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curious lang dre. if na achieve goal niya, why did you say goodbye? in most of my experiences, hindi na achieve ang goal. any nanaig was yung ugali ng girl na sagarin ang pagbenta ng katawan niya while she can which forced me to bid fareewell.

 

 

Hi guys. i wasn't able to read the start of this discussion, but i have a very similar experience.

 

Ako naman fell for her while she's an MPA, dream niya lang maging transciptionist, she can work from home and earn a decent living. Pinag aral ko siya, short course lang naman..she finished and was able to find a good job naman. Drawback is like what you guys experienced, marami silang spare tire..since we can only see them once o twice a week and since sex for them is just really work and they have beocme good friends with some of their regulars before, marami silang natatawagan pag wala ka.

 

I thought i would be genuinely happy she finds a good job and then settles down for good and live a normal life..but i'm only human andun siempre ang jealousy...although i try to close my eyes to the fact na marami siyang ibang ka J...i still can't leave her..

 

I still see her once a week, although i still give her a token amount, the sex with her is as genuine to real lovemaking as you would ever find, lovemaking on the wild side..ha..she let me do things to her that i would never think of asking a wife or a gf, but having done those things to her , makes me care for and love her even more....it makes me feel cared for and loved...although may trabaho na siyang desente..part of me knows that she still sees other regulars for a quick buck, but parang natanggap ko na, na once they've sold their bodies for a living it's hard to get it out of their system, easy money, and the regulars that they go with are probably friends of theirs narin....i don't know, hirap isipin...

 

I feel jealous at times, angry at times..but still can't get enough of her and get to leave her...will I ever think of settling down with her, cause sometimes i think about her all the time, is it just the mindblowing sex? maybe, but we've been doing it for the past 7 years and i don't think i can ever stop having her on the side...even though alam ko there are several of us..

 

Hahaha..gulo ng comment ko..just wanted to vent and see or validate if what i experience or feel is similar to the experiences of others here...

you know bro, honestly speaking, i think she really loves you pero not whole heartedly, in a 100% quantity, i think it's on;y around 60-70% though to get to 100% you might need some major adjustments... kaya the question i ask you is.. do you really love her for you to leave your wife and be with her and vice versa?? di niyo ba kayang magsama sa iisang house?? you said you have been together for 4 years, that's a long time bro, that's the years me and my ex wife have been married and for me that is considered a lifetime,

 

it's really complex bro, ask yourself analytically, wag puso pairalin mo kundi utak, ask yourself if she truly loves you and if you do, then stick with your situation (you being with each other's partner) or make major adjustments like what i stated above...

 

i do hope i made some sense in your situation bro and best of luck!!

 

 

if she can leave her husband for you then, all your "fidelity" questions will be solved but

Thanks for the reply Master TWB, hindi ka lang pang sports pang pamilya pa. Haha. Thanks for the good advise. Actually when we started, 4 years ago, i asked her to be with me permanently, but in 5 years time, i wanted to take care of my kids first, she said it was too long a wait for her, but now that we've gone 4 years, i think part of us wants to be together, but another part also wants to take care of our respective children. For now we are contenting ourselves with this setup, although not ideal, at least we get to enjoy each others company once a week. Yun nga lang there are questions about each others motives for staying. Thanks for pointing out that we have been together for four years, matagal tagal na nga yun, para kasing ang bilis lang. If there was no Love for each other hindi nga kami tagal ng ganoon. Albeit not 100 percent each since we have our other responsibilities. It just so nice to dream of one day looking forward to coming home to her everyday.

 

I agree with TanglewoodBoy. Despite the four years of togetherness, all you can do is speculate. While it may be true you have genuine feelings for each other, you will also agree it is not total, and it can never be full in every sense. You will always be "part-time lovers."

 

How will long this will keep up? Only time will tell. The scenarios are as different as one can imagine: you get caught, she gets caught, she decides to leave and dump you, you doing the same, she gets sick, you likewise... etc., etc.

 

Living a double life can be enjoyable and challenging; but let's face it. There is always the burden, and the guilt embedded somewhere.

 

There's only one way to straighten things out. Make a decision. Either leave your wife for her (but the question is, is she ready to leave her husband for you?); or leave her and stick it out with your wife and family.

 

Until you are ready for such a step, you will never be at peace, and you will never be tranquil. Your happiness will never be complete, and you will always have so many unanswered question.

Thanks jgc813..indeed so many unanswered questions in my mind and probably her mind too. But as TWB pointed out, lasting 4 years means a lot. Maybe it's just human to wonder whether we are being true to each other or not.

 

How did you discover that her husband has a GF?

 

But it if she makes you happy , well that's all that matters

Thanks ricardo23...found out through fb, i did some stalking, her husband has not introduced her(my gf) to his friends, they are not even fb friends, and in his wall , his girlfriend comments all the time, it's his gf he has introduced to his friends as his significant other.

 

And she does, she makes me really really HAPPY, at first i though it was about sex, she is darn great, the passion she shows when we make love. Makes up for missing her the whole week. And i guess my feelings for her and how i feel when i'm with her is what matters :-)!

 

I say your still one lucky bastard bro. come to think of it, 6K is really nothing vs the cost of going to mp at 2x week.

i'd say your in a safe situation, let it flow as is & keep it discreet as you can. after all you get to have what you want

even at once a week. this also helps to keep your married life going. just imagine if she leave's her husband and then you

have to support her the whole package, house etc..then things get's more complicated.

no your not raking a psp, but only maintaining a kabit. you can test her out by runnign a drama story that your having financial

problem Z& you can't provide a month or two of an allowance. she how would she react & if her feelings would change. only then

you can measure if the whole 4 yrs was all about money.

Yes i am quite lucky, to have someone as pretty and good as her. When i just do the math i come out really ahead. But when i factor in the feelings..some insecurities come in, maybe i am just being human. I tried doing that before..didn't give her her allowance for 2 weeks( i give her weekly), ok naman, but after sometime, bumawi din, made some story na may nagkasakit na pinsan and she needed extra money, binigay ko rin yung hindi ko binigay for two weeks. I tend to agree with TWB that although she loves me, it's not 100 percent, maybe kasi kailangan din talaga money, kaya nga naging MPA in the first place, now she's earning ok as a Med Trans, but with the expenses now a days, kinakapos parin. And she needs the 6k to make ends meet. Kung iisipin mo nga mura na to maintain a partner, it's just that when i'm with her its heavenly..can't help but dream to be with her all the time.

Women to avoid?

1. Gold diggers..they are only after your money..once your out of it..they're out

 

2. Tease...we should avoid them like the plague..they are only narcissistic and want to validate if they are still attractive..but they will just toy with our feelings, why? because they are so insecure that they need constant validation..women like those carry excess baggage.

I am married in my early 40's and this is my story about how i fell for an MPA. I met her 4 years ago at an MP in Q. Ave. it was like at first sight, not yet love, the moment she entered the room i was enamored, she was the most beautiful MPA that i have ever seen. She was very tall and chinita and the conversation with her was not like with other MPA's, she was very educated. Then came the service..she was soo good..and from then on i was already crushing on her. Not yet in love, but i couldn't get her off my mind. From my first visit, i started visiting her twice a week..this was a lot considering that before her, i might have gone to an MP a total of 20 times my entire life...i kept coming twice a week for two months..and i knew that i had already fallen for her..i told her i loved her and after 2 weeks..she told me she loved me too. She told me she was separated and a single Mom. Her dream was to work as a Medical Transcriptionist, i financed her studies and gave her an allowance. Since we met at an MP i did not expect everything she had told me about her to be true...true enough things unraveled..that she was still married and living with her husband. At first i thought everything was a lie, and that all she wanted from me was money. Maybe in her case she's thinking that all i want from her is sex. But since i felt i really loved her, i overcame all the lies..we are still together after four years..however...her income as a Medical Transcriptionist is not enough, i still give her some support. By the way her husband also has a girlfriend and my girl and he still live with each other for the sake of convenience. We see each other once a week and i give her 6k a month.

 

Now my question is this..you think she would still see me if not for the support i give her?..if that's the case then this is just like a PSP scenario..like paying her 1.5k per session....although i would readily give that to her to help her, at the back of my mind. i still wonder if that's what she's only after. Of course 6k a month is a small amount, when she worked as an MPA, she took in 50 to 70k a month, but of course working as an MPA is quite dangerous and puts her health at risk. And when we make love it's so real..feels so real..she makes me very happy sexually and emotionally...we do things that only lovers in every sense of the word will do...however it's strictly a once a week affair, since she lives in her husband's house(although the husband also has a girlfriend she doesn't want to be caught because he might kick her out of the house).For me..i ask myself..is this just about sex?..our once a week session does wonders for me..it recharges me physically and emotionally. How long can we keep this up? And for her is this only about money or you think she has real feelings for me? Just wondering....

can i ask some advise or option about this kasi...

 

i meet this girl na nagwowork sa massage parlor sa Quezon ave ng time na yon tapos we hang out few months all a sudden tinanong niya ako kung gusto daw siya igarahe nalang siya...so sagot ko di ko kaya pero kung gusto mo i'll help you na magbago pero sa inyo ka magstay don tutulungan kita start a small business para sa future niya at ng mga anak niya( husband nag-abroad daw di nauwi 4 yrs na yata), ito ang one of worst part ng problem nalaman ko may cervix cancer siya maaaring nakuha o palala dahil sa line ng work niya dati, she been confined sa ospital due to much discharge of blood galing sa ovary niya siguro almost 2 months siya don, di ako makapunta pero i send some financial help, start ng problem dumating sa point nalaman ng wife ko about kanya, sa family niya even sa relatives niya kung ano work niya at tungkol sa amin na at may communication pa kami dahil don. ang worst part lahat ng financial at moral support galing sa family at relatives niya nawala na lahat... so meaning wala siya ibang aasahan iba maliban sa akin and some help from co-mpa's niya, she begging me ilabas daw ng ospital, ginawan ko ng paraan para ilabas don at ihanap ng boarding house to stay herein at province i dont realized na ang medication niya ay continues pa up to now which is medyo mabigat din... to cut story short di ko alm kung inlove ba ang tawag don or nagpakatanga lang... sa ganon na set-up kasi married din ako...even my friends and my wife ask me WHY? ang question na hanggang ngayon di alam kung bakit patuloy parin ako it's LOVE ba talaga or AWA kasi alam ko wala ibang malalapitan or will help...

 

I think it's both Love and having a sense or responsibility and decency. You became good friends and you were intimate with each other. Now in her time of need, a decent guy like you will not abandon somebody like her. It's in our makeup us Filipinos, the bayanihan spirit, the sticking with someone, specially in hard times. As i read your post, looks like your marriage is not yet in jeopardy...since there is no talk of your wife leaving you and she is only asking why (correct me if i'm wrong). If the strain it is putting will probably cost you your family, then give up, but if not. Do the right thing and try to help as much as you can, of course without also adversely affecting the needs of your family. Give what you can give that's comfortable and within your means, both financially and emotionally. Good luck Bro.