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bakit lugi? because you are investing your feelings. Love shouldn't be an investment waiting for a return.

Give it freely.

 

You are friends if you want to keep it there then just be friends. It's all up to you.

Minsan its not all up to you. She needs to reciprocate which is up to now hindi nangyayari.

Yeah I agree love should be given freely, but a relationship should be like tango ryt? It takes two?

Something is terribly wrong when you start viewing relationships like business. I don't think that you're really into her.

 

Hindi yata tama na isipin na dapat kayo na dahil single siya at single ka. Convenient para sa inyo na single kayo pareho pero that doesn't necessarily mean na dapat magcommit sya sa iyo.

 

Kaya mo bang maging rebound na relasyon kung ipipilit mo ang nararamdaman mo?

Iniisip ko lang kasi yung time and effort then. Why other men got what they want by spending time and effort and ako..well always back to the drawing boards palagi.

Well siguro nga ur ryt. I am not really into her. Maganda lang kasi nging samahan namin as friends and we start to build our own world tlga. Pero when you try to take it to the next level, wala tlga she doesn't respond that well although she's giving quite obvious signs normal to women. And the signs are to hard to ignore. Parang she's treating you as her boyfriend. Parang may commitment cya pero in principle di pala commitment yun (e.g. cancelling everything just for me, going out with me kahit alanganin, intro to parents, asikaso pag date, etc). Tapos when you start opening up, "ayyy friends lang tlga kayo". Iniisip ko na she misses her boyfriend so much na ako napagbubuntungan I just want to end it na ren pero she keeps on coming back. Our friendship is becoming a vicious cycle na ren. I tried to stay away...she comes back...then when i make some effort to show her i love her...then i propose...wala ren back to square one...then again and again..di ko tlga maintindihan! ang gulo!!! Di ko n alam san ako lalagay. I've always wanted her but I don't have the answers if she wants me in her life or not.

Rebound na relasyon? no prob saken kasi when you are getting into a second relationship, kahit gano kahaba ung lag time between your first and second partner, its still a rebound am i ryt? Its just called 'moving forward' ika nga. I don't feel to be second stringer lang kasi at least you have her di ba?

Salamat for your reply. :thumbsupsmiley:

I am 'dating' this girl right now who recently broked-up with her boyfriend for 8 years. We are friends for nearly 6 years already pero paputol-putol because nag-abroad ako. Now we are going out when I came back from abroad. I am in love with her already but she said na hindi cya available for commitment right now. Pero she likes my company at minsan cya tlga nagyaya..we both like food kaya we go to restaurants na minsan libre nya ko or libre ko cya...we go out as friends lang...

Question: Di ba lugi ako nito considering na may feelings ako sa kanya pero cya gusto nya friends lang kasi nga she's recovering from someone? Di ba dapat kami na kasi single pa cya at single ako? Nasaktan dn ang ego ko kasi 'mahina' ako. Should I say no or not ask her anymore the next time na yayain nya ko kasi nga we are not in the same page anymore? And I feel na parang unfair kasi di nya pinapansin ung efforts ko for her? Feeling ko nabasted na ko?

Salamat po..

good for you ckyfny. may be from the logical and practical point of view, its better not to see her na lang ulit. I am new in this kind of relationship and i think i learned a lesson. i think i am just a special client.. nahulog lang tlga ko sa kanya and buti na lang sinalo ko yung sarili ko kaagad before its too late. i think falling in love with these women really depends on your choice (based on my backreads).

mahirap makakuha ng GRO/MPA/PSP who love you not just for your money kaya you're lucky enough you had the one already.

i think guys should refrain from spending too much money on GRO/MPA/PSPs. Also, we should treat them professionally and with respect. being in love with them is not bad at all. it will all depend on you if you're willing to sacrifice your time and attention (not just your money). when you go outside iba talaga sila magtreat (not the bitchy type you encounter inside).

Well...Ms. H is my fantasy fulfilled for one month . She's better than my past girlfriends (even the attitude) and sayang she's worth introducing to my family and friends.

If ever she reads this...just want her to know that I still care for her kahit magkalayo na kami (actually i frequently see her in the aquarium..deadma lang )

THANKS GUYS AND MORE POWER TO MTC :mtc:

I know what you mean.

 

Ours started this way. When I figured and accepted the fact that I was falling for her already and somehow knew that she felt the same way, we talked about it and agreed that we'd get to know each other outside (and not in her workplace)

 

THERE WAS A REAL LINE FOR BOTH OF US.

 

We mutually agreed that that was the only way we could have a good foundation (if we really wanted to make it work out)

 

We go out on her off days. She'd also play hookey and spend time with me during weekends. I bring her to work and fetch her on a regular basis (as long as I'm able to catch up on my sleep). She does her share too- skipping rehearsals after work or getting there late cause she'd still wanna spend time with me. She'd always swing by whenever I visit her at work (enough so that the people at her work know me already but we'd always deny our status- cause we really wanna be discreet. On a need to know basis, specially with people in the club cause you really cant trust people there that much). I never spend that much at her club, she doesnt even want me to time her in. (LOL, all I'm getting is a baby beer belly. Damn, they really have the best chilled ones in town :thumbsupsmiley: )

 

Her family knows me cause I pick her up at her place and bring her home too. I also call her at home. We've gone out with her sister and met her Mom and Dad, though not that formally yet. Her friends outside her work knows me (needless to say, moreso her friends at work). My family knows her too, not as formal though. She knows my friends- she's gone out with us. Even just to chill at my friends place (even told my buds' girlfriends and some of my female friends our story- of course some are ok with it, some are not).

 

BTW, lemme just add this. Some of you might think that I'm stupid, naive, gullible, too idealistic or what-have-you... But we haven't had s*x.

 

Really funny thing is- I'm not rushing it. If it happens, it happens. I know this is whacked and all, but I'm just telling my story.

 

I'm not saying she's perfect. Heck, we're in the same boat. Just look at the circumstances on how we meet. Much the same way that she has her reasons for working there, I also have reasons why (I used to) frequent clubs. But what I wanna say is- I guess if both of you can change each other for the better. Then its good, really good.

 

I know this is gonna hurt big time if things dont work out. But so far so good. No regrets, I'm happy right now and I'll do my damn best to make it work.

Hey guys.

Just visited this thread and i should say that I can relate talaga and I am willing to share with you my story..

Nagsimula ang lahat sa isang massage parlor..first time ko tlga dito sa massage parlor na ito and it was really one hell of an experience!!! worth my money tlga. Naging habit na ren na magpunta ako dito sa mga lugar na to and have tried different women na ren..until i met Ms. H..(di tunay na pangalan). She was very pretty and very accommodating..madaling kausap saka makuwento ren. She's ilongga so very malimbing. I frequently visit her na tlga cuz she's one hell of a girl. Very sexy, pretty lahat na pare!!!great in bed and makes me cum to her mouth.. she'll do everything to please me...On the third visit ko nagpropose ako sa kanya and then naging kami na..We go out pag wala cyang work but we never make out sa labas. Well that was just for 3 weeks cguro pero kinukuha ko ren cya sa work nya. Imagine I spend going out with her and pag kinukuha ko sya sa massage parlor. I think i fell for her na tlga that I am willing na tlga to spend my life with her. She loves me daw and she will marry me someday..

I tried a little test..I asked her kung magiging boyfriend nya ko even though i don't frequent her massage parlor anymore..di cya makapagsalita..nagtampo pa..at di nya na ko tinetext..gusto ko kasi yung maseparate nya ko from her customers kasi boyfriend nya ko and not just one of her parokyanos..right there and then nakipagbreak ako sa kanya kasi feeling ko ginoyo lang nya ko..i fell in love with her pa naman and i accepted her even though ganun ang work nya. di lang nya tlga ko matanggap as a boyfriend..cyempre i have to respect myself then di ba? di pwede yung ganung relationship. parang naging special customer lang nya ko..i just used my mind. I learned that you have to know the girl well tlga and there should be acceptance from both of you.

Kahit ganun sila tao pa ren sila..pero sana kung tlgang mahal nyo ang isa't-isa...you have to set boundaries then..iba yung work sa personal life. di pwedeng sabay kasi magsusuffer kayong dalawa. dapat alam ng guy and girl yun. it's all about sacrifice and commitment....

What can you say guys and girls? Hope you can comment..thanks :thumbsupsmiley:

i think money or security doesn't matter if guys try date smarter and more sophisticated women. if ugly rich men try to lure them with money, women think they are being bought. Siguro its more of the attitude and how you carry yourself with confidence without any insecurity at all that matter. I don't agree why ugly guys are attractive because they are rich.

well may mga babae talaga na attracted sa guys who pursues them so much...but i think we guys should hold a bit kasi minsan nagiging source of boredom ung mga guys na sobrang magmahal. parang nasa mercy sya ng mga babae which is really really bad on the part of the guy. minsan some women take advantage of the situation. i think being attractive (either pogi ka o panget) is being dominant sometimes and not giving in to all the demands of women.

I don't know if everyone will agree with me but I think that being attracted is not something that can be logically inferred. It's beyond the realms of systematic thinking kasi sometimes women are attracted to men who knows how to handle himself well (kahit swanget pa cya). Or, even though the guy is ubod ng guapo or mayaman but lacks the confidence and doesn't feel comfortable with himself, still women will stay away with them.

I think the key for us guys (specially for ugly men like me) is we have to show women that we can handle things, we are comfortable with who we are, and we don't need to give heaven and earth to women just for their attention. Guys who are handsome kasi are confident kasi they can get women easily that's why lapitin sila. Ugly guys tend to be insecure with handsome guys sometimes and it really shows (my biggest mistake).