Falling In Love But Not Getting Horny, Not Wanting Or Having Sex

[T_bone]

Using the phrase "desires of the flesh", in my opinion seems inappropriate when referring to the woman of your heart. As to the existence of loving a person and not having sex, its possible but not probable.

[andre_mark]

THATS I TRULLY CORRECT. IT MEANS THAT YOU TRULLY LOVE THE GIRL; AND I HAVE EXPERIENCED THAT MYSELF

[kjmm]

pwede yun....

madali lang namn magadjust..

basta ba you respect each other...

[dickee]

you know...somehow i could relate to this post...from a girl's point of view that is...

 

you see...my bf seems to have less of an inclination to do the "nasty" with me...especially in places where doing the nasty seems to be on 24/7.

 

don't get me wrong...we do make love...at least once a week but that's because i get all pouty if we don't.

 

we started getting hot and heavy even before we became bf-gf...ganun katindi yung attraction namin...we we're like doing it 6-7 times in like 24 hours. we were so hungry for each other. pero alam ko naman that the love grew na lang between us because nga we didn't start off in the traditional way..and he just got out of a stiffling relationship with his now ex.

 

now that he's really in love with me...he seems more reserved with me. he's refuses to take me to a motel kahit na raring to go ako. he could sleep beside me hugging me all night without getting it on with me. okay lang sana yun kaso ang problem eh...gusto ko!

 

it sometimes get me frustrated...parang ang ingat ingat niya sa akin eh ako naman gusto ko na na bastusin na man niya ako in bed minsan...get's nyo? hehehehhehehe...wala lang exciting kasi yung medyo gugulatin na lang niya ako ng quickie.

 

oh well...anyways...this dosn't just happen for platonic relationships...this happens even to those who are in love. ewan ko ba...may nangyayari atang transformation sa guys eh. if the guy takes the girl seriously enough to marry her...he holds a higher regard for her...and he would avoid anything that would tarnish that image.

madonna-whore complex ata...duhhhhhhh..

 

paano na kung gusto ni madonna? huhuhuhuhuhuh...

 

 

well, i can very well relate with your bf... it's a complicated matter, actually... talagang may konting character change kapag ganun... pero kung ang habol nun e katawan lang, mas malupit ang aabutin mong palo! --baka sumuko ka nun! hehehehe...

[freakish]

i have this experience with my first boyfriend..actually he was my childhood sweetheart we were together for five years. In all those years he never dared to ask me or even tried to make love with me. Which was fine with me back then coz we were really young pa. so i guess it is "doable" naman. depende rin sa tao yun on how they control their emotions. Love has ways...

[jrsdc2000]

it is possible, if you really love the girl not for her looks or you want her in bed, you love her because she makes you happy every time you are with her. and if you really respect her, then it is possible. but lets face it we are men and we are tempted,but if she says no and you respect her you wont force it anymore. and i know a friend with a two year relationship they didnt do it, and the girl is still a virgin up to now.

i absolutely agree!!!

 

if you really love the girl...and respect her...of course one would be tempted...but hey!!you'll won't do it if she doesn't like it!!

 

thats the magic of love over flesh!!

 

whats with my words??IT ALREADY HAPPENED TO ME!!!konting push n lng pasok n...then she says no...not yet...EE DI WAG!!!SUS!!pag-ibig nga naman!!

 

 

[ink]

i was once left alone with someone ... we're actually good friends, and i kinda liked him... without malice, he spent the night with me to k*ll time.. and then he felt like sleeping..... slept hugging each other... there was the occasional kissing but more than that, no more... we might just be scared of the repercussions after, yes... but it's just so comforting to know that there are still some guys like him who think with their heads up there. kaya naman kasing pigilin kung gugustuhin eh.

[chabacano]

not sure about this one. maybe out of respect or something, it's ok siguro at first. but eventually if one doesn't get sexually aroused by the other, there could be something wrong.

 

if one doesn't or can't turn the other on sexually, then there's the probability that the relationship is sedate, unexciting. if even viagra won't help, it's doomed.

[swallow]

i haven't really experienced loving someone and not get to thinkin' i want to jump into bed with him..

 

or that if i do wanna be physical with someone doesn't necessarily mean i love him..

 

but falling in love and not getting horny...hmm..i'd say this LOVE is SACRED! :hypocritesmiley:

[Lipstick]

this is a guy-question.

 

but girls are welcomed to contribute.

 

being in love, but not having desires of the flesh, for the woman in your heart.

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Oh dear, is this possible at all? I could lust for a man and NOT be in love with him BUT for the life of me I couldn't be in love with someone and not lust for him!

 

Sex between people in love takes on a deeper meaning and rises above just the physical nature of it. In a loving relationship, sex is an affirmation of your love & passion for your partner and your life together. Nothing could be more beautiful than that.

[RX8]

Love is there but Lust isn't.

[sha79]

yes...pwede. if it is pure love..and respect.

 

but...getting horny is human nature.hndi mo nmn planado f u feel that ur getting horny..it would just came. specially,if ur at opposite arms...db?in-love ka man or hndi s person..if u feel it, then thats it.

[revi]

Hmmm.. Nice question?

 

I have already experienced loving someone but not feeling horny at all.. I was very young at that time.. But I later learned that this is love through respect, and veneration.. para bang masyado mong respetado yung girl to the point that you idolize her.. para bang you venerate saints or God's image.. and for me this isn't love that leads to marriage.. para kang in-love with God and the saints, etc.

 

For me, when you love someone (opposite sex) there should a sexual attraction.. nagagandahan ka sa kaniya.. sexy siya.. mabait.. masarap kausap.. and there should be a tinge of horniness.. kasi its part of being in love with someone from the opposite sex.. sex with love ay sobrang sarap.. that's why we call it making love.. not making lust.. but lust is part of the game.. love and lust should go side by side for a healthy relationship.. :hypocritesmiley:

 

Venerating is also love.. but loving with lust is also love.. veneration is not meant for marriage.. the end product of lust and love is marriage.. not all the time but most of the time.. I have experienced both.. veneration and lust with love.. pati nga lust lang eh :evil: (but that's another story..)

[astig_supah_ganda]

aha! according to my situation. . .

 

sa ngayon lam kong ksma n tlga sa relasyon ang 's*x' but 4 me.. s*x?? huh??

 

yan ang laging dahilan kung bakit lagi akong BIGO..

ganun nba tlga ang mga lalaki?? kung walang s*x hndi ka mamahalin.. iiwan ka kapag hndi naka-score sau..

 

i kip on tellin' na hndi lng tlga cla para sa'kin..(ano pa nga ba?)

 

i still search & 'en convince myself na meron guy na not more on s*x..

[revi]

aha! according to my situation. . .

 

sa ngayon lam kong ksma n tlga sa relasyon ang 's*x' but 4 me.. s*x?? huh??

 

yan ang laging dahilan kung bakit lagi akong BIGO..

ganun nba tlga ang mga lalaki?? kung walang s*x hndi ka mamahalin.. iiwan ka kapag hndi naka-score sau..

 

i kip on tellin' na hndi lng tlga cla para sa'kin..(ano pa nga ba?)

 

i still search & 'en convince myself na meron guy na not more on s*x..

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Well, hindi naman dapat na kapag hindi naka-score iiwan ka na.. I had a GF that I did not have sex and we had a good relationship for around 5 years.. heavy petting lang.. never asked her to sleep with me.. masarap lang kasama and I find her pretty plus the fact that I loved her.. the reason for us breaking up is because alam kong hindi mag-wo-work relationship namin because of her disgust sa parents ko.. not because no popoy ako.. Me, its not just sex if I fall in love.. its part of it.. but not the most important part.. sa marriage naman that's another story.. coz sex is really a big part of marriage.. atsaka if you just fall in love hindi naman dapat sex agad eh.. there are a lot of things you could do to release stimulation and sexual urges di ba? Those guys who left you because they did not scored on you are not really in love with you but they lusted on you.. per se.. Love, Lust and Veneration as I have said are all different animals.. okay?

[astig_supah_ganda]

Well, hindi naman dapat na kapag hindi naka-score iiwan ka na.. I had a GF that I did not have sex and we had a good relationship for around 5 years.. heavy petting lang.. never asked her to sleep with me.. masarap lang kasama and I find her pretty plus the fact that I loved her.. the reason for us breaking up is because alam kong hindi mag-wo-work relationship namin because of her disgust sa parents ko.. not because no popoy ako.. Me, its not just sex if I fall in love.. its part of it.. but not the most important part.. sa marriage naman that's another story.. coz sex is really a big part of marriage.. atsaka if you just fall in love hindi naman dapat sex agad eh.. there are a lot of things you could do to release stimulation and sexual urges di ba? Those guys who left you because they did not scored on you are not really in love with you but they lusted on you.. per se.. Love, Lust and Veneration as I have said are all different animals.. okay?

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yup.. kaya nga napakasama ng loob ko sa kanila..

magaling lang sa umpisa.. pag tumagal at wala palang mapapala bigla nalng nawawala.. :thumbsdownsmiley:

 

masaya naman akong ksama..cnabi nla un.. kaso matured na daw cla..

at mahalaga daw sa kanila yun..

 

dats y inintindi ko cla.. at nagpa iwan ako..

[ronaldbdar]

mahirap yan. para sa akin associated yan parang may "connection"

[Mike Chester]

Pag nagsisimula palang ung relationship, pwedeng mas mangibabaw ung emotion kesa lust, but as soon as the relationship last, hindi na maiiwasan na magkaruon ng sexual attraction sa isa't isa.

[boy popoy]

of course it can happen! cause if it cant, then para mong sinabi na old people who have lost their libido are incable of being in love.

sex is not an integral part of a relationship, but sexual compatibility is. if one person in a relationship is super horny and the other is not interested in sex then there will be a problem. but kung pareho naman kayong hindi interesado sa sex e di walang problema.

[punkus]

ganun talaga sa simula eventually darating din talaga yung mga intimate moments nyo, and when it happens this way, mas mararamdaman nyo na mahal nyo talaga ang isa't isa....

[adikted]

when i was still young i fell in love wtih this very cute classmate ko

i was so elated na lahat na ata nang nakikita ko kulay pink as the saying goes

hehehe

syempre pag young ka very active mga hormones mo which makes u horny according dun sa mga mags na nabasa me but nung sinagot me nang girl na to everything nagbago

i didnt thought of sex, d rin me nag `all by myself` nang ilang months

wish lang me sana ma feel ko ulit ung feeling na yon

for now whistle muna waiting..... hehehe

[torix]

kung mahal mo ang babae - respected mo talaga siya and you will not do to her what you normally do to others - its true na in the long run you will have sex to her pero in most times may iba na kayong discussion not centered on lust or sex

[Apollo]

this is a guy-question.

 

but girls are welcomed to contribute.

 

being in love, but not having desires of the flesh, for the woman in your heart.

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this is what we called platonic love. You love her or him for who he or she is...

usually it happens to the idealist..the romantics... and the Foolhardy people.

 

Falliing in Love comes to the most unexpected places as they say. Be it platonic, sexual and emotional.

[solicitor]

Let's be frank .........There is no such thing as "falling in love but not getting horny" .

[russ]

Falling In Love But Not Getting Horny...

 

yes it is very much possible...

love isnt aboute sex...

its take a lot of disipline and respect...

and a lot of very cold showers... :goatee: