cherryberrymango

Nice! I am glad to see success stories like yours. If you back read a few pages back we would have needed to start a separate thread called (victims of the Therapist) haha . From some of the sad stuff the guys where posting

Wouldn't call mine a success story just yet but thank you for the well wishes. It's okay to feel sad. Sometimes we just have to experience it before we learn. As I said, I was extremely fortunate.

Answering this via mobile so pardon the format

Hey Bro since you have experience in this matter maybe you can answer some questions

1.Do you receive an allowance or gifts from your Thera like the other Theras BF

 

- she gave me a gift for Christmas. Then there's random gifts here and there when we go out. No I don't get any allowance because that defeats the purpose of being a GM.

 

2. How you know for sure there is nobody else like a a sponsor or true love? Most Theras I meet always claim to be single but 9/10 times for me they lied

 

Following my own advice, its part of what I considered when I got to know her until it came to a point na it's not really a basis on how I feel about her. I know she's single because I was introduced to her family. When we'd go out, nagpapaalam pa siya sa mom niya via video conference na ako kasama niya. It took some time and thankfully I was able to see the full picture. If they lied, I think that should be a sign for you take caution or take the first step out of the door.

 

3.Do you ever go to the spa tread where your GF works and read her FR?

 

I do.

 

Thanks for the feedback in advance and kudos to you for being brave and man enough to pursue a Thera

A bit of advice coming from someone still in this process, 7 months and counting.

First off, I want to say that I happened to be extremely lucky to have found this thera but the more I think about it, there are a number of factors within my control that helped me along the way:

1. Manage your expectations - Be realistic. We know what we came here for and why thera's ended up here in this line of work.They show you affection (or may not) because you paid for it. Face the fact that what transpired could be real or not and it goes both ways. Thera's don't exactly know how real you are towards them as well even after a few visits. They met you in this industry after all. Be fair, no one likes to be short-changed.

2. Be a good judge of character - More for yourself than the thera you're gunning for. It's okay to be skeptical towards them but be mindful that they meet all sorts of people, probably more than you ever will. They are in most likelihood, more adept at reading you than you are them. Some might have had bad experiences that prompts them to act a certain way, or it is really just a means to an end for them, so get the read on your thera. It might take some time but how is that any different from falling in love with a woman outside of this industry? Get to know her, and don't get lost with the facade of what you paid her to do.

3. Not in a relationship (GF/Wife) - How the heck do you expect them to feel the same way about you when it would bring them more trouble than you're worth? At that point, you won't even be able to re-assure them you won't do the same. You're probably in love with the "thrill" and not the actual person and you're not man enough to admit it.

4. Know your playing field - Ask yourself if you can take it. If yes, then go. If not, then go home. You will experience all sorts of feelings and you'd probably ask yourself if you can take it, many times over.

The only reason I could say all of the above is because of how special this thera really is as a human being. She opened my eyes in the reality of what I'm getting myself into and I was able to think twice about going for it. If in the end, it doesn't work out for us, no regrets. I did my due diligence.

Peace.

Sober - Childish Gambino

1 step forward kami, nag meet the parents na. Pumunta ako sa house nila tagal namin nag kwentuhan ng parents nya and sister nya. Sana tuloy tuloy na.

Bait ng parents nya and mukang in favor of us. Sana talaga tuloy tuloy na.

Stand firm lang sa kung anong paninindigan niyo sa isa't isa at sa sarili niyo.

All the best sir.

Sober - Childish Gambino

Without You - Lapalux

 

Thank you bro King Kong, I know this is OT again, but I would be lying if I said I'm not affected. It does bother me.

 

Anyway, Before I finally retire, it's always been a personal dream/goal of mine to save at least 1 thera out of the industry if the thera really has the potential to. And that's what I honestly see in her. She can live a better life, earn higher without going to this industry..

Read your story here and I'm in the same boat.

All the best sir.

/sees off-topic posts, ignores, and leaves it up to mods to clean up

 

 

Totoo hindi biro yan. It will always require a lot of patience and understanding, both ways.

 

And personal clarity. So much personal clarity. Declaring love for a thera habang si client ay di sigurado sa sarili niya is a recipe for disaster. Lalo na kung may sabit si client. Like you said, it's easy to mistake lust - and dopamine highs - for love.

 

Or minsan, men fall in love with the idea of falling in love with a thera, kasi it makes them some kind of knight in shining armor saving some damsel in distress. Kumbaga, ego lang talaga ng client ang umiiral.

 

The opposite seems to be true too. So many posts discouraging it, because reasons. Maraming allegedly sinusuporta si thera, kaya ba ni client yun? May financial independence si thera, ano mao-offer ni client pansagot dun? Kaya ba ni client tanggapin na maging "unfaithful" si thera because of work? Blah blah blah. Nothing to do with whether or not both the client and the thera are mature enough adults to carry out a serious relationship given their circumstances. Eh di ba yun lang naman ang importante?

 

If the client and the thera have mutual genuine feelings and can work around the situation, more power and blessings to them. They are far better people than I am.

One of the more sensible posts in this thread.

Well said sir.

Sound Architects - Icarus

Queens of the Stone Age - Feel Good Hit of the Summer

Lite - Balloon

You Are Mine - Mutemath

From Indian Lakes - Ghost

kumukuha ka ng thera, tapos pag nainlove ka required na umalis para masabi mong mahal ka? e pano yung mga kapatid/anak/magulang/utang na nakadepende sa kita nya?

 

hindi ka nainlove sa thera in her current situation kung ganun, nainlove ka sa gusto mo na maging si thera

 

kung ako si thera, big no, mukhang control freak yung guy

 

nainlove ka nga sa kanya kahit na kung kanikaninong "junjun" ang pinapaputok nya (at pinuputukan sya), bakit bigla mo syang gusto magbago nung "in love" ka na?

 

then obsessed ka lang and selfish and control freak, and not really in love

 

kung requirement mo na umalis sya sa spa/mp, wag ka maghanap ng love sa spa/mp

 

i "almost" fell for a thera before and told her, but she explained why she had to do it and her goals are quite big, i said ok, just let me see you often then, nothing of those control freak requirements, its a feeling and is beyond all these "requirements", in the end i think i just liked her and not really "love", but if i really fell for her, it will be up to her if she will quit or not, I fell for her "current" self and not her future self

 

i thought i'll never sort of fall for a thera, because of the nature of what she is doing and of course i dont want that, but once you "fall" and if you really liked her, i'm pretty sure it will be beyond these "requirements"

 

its a feeling and shouldnt be bound by "requirements", otherwise you are just a control freak, and thats a warning sign for theras out there :O

Mismo to sir. IMHO, kung kaya mo matanggap yung present state, that will be the true measure. Sometimes it's better to see someone's worst rather than their best lalo na sa primero. Most people, best foot forward lagi sa umpisa which is perfectly understandable, syempre dun galing yung hook eh. Pero I'd rather see and bear the burdens now then consider all my options, kesa yung magpadala ako sa good things when I can't even stick around for the bad later on.

Manage my expectations. True love does not seek reciprocation.

Noname - Diddy Bop

Death Cab for Cutie - I Will Follow You Into The Dark

Olympia - You

The Resistance: Avalon

Ang Bandang Shirley

Childish Gambino - Redbone

I've been missing you lately - Aimless & J'san

nice post, bro!

Salamat sir!

Nice bro. Pakigawan naman ng buod.. ehehe

Haha. Tinry ko sir kaso feeling ko disservice sa kanya if sobra ko pang tinipid yung words ko. She is that amazing.

New sa MTC but I didn't expect na I would be actually looking for a thread like this. I must say na since eto yung isa sa mga pinakapopular na i-check dito is the spa section, sobrang timely ng nagbukas ng thread na to. Kudos sa nagumpisa nito.

I have mixed feelings with this considering na part ng service ng thera is GFE. In my experience, some are good pero there was one that really stood out. Naging loyalist na ko and I never looked back. Yung parang iwiwish mo narin na sana you met at a different circumstance because she lived up to the GFE service.

I found myself just enjoying her company. Nung first time ko siya mameet, I was hooked. I won't be a hypocrite, syempre unang napansin ko is the looks pero madali kasi mawalan ng value sakin yun pag nakausap ko na tas wala palang sense or mababaw siya. What made me stay was the way she conversed. She was very engaging and knows how to manage interests, madali lang naman kasi sabihing "oo gusto ko rin yun" para lang magkaroon ng false sense of connection, but this girl/lady/woman, she was just really confident with herself.

I ended up doing crazy things just to be with her pero I'll mention only one. I had an out-of-the-country trip ako for work that was supposed to last for a week, I ended up sneaking one of my work days para bumalik sa Pinas just to see her then umalis ng Pinas right after. Di ko naman masabi na libog lang umiral because for one thing, I had the budget to spend for it where I was at that time, pero I chose na bumalik dito and chose her specifically. She was surprised because she knew I wasn't going back anytime soon. Ended up just having a really good time and out of all the hassle, it felt worth it.

In our most recent encounter, halos natulog lang siya the time I was with her habang cinucuddle ko siya. She was very tired and nakaka-antok daw nung hinahaplos ko siya sa ulo, LOL. I wasn't even mad, sobrang pinagmasdan ko lang siya habang tulog siya. I ended up needing to wake her up dahil lang matatapos na oras namin.

Ina-acknowledge ko naman yung possibility na it's just part of how good she is with GFE. And I'll admit that I grew to like her? Love kasi, I don't want to use the term, loosely kasi hindi yun mababaw sakin pero sobrang nasa borderline na ko sa transition.

Naiitindihan ko naman yung current circumstances namin parehas, and I've being weighing the pros and cons constantly. It hurts na I know she has to do it because it's her job and whatever her reasons may be for going into that line of work, I know I can't judge her for it. Pero sobrang sana kaya ko nalang tugunan lahat ng yun for her so I can have her exclusively.

Still, andun parin yung respect ko sa kanya as a person, as a woman. Who knew that in the oddest of places, such a person exists. I can only hope na there was truth in how she made me feel and if I have to wait for her, I'd be willing.

Sorry sa lengthy post at salamat narin sa mga nagtyagang basahin.

Cheers.

Jam 88.3 especially when Lambert and/or Jobim is on.