dranrebvan

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If the thera agrees to do it outside the spa, for free, or would volunteer to be with him when he has the urge or upon invitation,

 

If she is willing to forego a work day at the spa to date your friend

 

If she feels bad when she hears he picked another thera (kahit di sya normally selosa)

 

If she begins upping restrictions for others except your friend

 

Di ko sure pero palagay ko mga gantong signs ang magsasabi kung talagang she wants to be in a relationship sa friend mo

 

Babae pa rin sila and they'd feel these pag nagkaron ng mabigat na attachment. Even then, it's still not necessarily love ika nga ni boss robb

thank you, sir sinestro. per my friend:

1. They often do it outside the spa but not for free. The thera needs financial support, so they both agreed on payment, minimal as it maybe. Thera has in some instances volunteered to be with him when he has the urge or upon invitation.

2. Thera was willing in many instances to forego a work day at the spa. She would not report to spa after their sexcapade.

3. She often feels bad when she learns he has picked another thera. Halata daw niya -- dahil ang daming tanong sa details.

4. My friend has no idea on the restrictions for others

Dapat kasi sa ES lang tayo umasa ng happy ending para hindi komplikado mga sir. Mahirap umasa ng higit pa sa labas ng cubicle.

tama ka. i agree. fun lang for the guys. trabaho lang for the gals. but oftentimes, mahirap din kalabanin ang puso. the emotions cloud the mind.

 

hmmmm if i have feelings for a client.... il do it for free..

 

if a thera can easily give an atw... there's a possibilty that she can/will do it kahit kaninong client with no emotions involve..

 

just my 2 cents.. have a great day..

thank you sitti. you must be a seer. you hit it squarely.

shared with my friend the views i gathered here, and here's an update from him over bottles of beer:

- he is down (maybe devastated inside) as he just learned that the thera has been going atw with so many men.

- he still tries to rationalize by saying that: (i) she must be in dire financial need; and (ii) that she might only have started doing that when she felt that whatever they have is going nowhere.

hay naku, sarap batukan! but on the other hand, my feelings go for him. i told him to STOP na. the decision is his. but i will be there to give him support whatever further action he may take.

For those na nahuhulog na, or are thinking that they are, please do look at the person, not the job, and not the things being done to you that's specifically linked to the job. It's a blurred line, i know, but there should still be things that you can look at and say: wow, this person is actually letting me in and sharing a piece of herself not normally meant for everyone.

 

If you can clearly differentiate between the 2 and you find that you're still into the person, then by all means consider pursuing it. Doesn't necessarily mean na mahal mo na agad (for some) but if it means sumasaya ka dahil dito, and the other party feels the same, then wala naman masama for both to build on it.

 

At the end of the day, both should just be prepared for both sides of the coin. Whether it builds into something really special, it ends at some point, or it plateaus and you've reached all that you could be, cliche as it may seem, what's important is the journey. The chance to get to know another person well and have an impact with them.

 

Wag lang tayo masyado magisip. Just go with it.

very well said sir boy. napaisip mo ko on this: 'what's important is the journey'. for me, i prefer not to make it a journey but a short trip where i can still steer the wheel to the direction i want. pag kasi nahulog na sir ang puso, as i have read in many posts here, mahirap nang kumalas.

 

When a therapist provides a service for free, you've reached a milestone in your "relationship." You can decide whether to take it to the next level or move on.

 

Some years back, I met two girls I met who refused the tip. One wanted to be loved, not just be desired or lusted after. Another girl turned out to be hunting for a financial backer. I continue to be friends with the first girl, and she has been retired for a couple of years. She's also a reason why I've kept my faith in the goodness of some girls in the industry. In the latter case, it was easy to move on. Once in a while, I'd still hear stories of how she still tries to snare a ticket out of the industry.

words of wisdom sir dibdba. if we participate in this industry, chances are we will meet both kinds of theras. good on you that you have already met one that keeps the 'faith on the goodness of theras' alive. i will be happy to find one too.

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I agree with you tressaiyo, el-ey, and sinestro. I have advised my friend accordingly.

Sharing what he is holding on that keeps him hopeful:

- the rate he gives the thera is half of what he thinks is the going rate for ATW

- thera is always available whenever he has the urge, chats with him and texts him

- length and frequency of whatever relationship they have

- thera shares with him personal matters

- thera has confided to someone that she has gone ATW only to a few men she has fallen in love with and this confession of the thera has reached my friend.

To all theras in this thread:

If a thera goes ATW with a client for more than a year already doing it 2 to 3 times a month, will that be an indication that the thera has feelings for the client? Or can that be a case of trabaho lang?

A friend (non-member of mtc) pays the thera everytime they do it. No formalities. No commitment. No dates. And he has not asked the thera of her feelings for fear it may ruin whatever they may have.

Your views are much appreciated.

keep busy...

nope...

kapag puso na ang umiral, mahirap talaga mr. anime. understandable. can you accept sharing a public good? sa simula baka pwede. but in the long run, when life's problems pour in your way, it would be extremely challenging to keep the relationship. i suggest you nip it in the bud this early.

depends...

love can make relationship work better...

best wishes sa yo...

just get busy with other things...

love is never having to say you're sorry.

--- oliver barrett III, Love Story (1971)

Happiness and ability to cope with life's challenges.

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