milanne

you know, no one is in the right position to tell you what you should/must do. you just do it. based on your statement it seems like you're falling for this client/guest of yours, but you're trying hard not to get involved because you know it's not right.

 

nothing wrong on being his number two. what's wrong is when you try to be the number one and yet you know that place in his life is already taken. just be cautious on your decision and try not to break some hearts (and family). you might end up breaking your own heart in this process but at least you tried not to hurt others and your conscience is clean.

 

it's a lot easy when you know that the guy left his family because that's his decision, that's what he want, he's tired of his relationship. never be the reason of a guy breaking his family, that will be a big mistake.

 

but who knows? it's also a big mistake picking a guy who abandon his family. because you can never be sure when he'll get tired of you too? just just be happy with what you will have for now. nothing is permanent really. only a few can be happy with what they have. happiness is often found on your journey, not destination.

 

basta alam mong wala kang tinatapakan, kahit dumating yung time na iwan ka niya never have regrets. charge it to experience, learn from it and be wiser next time. what don't k*ll you makes you stronger.

 

Now go girl and enjoy life! Cheers.

I am so confused at this time. Hindi ko talaga ma-getz ang sinasabi, pardon me sir, siguro nga magulo lang ang isip ko pa at para maintindihan ang point. Anyway, thanks for the advice.

There's a third party. she said it herself clearly that he left his wife for her.

 

and she justify it with her recent post by being guilty with what happened.

 

though wala pako anak, i feel for the kids too...

 

pero the damage has been done and they cannot turn back time. forgive yourself, just make the most out of your relationship with him, be happy, enjoy it. kasi you'll never know WHEN he will do the same to you once he got tired of your relationship...

I guess we close this case for now. I was just trying to put things on a lighter mood. But, your story about the abandoned wife seems to be shattering for a relationship. Just be a good housemate and hope this does not happen again,specially to you.

I am so confused. . . . . It was good I entered this thread. Meron kasi po akong suitor-client and has a family, and the fear of the same fate would happened to me ay 'yun po ang kinakatakutan ko as you said sir trueillusion.

I can bear the conscience but the fear na maaaring mangyari sa akin 'yun iwan niya ako ay 'yun ang di ko kakayahin. Also, natawagin akong homewrecker ay medyo masakit din, and sort of karma ay iniisip ko din.

So here I am, and trying to be strong and not to get involved at all. Trabaho lang naman ito.

Nakakalito ang kwento mo dahil sabi mo sa una ang magulang mo ay "legally separated" pagkatapos, sabi mo naman "annulled" ang kasal nila. Magkaiba ang "legal separation" sa "annulment." Sa "legal separation" mabisa pa rin ang kasal ng mag-asawa, yun nga lang pwede na silang mabuhay ng magkahiwalay (ibig sabihin kasal pa rin sila sa isa't-isa). Ang "annulment" naman pinapawalang-bisa ang kasal nila.

 

Pero dahil sabi mo na nagpakasal ulit ang iyong ama, aking ipagpapalagay na "annulment" ang nangyari sa kanila.

 

Kahit annulled na ang kasal ng inyong mga magulang, ama niyo pa rin siya kaya kayo ay kanya pa ring tagapagmana. Yun nga lang, dahil lumalabas na kayo ay mga anak sa labas (dahil hindi kasal ang magulang ninyo [napawalang-bisa ang kasal nila di ba]) kung ano ang matatanggap ng kanyang mga anak sa pangalawang asawa, kalahati lang nun ang matatanggap ninyo (doble ang matatanggap na halaga ng kanyang mga tunay na anak, 2 is to 1 baga).

 

May karapatan din kayong humingi ng suporta sa inyong ama, kahit kayo ay mga anak sa labas.

 

Kausapin niyo ang inyong ama tungkol sa sustento, baka sakali na siya ay pumayag, wala na kayong gagastusin.

 

Sa gastusin, ang malaking gastos talaga dito ay ang bayad sa abugado sakaling mapilitan kayong maghabla dahil ayaw kayong bigyan ng suporta ng inyong ama. Depende ito sa abugado, kaya di natin masabi kung magkano talaga.

TYVM for the reply.

I need badly a legal advice on our family problem. Here is the situation:

(1) My parents are legally separated. Annulled po ang kasal ng aming ama't ina. Dalawa po kaming magkakapatid, at kami po ay pinalaki ng aming ina at ng kanyang kinakasama, na siya naman pong aming kinilalang ama, at meron kaming dalawang kapatid sa ina.

(2) Pagkatapos po ng annullment, ang aming ama naman po ay nag-asawa at nagkaroon ng anak din po sa kanyang pangalawang asawa at may mga anak po sila.

Ang tanong ko po meron po ba kami ng aking kapatid na mamanahin sa aming ama? Kasi po mayaman ang pamilya ng aming ama at pinamanahan siya po ng aming lolo't lola ng mga lupain at iba't ibang ari-arian.

Ang sa akin po sana ay huwag na pong maghabol pero naaawa po ako sa aking nakakabantang kapatid dahil may kapansanan, at ang masakit po nito ay mula pong nagkahiwalay ang aming magulang ay wala po akong alam na kami'y sinuportahan ng aming ama. At hindi ko po alam kung nakasulat sa desisyon ng annulment na ang aming ama ay kailangang magbigay ng sustento.

Please help me, and I need legal advice on this. At saka po pala, magkano naman po ang magagastos po namin kung sakaling pwede po kaming maghabol.

Maraming salamat po.

I find this topic so interesting and educational, LoL. I'm still sleepless 'coz I tried reading almost all the posts which has called my attention and which I guess would somehow help me in the future if and when I fall in love with any one of them.

As of this time, maraming makukulit at ini-ignore ko lang sila 'coz I have my own priorities, nevertheless, I treat them nicely. Minsan nga nakakasilaw ang mga offers nila, but I keep focus at trabaho lang naman ito.

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