twelfth

5 hours ago, plug said:

Opinion lang.

I have not been in your situation at ayoko rin malagay sa ganyan katayua dahil medyo complicated na agad sa umpisa pa lang. May anak ka pati si thera. If sana ikaw lang may anak at dalaga si thera better sana.

Si thera siyempre mas mahalaga sa kanya yung anak maaaring before you at ganoon ka din. Magkatuluyan man kayo yung attention maaaring hati lalo na kung very protective kayo sa kanya kanyang anak. Baka magkaroon pa ng selosan.

Wala naman palagay kong problema para makakuha ng dalaga either sa spas or outside. At least sa dalaga masosolo mo yun nga lang maaaring ma involve ka sa kanyang family matters lalo na kung thera. 

Malabo ata yung ayaw niyang tumanggap ng pera mong iniaabot. Diskarte lang marahil niya to keep you closer at the same time observing your capacity kung kaya mong buhayin silang mag ina. 

Above all ikaw din mag decide kasi ikaw ang nakakaramdam dahil karelasyon mo siya.

Money always play a big role sa love tutoo man o hindi. 

I think boss this also depends sa temperament ng thera- they're only human, so likely there are principles they go by.

Have heard from friends there are some that won't offer ATW no matter what- even when gipit na sya because her establishment closed down (Though I suspect it would only be a matter of time). But I get where your pessimism is coming from haha. 

On 7/26/2024 at 11:32 PM, RudeusG said:

Kala ko meme lang yung ntr fans, I seriously do not get the appeal, unless nothing serious naman talaga kayo. 

Sadly, ang ganda ng putanginang art ng mga NTR tags compared sa vanilla / other tags. change my mind. The detaillllll 

Also, for it to qualify as NTR, dapat mahulog yung girl for the "mang aagaw".  There's a reason why "cheating" and "cuckolding" is a different tag.

src: trustmebro, i used to like NTR for the art and I hate it now

11 hours ago, reyjun47 said:

I am slowly falling to a therapist. Only to find out that she lied that she don't have a baby. She also have a red flag hits of borrowing money. Oh well..

TL;DR: pre baka nalilibugan ka lang, nakasama mo lang saglit dapat kilalang kilala mo na?

On a serious note:

Keep in context on how you guys met man. Knowing her private info is very dangerous for her given the society here in ph still is conservative in nature. Hindi masyadong kahihiyan sa lalaki malaman na nag a-avail ka, pero kahihiyan sa thera kapag malaman na nag papa avail sya. At least, sa society natin. marami nang open minded, pero mas marami parin ang closed.

Secondly, she doesn't owe you the truth given above risks. Why, just because you frequently avail, you're entitled to those info already? Does she really know you (have the same details you want of her), how you would use that information? it's her choice if she wants to trust you, and yours as well to trust her. Always take what they say with a spoon (or more) of salt. Given rin yung info na she lied about, big deal yon considering we go to this industry with specific preferences, and others might stop going to her if they found out about it. Why should she give you that power?

On the borrowing money side, I don't see the act of "borrowing" as a red flag, unless "they don't pay" in some shape or form, or at least acknowledge she did borrow. This is trust basis already, and she might be comfy enough to ask you for that "favor". OR, she could be manipulating you given she thinks you're deep into her (no pun intended) already. This applies not just in this industry tbh, friends and relatives pwede ka rin naman ganyanin. 

regardless, I think you should reflect hard if you really are falling for her, o lustful at na-aattract ka lang sa nabibigay nya. Very convenient lang kasi ang industry na to for emotions- no hard work required to understand and care for each other. Pasok ka lang, and meron ka na kagad. Afterwards, you can forget about it. no extra worries and maintenance. balik ka nalang kapag need mo ulit. I think given rin yung reaction mo about her lie, you're just infatuated / obsessing over a potential relationship with her. 

I sympathize though, it's hard to fall for someone and discover things aren't exactly as it seems, but that's the risk of falling for anyone, and a test if you're really interested to pursue her, or just wanting her for what she can give. 

kapit lang lods, ijabol mo muna yan

17 hours ago, Julio777 said:

Very well said on this statement sir @twelfth. Been in one before and this is very relatable and somewhat accurate. The first phase which is the honeymoon phase. Both sides will see and feel that they long for each others company and ramdam ang happiness pag magkasama sila. Once this phase is over, and the first real disagreement happens especially if it involves a lie, everything will be in question. Mapapaisip ka na if totoo bang sayo lang sya ganito, na ikaw lang tlaga ang gusto nya makasama at purely trabaho lang ba talaga para sa kanya yung pagiging thera? Malawak na panguunawa ang kailangan at kung hindi ka handa ibigay yun at hindi ka handa masaktan, wag ka na pumasok sa relasyon. Madami ka makikita at mababasa tungkol sa thera mo since trabaho nya to. Kaya mo ba basahin na hindi maapektuhan ang relasyon nyo? Hindi madali

Ibang klaseng saya din ang makukuha mo pag ok kayo (can't deny), pero ibang klaseng sakit din ang mararamdaman mo along the way (kaya mo ba isustain). 

In the end mas ok pa din to just keep everything professional. Service availment lang, wag na pasukin ang relasyon. Mas magiging masaya ang lahat.

wow. haha well all relationships do start with the honeymoon phase. yung next phases ang magdedetermine if it will last. arguably mas complex lang sa context na to.

16 hours ago, Julio777 said:

For 14 yrs in and out sa spa purely professional service lang din ako. Walang emotions involved. Along the way may isang naging katapat who became my regular. It was unexpected. Walang ligawan, nagkagaanan nlang ng loob and bigla nagkainlovan dahil sa constant communication and visits (lots of time together in and out the spa). Kept the relationship without any monetary involve para maiwasan din yung thought na baka pera pera lang. 

After that incident, back to professional services nlang ulit. I wont dare to go look for another one. The emotions are too much to handle.

damn, speaking from experience ka pala sir hahaha. if it’s ok to pry a bit, how did the split happen? amicable naman, stayed as friends / gm-thera setup? regardless, hope the two of you are ok!

Spending time with people you want to be with

4 hours ago, brun0magtangol said:

twice happened 
lately nangyari ang last
ok lang naman ma fall without asking in return
ok na din mainis if ma disregard and sampalin ka ng reality 
sarap kaya main love, sarap din makararamdam ng kirot
else u would not know the difference and appreciation of the better will make it sweeter, 
 

Agree! This is a sign you're alive. Bask in the happiness, enjoy the downhill spiral. Yon naman point of loving someone. It's always a risk. 

23 hours ago, Rolf.go.06 said:

Oo nga noh baka mag cause ng argument nanaman. hehe

Pero tingin ko naman maiintindihan ren ng mga GMs na may kanya kanya talaga tayong opinion, tsaka 
mga GMs malalawak ang pag iisip dahil sa gantong laro o bisyo kailangan successful sa buhay. 

Agree here. Pero chiming in on "men don't care about their woman's occupation"- depende talaga to. Usually sa start ng relationship when all sweet and dreamy pa, OKs lang. Afterwards, pagtapos ng honeymoon phase, don na matetest both sides. Is the guy really " Open minded" And hindi mag seselos / magkaka trust issue considering the work revolves being around potential replacements (assuming tuloy mag work sa industry yung girl)? And is the girl secure with her feelings for the guy na hindi sya ma huhulog for other GMs kapag may disagreements sila nung guy? Since Na-meet rin ni thera si GM in this setting, there's also the thought na baka kumukuha pa sya ng iba on the side. All of these are theoretical though, but rooted in human nature hahaha

Then again, kahit naman sa non GM-thera relationship I think above scenarios still apply. Mas complex lang siguro in this case. Mas explicit na clash ng trust and insecurities kapag ganito. Another option is yumaman kang malala so girl can quit (hustle hard bro hahaha). 

Tingin ko nasobrahan ako sa panonood ng expensive candy(spoiler alert, corny ending)  at sa feedback lang rin I got last year nung na-curious ako about this topic sa dami kong ebas tonight hahaha

1 hour ago, Zych said:

baka nga mapabook ka pa ng sunod sunod para maka get over 😂

Depends siguro. Some will pine for a while, try to book others, only to remember the woman they fell for. So relapse hahahaha. Depende pano mag move on yung tao

On 7/24/2024 at 12:08 PM, AngGwapo said:

Wow Sir @plug

Bilib ako sa inyo.

Ano po ang monetary costs on your end if okay lang mag share?

 

Assuming pinapantayan nya rate ng nakukuha sa spa or more, pretty big? Nasa hundreds yan a month. 

On 5/26/2024 at 12:57 AM, blast3r said:

Hi fellow GMs and theras! nung mga nakaraan ngpost din ako dito na parang i'm falling nga.. madami din nagsabi na usually after 5th time or meet mawawala din,, I already lost count pero sa tingin ko tinamaan talaga ako.. alam ko naman na malabo talaga.. may kids xa, may family din ako.. nung una nffrustrate talaga ako eh.. pero ngayon mas tanggap ko na,, ineenjoy ko na lang yung time na magkasama kami, less drama.. minsan na lang 😃  sa ngayon, ineencourage ko xa na mag-aral maging VA (Virtual Assistant) kasi may experience naman sya sa CC.. and nag-aaral naman sya, papahiramin ko muna xa ng laptop and kung makakuha na xa ng 1st client nya sa VA tsaka ko xa tutulungan kumuha ng Laptop.. sa akin ok na yun, matulungan ko xa sa transition sa paglabas ng industry na to, kahit it will mean na d ko na din xa makuha as thera mas ok na sa akin yun.. nagtry din ako ng iba ulit nun, mdami din,  pero iba yung connection sa kanya.. madami na din kaming alam about personal life ng isa't isa, and sana after all maging friends pa din,, takte.. di naman ako matalino pero pagdating talaga sa ganito tanga talaga ako... parang the one that got away talaga.. sa ngayon xa lang nbook ko na thera, pero xa xympre need nya din kumuha ng ibang client.. pero 2-3x a week ako nagbbook.. i even send advance payment pag need nya.. she doesn't do GFE sa chats, hindi xa malambing 😃 pero that's more i like it kasi totoo lang xa, kaya pa minsan minsan, pagnglalambing xa, alam ko totoo yun.. napahaba na yun kwento ko.. until next time mga tol.. 

 

buhay pa pala tong thread damn

good for you man, seems like you really got good intentions for her

2 hours ago, AngGwapo said:

I met someone through MTC, my good friend @courtesanhunter.

We met so many times including an out of the country trip. We never had sex (and I didn't pay for her time at all) because she did not treat me as a guest.

In the end, nagkasumbatan about me being jealous of other guys and she also blurted out to me, vivid to this day -"Ikaw nga jan, walang tigil din magkwento tungkol sa mga thera mo!"

 

Jealously on both sides? Cool.

Also asked several theras about their opinion on falling for a thera in the first place- some were along the lines of "having deep pockets for pag-garahe", but one comment stood out and it's pretty insightful:

"Expect trust issues on both sides."

- Trust issue on the Thera and GM both possibly developing / cultivating a connection with others (selos basically)

- Trust issue on the GM is there for a freebie

Among others. which makes sense.

2 hours ago, AngGwapo said:

@courtesanhunter and the rest of GMs.

In this world, we all strive to improve our standing and actually even before improving our standing, we look out to survive since it's basic human instinct. 

It is unavoidable to want to find a stable partner whether here in the industry or in real life. It really becomes a matter of where and how you meet. I still remember someone I know back in college who said:
"I cannot just date anyone as the guy needs to improve my standing in society."

Would you really go for someone who will make you worse off? At least, you will want to be with someone who will make you better - whether from a financial standing, emotional crutch, human connection, etc.

This goes both ways - women looking for a man/woman or man looking for a woman/man. Are we going to survive with this person? Are we going to be there through thick and thin (if you don't want thin, then, continue usual activities in MTC)? Can this person help me in life financially, emotionally, sexually, etc.? That other person needs to improve the other's life in one aspect. That person uplifts the other with what the other doesn't have.

How many have heard of the statement "Yeah, that's a power couple." vs. "Yeah, hindi sila bagay." vs. "Yeah, parehong pumangit buhay nila dahil sa isa't isa." 

In the case of non-Filipinos, there is a misconception that a Filipina will take care of them - cook, clean, and others for them. Even hyphenated Filipinos come to the Philippines looking for love - and I know at least two women who came here to live to find "the one." One was successful. 

Misconception because that may be very short-term. There are so many Filipinas, especially those who outmigrate with their partners - who may leave their partners after getting the proper papers. More common may be outward laziness once the legal commitment is there. But then, there are also Filipinas who stick by their partners, legal or not, through thick and thin.

Introducing your partner to family, wherever and however you meet, is part of cementing the commitment both ways. The older person gets someone s/he may not have in other aspects of his/her life and the younger one gets the same. It is always mentioned here that it's about the money of older gentleman that makes the younger go after him. If they do end up with each other, the woman gets a more stable (sana) life and man, while it's hard to think of - gets someone who will give them the caring they need especially in their older years. That is the other side of the story perhaps the reason why older gents look for younger women who, chances are, will outlive them by decades.

Natutunang mahalin? I've heard this many times. I've also heard that some do not fall in love. They're just keeping the person for the support, in however fashion, they get which may be short-, mid-, or long-term.

Forever after? Who knows? But that's how it is outside of this vacuum we live in as well.

Lastly, the women in MTC are here with lots of men because they don't want to lift up their lives for the short-term (gipit), medium-term (makapagipon). Those who want more especially with single men may do enter into long-term relationships (makapagipon and build a family). If they find someone they like, why not? The same goes for the men, why not? Body count? Sorry but I bet there's at least 100 guys here who have been with 100 women (hindi yung fake FRs or know-it-alls who don't really avail, ha).

My two cents this weekend.

Happy Friday!

Wow. Solid take. Happy friday to you!

14 hours ago, LookingOswald said:

🤪

 

Variation: "I love you ka ng I I love you may pang garahe ka ba" 🤣

21 hours ago, LookingOswald said:

Haha pretty sure we just made out for 2 hours kahit nag ubos oras kami dun I would have been okay with it 😂

Well worth it? 🤣

1 hour ago, papagur0 said:

Reze..Denji's Totga..Tinamaan ka boss! pero alam mo naman golden rule sa bisyo na to..haha pero kung hindi mo kayang pigilan "It's better to burn out than fadeaway" haha lol

Kaya nga for the most part guarded ako hahahaha ewan ko rin ano meron during / after the third booking. Meron narin naman ako na kuha more than 3 times pero di ganito HAHA lakas nya

1 hour ago, chnky said:

I feel you man. Minsan may ganyang feeling talaga. Wag ka lang masyadong magpalamon sa kumunoy

Usually guarded naman ako sa lahat ng bookings ko. di ko alam anyare, guarded naman ako sa first few bookings ko sakanya. tas biglang waw shet ano to hahaha

6 hours ago, papagur0 said:

Noice chainsawman..

Based manga hahaha ALSO LALABAS NA SI REZE SA ANIME

This meme fits this thread.

then again, I'm currently in that gruesome delusion of getting interested / falling for a thera. or baka libog lang to.

All I know is I'm interested to get to know her more.