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Dealing with emotional blackmail can be particularly distressing for someone who is very sympathetic to others. It pits you against your own conscience, because you are held responsible for someone else's feelings. The only apparent solution is to comply with the other person's wishes, although you become a victim of manipulation as a result.

 

A person who employs such a tactic does so out of desperation (or convenience, because it is surprisingly effective on most people.) Guilt is a powerful form of persuasion. If you wish to avoid becoming a victim of such a tactic, try to put things in their proper perspective. Remember, we all  make our own choices---even how we deal with unfavorable outcomes, such as a breakup. If a person chooses to take their own life, it was their choice---not yours.

 

In all likelihood, most people who make such a threat never carry out their plan (unless they are susceptible to some form of mental or emotional disturbance.) It's a cry for help, and what they really need is someone who can make them get back on their feet. A support group, mainly family and friends, can do that for them. By involving yourself, more often than not, you create a form of dependence, and they may never recover from it. Allow them to move on with their life by making a clean break.

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my bf just did that a few days ago...i'm the type who is very sympathetic to the point i empatize...its not only distressing... he sucked out the life of me... its me who died not him.

i'm still recovering, he doesn't know i felt this way and i can't get out...

been there , done that... it was hard but the thrill of it gets you the high

paulo coelho books... one great writer