses are typically not open mouth and brief and no breast area yet though my hands somehow accidentally venture there sometimes to test I get sharp stares . I am not used to this courting thing in the past so very intrigued with her that's why I am still hanging around. She is aware that I had many GFs before so perhaps being cautious too not to become just another ex. She belongs to one of those conservative Christians groups by the way.

As for her other admirers, I never really cared who they are and their existence; at least ayun ang sabi ko sa kanya to show self-confidence without sounding arrogant. Sabi ko, "sa iyo naman ang final decision, diba? As long as I have you, I will enjoy the time."

I've got a confusing situation here maybe any of you can suggest/feedback.

I have been seeing this chick a little bit under three weeks now. We kiss occassionally, mostly quick ones, and we do hold hands or her holding my arm in public. We did admit that we both like each other but she wants to take her time to decide that indeed we are "IT". Well, I agreed since I think she is worth waiting for. She is in a bit conservative type but I am getting mix signals. Is this chick for real? There are still girls like this?

Oh by the way, she has a lot of admirers but I'm the only one she really goes out with. The rest, they have to court her at home

First date kisses are typically the closed ones; no tounge yet hehe! It makes it more exciting for the next time :thumbsupsmiley:

Well, I am 6' 1" and I've dated gals from 5' to 5' 10" (varietyof nationalities hehehe! kasi I'm like the United Nations, I don't discriminate)

As long as I got a long well with the gal, I never did care if she is tall or short. But, it does get to a point if she is a bit in the 5' 5" range so we can play some sports together :cool:

In the past two years, I unintentionally hurt at least six girls; not physically, more emotionally.

All I wanted from them was friendship all along and they ended up falling for me.

One actually told me, she is saving herself for me as long as it takes. We had a little fling one time, though both of us a little tipsy, still cognizant of what were doing and never got to the point of no return. We talked about it and all along I thought it was just a friendly fun flirting, but over time, turned to an all out love. We talked about again and that’s when she told me about saving herself for me.

I am just being me, friendly me, and these girls fall. When I enter a friendship, I go all out as a friend you can count on; either a ride to the mall or escorting them to parties.

When I cannot give them the same love, I hurt them emotionally and it bothers me.

It depends.

Blind date:

- I may have a few scripted plans for different scenarios. However, I usually let it fly spontaneously and be myself. So far, none of my blind dates ended on that one date.

- Try to fish for something to talk about. I ask questions and just listen. My biggest assets---I'm a listener, I keep eye contact at all times, and smile a little bit but not too much.

- If I can feel that the date will be the first and last because we do not click at all, we may not talk much about anything. (Why the hell am I doing here? I've got to stop letting people set me like this. I will k*ll the person who set me up.) :thumbsdownsmiley:

First date with someone I kind of know:

- Same tactics as above though much relaxed. Friendship is my first goal; get to know the girl more beyond what I already know. Hobbies, families, about their friends, and most of all about themselves are always excellent topics. I make sure the girl feels at ease with me and sense that I’m interested in really knowing about her.

Yah i really agreed with you Mr. DaChosen1. If someone told us the phrase "I LOVE U" we really dont know if its really sincere or just mindless words.  I did felt inlove before and If I said "I LOVE U"  its not just an ordinary words for me. And i can say its really hard to say the phrase if i dont mean it. I will say 'IM Sorry' if someone will say to me 'I LOVE U' and i dont feel to respond the same.

Regarding to this matter "Action speaks louder than Words" is not really applicable for me. Other girls based the feelings of the guy in his actions so when the guy kissed the girl or more than that etc... she may concluded that the guy loved him. But infact it was just "LUST" or just drove by being "HORNY". Anyway its up to ourselves to determine if its  LUST or LOVE This is just my opinion and I know all of us have different perspectives.

 

Hmmm...actually Im still confused. Im just want to ask some tips from u guys. When did u say that u are really inloved with a girl?

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"When did u say that u are really inloved with a girl?"

If I'm reading this correctly, when did I say the three little words and I really meant it? Well, when I feel that thing in my stomach (and it is not hunger) and I have that urge (beyond LUST hehehe) to see her, that is then! As much as I dated, when I stay with a girl, I really stick to her 110%! :thumbsupsmiley: Although, I cannot help myself looking and admiring beautiful ladies from afar ...I am just human, you know, and a warm blooded Filipino :thumbsupsmiley: :hypocritesmiley:

i took the test .. haha .. im a FEROCIOUS flirt daw. i need to tone down. ngek!!  quite a contrary - in real life im such a graciuos lady  :hypocritesmiley:

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It's in you then without trying. Hmmm, lagot hahaha kami!

I smile and say hello a lot; it is a normal daily thing for me to almost anyone. Pretty or so-so ladies, I think it’s the way I was brought up to be pleasant to everyone. People who work for me feel at ease, so as other people I deal with or hang around with. I am a very easy person to approach, though I still keep some mysteries up my sleeve.

Some think I'm flirting, but if I'm truly doing it on purpose you would know it.

Guys, did u ever see the movie " What Women Want" starring Mel Gibson. well okay mel isnt ugly, but theres a good story to be learned from that movie. If a man can find out what women want, his looks wont be that important. What women want? someone who takes the time to listen to them, someone who accepts her for what she is. A man who is not afraid to show his soft side, his weaknesses, his sensitivity, his vulnerabilty. A man who knows what he wants and not afraid to take risks to get it. A man who can provide and take care of his family. This kind of man is for keeps, not just there for fun.

 

When i was much younger, of course i was lookinf the cute ones, but as i mature .. looks come second. Whats more important is how a man treats his woman, whats in his heart, in his mind and of course .. him being great in bed is always an asset.

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Excellent points DramaQueen! I agree with all of them, and routinely practice them. :hypocritesmiley:

We guys must learn from these points and JUST DO IT! but you should not try too hard if it is not really you; it would hurt you from pretending and later you could also end up losing the girl when you switch back to your true color. :thumbsdownsmiley: I think these points are pretty much common sense and should be easy to follow.

i say don't take the expression of affection too seriously.  if you can kiss just about anyone (no matter how special YOU think that kiss is), then it should not surprise you if people can throw the amorous line haphazardly.  you should not trust their line if they cannot trust your kiss. 

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I do kiss, if I am somewhat attracted to the girl and I want to explore just a bit more. How would I know if they really meant what they say?

Perhaps, I should say the real reason why I get scared with the term is that a girl hurt my feelings after uttering those words. How do I know? Am I too paranoid?

Does it count how many you had s*x with even though not serious?

Official count GFs: 4.

Had s*x (no GRO or anyone paid): ~ 40. Sorry, I had many flings in high school, college, and dating years. I couldn't make up my mind. However, I dated one at a time---just moved on fast.

I sometimes feel the phrase "I love you" has lost its true meaning or importance.

 

I don't mean to brag, but lately I have been meeting/dating ladies of all ages saying this little phrase to me within the first five dates. I have not responded the same way because I am confused about my real feelings towards them and I do not want to mislead them if the feeling I have towards them is not really love but more sexually.   

 

I treat them well. Dinner, nice company, romantic moments, etc. etc. etc. Kiss on the first date; not just a kiss, I do a special kiss which I cannot graphically describe here. The same ladies have told me that they never been kissed like the way I kiss them before.   

 

And after the first few dates, they will then tell me they love me, and I feel bad I cannot respond the same way because the phrase has a lot of meaning to me.

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I forgot to say that it seems the phrase has become so easy to say; at least in my experience and perspective that is why the ladies could say it so soon. I typically get scared off when they start saying the phrase.

I sometimes feel the phrase "I love you" has lost its true meaning or importance.

I don't mean to brag, but lately I have been meeting/dating ladies of all ages saying this little phrase to me within the first five dates. I have not responded the same way because I am confused about my real feelings towards them and I do not want to mislead them if the feeling I have towards them is not really love but more sexually.

I treat them well. Dinner, nice company, romantic moments, etc. etc. etc. Kiss on the first date; not just a kiss, I do a special kiss which I cannot graphically describe here. The same ladies have told me that they never been kissed like the way I kiss them before.

And after the first few dates, they will then tell me they love me, and I feel bad I cannot respond the same way because the phrase has a lot of meaning to me.

Having a secret lover may indeed add spice to your existing one , as long as it remains SECRET and does not go beyond. It would feel so exciting! :thumbsupsmiley:

Younger years, headlights, whole body, then face :evil: . Lately, face, attitude, then whole body. I try my best not to stare at the headlights, unlike my younger years , if I can help it. But once they are not looking, I take a full scan from headlights to toe :evil: . Then I think, hmmm, how nice would it be with her now!

usually would go for tisay, there's really something about white colored chicks that drive me wild... sobrang pure sobrang smooth sobrang pink...iba na yun ...

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I used to have a perception that lighter skinned meant better in many ways; but I found out since attending college in the U.S, surrounded by many other nationalities, it is not always true. I had some white chicks who looked nice outside but not really good hygienically in taking care of their vag*na. Some, I even had to teach (hahaha) what to do in bed. I still found most Asian chicks very clean. The color of the skin does not mean they are good in bed or other things.

I do still like lighter skinned girls, typically mixed Asian and Caucasian; like you said "there's something" about them. The fusion is something I like since most of them have the same upbringing as me.

let's not judge a lady by her profession. she may have reasons for being in such a predicament. i have lady escorts here at mtc... but i treat them as friends, i was never a client. you might be surprised to know the underlying reasons why they're are doing it. no offense, but i do believe they're much better persons than most of you.  they are people too, much like you and me... capable of having true feelings and have the right to express them freely as you. what right do you have to judge them?

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You make excellent points El General! They are still people, and who are we to judge, we are people too. I do have some friends who ventured into the business; many are there because of the reasons most of us will probably not go thru (such as extreme hardship, life and death situations, etc.). We cannot judge them.

If you fall in love with one of them, you must look beyond their profession.

if you were lucky to screw different nationalities - in the end whatever color of a pinay - iba pa rin sila - sa pinay pa rin ako - ke ilokano, tagala, cebuana o ano man

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You are right there Bro! Pinay will still be Pinay. I did have SEX with different nationalities, and they are somewhat different, but at the end of the day, they are all the same. But I will still go for Pinay at the end---I think!

130 MPH. I could have gone more with the old Z.

I think kissing on the first date is fine. I will not feel the girl is easy if we did kiss; we both benefited from the kiss, right? Hindi lang ako, it is the 21st century, equality is IN.

How about if I don't want to kiss and the girl want to kiss? What to do?

Secret affairs could be exciting; it adds another dimension into the relationship. Secret because your families, friends, society, do not approve of it I think is fine. Maybe like a Romeo and Juliet relationship. But if the affair is because you have another lover involved, then it is not fair. Yes, I was involved in one before (between two friends) and I regretted being involved. I felt like a jerk because I ruined a good relationship and a friendship. Next time around, ninety-nine-point-ninety-nine I will not do it. The remaining 0.01 chance I leave because I am only human.

The thought of making love to the guy I love is there, but I can proudly say that I have learned to keep my legs crossed while alone (vulnerable) with the guy I love. If I jump to bed with a guy, I make sure that there are no deep emotions involved - yes, the chemistry should be there but I don't cry and demand for love if I know it is not possible.

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Are you in any way has similarities in looks with Zhang Ziyi? I am already in love with you then! (Just kidding). Just breaking the ice. But I do love Zhang Ziyi.

I am just curious. Why avoid making love with the one you love and then jump-in to bed with a guy you do not love? Yes, even with chemistry. I cannot speak for all the guys, though I did jump-in to bed without being in-love with the girl in my younger years "just because", and I think many men will concur having sex for the sake of having sex. I am just a little confused and curious.

I do not have consistent contacts with any of my ex, but from the last time I met common friends, some are married with children and some are already divorced with children. But one thing I am always told by those common friends, "you were one of the beautiful memories they ever had". I only had one bad break-up and I fixed that after a few years, but most were mutual-nice break-ups; hurts at first, but a nice memory after. So, I am never afraid to see any of my ex in public with my current love.

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You girls and boys are welcome to read my FRs in the contest. Yes, I am sharing my expriences with them, but I do not think they are in "tasteless" ways. You be the judge.