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Statistics would argue against you. Majority tend to look for emotional affection(love) elsewhere when there's a problem with their current relationship. Hence, the pie has already been cut.

 

Also I think the way we love our children is completely different with the way we love our partner.

 

 

I suppose LOVE at its essence is basically GIVING. Thus, I agree with you that the way we love (or give) to our children is completely different with the way we love our partner or our therapists for that matter. As the saying goes "you cannot love without giving." Ultimate love is when you give without expecting any returns, in a word "CHARITY."

Has the pie already been cut or it's totally another pie/love/relationship?

Free love ang tawag dito. Hindi ito applicable sa lahat, at isipin mo asawa mo naman ang magsasabi sayo nito, malamang di ka papayag.

Golden rule po sir,what is good for the goose is also good for the gander.

Free love ang tawag dito. Hindi ito applicable sa lahat, at isipin mo asawa mo naman ang magsasabi sayo nito, malamang di ka papayag.

Golden rule po sir,what is good for the goose is also good for the gander.

Questions: Pag meron ka ng minamahal (GF o Asawa) at nagmahal ka ulit ng iba (thera, officemate, new GF), nabawasan ba ang pagmamahal mo sa taong una mong minahal? Ang pagmamahal ba ay parang oras o isang pizza pie, na pag binigay mo sa iba eh mababawasan o mawawalan yung isa?

My personal answer, at pwedeng mali ako, pwede kang magmahal ng iba ng hindi nababawasan ang pagmamahal sa "original." Parang ganito lang yan, mahal mo ang iyong asawa. Tas nagka anak kayo..syempre mahal mo rin anak mo pero di nabawasan pagmamahal mo sa misis mo. Tas nagkaanak kayo ulit...syempre mahal mo rin yun pangalawang anak, pero di nababawasan yun pagmamahal mo sa panganay na anak at kay misis.

Kaya sa aking pananaw, ang love ay di parehas ng oras (time) o pizza pie na nababawasan pag binigay mo sa iba. Palagay ko, ang love ay parang isang ilaw ng kandila, na pag binigyan mo o inilawan mo ang iba pang mga kandila ay hindi nababawasan ang ilaw o liwanag ng original na kandila.

Yes agree ako doon sa kahit pagbalik baliktarin mo man ang mundo, hanggat di umaalis sa spa, hindi maayos yung relationship.. pero minsan din kasi naiisip namin, is he worth fighting for? May mga bagahe din kami, may mga binubuhay, kaya ba ako buhayin ng pagmamahal? Mga kadalasang pumapasok sa isip namin.. pwedeng pagtulungan satotoo lang.

 

pero alam mo yun, kung kayo naiisip nyo na dito nyo kami nakilala very risky kasi trabaho namin to, para sakin the feeling is mutual, natatakot din kami mafall sainyo kasi dito namin kayo nakilala.. na alam mo un.. baka hindi namin din alam kung kani kanino din kayo pumupunta.. yung ganun.

 

Pero may mga alam ako na successful relationship.. na galing dito..pero mahirap sobra pinagdaanan nila.

 

Meron namang thera, kaya ng bitawan lahat, para sa GM pero, naunahan syang bumitaw ni GM.. napagod agad.. buti na lang di nya pa binibitawan lahat lahat.

 

Kaya lahat dito sa loob MTC pag dating sa love kailangan sumugal.. nasasayo kung kaya mo i-all in.. kung malakas ba loob mo, kung hanggang saan..

Ang lahat ng love ay sugal, mapa sa loob o labas man ng mtc. Pag mahal ka ng isang tao, parati niyang iniisip ang kapakanan mo bago niya isipin ang para sa kanya. Pag mahal mo siya, uunahin mo ang kapakanan niya bago ang sayo. Kaya maganda magmahalan pag mutual ang nararamdaman niyo sa isa't isa...dahil kahit iniisip mo ang kapakanan ng kabila, indirectly iniisip mo na rin kapakanan mo dahil iyong kabila ang nasa isip niya ay ikaw. You cannot love without giving, but you can give without loving. Yan ang panalo sa sugal ng pag-ibig, mutual love/understanding/caring. Talo pag one-way lang direction ng love/understanding/caring.

Ganunpaman, meron mga basic needs ang tao aside from love, at sa ayaw natin o hindi, kelangan natin at ng ating mga mahal sa buhay ang mga basic needs like food, clothing, shelter, education, recreation, etc....lahat ng ito may katumbas na pera. Kaya kahit anong mutal love pa ang nararamdaman ninyo sa isa't isa pag itong realidad na ito ang gumising sa inyong mga panaginip, balik spa si thera for survival.

At the end of the day, just keep the communications open since this is the lifeblood of all relationships. Habang may honest to goodness communication kayo sa isa't isa, may pag-asa pa yang relasyon na yan. Kung gusto mo namang patayin ang isang relasyon, just simply stop communicating with each other and the relationship will die a natural death.

Just my two cents.

Any tips para maka move on sa thera ? Nag wwork siya sa isang mp and as much as i dont want to admit it, na fall na rin ako sakanya.

Communication is the key. If you want to extend the relationship, keep in touch regularly. If you want to end right now, stop communicating with her. Any relationship will die a natural death without communication.

Exactly boss. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE is the best term to describe.

I prefer to call it CHARITY, the act of LOVING or GIVING without expecting any returns! =)

I too gave "charity" to my favorite theRAPIST and provided the means for her to get out of the industry (i.e., placement fee to go abroad).

I used to frequent MTC spas at least once or twice a week, however now that she's "somewhere out there," my urge to visit mtc-spas have trickled away.

Mahirap magkaroon ng seryosong relasyon pag si thera-labs at si GM ay pareho pang aktibo sa industriya. Pwede dyan eh maging "mag-masaya" relationship muna which is fun,fun,fun lang. One or two hours GF/BF lang kayo sa loob ng cubicle, then back to "normal" life afterwards.

Pero pag gusto niyo ng seryosong relasyon na, alis muna kayong dalawa sa ganitong industriya and start or re-start a relationship again with both parties in the "outside" world.

Just my two cents! =)

IT SUCKS when women intuition kicks in to find a "loop-hole" your "cover story."

Opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one.

Peace gentlemenyaks, let's continue respecting every assh*le...i mean every opinion in this thread.

if it works, good for you. if it doesn't, you know the reason why.

 

is it worth the aggravation? maybe but then again, it will take it's toll.

 

one thing, they are very good at hiding their true feelings so better be patient and learn to read the signs

 

because one day you may be the king of her world but the next day you are not for reasons only she knows

love, lust, pity, compassion, passion, infatuation, crush, smitten, caring

Meron similarity yang mga feelings na yan, and the GMs/Theras must be careful to distinguish one from the other. For all we know, "awa" pala yung naramdaman mo and you have mistaken it for "love."

Kaya GMs must be extra careful in handling this matter. Tama si GM wheeljack, theras are experts in hiding their true feelings, since this skill (of suppressing one's true feeling) is necessary in their chosen craft,

Having a complicated relationship is a disaster waiting to happen. Especially when the relationship involves a guy and a girl that are both married and have their own families. Perhaps its destiny that both crossed each others paths. They both knew that there is something special between them, something that they felt before when they were still both single but never prospered. But now that they are both married and have their own families we cannot just rely with our hearts. A lot of factors to consider. Even if our own happiness is at stake, a lot of things we need to consider. Our personal happiness with each other would entail that a lot of people will get hurt. Is it worth our own happiness? Families may become broken instead of making it work. People will start to judge you for choosing him/ her instead of your family.

 

The bottom line is... is it really worth it.... Each and every answer is different. There is no right or wrong answer.... You can only be the judge....

When facts and feelings collide, facts must win all the time.

This is the seemingly "better" option in this dilemma of choice!

Go with the choice that scares you the most

because thats the one that is going to help you grow

Agree, almost all great and significant progress happens OUTSIDE the comfort zone!

Its been 10 days ago since we became officially. And i thank her for her love, truat and loyalty.

We are open book in this relationship. Yes i believe its hard but it can work out. As long you have respect with each other.

Give us updates sir after ten (10) months.

Good luck!

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