I used to try to check all the boxes that made a GOOD BOY / Nice guy.
Unfortunately that old blue pill paradigm does not work in REAL LIFE.
Nice guys finish last is what I learned.
Nice guys will be treated like DIRT.
Unless you have a woman who was EDUCATED how to appreciate a nice guy.
Instinctively for women, women respond better and treat guys better when they have OTHER WOMEN, or realize they have the potential to easily get other women.
Thus my new paradigm is a combination of the Nice Guy (Beta Provider) and Bad Boy (Alpha Lover)
Nice Guys MUST BE Polygamous... so you will be treated better, so that you will be appreciated.
(Alpha Lover + Provider)