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I always welcome and even encourage her to read the messages on my phone. I don't have anything to hide, and it's my gesture of being transparent.

 

On the other end though, she's been mostly secretive and/or privy of the messages on her phone. I respect that.

Just be cautious,,,,,,,,,,,

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This is a good point. As a matter of fact, in the case of my ex, I had wanted to know...

 

1. How many partners she has had, one at a time ba, or multiple/sabay-sabay;

2. How many failed relationships she had, at ano ang reasons why they didn't work.

 

Re No. 1 -- Aminado sya marami na siyang naging partners. She even tried G2G. Pero, sabi niya, one at a time lang daw, at wala naman siyang pinagsabay. First thing na pumasok sa isip ko: Clean ba kaya siya? That's why, I always practiced safe sex with her even when she had a physical and was declared clean. Of course, pregnancy was another matter. Dahilan sa daring din siya, ayun. Dalawa na ang anak niya galing sa dalawang lalake. (Note: regarding the number, she wasn't really truthful. I also learned later na kahit yung sinabi niyang hindi siya nagsasabay ng partners, at one-at-a-time lang sya, ay hindi rin totoo. Kaya... would that be also possible with me? I had hoped she will be faithful. In the end, her history proved that hindi nga siya makapagpipigil when it comes to sex.)

 

Re No. 2 -- Marami na siyang failed relationships. By her own declaration, naka pito raw siyang serious relationships. Noong tinanong ko kung bakit hindi nag-work-out mga past relationships niya, ang sagot niya ay: "siya rin naman ang may kasalanan." (Kasi naman, madali siyang ma-in-love. Kaya, madali rin siya makakita ng kapalit.) Mukhang honest, di ba? Pero, kung honest siya, dapat, naghanap din siya ng paraan para magbago. Kailangang mag-effort siya in that regard. BUT, in the end, nangyari rin ang nangyari. After less than three months abroad, nakahanap na rin siya ng iba, at ipinagpalit din niya ako. I have become a statistic for her.

 

Having several sexual partners, whether one-at-a-time, or sabay-sabay, may be an indication of something. It could be a problem area which could either be physiological or psychological. Unless one is conscious that s/he has a problem in this matter, it will never be remedied. If your partner has "this problem," then, you should be prepared na mauulit din sa yo ang nangyari sa iba bago sa yo. Hindi rin tatagal at mapapalitan ka rin ng iba, o maipagsasabay ka rin sa iba.

 

So... is knowing the past history of sexual relationships important? For me, yes. It is important.

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Depende sa maturity level ng kasama. Pag hindi mature enough or insecure ang tao, dun mabilis magselos sa mga maliliit na bagay. Imbes na open ka sa kanya, maiilang ka pa dahil baka kung anuano isipin nya. By default no, we don't read each other's messages. Pero in the end, may right tingnan because of "transparency"

i've seen this kind of pangyayari from the inside and errr let me say from the outside. I saw how someone na super great or let me say tinitingala and sinandalan ko talaga for so many times turn into someone who needs me.. into someone na super weak. I saw him losing almost everything because of a thera ( like me. ) and it really breaks my heart. Imagine seeing someone na pinagkukunan mo ng lakas na unti unting nadudurog because of a thera. And ME karamihan naman siguro alam na I've been to this situation din before... i fall for a client... tipong talon bangin. laslas pulso. kaen bubog talaga. I experienced this first hand.. So here is my stand. Thera-Client Love. risky. madaming iyak. madaming hirap. masakit. maraming doubts. karamihan ng fafail. madaming oras na nasasayang. gamitan. lokohan. But naisip ko. pwede naman magwork eh... if the love is true. it will work. It will. im sure of that. But if one sided lang and if you're not sure if SHE/ He feels the same. STOP. kasi if isa lang yung nagmamahal isa lang yung willing lumaban. wala talaga kakalabasan. ending epic fail. As simple as that..

 

( for gms : if a thera really love you. she will do anything para makaalis dito with or without your help. kasi automatic na yan eh.. kung mahal ka talaga nya iisipin nya kung ano mararamdaman mo everytime magkaclient sya. )

 

* just my opinion. Gms. if you love a thera. wag nyong ibahay. wag nyong sustentuhan. sige tulungan nyo. pero sa ibang paraan. kasi ur just teaching her na mahalin yung perang binibigay mo. not you. eventually pag wala ka ng maibigay. there' s a possibility na she will leave you. Gets...? waaaaaah hirap explain.

 

''when a woman is loved correctly,she becomes ten times the woman she was before ''

 

 

(sorry di talaga ako magaling mag explain)

 

 

have a great day!!!

 

 

-SITTI

Ano view nyo dito?

 

What if nalaman mo yung super sweet caring and maganda mo na nililigawan may history ng one night stand? twice? Pero way back pa after sya gaguhin nung first boyrfriend nya, Iba to pero personally, I know a friend na super na turn off dun sa girl na gustong gusto nya dahil nalaman nya na may history ng one night stand si girl while in a relationship.

 

Thoughts? Does it really matter?

I have elaborated on this in my last post. For me, the history of sexual encounters is really important. A history of one night stands, especially, point out some things.

 

1. S/he is an easy lay. Di ba? Eh kung madaling maalok sa kama, anong tawag mo niyan?

2. S/he has a psychological problem. The incessant need for unbridled sex could be a sign of a need something deeper than just the external act of copulating.

3. Unless that need or problem is resolved, what would prevent him/her from continuing doing one night stands when s/he is in a relationship?

 

Again, my ex is a perfect example. She had a history of relationships and sexual encounters. However, in the one year plus of our being together, she appeared to have reformed. She didn't fool around (that's as far as I know), she stopped all her vices (smoking and even excessive drinking), and she even altered her way of dressing (she liked dressing skimpily). Without me insisting on her changing her habits, she voluntarily did so just because she wanted to please me. (Perfect, di ba?)

 

She became a good girl. She was malambing and caring, and became, in that year, an honest-to-goodness wife material.

 

It was good until she left for her two-year overseas contract. I told her we shall discuss serious plans after she comes back. (I had wanted those two years be a testing period for us.) We have been in touch almost every day, thanks to technology. From my side, I knew there was nothing lacking because I maintained constant communication, not to mention, I kept sending her stuff she had wanted and craved for from the Philippines.

 

But when one is defective (for lack of a better term), the uncorrected/unresolved defect will always manifest itself. She returned to her old ways. She started drinking and smoking again. Her manner of dressing returned to her former ways. In less than three months, I had discovered she was already seeing and sleeping with another guy. And I feigned ignorance all along. I continued until six months, pretending not to know. In all those times, she kept up with her lies and denials.

 

Is she the rule, or an exception to the rule? The rule, meaning, her history of sexual relationships proved her trending behavior.

 

I believed she was more of the former.

personally, I'd like to know the past, but not the details. though knowing usually hurts, it helps me understand her more.

get married. you will know that you can live without sex in months.

Kahit years pa :-)

Based on experience, pag super private ng cellphone, todo lock, lahat ng messenger may password, at dala sa banyo pag naliligo or tumatae.

 

yung thera ang nagsabi hindi galing sa akin. nakikinig lang ako sa kwento niya kasi may nanliligaw sa kanya na guest pero ayaw niya. sa mga sinabi niya, mas gusto niya yung walang may alam sa past niya para fresh start. ganyan ang thinking nila kaya kahit ano pang idahilan at irason para subukan baguhin yon, hindi mangyayari. kung meron man daw na sila makarelasyon na guest ay hindi dahil sa love kundi sa pangangailangan. basta naibibigay nung guest ang pangangailangan nila at naibibigay nila ang kailangan ng guest, ok na ang ganoong set-up sa kanila.

 

sa akin masyado simple at naive ang pagiisip na the past will haunt you. it will haunt you if you let it haunt you. maging realistic tayo hindi tayo nabubuhay sa isang fairy tale perfect world na kailangan maging honest ka sa lahat ng bagay. lahat ng tao may sikreto. hindi yung past ang dapat isipin kundi ang present and magiging future. bakit, honest ba ang mga lalake sa mga GF at asawa nila at sinasabi nila ang mga pinag-gagawa nila? kung honest ang mga lalaki hindi sila pupunta sa mga ganitong site at mga establishment. "everybody lies", accept it. ganoon din ang mga thera kaya hindi ko siya masisisi kung ganyan siya mag-isip. sa loob loob ko, marunong dumiskarte ito sa buhay, at realistic mag-isip

 

para sa akin, hindi dapat pinapaniwalaan basta basta ang mga napapanood sa sine. dahil sine yon, pwede baguhin ng direktor or ng screenwriter yung outcome ng movie. totoong buhay ito kaya realistic dapat mag-isip ang mga tao.

 

balik ako sa sinabi nung thera. siniraan na lang niya yung guest para tumigil na, kasi hindi daw marunong umintindi, hindi daw makuha sa hindi niya pagpansin at pagreply sa text or viber. kung hindi daw nirereplyan at pinapansin dapat makuha na daw ng guest yon na ayaw niya. pero kung sige pa rin daw ang guest, gagawa siya paraan para magalit sa guest para tigilan na siya

Happy New Year

Sana may ma-in love din sa akin

Thera ka ba :-)

Ito galing mismo sa therapist na nakausap ko. sabi niya

 

"May mga guests na matalino, pero pagdating sa puso at damdamin, nagiging Bobo"

 

 

tanga daw sila at hindi nagiisip pag puso na ang nanaig. sa bandang huli sila kawawa dahil magagamit lang sila. sabi niya mas mabuti yung makilala niyang magugustuhan niya hindi niya makilala as guest sa spa kundi sa labas na hindi alam ang kanyang past na trabaho bilang thera

Kahit anong iwas mo may lulusot na isa, pwedeng friend , relative o bf ot asawa ng friend/relative. Etc

One good example is the movie of ann curtis and sam milby babe I love you,

Ito galing mismo sa therapist na nakausap ko. sabi niya

 

"May mga guests na matalino, pero pagdating sa puso at damdamin, nagiging Bobo"

 

 

tanga daw sila at hindi nagiisip pag puso na ang nanaig. sa bandang huli sila kawawa dahil magagamit lang sila. sabi niya mas mabuti yung makilala niyang magugustuhan niya hindi niya makilala as guest sa spa kundi sa labas na hindi alam ang kanyang past na trabaho bilang thera

He has a point though. What kind of mother or father would be proud to know that their son is in love with a prostitute. BTW , I have nothing against whores, I actually think the world needs them. I wpudnt want my son to be an idiot and love a woman who sucks dicks for a living.

 

Kinda agree with you anyway. Sometimes people need to be smacked in the head to wake up

Kinda agree with you anyway. Sometimes people need to be smacked in the head to wake up

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Tried fruits, fresh eggs, meat, fish,, abs didnt really show up....

Used creatine +preworkout supplement ( with cycle off) + whey protein good result....

go to the gym every other day for 2 to 3 hrs

i also tried lipo 6 black to remove the fats, finished two bottles. All i can say is that it works for me..

Then bsn nitrix along with jack3d for energy and stay focused...

is it safe to take amino acid and creatine if you have fatty liver

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