
Are You Good At Small Talk?
#1
Posted 17 September 2007 - 11:05 AM
I'm very good at it though when I have to do it for work, like in meetings or official functions and what not, but if it's unofficial or if it's just a party or at some club I find it hard and awkward to do.
It's not that I'm shy, it's just hard to find something common to talk about with a complete stranger. And the hypocrisy of having to smile and laugh about things you find totally mundane is unbearable, which is something I unfortunately have to put up with whenever small talk is necessary.
I've always been amazed at people who can do this comfortably and convincingly.
Can you do it?
#2
Posted 17 September 2007 - 11:32 AM
If it's with a, say, cab driver, or the person standing next to me in a queue, then i'd rather be left alone, with my thoughts and all. If it's with a total stranger amidst a crowd (in parties, etc...), I think I can still tolerate that...to a certain extent, though. I can easily level down or up naman, regardless of what crowd she/he came from - from A to D. I sometimes enjoy it when I get to put a non-friend at ease...and eventually get that person to do more than just small talk

#3
Posted 17 September 2007 - 04:08 PM
If it's with a, say, cab driver, or the person standing next to me in a queue, then i'd rather be left alone, with my thoughts and all. If it's with a total stranger amidst a crowd (in parties, etc...), I think I can still tolerate that...
I can talk BS with any cabdriver anywhere.
these guys are just built to talk, and I just do it because I want them to open their mouths a little, it's probably pretty lonely driving all over with no one to talk to.
#4
Posted 17 September 2007 - 04:19 PM

#5
Posted 17 September 2007 - 05:01 PM
Have to be good. Its part of my job description.
but what about outside the job?
like I said I'm good at it too, but I only do it if I have to because of my job. If I really don't I try to avoid it.
#6
Posted 17 September 2007 - 05:39 PM
but what about outside the job?
like I said I'm good at it too, but I only do it if I have to because of my job. If I really don't I try to avoid it.
There is no "outside the job" for me. I'm in a 24/7 profession. But I see your point, during the times when I'm not actually doing a job, talking to make something out of nothing drives me nuts.
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Posted 17 September 2007 - 07:55 PM

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Guest_lustfortravel_*
Posted 18 September 2007 - 07:49 PM
it gets boring during and in between flights so i do try to initiate conversation with someone receptive. by the time the flight has ended, i have made new friends who are all too willing to show me around the place ( if i wanted to).
they do more of the talking though and i do more of the listening. i like listening to different stories; it has always fascinated me how different our paths are in life. sometimes, their stories also give me a different perspective of things or places.
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Posted 18 September 2007 - 08:09 PM
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#12
Posted 21 September 2007 - 09:26 PM
they say in the world of work there are cases when you have to...but i don't think you should. it's all being speaking your mind, and knowing when to shut up

#13
Posted 07 October 2007 - 02:19 AM

If my gut feel tells me that the person in front of me is shy and vibes seem to be good, I can be an excellent "small talk" conversationalist. But if someone in front of me or beside me seems aloof and arrogant based on body language and facial expressions, I'm the worst "small talk" talker ever.
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#16
Posted 07 October 2007 - 07:21 PM

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