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2 hours ago, Janine of Beppu said:

Thank you ❤️

Sa lahat ng GM's Dyan di lahat ng thera Pera lang habol sa Inyo may mga thera din Po like me na kaya iwan lahat para sainyo na kaya mag Bago. -sheena 

 

 

It’s sad that your story doesn’t have a happy ending.. yet. Some of us can share even sadder stories, but it’s not about any of us.

All i can say is that there’s an invisible hand working mysteriously among all of us in this strange place. So don’t despair- rather, celebrate the kind of love you can offer to somebody that you can give up so much for something so uncertain.

Someday, at a time you may not expect, that invisible hand will guide someone to you- one truly deserving of the kind of love you offer.

I wish you well. 

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I had experienced dating a therapist who was new on the job and never really wanted to work in the first place, but was persuaded by her friends and wanted some extra money.

 

She was young and was about to graduate from college, I didn't pick her, she was called to service me at random, and when our eyes met, I instantly knew she had a thing for me. After abit of lackluster massage but very engaging conversation, I just went for a kiss, she was taken aback but slowly eased into it and kissed back.

 

We dated a couple more times and no need to explain what went on afterwards. I learned she worked as a casino dealer as well and was scheduled to leave for Laos to work there as an online casino dealer. She told me she didn't expect to really like me and initially only agreed to dating me just as a souvenir when leaving.

 

We video called almost everytime when she was on break and I was off work. I was beginning to really like her for real and not just out of lust. Then I learned she had a boyfriend she was still together with, the guy was.... I should say not the type who gets a lot of girls, was short, dark, and looked nerdy (Guess thats why she was more attracted to me lol). Anyway, I felt bad and told her I didn't like that she was with someone who had done nothing wrong to her. She said she was gonna break up with him soon anyway, still I chose to call it off with her. 

Though I didn't expect her reaction afterwards, she blocked me on social media, blocked me on messaging apps and didn't want to talk to me again..

From time to time I still stalk her account on social media but her account progressively became more private until you can no longer see anything inside without being friends with her (she can only send  you a request but you cant request her). Wonder how she is now, that was probably 4 years ago.

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On 11/10/2021 at 4:30 AM, Grifter09 said:

Minsan kasi nkkdala kpg close n kau ng fav mo thera, minsan nga ngdala pa ko cake sa knya nun Bday nya, palagi ko pa sya dti pumunta sa work place nila, kaso nun lately hindi na pumapasok &  nalaman ko sa friend nya myroon na sya iba.. 🤔😪

Wag po madala at work lang din nila yun na sumaya at gumaan loob ni client. Unless nakilala mo ng totoo outside of work yung tunay nyang pagkatao. May buhay sila outside of work kaya ingat lang din po para di ma disapppint at malungkot. 

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Naalala ko naman yung nging gf ko sa Goodlife dati. Haha. Instant attraction yun and proud to say sya lng talaga at wala kasabayan.

Mahirap nga lng mafall sa thera kasi you know their job and earning from it is necessary. She did go back to school kaso di tinuloy din. Masakit yung breakup kasi thru txt lng. 

Last I heard, nakapangasawa ng lawyer. Very happy with her new life. Genuine happiness.

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it happen to me .. i got this thera a jolly thera..  every session is kulitan  i enjoy that , she have a police bf that time . well i don't care.   then i found myself longing for her, she transferred to different spa I followed her wherever she go. I really enjoy every moment with her. un na yun.. hahaha falling in love  not really  I   just enjoying the moment with her. bitin noh  

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A lot of interesting experiences on this thread. The first time that this was introduced to me, ang naisip ko agad, for sure meron mga GMs na madali ma-fafall sa mga thera. Especially the girlfriend vibes that you get to experienced with them.

At the end of the day, its probably safe kung iisipin mo na hindi lang sila sayo ganun. Other guys will also have the 'special' treatment that you have experienced with them. So hindi ka ma-aattached emotionally sa thera and sa experience.

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I have my fair share of this thing...falling in love with my thera.  During that time she  quit  being  a thera and instead take on the job of being a Recep sabi niya for me daw yon. Perhaps it was true but perhaps it was not.  Talaga naman nakakataba ng puso ...its masarap isipin na she is doing it for me. Eventually like someone said its like being in a two different world. The relationship lasted for more than two years.

Now I have a thera na nkaka inlab talaga. Sana wag naman akong ma fall completely...

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On 11/17/2021 at 10:16 AM, francis019 said:

fellow gm's tanong lang? do you think it's practical to be in love with a thera? sa mga nag try mahirap ba?

Like lahat ng relationship.. Ndi madali pero ndi impossible.. Adjustment both sides.. Everyone has fault nmn.. Case to case basis.. 

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Not my story, but a friend's who was also a GM here. I think it should be safe to post because he no longer visits MTC. And even then, at some point this post should get buried far enough that he won't find it anymore if he does come back.

So he fell in love with a thera. Not sure if the feelings were reciprocated, but I'd like to believe so for his sake. However, there was never any labels between them as far as I'm aware. I asked him why he never tried to cement the relationship with labels, and he said that she had a GM who became her ex before and things got really messy for her, so he relented in order to not cause her trouble.

My friend would go the spa at 7 or 8 in the mornings and stay til past noon. He told me that at some point, they barely had sex anymore. Just breakfast/lunch, kissing, cuddling, and kwento. He would pay the entrance once, was never asked for fees to extend. He had to insist that the thera take his money to make sure she was earning and could go through with her plan on leaving the spa industry to continue her studies, but there were times she absolutely declined. Here, I'm making the assumption that the thera was using the money she took to pay for the time extensions every now and then, but I'll never know for sure. At the very least, he's told me that he was friendly with the other theras at the spas even if he never got them before. So they might have been cutting them some slack. Who knows?

What I am sure of is that she did things for him that she doesn't do for other GMs. I should know, I got her a bunch of times before I found out that my buddy held a flame for her. He knows and was really bummed out to find out that a friend had been with her, but found comfort in finding out that she at least treated him differently. She had a lot of restrictions, and despite my persistence, she never did those things with me (ie. kissing, bjs, meeting outside, etc.). FRs were also consistent with other GMs saying that she has a lot of restrictions that they respect - but all of those restrictions didn't seem to apply to him.

Honestly, wanted to tell him that love between a thera and GM was going to be hard considering their history, but I had never seen him so driven before. He worked on himself and focused on his job, because he wanted to be able to support her if she decided to leave the industry. This was because she was also supporting a basketball team's starting lineup worth of siblings. He told me he almost developed feelings for other theras before, but supporting their families deterred him from pursuing them, but not for this one. He basically doubled his salary and halved his workload in two years. I've known this guy for over a decade. Roughly 6 years ago he tried to kill himself and was basically a broken shell of a man. At the point of being with this thera, you'd never guess he was the same guy.

He wanted to help her out, but she would decline financial assistance. Back then he was looking and crowdsourcing for scholarships, ways to turn work experience into academic credits for degrees or certificates courses, or job opportunities for someone without a college degree but would provide assistance for those that want to pursue one. Basically, he was looking for ways she could improve her life by her own effort once she stops working in spas - and not only for her, I think. If I remember it right he was also looking for opportunities for her siblings. There was no established plan, but he had looked for options to lay out for her to choose. At that point, raids started becoming a common occurrence and he kept telling her to go home early to avoid them. She got lucky once because she agreed to go home early one day, and the spa she reported to got raided that night.

At some point, he was really pushing for her to quit the industry for her safety, but she didn't want to talk about these things because she still needed to work, so she moved to a different spa. Unfortunately for her, she got caught up in one of the raids later on. The experience traumatized her and she wanted nothing to do with the spa industry anymore, which included my friend. He begged her to give him a chance, but he told me that she said that she wanted to forget everything about this past of hers.

I tried contacting her via her MTC accounts and thera Viber, but I was left on seen. She at least still responded to my friend when he messaged her on her main number. He doesn't have her socials because he was respecting the GM-thera boundary he laid out before. Which was kind of dumb for him to do if he really wanted to pursue this girl.

Last thing my friend found out is that she continued her studies, no longer lives in her old apartment since she went back to her province, and got a boyfriend through Tinder. He's happy to know she was doing better but the last bit of info basically destroyed him and now he is a husk of his former self.

Honestly think that my friend dodged a bullet there. Theras can be lovable people, but they come with a lot of baggage and if a GM falls for one, he has to be prepared for a whole lot of pain to be with her. For this particular thera though, I wonder if she just missed out on a guy that really truly loved her despite her past and flaws, and worked hard to be a better man for her, because I can't help but think that her current boyfriend has no idea what she did for a living prior to them becoming an item. Will this be something that she'll hide for the rest of her life? Why do that when you already have someone who accepts you, warts and all?

I just don't understand these two making it harder for themselves. But that's the story. Just thought to post it now because my friend and I were part of the entourage at a wedding recently, and he got drunk (he doesn't drink) and told me this story again being the only friend he knows who is also an MTC GM. Sad shit seeing him like that.

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Para sakin kung ikaw therapist servicese nalang muna at future at family, kung ikaw clients pay money servicese nalang muna wgna mgpa asa na mahal musya kung complicated or my family at laluna kung wala pa na pundar sa isat isa, dahil ang isang relationship pg ito pasukin mo kailangan handa kana para hindi kayo mahirapan sa isat isa. Mahirap yung uunahin ang feelings at Love din walang makakain ,wala pera walang work maayus at hindi nakapgpundar sa isat isa ang babae babalik parin yn sa spa para kumita ng pera para sa araw araw gastusin sa family, kung ito hindi nyo napaghandaan ang kinabukasan sa isat isa para sa family.

good reason about clients and therah..

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Here's some guide questions for you before considering falling inlove with your therapist.

Work

  • Does she want to stop or does she want to keep working?
  • If she keeps working have you two talked about the difference between work and private life? Do you understand this? Are you okay with this?
  • If youre not okay with this, are you willing to keep working on it until you are? How is the communication between you?
  • If she stops working and you are the only income, you will you both deal with that? How will you stop money problems from coming between you? Will you resent her for not working because it puts more pressure on you?

Family

  • Do you plan to tell your parents? Do you want to keep it a secret? Are you willing to let her decide what is or isn’t shared? How does she feel if you don’t want to tell you family?
  • What if your family disowns you? Will you resent her? Will you stand by her?
  • Do you both want the same things in life like children?
  • What if your friends make fun of her or disown you? What if they speak bad of you? Will you stand up for her or just play it down?

Relationship

  • How well do you both communicate?
  • Will age be a problem in having children later if you want them?
  • Do you want a relationship for now or is this the woman you plan to marry?
  • What does she know about you? What do you know about her?

 

If you have a good relationship you may want to discuss these things and work it out together. This a start to help you both work out what you want from the relationship.

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On 11/12/2021 at 6:10 PM, Retirong Manyakis said:

agree.. hanap ka nalang bago, theyll always be someone younger and fresher and better looking..

Ganyan naman usually ang plan...but biglan meron kang nakuhang thera na super click kau...b4 u know it, pabalik balik kna sa same thera...until eventually u fall...Lol

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I was eyeing a thera before, but sked cant seem to match. I tried the next thera i like.  Afyer that 1st session, i always find myself always going back to her even  if the original thera that i like was available. Then napapansin kong dumadalas n than usual ang pagbisita ko. We also chat paminsan minsan.  Minsan hinahatid ko sa house. Parang tingin ko iba n yung nararamdaman ko.

Nag try ako n hindi n muna bumalik s spa for 4 months. Medyo nakalimutan ko n ying feelings. Then i got her services again. Ok nman n ko. Tried different theras na din. Yun din sabi nya sa skin, try daw ako ng iba nman. So i did.  But after 3 theras, bumslik ako ulit s kanya. Kala ko ok n ko. Pero after that 1 session, parang bumalik ulit lahat.  Tapos ayoko n basahin mga frs sa kanya. Para n kong nagseselos.

Just sharig this story. Currently trying to get rid of the feelings  even if i get her services still. 

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