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Posted 10 April 2016 - 10:34 PM

Would you follow your heart kahit na it means your love story would be "you and me against the world?", meaning your whole clan would deny you being a member of the family.. would it be worth it?? :unsure:


This exact thing happened to me and my partner. And it turned out good :)

My girlfriend's family is affluent and influential. They didn't like me, and they cut ties with her when she chose to stay with me.

Of course, we had a lot to prove. And we managed. She proved that she could stand on her own. I proved that I can be a better man and will care for her no matter what. A few months later, her family was the one who reached out to us. They saw my efforts and welcomed me into their family.

Now four years later, my girlfriend and I are happier than ever before. Her parents have even asked me to address them as Daddy and Mommy now. We keep in touch with them and stay in their house during the holidays.

I'm happy that I chose to follow my heart, and that my girlfriend chose to as well. And that we were sincere and chose to make things work. We fought for our love and well, we succeeded :)

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Posted 10 April 2016 - 11:26 PM

probably they were hurt by the person they chose to love. So We can't blame them for holding back. For some, they were hurt so bad that they wont even entertain the notion of falling again. ..

 

so they choose to hurt someone who loves them nalang..? parang ganun po..?

 

 

 

perhaps.. its better to hold back dahil magiging super gulo kapag pinakita nila ang feelings nila..

 

 

to prevent world war 3 na rin? hehe

 

what do you mean to prevent world war 3 nadin..?

 

 

 

 

You don't. Simply bec wala na tayong pakialam sa trip ng taong yun. It's up to them if they choose to stay inside their comfort zone or not. Tanging sila lang ang makakapagsabi, para sa sarili nila, kung san talaga sila nakakaramdam ng kasiyahan.

 

Sometimes, it's not about doing something or being with someone just to feel happy - it's about finding happiness with whatever we have. Ang taong hindi marunong makuntento ay kailanman hindi magiging masaya.

 

 

hmmmmmm.. 



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Posted 10 April 2016 - 11:45 PM

you love someone, that someone doesn't love you, but he cares... sometimes. hmmm..  he's the only reason why you are still sane or your love for him/ her is the reason why sabihin na nating why you stick on being 'you' ( being matino ) lets just say he/she is your sanity. this may sound so funny but you are thinking kasi '' i need to be and stay like this, kasi baka one day he/she wants me again kaya dapat i dont fool around para when he/she loves me na im 'clean' padin and wala sia masusumbat'' but its also your love for him/her that causes you too much pain... what would you do..? 

 

continue loving, waiting and hoping that someday somehow fate will help you,and he/she will love you too....even if it hurts like hell..

 

or just walk away............... hold for nothing ... hope for nothing.. then just wait when you will self destruct..?



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Posted 11 April 2016 - 12:19 AM

you love someone, that someone doesn't love you, but he cares... sometimes. hmmm..  he's the only reason why you are still sane or your love for him/ her is the reason why sabihin na nating why you stick on being 'you' ( being matino ) lets just say he/she is your sanity. this may sound so funny but you are thinking kasi '' i need to be and stay like this, kasi baka one day he/she wants me again kaya dapat i dont fool around para when he/she loves me na im 'clean' padin and wala sia masusumbat'' but its also your love for him/her that causes you too much pain... what would you do..? 
 
continue loving, waiting and hoping that someday somehow fate will help you,and he/she will love you too....even if it hurts like hell..
 
or just walk away............... hold for nothing ... hope for nothing.. then just wait when you will self destruct..?


From how you described your feelings, I think this can be limerence love. Intense devotion, wanting reciprocation, intrusive thoughts. These are some of what defines limerence.

"Limerence is a state of mind which results from a romantic attraction to another person and typically includes obsessive thoughts and fantasies.

It can be experienced as intense joy or as extreme despair, depending on whether the feelings are reciprocated. Limerencey can be difficult to understand for those who have never experienced it, and it is thus often dismissed by non-limerents as ridiculous fantasy or a construct of romantic fiction.

In cases of unrequited limerence, transient relief may be found by vividly imagining reciprocation from the limerent object."
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Could it be limerence, Miss Sitti? How you describe your feelings reminds me much of my younger self. I vividly remember those feelings too. Those were also the times when I discovered this concept of limerence. Because if it is limerence, then I'm not sure if there's anything I can say to you to influence your feelings and train of thought.

My experience with limerence is that it really is a roller coaster ride. You have to stay through its ups and downs, so you can give yourself a sense of reason as to why you're going through this. If it goes well and it pushes through, it can then turn into love. If it doesn't go well, you just have to wait for it to lose its momentum and eventually stop.

I hope this helps, and that you feel better soon.

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Posted 11 April 2016 - 01:08 AM

my posts are not always about me po.....  :(  :(  :(  nahiya naman ako tuloy bigla..... hihi... anyway thanks.. 



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Posted 11 April 2016 - 01:41 AM

just walk away. walang paasa kung walang umaasa.



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Posted 11 April 2016 - 09:59 AM

This is why we should all practice emotional independence. Maganda lang sa mga pelikula ni Aga Muhlach yun paikutin mo buong mundo mo sa iisang tao. Tuloy kahit hindi na maganda nangyayari at alam mo naman na mali na, hindi ka pa din umaalis. Kasi akala mo hindi ka mabubuhay ng wala itong taong ito. Which is not true! Kasi nabuhay ka naman at nagawang maging masaya nung wala pa sya di ba?

 

Eto lagi iisipin, the other person is not meant to complete you. That is your responsibility. The other person is merely there to compliment you. He or she may give you something na hindi mo nakikita sa iba, but that does not mean you really need him/her to feel complete.



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Posted 11 April 2016 - 10:58 PM

you love someone, that someone doesn't love you, but he cares... sometimes. hmmm..  he's the only reason why you are still sane or your love for him/ her is the reason why sabihin na nating why you stick on being 'you' ( being matino ) lets just say he/she is your sanity. this may sound so funny but you are thinking kasi '' i need to be and stay like this, kasi baka one day he/she wants me again kaya dapat i dont fool around para when he/she loves me na im 'clean' padin and wala sia masusumbat'' but its also your love for him/her that causes you too much pain... what would you do..? 

 

continue loving, waiting and hoping that someday somehow fate will help you,and he/she will love you too....even if it hurts like hell..

 

or just walk away............... hold for nothing ... hope for nothing.. then just wait when you will self destruct..?

 

 

bagay dito yung hugot na.. buti ka pa nauntog na.. ako hindi pa.. hehe


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Posted 11 April 2016 - 11:06 PM

you love someone, that someone doesn't love you, but he cares... sometimes. hmmm..  he's the only reason why you are still sane or your love for him/ her is the reason why sabihin na nating why you stick on being 'you' ( being matino ) lets just say he/she is your sanity. this may sound so funny but you are thinking kasi '' i need to be and stay like this, kasi baka one day he/she wants me again kaya dapat i dont fool around para when he/she loves me na im 'clean' padin and wala sia masusumbat'' but its also your love for him/her that causes you too much pain... what would you do..? 
 
continue loving, waiting and hoping that someday somehow fate will help you,and he/she will love you too....even if it hurts like hell..
 
or just walk away............... hold for nothing ... hope for nothing.. then just wait when you will self destruct..?



Walk away but don't self destruct.
Give yourself time to heal, better things ahead :)

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Posted 11 April 2016 - 11:52 PM

minsan walking away becomes the ONLY solution to things that you cannot learn to handle. Kahit na ipaglaban mo ang di naman dapat eh sa hindi talaga ppwede yung gusto mo may magagawa ka pa ba? 

 

Madaling sabihin yung katagang "moving on" pero napaka-imposibleng gawin agad agad. This will take time - a long time actually and sometimes, it is better to NOT fight the process at all. We all have our own versions of acceptance pero and hindi commonly alam ng lahat is that the pain of it WILL stay with you, lying dormant at the back of your mind.

 

Part of "moving-on" is welcoming the pain to come to you. Let it linger and mold you. Pain, surely does make you tougher and wiser overtime but more importantly - pain will become the wall that will stand between you and complete insanity.


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Posted 12 April 2016 - 05:30 AM

“According to Greek mythology, humans were originally created with four arms, four legs and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate parts, condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other halves.”
-plato 'the symposium''
 
if this is true, panu kung yung other half is nasa piling na ng iba..? committed na sa iba.. or vice versa what if you meet your ' other half ' eh committed ka na..? will this means you both are doomed..? and panu kaya malalaman if he/she is ' your other half ' na... ? 
 
( sorry if for some this might sound non sense haha )


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Posted 12 April 2016 - 07:27 AM

“According to Greek mythology, humans were originally created with four arms, four legs and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate parts, condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other halves.”

-plato 'the symposium''
 
if this is true, panu kung yung other half is nasa piling na ng iba..? committed na sa iba.. or vice versa what if you meet your ' other half ' eh committed ka na..? will this means you both are doomed..? and panu kaya malalaman if he/she is ' your other half ' na... ? 
 
( sorry if for some this might sound non sense haha )

 

 

 

bagay na bagay dito ang mga song na..

 

somewhere down the road..

bukas na lang kita mamahalin..

bakit ngaun ka lang?

how can i tell her about you?

 

 

If the girl is already committed.. i'll sadly walk away.. turn my back quickly and dont look back..

 

tama na isa lang ang masaktan compared sa masmadami pa..



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Posted 12 April 2016 - 07:49 AM

“According to Greek mythology, humans were originally created with four arms, four legs and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate parts, condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other halves.”

-plato 'the symposium''
 
if this is true, panu kung yung other half is nasa piling na ng iba..? committed na sa iba.. or vice versa what if you meet your ' other half ' eh committed ka na..? will this means you both are doomed..? and panu kaya malalaman if he/she is ' your other half ' na... ? 
 
( sorry if for some this might sound non sense haha )

 

 

I once attended a talk on soulmates. It's been many years, but I still remember something the speaker said--"that you will definitely meet your soulmate in this lifetime, but that doesn't mean you'll be together."


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Posted 12 April 2016 - 07:53 AM

I once attended a talk on soulmates. It's been many years, but I still remember something the speaker said--"that you will definitely meet your soulmate in this lifetime, but that doesn't mean you'll be together."


Tragic

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Posted 12 April 2016 - 08:05 AM

Tragic

 

It is. He discussed it in the context of soulmates, reincarnation, and karma.  One of his explanation for this twist of fate is that the other party is still paying for past sins, while the other has a cleaner karmic slate. It's  sad, even cruel, when the fates will always tease you with what could've been, what should've been, and what would've been.



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Posted 12 April 2016 - 01:00 PM

Follow your heart but not to the point that it will stop beating. 



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Posted 13 April 2016 - 05:59 AM

Don't follow your heart.  It has no long term goals.



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Posted 13 April 2016 - 12:41 PM

"The brain gives the heart its sight. The heart gives the brain its vision." -Kall



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Posted 13 April 2016 - 05:00 PM

In my younger days, I used to think that when it comes to loving, one should never settle for less than a heart flutter.  If a rational, controlling mind will have its way, assessing the partner’s appearance, financial standing, status and other parameters is a process that may justify a relationship, but this makes the other person significant only because of rational points, scores or justifications.  As I have grown older, the voice of acid experience is whispering that real love works differently.  The constancy of a relationship is an experiment of empathy, finding peace and passion in trying times, while continually re-discovering the purpose of being with the beloved.  Sometimes, yung mahal natin ang daan tungo sa ating kabanalan o kaya, kahangalan.

 

If one has plunged into a relationship already, the commitment may overwhelm, and “following one’s heart” becomes a difficult proposition.  Also, if, in the past, we have been in a rough relationship or through a failed one, we often close our hearts off for fear of being hurt.   It then takes a lot of courage to let your guard down and truly follow your heart, but be mindful always of significant persons that may be affected in the process.   

 

Follow your heart, but listen to that “ inner voice” and see those faces around.  Think of the consequences.  After all, life, is about relationships and is not fulfilled by satisfying solely our needs as one person.  



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Posted 14 April 2016 - 02:35 AM

why do some people keep on fighting when they have nothing to fight for naman...? i mean yung iba laslas pulso na ginagawa eh hindi naman sila gusto or mahal..?  ayaw pa tumigil kahit baldeng baldeng luha na.. hoping pa din, when and how do they stop ba...

Follow your heart. You are happy with the ups and downs - all your decisions based primarily from your heart. You feel ecstatic, passionate and the only way maabot yung real happiness.

The caveat is follow you heart to a certain extent. There are fundamental elements we cannot compromise. Halimbawa, dignity, sanity, family, so on, and this can vary per person.
At this point, you follow your mind - self-check, internalize and be objective. Talking to persons with credibility helps.

Generic answers pero you may get something out of it.
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