To the darkness

Wow. Saludo ako sa 'yo chief. I guess it really takes that level of maturity to make things work. You'll have to share your secret on how not to let that gnawing negative feeling affect you so much. Pero nakakatuwa na may ganitong klase kwento.

but it did ... and i think it showed in my face. maybe i made a lucky choice at that time ... pinili ko lang sabihin na tapusin nalang niya business niya tapos pakalabas ko ng room ay naupo't nag laro nalang ako ng The Sims sa computer

siguro mahal ko at nagtiwala ako nga sobra kaya parang kinimkim ko ang lungkot ... and it paid off kasi nakita yun ng wife ko. remember, she also took the risk knowing nga na GM ako so tulad ng sinabi ko lagi, it worked because we both wanted it to work.

Congrats sir on your rare success story. Wishing you all the best to your relationship.

thanks ... credit also goes to my wife who took the risk too

a friend setting up a "love nest" ...

sa mga ganitong situation talaga mas matimbang dapat ang trust sa love. May mga weird agreements kayong minsang ginagawa para lang ma maintain yung trust na yun but dude really you are torturing yourself malas lang pero keribels mo pa yata eh sana lang each time na ganyan na nanaman may wsier resolve ka na and hopefully final

its not really a weird arrangement but to ensure trust. i remember when my wife kept holding on to her old SIM ... she was 3 or 4 months pregnant with our first baby then. at first its to stay in touch with her hold friends so I didn't argue. one time as i was entering the bedroom, i saw her just standing in the middle of the room staring at her phone like she was trying to decide what to write. i asked what was wrong and she told me it was one of her former guest ... aalis daw ng bansa and will not be back so was asking her if he could see her again. since sinabi naman niya, i chose to simply say "sige finish your business with him" and left her to her thoughts. that particular guest, i have known about ... kwento nga niya na mabait at galante and treated her with respect. of course hurt ako non at gusto kong mangaway ... pero kailangan ko mag endure and i had to allow her to find her own resolve and to make her own decisions.

she came a few minutes, hugged me, and just told me na tapos na ... didn't need to speak of it again ... past forgotten.

she changed sim ultimately ... may mga guest na makulit talaga and a wife ng guest na nangaaway

pray ...

magisip isip ka naman minsan ...

puppy hugging my son ...

i think what makes the issue glaring is the "trust issues" involved ...

it touches the ego of most men because it takes away their control over most situation and having to deal with revelations.

women in this profession find it hard to give their all most especially at the beginning of the relationship ... they will if they can try to bury and forget their past. at a certain point, after much revelation and much giving of themselves, they sometimes would feel very vulnerable, dependent and useless.

minsan ang gap ng estado sa buhay becomes a hindrance ... like the earlier story of bratzky1101, his uncle had to start from his lowest point in his life ... so no hindrance to speak of

work ...

My mother. I'm curious of what she knows about me; I bet there aren't much.

Mother? I guess it's not very appropriate coz parents usually pass away ahead of their kids

it made sense to me because that's was the answer i was about to write.

But since my parents are no longer around, i would like my youngest son instead

Love Bug

a couple who are good friends patching up from some misunderstanding ...

smart

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Well siguro nga Sir may point ka dun... Thank you sa advice napapa isip tuloy ako coz tinimbang ko... Tama ka rin...

or you and your partner can do it together ... baga magtulungan kayo. don't worry if he accepts you and your past ... you'd know if he does or doesn't

I don't think love works that way. Love won't be there anytime you want it to be. Most calls it FAITH or DESTINY.

 

Congrats Sir, rare successful story.

 

I'm sure it's all worth the struggle. Yes this is rare, good for you sir, hold on to it...

it's still an ongoing struggle but i consider it a normal day-to-day problem no different from others. it has only gone 11years ... we'll go for another 11years to see the fruits from which the seed we sowed

I guess I'm experiencing it now and hoping that he is really willing to accept me and willing to forget my past... True love is like a virus when it hits you, your starting to get sick.

i've been married to a former mp attendant for 11yrs now. it took time and effort from both parties even after we got married. there would be times the even i myself question if it was out of compassion or love ... sometimes the two can be indistinguishable. there would be arguments when the wife would say "oo, alam ko utang ko buhay ko sa yo ..." even if it had nothing to do with the argument. but as years progress, it is our willingess to make it work that's keeping us together.

i'd say it goes both ways: once you accept the guy, believe that he is sincere and you need not thank him constantly ... because as long as you do, he will interpret it as you are staying with him because of gratitude - this can only spell disaster later on. as for forgetting the past, everyone has one ... so give him the chance to accept your past also. we do have the saying "and the truth shall set you free".

i know you heard all these before ... the best of luck to you both