Men with good hearts and good intentions and rich and above normal social skills are already taken the moment they step out of school or reach adulthood. It's just the way nature works. Imagine an unripe mango on a tree. Even before this mango ripens bats and other fruit eating insects... you get the idea. Some species will have different tolerance to what is acceptable as ripe. And some individuals within the same specie will even have different tolerance, depending on how hungry... my point is TIME. Do not wait for the mango to ripen.
We should learn to identify potential. Pick a big healthy tree in the sunlight, away from pollution, near a water source, in a good farm... you get the idea. Pick a big green mango on a strong branch, not a small deformed mango, inspect the skin, inspect the previous years harvest, inspect the history of the farm, history of the mango... inspect everything... you get my point.
Where not to look for Christian Grey: In cheap bars, In cheap car shows, In churches... basically in places where it's easily accessible. The internet has good spots too. Let me share my personal experience. Many years ago I played an online game called World of Warcraft. I met lots of young people. Fast forward to 15 years and these people are now possible husbands with jobs in the USA. Playing World of Warcraft is not cheap. You have to pay for game time and you have to have a certain level of social skill to move up in ranks and be accepted in the virtual social circles online. Now here is where my post offends. Compare World of Warcraft to Mobile Legends. The game played by every Tom Dick and Harry for free. We will not find Christian Grey even if we searched for a lifetime. We will not see a Bill Gates. No Richard Branson, no Steve Jobs, no Jeff Bezos, no Prince of Dubai. These people DID NOT play Mobile Legends. Notice I used the past tense "Did Not", TIME is the essence.
So when you're interviewing the boys playing with your daughters ask them what game they play. :-)