This from my friend:
"Finally a reply. 🥹
Thank you very much. I am the father, and as of yesterday, my wife isolated me from my side of family. She blocked my relatives and whenever I try to vent out my frustration and grief of disconnecting with my beloved, she gets very aggressive and would often get physical. My life is a downward spiral and I don't want my daughters to grow up like their mother. I love my wife but I want to build a case against her to the point she'll want psychiatric intervention to secure visits with our children/fix our family. I don't really hope for divorce but the enmity between her and my family has been already too big. Here are some reasons:
1. I am earning low 6 digits a month--my wife naturally want money for ourselves, we would fight whenever I try to assert control over my income and would often threaten or guilt trip me into submission.
2. I have a history of cheating{documented} 3 years ago--(not appropriate reason) because I felt like I have lost control over my life since we got married in 2021 (where she had some bouts of infidelity as well{undocumented}. But have changed and shifted focus on work and my daughters.
3. My mother and sisters love my kids so much they tend to overstep boundaries and would often get insensitive with my wife. Partly my fault because I failed to establish those boundaries with them. Their intentions were good but wrong application.
4. My wife has physically abused me whenever we get into fights, had to resort to self defense and would often grab her wrist to make her stop.
5. She had history of manipulating people to make me look bad. She smeared blood on her face and body from her bleeding ingrown nail and sent pictures to my friends and family claiming I got physical with her.
6. 2 years ago, my father died and my wife started an argument and left me to go to her cousin. After 2 days, she forced me to have sex with her while I'm still devastated with my loss. If I don't comply with any of her sexual advances, she will either guilt trip or accuse me with something else.
7. She has the tendency to project all her shite on me. Example, whenever I try to seek help/advise from my mom,wife would accuse me of being spineless and a mama's boy yet she always confide to her mom and give full financial support to her family. Her tendency to be abusive, insensitive will be projected onto me.
9. I have history of self harm due to severe stress (tried to kill myself) 2 years ago and would seek available psychiatric help this week(if situation permits, since mental health almost doesn't exist in middle east).
I love my kids and I do not want them to grow up in such chaos or broken family. I know I am at levels of unholy stupidity and martyrdom but I don't know what else to do to stay around my kids. Help"
