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Is it just me or is anyone else frustrated with all the online directory services out there where it's supposedly easy to look for restaurants, resorts, apartments, etc?

Sites like clickthecity are nice and all, but there's just not enough information and hardly any feedback from users. it's usually hard find what you're looking for in the first place especially if you only have a few minutes to search.

What do you usually look for online? Can you easily find what you're looking for?

I broke up recently with what was supposed to be just a fling with a GRO. Her name starts with a K. It started out as a casual thing but little by little it became more than that. We both really liked each other. I wanted to see her everyday and she did for me as well. It came to the point she was like my girlfriend already because we would have dates almost every other day after work, during days off, etc.

 

The problem is I already have a legitimate girlfriend. My real girlfriend also noticed I changed with the way I was treating her and she had a feeling I was already falling for someone else.

 

Eventually I noticed my GRO girlfriend drifting away. I do not know whether it was her other GRO friends advising her that this relationship will go nowhere but that is what happened. It used to be a mutual thing but all of a sudden I was giving more and more and she was treating me like crap. At the same time, I was also drifting away from my real girlfriend. One day, I asked my friends to help me out of the situation before I lose my real gf. I tried my best to stop any communication with K but she kept calling me on my cellphone.

 

I could not resist replying. I told K if she really loved me, then why did she always disrespect me and treat me badly. I said all I wanted was for her to love me and take care of me the way I do for her. I asked her if this is too much to ask. I also let her know if she felt the real love I showed to her. K replied she did and she was sorry but she has to break up with me. It was for the best she said. It is reasonable to say that she cannot be in a serious relationship at the same time being in her current occupation.

 

I wished her to take care always and save enough money soon so she can already quit. She told me to take care as well and may I find someone who can love me truly. She called a couple of more times on my cellphone and just listened to my voice. After that it was over.

 

I am hurting badly right now but as my friends told me, it would hurt 10x more if it was my real gf that I lost.

it sounds like you love the GRO more than the other girl. it also sounds like you want to maintain 2 gf's. correct me if i'm wrong.

anyway, you mentioned:

"I was giving more and more and she was treating me like crap", and

"I wished her to take care always and save enough money soon so she can already quit"

this is the way i see it -- she needs [a] someone to love and at the same time someone to give financial support her so she can stop working in a club. i think you have [a] covered, but not and that's why she pushed you away. it's because of [a] that she still calls you, but she feels that things won't work because you won't be able to support her if she stopped now.

does she know about the other girl?

soul to squeeze

red hot chili peppers

quartet no. 2

chick corea, michael brecker, steve gadd & eddie gomez

sausage muffin and coffee

liver w/ onions + pita bread at World's Best Persian Cuisine

a cup of extra-strong brewed coffee with condensed milk!

first time i googled my full name years ago there was only one result - a link to my resume.

i googled my name just now and again only one result - to my account in linkedln, which i never use.

jumbo pao ng kowloon west!

Try Don Henrico's Baked Lasagna (though it may come at a higher price tag)

 

It has been the favorite of mine and my angels for the past couple of years.

saan pa ba may don henrico's aside from mall of asia?? the branches i used to know -- jupiter, libis, and cainta (outside sta lucia) -- have all closed down.

i go there not for their pasta, but for the buffalo wings =)

Angel hair pasta-based dishes are my all-time favorite. The puttanesca dish at the Old Spaghetti house is a big surprise for me. Just the right combination of tomato, herbs, olive oil, etc. Makes my mouth water already!

recommend you try almon marina's puttanesca. it's not an italian place... i used to go there for the sandwiches and callos, so the puttanesca was a pleasant surprise.

there's this small italian restaurant in Olongapo called "Da Mama", it's by the entrance of resort whose name i forgot (starts with "R"), somewhere near playa papagayo.

i tried the basic pasta w/ pomodoro, it was excellent! price was very reasonable. that was like 4 years ago and i'm not sure if its still there. my companions ordered other stuff and almost everyone loved the food. almost. can't please everyone.

the fairly odd parents theme =)

i don't like spaghettini or angel hair ....

same here... if i like the sauce, but it comes with angel hair, i ask the waiter if i can change it to linguini or spaghetti.

nanibago ako sa kinain kong meatball spag..sa the old spaghetti house ang asim,nasanay na kasi ako sa jollibee filipino style spaghetti

saan po pala may masarap at abot kayang lasagna?

kung gusto mo ang spaghettin ng jollibee magugustuhan mo ang lasanga ng greenwich.

iwasan mo tomato-based sauces ng sbarro, maaasiman ka sigurado hehe.

beer + lechong kawali

mga idol, how do i get there if i would travel from kalentong? deretcho lang ba ito sa shaw blvd?

yes direcho lang, pag lampas ng rotonda sa kapitolyo, turn left at the next intersection (danny floro st.)... yan na tabi-tabi na motels jan.

i thought hindi ako maiinlove, sa kahit na kaninong mpa. pero kinain ko lang din ang mga nasabi ko. i gave everything i have, naniwala ako sa kanya. nagkasira na kami ng family ko because nahuli ako ng asawa ko and nagsabi na sya sa magulang nya tungkol sa nangyari. i was decided na iwan na sya, pero nung sinabi ko na sa girl. i found out na hindi pala sya seryoso sa amin. akala nya biro lahat. nasira lang ulo at bulsa ko sakanya. ginamit lang nya ako. sinira lang nya pamilya ko. buong akala ko pa naman totoo sya sakin. attendant nga lang sya mahilig manloko. pareho lang ng iba naakit lang sa pera. MGA MUKHANG PERA. Kaya kung ma inlove kayo huwag nyo pakitaan ng pera. mamahalin lang nila bulsa natin.

right now im in a no-win situation. hindi ko alam pano aayusin buhay ko. my wife is decided na rin to let me go. she doesnt trust me anymore and i cant do something about it. nasaktan ko sya and now nasisiraan na ako ng ulo. i dont know what to do. f#&k! pinagsisisihan ko lahat ng events sa buhay ko.

bro, my humble advice: tapos na yan, wag mo na pagsisihan. marami kang natutunan sa experience na yan. there's nowhere to go but up. ikanga nila, what doesn't k*ll you makes you stronger. this experience has made you wiser. just go on with your life. focus on your career. if you want to reconcile with your wife, show her that you're worthy, that you can still be trusted, but it will take time. if it doesn't work out, then what can you do. life sucks sometimes, no? but life must go on. you'll find a way to be happy. i know this is easier said than done, but it must be done.

gro's can and will fall in love or at least get very infatuated with guests. they're only human. but chances are the relationship won't work. they are not going to stop working in a club because they think they're in love. they will still choose money, even if deep inside they want give in. they need to feed their baby bothers. send their little sisters to school. give their good-for-nothing dads beer money.

and if she falls in love with a rich guy who can give her all the money she wants? chances are that rich guy is married or has other women. so even if he is sincere, it's almost impossible to make the relationship work.

of course i'm not taking away the fact that things can have a happy ending. but based on what i see in this thread and in real life, happy endings are rare.

mr. stoicvampire, i'm not an expert in these things but please allow me to give you unsolicited advice. bro, base sa post mo, tingin ko ginagamit ka lang niya. laging may excuse pag gusto mo makipagkita? laging himihingi ng pera (indirectly)? i'm not saying that she doesn't have feelings for you, i'm not taking that away. i just think she doesn't feel the same way you do. i mean she should be able to spend more time with you if she feels the same way... sabi mo madas sya may excuse so it sounds like she doesn't spend enough time with you. i'm basing my advice on my limited clubbing experience.

but if you really really feel you should go for it, then go for it. you might regret not trying in the future. ang hindi lang maganda ay yung nagiging matamlay ka, bro. if your going for it then be happy with the limited time you spend with her for now. you're in love - you're supposed to be happy. tama ba? mali yata.

hurts to be in love, no??

grabe sayang ang skills ni millsap pag healthy si boozer.

ang masakit nito i drafted millsap sa fantasy team ko, binitawan ko 1 month into the season, tapos ngayon naunahan ako sa kanya when boozer went down.... tsk tsk

meron ba ditong expert na pwedeng gumawa ng comparison between the pasig motels? compare prices, cleanliness, service, food, ano pa ba? hehe mukang reasonably priced naman lahat except VC. tama ba?

adobong baboy (yung tuyo!), garlic fried rice at coke light

You don't really need someone to tell you straight in your face that she's the one or that she's just enjoying you as a cash cow. You already know.

like you said my advice may or may not work, but i think if one is finding it hard to make a decision, one should try it. yes, in many cases, you already know. but love makes us do stupid things, and sometimes you need someone to talk some sense into you, to help prevent you from making that stupid choice.

question lang to those asking for advice in this thread, which i think is great, plenty of input from seasoned masters...

my question is do your close friends know about your whole situation? have they met your girl and if she's a gro do they go with you in clubs? if not then i suggest you make it happen. if you have a good friend who you know can be brutally honest then all the better. it's best to have someone you trust who sees first hand the situation. he can look at the situation obejctively since he's outside the relationship, not blinded by love, and hopefully he can give good advice.