Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[Iceman7]

1 hour ago, courtesanhunter said:

i have been in almost the same kind of situation before. in my case i never asked for the service since the lady already retired. but after continuously borrowing money from me she then offered me her service and told me she was back in the business. but the brutal reality is that a lot of women are good in pretending. they will tell what you wish to hear so that they can get what they want from you. i was even threatened about sextortion despite her being the one who offered me her services.

so my suggestion is just look for service providers who are not asking for extras. and don't spoil them by voluntarily giving them such. there are ladies who already go with the complete package of services. but if you are referring to raw intercourse? then better not practice that inside the industry because that won't be good for the entire community.

 

I been seeing her for about a year and this is the first time she has ask me for money. I do have PTSD from the past theras when if comes to finances and I will always remember the incident with the Thera and GM who gave her money because she said her mom was sick and she ended up using that money to take her baby daddy to Boracay instead. So I am quite hesitant. 

But I look at it this way if she does not pay me back she will end up losing money in the long run and I already have my eye on a different thera at her location so I will see what she decides to do.

[SDMNXIX]

I also give small gifts and sometimes bring food for the special ones. It doesn't always bring additional benefits but thats not the main reason nmn why I give them. Talagang appreciation ko yun sa kanila kse I was really happy with the time I spent with them.

Luckily, I have never encountered getting asked for money by any of them. Mejo turn off na yun if that happened and I would think twice getting that thera again in the future.

Idk how much she asked from you but if it was a significant amount, I dont think youre gonna get it back. I hope I'm wrong tho and it works out well for you.

[Iceman7]

6 hours ago, handsomebob said:

I do think you have to keep your distance to her bro and when you are going on a self improvement journey, hindi mo na kailangan to spend an extra more just to get your high mileage if you become desirable enough to the opposite sex (ex: geting fit, putting on nice clothes, smelling good etc..) you will get the mileage that you want IN MOST CASES kasi hindi naman lahat ng thera nadadaan sa ganyan but mostly in my experience mga 8/10....

mahirap kasi sa situation mo, clearly there will be some time na ma compromise ka but my best advice is MAKE KNOWN YOUR ABSENCE!!

 

Thanks for the advice bro, she actually contacts me to come visit her and gets jealous when the other theras try to flirt with me. But you are right. I do go to the gym and even though I don't have a Brad Pitt body its better then being obese 

Edited June 15, 2023 by Iceman7

[MartinAvedis3]

On 6/14/2023 at 11:56 AM, Iceman7 said:

I no longer participate in the vicious cycle but in order to obtain higher mileage with my regulars I still do buy them food and take them out and give them small gifts.

The only problem with that is once they get comfy with your relationship I will get that text late at night asking for financial assistance.

Of course I would like to deny their request but worried that I would lost my high mileage status as well.

If any other GMs has been in this situation I would like feedback on how to deal with Theras that ask for financial assistance while still keeping your high mileage without providing any.

Depende sa Girl and situation. We all knew most escort girls/Theras..they’re just doing it to sustain their families or some of them breadwinners. Prostituion is an easy money for them, May kilala ako dati sa bank nagwwork, accounting  graduate, pinasok na din ang pag escort. x4-x5 nakukua niya pera monthly compare being a bank teller. Most escort girls also looking for “love” and serious relationships. So if pag ang GM and escort girl nagkagustuhan..make sure not just by loving them..also part of it to sustain their financial needs if you pull them out from their work. Advantage pag ang GM may pera talaga, katulad sa dalwa ko kaibigan, parehas sila nagkagusto sa dating escort girls, successful naman relationship, binigyan ng business (instead of giving them to fish..teach them how to fish) And yun isa still sustaining monthly.

Note: 2 of my friends are earning 6-7 digits a month sa mga trabaho nila, and sometime 8 digits. So the reason they could sustain. 

[Iceman7]

2 minutes ago, SDMNXIX said:

I also give small gifts and sometimes bring food for the special ones. It doesn't always bring additional benefits but thats not the main reason nmn why I give them. Talagang appreciation ko yun sa kanila kse I was really happy with the time I spent with them.

Luckily, I have never encountered getting asked for money by any of them. Mejo turn off na yun if that happened and I would think twice getting that thera again in the future.

Idk how much she asked from you but if it was a significant amount, I dont think youre gonna get it back. I hope I'm wrong tho and it works out well for you.

When I mean higher mileage lets say when you met a thera for the first time and her don'ts are no bbbj or cim kissing nip suck etc. I also look at this as a challenge or obstacle to overcome. But handsome bob is correct if you are gwapo it will happen without gifts

[handsomebob]

6 hours ago, Iceman7 said:

Thanks for the advice bro, she actually contacts me to come visit her and gets jealous when the other theras try to flirt with me. But you are right. I do go to the gym and even though I don't have a Brad Pitt body its better then being obese 

ahh make her jealous bro and see how she reacts ahahaha

[Iceman7]

1 hour ago, handsomebob said:

ahh make her jealous bro and see how she reacts ahahaha

I have done that in the past haha some theras don't like sharing their regulars with their co-workers hehe

[plug]

11 hours ago, MartinAvedis3 said:

 So if pag ang GM and escort girl nagkagustuhan..make sure not just by loving them..also part of it to sustain their financial needs if you pull them out from their work. Advantage pag ang GM may pera talaga, katulad sa dalwa ko kaibigan, parehas sila nagkagusto sa dating escort girls, successful naman relationship, binigyan ng business (instead of giving them to fish..teach them how to fish) And yun isa still sustaining monthly.

 

This is true at magiging responsibilidad mo siya. Preparing her para maging financially independent would be the best solution para doon na lang siya aasa sa sex from you.

On 6/14/2023 at 11:56 AM, Iceman7 said:

I no longer participate in the vicious cycle but in order to obtain higher mileage with my regulars I still do buy them food and take them out and give them small gifts.

The only problem with that is once they get comfy with your relationship I will get that text late at night asking for financial assistance.

Of course I would like to deny their request but worried that I would lost my high mileage status as well.

If any other GMs has been in this situation I would like feedback on how to deal with Theras that ask for financial assistance while still keeping your high mileage without providing any.

Kung di ka na comfortable at di tugma sa gusto mo mas mabuti tanggihan mo at iwasan mo na siya. Tuloy lang sa bisyo para naman sa iba. Kasi kailangan firm ka rin.

Minsan tinanggihan ko ang hiling dahil sa takot ko sa covid noong kasagsagan ng pandemic. Tinapat ko siya at medyo masakit ata nasabi ko para lang hindi mangulit. Mas mahal ko ang aking sarili. 

Pero hanggang ngayon magkarelasyon pa rin kami dahil kailangan ko ang katulad niya. She also serves as pang comparison ko pag kukuha ako ng ibang babae o thera. She is a former thera and I normally call her my regular. 

[juliushandle]

Mahirap ito.

[bosorero]

On 6/13/2023 at 3:05 PM, Diamond of Touch said:

I feel bad,

 

Mahirap for him 

 

But di ko kayang iwan Yung industry na toh sa ngayon

Hnd sa marahil eh naging comfort zone ko na hnd eh, hanggat kaya ko magwork sa industry magwowork at magwowork ako ipon dito ipon doon. Dati I tried na umalis Sabi ko pa sa sarili ko di na ko babalik hahah TAs after ilang yrs bumalik ulit ako nah haha  AYoko na Makita Yung sarili ko na babalik ulit TAs kakainin ko ulit Yung sinabi ko,😆 basta mahirap na magsalita Ng tapos  Wala lang gusto ko pag umalis ako, Yung tipong may mas maayos na reason Yung alam ko sa sarili ko na iiwan ko na yung industry.

Nagawa ko na Yun before eh AYoko na isugal ulit HAHAHAH 

Ang hirap talaga hanapin sa labas yung kinikita nyo sa spa

Edited June 20, 2023 by bosorero

[bosorero]

Tanong lang sa mga GM, d nyo ba naisip na manghunting na lang ng saleslady na pwedeng igarahe kesa thera para hindi masyadong hustler at mas lower ang maintenance. Not to mention lower mileage?

[LordVhin]

22 minutes ago, bosorero said:

Tanong lang sa mga GM, d nyo ba naisip na manghunting na lang ng saleslady na pwedeng igarahe kesa thera para hindi masyadong hustler at mas lower ang maintenance. Not to mention lower mileage?

ikaw ah falling for a saleslady ang gusto mo.

[WhosThere]

14 minutes ago, LordVhin said:

ikaw ah falling for a saleslady ang gusto mo.

Nagawa ko na yang makapagkilala right after college sa isang maliit na boutique store.

Magkaibigan pa din kami now 20 years later.

[handsomebob]

2 hours ago, bosorero said:

Tanong lang sa mga GM, d nyo ba naisip na manghunting na lang ng saleslady na pwedeng igarahe kesa thera para hindi masyadong hustler at mas lower ang maintenance. Not to mention lower mileage?

I did this a few months ago IDOL, i met a lady who works sa PENSHOPPE ( I will never say what branch) and the attraction was there, tamad lang din ako mangumusta and visit her but the biggest problem was MUSLIM siya and CATHOLIC ako and also I was previously married kaya di ko kasi alam customs and traditions ng mga MUSLIM kaya I decided to back off, tamang tama naman nag reconcile kami ng "TRUE" wife ko haha not the LEGAL one FYI...

mabait sya around 24-27, 5'3-5'4, morena, slim,

actually madaming naghahanap ng BF yata sa mga kasama niya, LOL

[Diamond of Touch]

2 hours ago, bosorero said:

Ang hirap talaga hanapin sa labas yung kinikita nyo sa spa

Totoo nman unless kaya mo mag business na magboboom agad but syempree di rin madali kelangan mong makontento sa kinikita nito at maghintay.

Sugal talaga kung hihinto ka ang laking adjustment pag dating sa ilang bagay.Sabayan pa ng mga regular clients mo na maghahanap sayo and mga friends mo na hahatakin ka like Ayan na naman si accla nag iisip na naman magmanila 😆HAhahahaha!!

Haha been there,done that 🥴