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Posted 06 October 2015 - 12:16 PM

A general discussion about bullying. I am just glad na these days kasi medyo me awareness at measures na ginagawa ang mga schools natin ngayon. Nung kapanahunan ko kasi there wasn't even a definition of "bullying" in the student handbooks.

 

 

 


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Posted 06 October 2015 - 01:12 PM

This is good.  ang hirap pumasok sa school kung may nag bubully sa iyo.  Naranasan ko ito nuong grade 5 ako. 



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Posted 06 October 2015 - 02:13 PM

I have a couple of stories to tell about bullying.

 

Nung bata kasi ako, payat na payat ako at sakitin pa talaga. Plus it didn't help that I come from a mixed heritage. I pretty much stuck out like a sore-thumb, and usually guys like me are red meat to the dogs. The dogs I am referring to are these really big dudes who can always use their size to impose on you anything.

 

Ang masama noon, the school didn't take the issue of bullying seriously. Parang wala lang sa kanila. Hindi noon naiintindihan ng eskwelahan natin na serious problem sya sa mga estudyante. Kasi papano ka gaganahan pumasok sa eskwela at magaral kung binubugbug ka lagi, o kaya naman tinutukso ka. Sakin nga mas ok na yung batukbatukan ka. At least yun saglit lang wala na sakit. Pero kung name-calling ginagawa lalo pa at araw araw, nakakadurog talaga yun ng self-esteem. Minsan ayaw mo na pumasok, ayaw mo na magaral.

 

In my teenage years, lahat na ata ng klase ng bully naranasan ko na. Hindi nga lang lalake ang laging bully. Minsan babae din lol. Anyway lets discuss dito



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Posted 06 October 2015 - 02:36 PM

The Alpha Dog

 

I'd like to share this story about one of the most unforgettable bullies I encountered in Highschool. Hindi lang naman ako pinahirapan nya kundi buong block actually. To be fair, he wasn't that much of an assh*le. He had this tender and funny side naman. Ang problema, talagang type-A personality sya. His main asset was his size. He was physically a big guy. Bigger than the students, bigger than the teachers, and even bigger than the security guard. Because of that no one could physically challenge him. So he could impose himself on anything. Pag binara ka halimbawa, huwag ka na kumontra kasi malaki sya. He was a jock too. Captain of the basketball varsity. And the only thing that was bigger than his size was his ego. Palibhasa anak ng kagawad sa lugar namin. Kaya medyo maere. Mahilig din yan tumakbo sa mga student council, kahit nga palpak lagi performance nya.

 

So my highschool noon was a low-end private school where mostly lower middle class pababa mga students. At kahit 3rd year pa lang, ala pa lisensya, lagi yan nakamotor o dala wheels ng erpat nya. He treated everyone na mas mababa sa kanya. Kundi nya binabatukan o sinasaktan physically, minsan binabato nya ng barya, at tinatawag ng kung ano anong names. Isa na ako sa mga ginawan nya ng ganyan. Noong graduation na, lagi sya sinasabi magiging abugado sya, kasi pulitiko tatay nya. Na parang sya ata magiging pinakasuccessful sa batch namin. Magaling magsalita talaga kasi.

 

YEARS LATER

 

Hindi naman sya naging abugado. Nagpulis. Pero dahil sa reklamo nasisante sya sa serbisyo. Yung tatay nyang pulitko bigla na lang nawala. Ang suspetsa me nakaaway sa pulitika, pinadampot, tapos ayun di na nahanap. So naghirap pamilya nila. Pinagkakakitaan na lang yung pagpapasada nung isa nilang tricycle.

 

Yung physics teacher ko ng HS, naging kaibigan ko. Nitong huli nagkwento sakin si maam tungkol sa taong ito. Na minsan nagkita sila sa grocery at inuutangan nya si Maam kasi nakagat daw ng aso anak nya. Si Maam wala naman daw kasi pera. So sabi nitong taong ito kay maam, ihahatid daw nya sa motor nya si maam. Para pagdating sa bahay ni Maam makakuha ng pera para sa kanya. Eh di tumanggi syempre si Maam. At ayun sinundan hangang sa bahay ng taong ito.

 

Nitong huli nakita ko pa ang FB ng lalakeng ito. Hindi ata tinignan mabuti yung privacy settings. Kitang kita dun na inaaway at nilalait lait sya ng mga kamaganak nya. Sa kanya pa sinisisi nangyari ata sa erpat nya. Ewan. Basta ang isang malinaw, hindi naging successful ang taon ito, at ngayon sya itong kaawa awa.

 

Ako as a human being, syempre I feel sorry for him. Naawa din ako. Pero a part of me also sees this as poetic justice. He was one big dude who made others around him feel small. Ngayon sya tuloy yung napakaliit. I mean I have batchmates na hindi successful, pero hindi maliit tingin ko sa kanila.



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Posted 06 October 2015 - 02:51 PM

ANg problema pa nuon, if magsumbong ka,  tatawagin kang Choo Choo. kaya eto ginagawa ko sa nagbubully sa akin pag recess, binuksan ko bag niya at binuhusan ko ng elmers glue.  kaya nuong Araling panlipunan na sabi ng titser ko " Class open your books to page 85" hahaha pag kuha niya sa libro umiyak siya sa inis.  di niya alam kung sino sisisihin niya kasi maraming galit sa kaniya buwahahahaha



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Posted 07 October 2015 - 08:36 AM

i have a 1st hand experience with this one. halos buong buhay estudiante ko, simula grade school hanggang HS. pagpayatot ka tapos nagsasalamin ka pa, ikaw yung talagang madalas na pagtripan. mahirap kasi sa ganto pag alam nila na hindi ka lalaban. paglumaban ka naman ikaw pa yung isusumbong na ng aaway. 


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Posted 07 October 2015 - 10:21 AM

ANg problema pa nuon, if magsumbong ka,  tatawagin kang Choo Choo. kaya eto ginagawa ko sa nagbubully sa akin pag recess, binuksan ko bag niya at binuhusan ko ng elmers glue.  kaya nuong Araling panlipunan na sabi ng titser ko " Class open your books to page 85" hahaha pag kuha niya sa libro umiyak siya sa inis.  di niya alam kung sino sisisihin niya kasi maraming galit sa kaniya buwahahahaha

 

i have a 1st hand experience with this one. halos buong buhay estudiante ko, simula grade school hanggang HS. pagpayatot ka tapos nagsasalamin ka pa, ikaw yung talagang madalas na pagtripan. mahirap kasi sa ganto pag alam nila na hindi ka lalaban. paglumaban ka naman ikaw pa yung isusumbong na ng aaway. 

 

I feel you guys. Tayo talagang mga sakitin, payat, maliit, madali paginitan. Ako it was particularly tough because I come from a mixed heritage. Di kasi Pilipino tatay ko. At dahil dun kung ano anong stigma binibigay sayo. Sabi ko nga, racist sa totoo lang ang Pinoy. Di lang yun, dahil nanay ko lang nakikita nila, syempre kung ano anong sinasabi. Pati nga nung teachers. As if kilala nila kami. Ako di bale na batukbatukan eh. Pero yung araw araw you are labeled by a "name" or nasty stigma, mahirap yun. Mabigat sa loob pumasok at magaral. Mahirap magconcentrate knowing your self-esteem is being challenged.

 

Tama kayo, back in the days, minsan walang nangyayari pag nagsusumbong ka. Minsan backfire pa yan. Sasabihan ka pa na duwag at sipsip. And bwebweltahan ka pa. Teachers were not helpful most of the time. Akala nila simpleng away bata lang ito. Hindi nila alam, sobrang natrautrauma ka na dahil sa bullying na ginagawa sayo.

 

I am glad these days, nagkakaroon tayo ng mga awareness campaign about bullying. Dapat talaga itigil ito. Schools are supposed to teach good manners and right conduct. Kung hinahayaan nila mga bata na ganyan mangbully, ano sila magiging paglaki. Teachers and the school should really protect children from bullies. Masama pa nyan, you get fed up, at labanan mo na finally, magkakasakitan pa kayo.



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Posted 07 October 2015 - 10:35 AM

The Prom Queen

 

You know this type of bully. Every school has one. She is the prettiest girl in the block. She is the most popular. Everybody has a crush on her. Lagi syang pangbato sa mga beauty contest. Everybody treats her like a queen. Pila din ang manliligaw nya. Laging di nawawalan ng boyfriend. Everybody wants to be associated with her.

 

Of course her bullying was not physical. It was more of akala nya mas mabango t** nya. She makes others around her feel ugly kasi maitim, mataba, etc. Mahilig din maguutos ng kaklase nya na parang lahat katulong nya. Alam ko yung isa naming kaklase ang hilig hilig nyang tawagin na "bulldog" daw. Minsan napaiyak nya pa. Hirap sa babaeng yan kasi feeling nya lahat atat na atat syotain sya.

 

YEARS LATER

 

Ayun right after graduation nasarapan sa etits, nag-asawa, 3 sunod sunod na anak... and now she is fat and ugly! Like sobrang losyang losyang na. Dati sexy sya, ngayon lalaki na ng pata at braso. And she looks waaaaay older than her actual age. Malayong malayo sa Prom Queen na itsura nya dati. Ni hindi papasa as MILF.

 

I guess hindi ko naman din gusto siraan masyado yung tao as much as she was really one royal b!tch. The petals will wilt on all of us. But I guess it goes to show that things do change. The morale is, no matter how good you look do not make others around you feel ugly.  Because you never know how soon you will be ugly too



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Posted 07 October 2015 - 10:56 AM

 

 

I feel you guys. Tayo talagang mga sakitin, payat, maliit, madali paginitan. Ako it was particularly tough because I come from a mixed heritage. Di kasi Pilipino tatay ko. At dahil dun kung ano anong stigma binibigay sayo. Sabi ko nga, racist sa totoo lang ang Pinoy. Di lang yun, dahil nanay ko lang nakikita nila, syempre kung ano anong sinasabi. Pati nga nung teachers. As if kilala nila kami. Ako di bale na batukbatukan eh. Pero yung araw araw you are labeled by a "name" or nasty stigma, mahirap yun. Mabigat sa loob pumasok at magaral. Mahirap magconcentrate knowing your self-esteem is being challenged.

 

Tama kayo, back in the days, minsan walang nangyayari pag nagsusumbong ka. Minsan backfire pa yan. Sasabihan ka pa na duwag at sipsip. And bwebweltahan ka pa. Teachers were not helpful most of the time. Akala nila simpleng away bata lang ito. Hindi nila alam, sobrang natrautrauma ka na dahil sa bullying na ginagawa sayo.

 

I am glad these days, nagkakaroon tayo ng mga awareness campaign about bullying. Dapat talaga itigil ito. Schools are supposed to teach good manners and right conduct. Kung hinahayaan nila mga bata na ganyan mangbully, ano sila magiging paglaki. Teachers and the school should really protect children from bullies. Masama pa nyan, you get fed up, at labanan mo na finally, magkakasakitan pa kayo.

Yup, pagnagkaway na kayo yung ng bubully pa talaga yung magsusumbong. ikaw pa yung lalabas minsan na masama. in my case nung HS, ayaw ko na ng nabubully kaya pumapalag na ako kaya lagi ako nasa principasls office. siya pa yung nagsusumbong. ang masakit pa nga dun ako na yung payat tapos yung kaaway ko kalakihan, sya pa yung kakampihan. the irony...



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Posted 07 October 2015 - 12:25 PM

^^^

 

Ganyan talaga. Minsan din maimpluwensya ang magulang nung estudyante kaya di man lang pinapagalitan. Lalo kung malaki donation lagi sa eskwelahan hahahaha



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Posted 07 October 2015 - 12:34 PM

Tama. palibhasa yung iba din kasi, porke may katungkulan yung magulang kaya sila umaasta na kung sino. pagnabugbug, kala mo kung sinong maamong tupa pagnagsusumbong. 



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Posted 07 October 2015 - 02:18 PM

Tama. palibhasa yung iba din kasi, porke may katungkulan yung magulang kaya sila umaasta na kung sino. pagnabugbug, kala mo kung sinong maamong tupa pagnagsusumbong. 

 

Yun ngang nakukuwento ko, anak ng city councillor. Ang ere nung gago. Akala nya napakalaking tao ng erpat nya. Naalala ko pa CAT kami tinatanong kung nanalo Tatay nya nung eleksyon ang sagot "Dinaya nga eh!". lol. Sya din nanalong governor ng 2nd year class, pero lahat ng project na pinangako nya wala ni isa nagawa. Ang tawag namin sa kanya noon albatros. Kasi yun lagi nya pinangako na ilalagay nya sa mga CR namin hahahahaha. Noon talagang paniwalang paniwala kami sa kanya kasi talagang magaling magsalita. Pero tulad ng isang trapo magaling lang sa salita, puro naman pako ang mga pangako. In short, puro hangin lang talaga.

 

And years later, ayun! Not to exaggerate anything but the truth is, tricycle driver na lang sya ngayon. So far, karamihan ng mga bullies na kilala ko hindi naman talaga naging sobrang matagumpay sa buhay. Pwede natin sabihin na karma yan. Pero mas makatwiran sigurong isipin na kung mahilig ka kasi mang-api ng taong tingin mong mas maliit sayo, hindi ka talaga aasenso. Kasi sinong susuporta at tutulong sayo? Attitude problem yan eh.

 

On the Flip side, these are the bumps and bruises of life. Naging masalimoot man bahagi ng childhood natin dahil sa mga bullies na yan, hindi maikakailang nadevelop ng sobra yung character natin. Mas naging matapang tayo at mas nagkaroon ng character habang lumalaki



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Posted 07 October 2015 - 03:56 PM

 

Yun ngang nakukuwento ko, anak ng city councillor. Ang ere nung gago. Akala nya napakalaking tao ng erpat nya. Naalala ko pa CAT kami tinatanong kung nanalo Tatay nya nung eleksyon ang sagot "Dinaya nga eh!". lol. Sya din nanalong governor ng 2nd year class, pero lahat ng project na pinangako nya wala ni isa nagawa. Ang tawag namin sa kanya noon albatros. Kasi yun lagi nya pinangako na ilalagay nya sa mga CR namin hahahahaha. Noon talagang paniwalang paniwala kami sa kanya kasi talagang magaling magsalita. Pero tulad ng isang trapo magaling lang sa salita, puro naman pako ang mga pangako. In short, puro hangin lang talaga.

 

And years later, ayun! Not to exaggerate anything but the truth is, tricycle driver na lang sya ngayon. So far, karamihan ng mga bullies na kilala ko hindi naman talaga naging sobrang matagumpay sa buhay. Pwede natin sabihin na karma yan. Pero mas makatwiran sigurong isipin na kung mahilig ka kasi mang-api ng taong tingin mong mas maliit sayo, hindi ka talaga aasenso. Kasi sinong susuporta at tutulong sayo? Attitude problem yan eh.

 

On the Flip side, these are the bumps and bruises of life. Naging masalimoot man bahagi ng childhood natin dahil sa mga bullies na yan, hindi maikakailang nadevelop ng sobra yung character natin. Mas naging matapang tayo at mas nagkaroon ng character habang lumalaki

totoo. pero tayo yung maswerte, kasi tayo yung nadevelop, tayo yung natuto. ang mahirap dyan yung mga lumaki sa takot at hindi natuto na lumaban. habang buhay may trauma. 



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Posted 07 October 2015 - 05:38 PM

totoo. pero tayo yung maswerte, kasi tayo yung nadevelop, tayo yung natuto. ang mahirap dyan yung mga lumaki sa takot at hindi natuto na lumaban. habang buhay may trauma. 

 

Naalala ko isang beses, me isang walang tigil kakatukso sakin. Kahit di ko na nga pinapatulan, sige pa ng sige. One time out of the blue, binigyan ko ng sunod sunod na sucker punch yung gago. So syempre pa natuloy yung away after school dun sa me bandang likuran ng eskwelahan namin. Talo syempre ako kasi me asthma at ang payat payat ko. In a way it solved the problem because the guy would leave me alone after that. Kahit alam nyang mananalo sya, at least masasaktan ko pa din sya. Pero on the other hand, lalo ako natukso noon ng iba kong kaklase kasi ako nga natalo. Plus hindi sya ang huling bully na kelangan ko harapin.

 

I look back sa bullying experiences ko and I can truly say I developed better character and survival instincts. Mas natuto ako lumaban ng mas matalino. Siguro yan ang isa sa pinakamalaking dahilan kung bakit natagalan ko ang postgrad program ko sa labas ng Pilipinas. Lalo at yung mga prof at sempai ko hindi naman sila exactly chummy chummy. Natuto ako magtimpi knowing na makakalaban din naman ako pagdating ng tamang panahon. At kung naligtasan ko nga ang mga bullies ko nung bata ako, kaya ko matiis masasakit na salita ng mga thesis readers ko lol



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Posted 09 October 2015 - 12:03 AM

share ko 1 sa mga experience ko, i was being bullied by one of my classmate when i was on 2nd year HS. i was the tipical nerd, payat, naka salamin, likes to draw and stuff pero hindi ako maliit. pero ako yung madalas na pinagtitripan hindi ko nga alam kung bakit kasi never ako nakipag-interact sa kanila. ginagawa ni tinatago gamit ko or inaasar, ginugulo pagmay ginagawa. anyway, nung napuno na ako hinamon ko ng suntukan sa likod ng school. so hindi na bago yung magtatawag ng resbak. kahit na nerd ako i have my friends back then, so meron din ako resbak. pero kami lang nagsuntukan, before that kung ano ano pa sinasabi nya, puro trash talk. tipical. nung nagsalita ako bigla ako binigyan ng cheap shot. isang straight sa nguso. tanggal 2 ipin sa harap. pagdura ko isang ipin lang yung lumabas, na isip ko nun nalunok ko yung isa. naiyak ako sa sobrang galit. hindi ko namalayan, nagdilim na pala paningin ko. nung nahimasmasan ako, hawak ko ulo nya tapos inuuntog ko na sa gutter. and i was doing it to the pointna parang nagroll-up na yung mga mata nya. buti na lang naawat ako ng mga barkada ko noon. ayun tapos yung away, paguwi ko napalo pa ako ng tatay ko, kasi naki pag-away ako. kinabukasan, principals office ako. nagsumbong. ako pa yung mali. pero after that hindi na nya ako binubully. tapos sa class namin biglang natakot yung ibang mga classmates namin sa akin, specifically mga kasama nya minsang nang aasar. after that incident, i learned that i should control my temper and always be in my right mind. mahirap na.

 

what i can say about those experiences is that always stand-up to bullies. may mga negative and positive ako na natutunan sa mga experiences ko. like i always stood -up to the people around me pagnakikita ko na parang kinakawawa sila; tulad sa working area, there was an incident na yung isang staff porke naatasan ng responsibilidad feeling boss na at nag-popower trip pa. masakit nun yung friend ko na co-department ko pa yung kinawawa nya, e ibang department sya. ayun long story short pinakita ko kung gaano sya ka bobo para mapahiya sya, after that kinausap ko yung manager para gawan ng disciplinary actions, ayun suspended saka tinggalan ng resposibilities. yung ginawa ko nga lang e hindi maganda. pero i cant tand bullying talaga.



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Posted 09 October 2015 - 12:58 PM

share ko 1 sa mga experience ko, i was being bullied by one of my classmate when i was on 2nd year HS. i was the tipical nerd, payat, naka salamin, likes to draw and stuff pero hindi ako maliit. pero ako yung madalas na pinagtitripan hindi ko nga alam kung bakit kasi never ako nakipag-interact sa kanila. ginagawa ni tinatago gamit ko or inaasar, ginugulo pagmay ginagawa. anyway, nung napuno na ako hinamon ko ng suntukan sa likod ng school. so hindi na bago yung magtatawag ng resbak. kahit na nerd ako i have my friends back then, so meron din ako resbak. pero kami lang nagsuntukan, before that kung ano ano pa sinasabi nya, puro trash talk. tipical. nung nagsalita ako bigla ako binigyan ng cheap shot. isang straight sa nguso. tanggal 2 ipin sa harap. pagdura ko isang ipin lang yung lumabas, na isip ko nun nalunok ko yung isa. naiyak ako sa sobrang galit. hindi ko namalayan, nagdilim na pala paningin ko. nung nahimasmasan ako, hawak ko ulo nya tapos inuuntog ko na sa gutter. and i was doing it to the pointna parang nagroll-up na yung mga mata nya. buti na lang naawat ako ng mga barkada ko noon. ayun tapos yung away, paguwi ko napalo pa ako ng tatay ko, kasi naki pag-away ako. kinabukasan, principals office ako. nagsumbong. ako pa yung mali. pero after that hindi na nya ako binubully. tapos sa class namin biglang natakot yung ibang mga classmates namin sa akin, specifically mga kasama nya minsang nang aasar. after that incident, i learned that i should control my temper and always be in my right mind. mahirap na.

 

what i can say about those experiences is that always stand-up to bullies. may mga negative and positive ako na natutunan sa mga experiences ko. like i always stood -up to the people around me pagnakikita ko na parang kinakawawa sila; tulad sa working area, there was an incident na yung isang staff porke naatasan ng responsibilidad feeling boss na at nag-popower trip pa. masakit nun yung friend ko na co-department ko pa yung kinawawa nya, e ibang department sya. ayun long story short pinakita ko kung gaano sya ka bobo para mapahiya sya, after that kinausap ko yung manager para gawan ng disciplinary actions, ayun suspended saka tinggalan ng resposibilities. yung ginawa ko nga lang e hindi maganda. pero i cant tand bullying talaga.

 

I guess you can say na somewhat similar yung experience dito. Pinagkaiba lang, ako yung nagulpi sa suntukan. Violence can only half solve the problem. I mean on one hand, next time your bully tries to pick on you, magiisip na sya kasi alam nyang lalaban ka. And though alam nyang kaya ka nya, alam nya din na makakasakit ka kahit papano. Parang kahit kaya mo yung maliit na tuta, alam mong masasaktan ka pa din pag kinagat ka.

 

Yan ang hirap noong panahon natin, walang malinaw na steps ginagawa ang mga schools para itigil itong bullying na ginagawa. They dismiss it as kids just being kids. Masama pa, komo walang physical bullying nangyayari, kapag verbal lang, wala kang grounds para magsumbong. Kasi wala naman clear penalty sa student handbook pag name-calling yung ginagawa sayo. I think its arguable that verbal bullying is 10x worse than physical bullying. Buti pa ang pilay pasa at sugat eh, gumagaling. But when you are labeled with a name in your school, you are that name everyday you come to school. And its really eating up yung self-esteem mo. Imbes na magperform ka at your best sa school, sobrang liit na liit ka sa sarili mo.

 

Magsumbong ka sa teachers, sasabihin, "o bakit nakakamatay ba yang tukso na yan?". And if teachers do not do anything to intervene the tendency is for the student to take it into their own hands. God knows kung ano pwede magawa mo. Tulad ng sayo di ba? You could have seriously injured the guy. Pero ako ha, if that would happen man, mas sisihin ko yung teachers sa inyo kesa sayo kasi syempre bata ka eh. Alam mo na ba nun ginagawa mo? Trabaho ng teachers na turuan mabuting asal mga bata. At ipagtanggol sila kung kinakailangan.



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Posted 09 October 2015 - 03:00 PM

In grade 5 there was this bully, who as others have mentioned is physically bigger than most of us. We were having a class but this assh*le kept on teasing or something, di ko na maalala. What happened was yung seatmate ko was egging mi suntukin mo. so ayun i stood up, in the middle of the class and hit him a few times on the stomach, bahala na. Hindi naman lumaban parang yun lang ata siya nakatikim na may lumaban sa kanya. he actually cried when i hit him. puro talk lang pala. after that incident nobody dared to bully me in that school.



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Posted 09 October 2015 - 03:04 PM

HS was a different story, was in an all boys school. it didn't help that i was a new student. was like hell sa freshmen year, but the succeeding years hindi na. i got into the basketball team and more or less smooth sailing from there. 


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Posted 09 October 2015 - 06:35 PM

The loud mouth

 

This is my favorite anecdote about one of my bullies. You see, being bullied verbally in my opinion is always the worst. Di bale na ang pasa at galos o kahit pilay pa. Lahat yan gagaling. But when you call someone a name at a regular basis, that stays with a person a lot. And ang tukso sakin noon "abnoy". As I type this, aaminin ko me kirot pa din pag babalikan ko yan. Kasi ikaw ba naman, me pangalan ka naman. You are a normal kid lang naman like the rest. You watch cartoons, you like to be accepted just everyone else. And ako yung taong ayaw ng kaaway.

 

So anyway, nung grade 4 ata ako, yun yung pinakamahirap na phase ng elementary ko. Yun katabi ko lagi akong tinatawag na "Abno" or "Abnoy", it became so popular na the whole class called me that. That was my name. That was who I am. Everyday naririndi ka na tawagin ka nito. So much na uuwi ako after school iyak ng iyak sa nanay ko. There were really days na ayaw ko na talaga pumasok because of this guy na tawag ng tawag sakin nito. Para sakin of all the bullies I encountered he was the one who damaged me most.

 

Nagkataon nung grade 5 or 6, nakilala ko naman isang student na me cerebral palsy. And dahil yung eskwelahan namin dismissed name calling as kids being kids lang, lagi napagtritripan itong batang ito. Dun ko narealize na someone is having it worse than me. Ako nga pangalan lang, itong batang ito me sakit talaga so we became friends, and yun lalo akong naging si Abno. But eventually, nasasanay ka na tumitibay na loob mo, so sabi ok lang sige na. I just couldnt wait to graduate, get to a new school na wala ng tatawag sakin na ABNO

 

YEARS LATER

 

There was this huge scientific conference in Shangrila Cebu. It was international. All the best medical scientists in asia was gonna be there. And because it was such a huge event, malaki yung budget at lahat kaming professors sa science really wanted to join in. So I made a scientific poster, and lucky for me napili sya na isali sa conference. I was just so proud. Best of all, because of some people I was able to associate myself with over the years, libre na registration and yung hotel ko. I got to stay in Shangrila Cebu enjoying all amenities for free.

 

At the reception, all presenters were treated like VIP sa lobby pa lang. Nakasalubong na yung staff ng hotel to take care of our needs. And behold!!!!! my grade 4 classmate was there! He was one of the doormen! I could not in many years forget his face. So immediately I texted my mother since sya iniiyakan ko lagi. Sabi ng mother ko, eh di pagtripan mo, payback time. Utusan mo buhatin gamit mo at idry clean jacket mo, tapos bigyan mo ng tip, tsaka paalala mo ginawa sayo. Of course she was joking, but the thought actually crossed my mind. Finally! After all those years na naghirap ako, eto ako ayan ka!!!!

 

But I realized one thing about myself that day...... Una I am not like him.... I am not a bully. Pangalawa, I survived the toughest mentors and critics in my industry. I survived graduate school internship etc. All because of my character. And in a way being bullied made me the man I am today.

 

So I approached and we shared an awkward stare..... I knew he knew who I was at matindi sama ng loob ko noong araw.... But I didn't say a word. I just noded and smiled. Without saying anything he understood na I know what he did, but I forgive him. And he smiled back at me pero payuko naman


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Posted 10 October 2015 - 03:55 PM

hirap ng may bully.. buti nalang natuto akong lumaban kahit nung bata pa ako.. swerte na rin siguro kasi malaking bata ako.. naaawa ako sa mga kaibigan ko dati na talagang nabubuli at hndi kayang lumaban...


malaki ang epekto sa mga kaibigan ko dati na na bully nung bata..






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