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there is a saying na ' always follow your heart daw ' and before naririnig ko lagi yun.. hmmmmm... may mga bagay na iniisip ko minsan if tama or mali, if dapat or hindi, if i should turn back or just move forward, if what's going on sa isip ng ibang tao, if anong purpose nila, if anong tumatakbo sa isip nila whenever they did something. whenever they say something. sometimes di ko maintindihan yung mga bagay bagay. whenever we make a decision, ano ba talaga ang dapat..? gamitin ang heart..? yung iba sa kagagamit ng puso ayun lagi sila nasasaktan, yung iba naman kagagamit sa 'mind' nasasabihan nating 'heartless'. and madalas hindi sila nagiging masaya.. sabi nila 'follow your heart' eh hanggang kelan dapat ifollow yung heart ..? hanggang magkadurog durog na..? i wish they are some who share the same thinking as me... let's have a discussion here.. :) mag analyze ng mga bagay bagay..

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follow your heart til when...? before, i was like that. sobrang innocent, all i do is ifollow lang sia ng ifollow i dont know that i have to stop na. because i dont know when to stop. hanggang one day narealize ko kakafollow my heart ko, i have it broken, torn into pieces. almost nothing left, so with my heart na shattered into a million pieces, pag finollow ko pa sia i dont know which way to follow na.. and what if maging ashes na sia. natatakot ako, last time someone told me na wala daw akong puso... wala na nga ba... ? im not heartless maybe im just starting to use my heart less. dati may nagsabi sakin na sana di ako magbago, di mawala yung kainosentehan ko.. panu yun... sa lahat ng heartaches, sa lahat ng hirap, is it possible not to change..?

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in my 'career' madaming klase ng tao na kong nakakaharap, madaming stories na naririnig, bat ganun, some or most of them always use their hearts, sabi sakin dati if you follow your heart daw you will be happy.. pero bakit whenever these people follow their heart they get hurt. they give too much, then they get nothing in return.

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yung iba naman choose to pretend that they dont have one, naisip ko yung mga taong sobrang hirap mahalin, baka they need it most. pero panu if kakaisip ko and kakabigay ko naman, trying to break yung walls nia, maging tulad nia ko..? hays hirap . what if i need to break myself para mabuo sia..? well, im very much willing to.. pero panu if ayaw naman pala nia..? then that leave us both broken dba..?

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why do some people keep on fighting when they have nothing to fight for naman...? i mean yung iba laslas pulso na ginagawa eh hindi naman sila gusto or mahal..? ayaw pa tumigil kahit baldeng baldeng luha na.. hoping pa din, when and how do they stop ba...

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yung iba naman ayaw lumaban, natatakot lang ba sila..? why dont they take a risk.. bat mas pinipilli nila saktan yung mahal nila na lumalaban para sa kanila tapos sila susuko nalang.. without even giving a fight para sa love nila.. dahil kaya tingin nila wala patutunguhan..? or baka mas lalo pa sila masaktan..? bat masyado naman ginagamit nung iba yung utak nila...

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You have been hurt and loved... For some, it would be a cycle, for some, they hoped that it ends sooner than they expect, for some, felt it should have never happened at all... On the other side, still are still hoping that the one will come... For how long? How much more they can endure? As much as they are open, they seem to be in these walls... Walls that society that made them build themselves... As much as they wanted to break this predicament, people around them suggest this, and that all the time... Hey, it felt like it is really like trying to break a wall but eventually build itself up brick by brick... Okay, this seemed to be a rant or something, but I guess I'm trying to give my perspective regards to this... I am that person who is trying to be as dedicated to my work... But outside of that, I find it difficult trying to fit in with others... Call me a Lone Wolf or something, I enjoy doing things alone as much as I enjoy things with others... When regards to love, I have been to the point of weird circumstances when figuring out when to follow the heart or the mind... Somehow, it betrays me both ways all the time... That every decision I make on which to follow shows that I should have made the other... And to add insult to injury, even some unexpected events seem to pile up against what I've been trying to do...

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Feel with your heart, but make decisions with your mind. Yes life is about taking chances, but you should know also how to properly calculate your risks. Always think 2 steps ahead. Ask if the potential hurt and pain will be worth it. Do not get carried away with whatever happiness you feel at the moment, ask if you will be able to sustain it in the coming days.

 

I always say that anybody can fall in love, but it takes emotional maturity and intelligence to nurture a healthy kind of love that helps you be a better person and not deteriorate you.

 

Minsan, clear na kasi yung signs and evidences pero mas nagpapadala tayo sa temporary emotions na meron.

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You're still going through pain Kaya there are so many questions. Once you've let it go and moved on, you'd see that there's no need to choose. You have to use both, Kaya nga Pareho Ka Na Meron nyan :) if we are only to use our brain, e dapat walang heart and v.v. Most of the time we overthink or overfeel Kaya Yan, emo emo.

 

I'm far from being an expert on relationships, love an decision making, Pero May nagsabi nga, it's not falling in love if you don't fall. It boils down to our choices, what we are willing to risk... All or nothing? Play it safe? It's on us. Masakit if we got hurt giving our 100% Pero Wala ding kwenta if we compute the pros and cons all the time. How do you want to live?

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yung iba naman choose to pretend that they dont have one, naisip ko yung mga taong sobrang hirap mahalin, baka they need it most. pero panu if kakaisip ko and kakabigay ko naman, trying to break yung walls nia, maging tulad nia ko..? hays hirap . what if i need to break myself para mabuo sia..? well, im very much willing to.. pero panu if ayaw naman pala nia..? then that leave us both broken dba..?

 

That's the consequence of surrounding yourself with walls.

 

The thing with walls is that you can successfully keep others out but at the cost of being trapped. Yes, you spare yourself the pain, but you give up the chance for happiness.

 

In the end, one party is frustrated. And the other doesn't know what he's missing.

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Pov ko Lang eto ha...

 

Depende Yan sayo kuya... Kung Mahaba ang endurance mo at resources, sige iyak Ka pa... Emo Ka pa... Been there and done that, natural reaction Yan. You're entitled to cry your heart out... Pero Dahil Wala ngang forever, matatapos din Yan, magigising Ka din and reality will sink in... Responsibilities... And life will go on, ngayon nga Lang, whether you like it or not Na... No choice Ka Na but to move on... Mejo may common denominator Naman Kasi those who go through heartbreak... Similar cycle.... Pero Yun nga, kanya kanyang choices.

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Wow naalala ko yung mga nakalipas. Learned the lesson the hard way.

 

Anyway, nung kayo pa, kasi puro puso. Hindi mo iniisip what if magkahiwalay kayo?. Pano kung may iba pala siya? Ano future namin?

 

THen maghiwalay kayo. SIyempre Masakit, hirap magmove on. Dito mo naman itry gamitin yung utak mo to try to justify on what went wrong? Why this, WHy that? What ifs, If only's.

 

 

Proportional kasi yung sakit na nararamdaman sa love na binigay mo. so you need to balance if hanggang saan kaya mo masaktan. (nakakasawa nadin kaya last time na nag mahal ako sakto lang, i let it grow from there. Hindi ko tinaya lahat sa simula para may matira padin sakin if things dont go as planned.

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what about if you are in a maybe 5-7 years relationship, then lets just say your 'love' just fades away.. you met someone new, she/he makes you so happy.. what will you do..? will you end your 5-7 years relationship just to be happy with your 'new found' happiness, sayangin yung 5-7 years.. 'follow your heart' . or you're gonna follow what you think is right.. tama nga ba na icontinue yung 5-7 years for the sake of security, dahil dun mas 'sure' ka, mas 'safe' ka, even if you are not happy na.. kahit may emptiness na... is it right to stay in a relationship if may nagpapasaya na sayong iba..?

 

what is right and what is wrong..?

 

i think, it's better to end the 5-7 relationship kasi parang selfishness naman na if hindi ko na pala mahal yung tao, what if dumating yung taong magmamahal sa kanya tapos nandun ako eh di ko naman na sia mahal diba..? bat ko ikukulong yung tao sa illusion that i still love him if in reality i dont na..? masasaktan ko sia, oo. pero bat mas patatagalin ko pa diba..? hmmmmmmmmmmm....

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Happiness is often subjective. Sometimes, it is caused by expectations that are unmet, and relationships ultimately go sour and foul up as a result. Minsan, yung isang bagay o Tao na nagpapahirap sa atin ay daan tungo sa kabanalan o kaya ay adya para sa ibang bagay o paraan na Ang tutunguhan ay di pa malinaw sa ngayon.

 

For one to say "follow your heart" is easy, pero exercise thought and caution lagi. Ang ulo o utak natin ay natural na nasa ibabaw ng ating puso.

 

Kasama ng pagmamahal ang pang-unawa, pagpapatawad at makailang ulit na sumubok pa muli hanggang di na kaya talaga.

 

Point of view ko Lang po, batay sa pait na naranas ko din sa aking relasyon.

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There is no right or wrong answer, the only important thing is when you pick you should have no regrets. There really is no heart and mind, its just you weighing things.lets say sa industry nyo, you have this client na masugid na manliligaw, at may utility man ka sa spa mo na masugid dn naanliligaw, both are equally gwapo. So which would you choose. You can either be happy trying to forget who you are or pretending but mas maganda buhay mo financially or you can be yourself pro hindi ganun ka okey buhay mo financially. Life is always like that, you cant have everything. But look at this though, hindi lahat ng may pera at happy family, in the same way na hindi lahat ng mahirap ay miserable ang buhay. I my opinion un lang naman ang laban ng utak at puso. I mean if you mean choosing between a pangit na hindi babaero over a gwapo na babaero e ano utak at puso dun, kasi pag yamaman c pangit e who is to stop him na mambabae at c pogi kpg tumaba mapanot e wala ng chicks yan. Kunh hindi financial pinag uusapan natin dito e easy lang ang decisison dyn go with what makes you happy.

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what about if you are in a maybe 5-7 years relationship, then lets just say your 'love' just fades away.. you met someone new, she/he makes you so happy.. what will you do..? will you end your 5-7 years relationship just to be happy with your 'new found' happiness, sayangin yung 5-7 years.. 'follow your heart' . or you're gonna follow what you think is right.. tama nga ba na icontinue yung 5-7 years for the sake of security, dahil dun mas 'sure' ka, mas 'safe' ka, even if you are not happy na.. kahit may emptiness na... is it right to stay in a relationship if may nagpapasaya na sayong iba..?

 

what is right and what is wrong..?

 

i think, it's better to end the 5-7 relationship kasi parang selfishness naman na if hindi ko na pala mahal yung tao, what if dumating yung taong magmamahal sa kanya tapos nandun ako eh di ko naman na sia mahal diba..? bat ko ikukulong yung tao sa illusion that i still love him if in reality i dont na..? masasaktan ko sia, oo. pero bat mas patatagalin ko pa diba..? hmmmmmmmmmmm....

 

a good example would be me. ive been married even before most of you were born so i know what im talking about. i stayed until my youngest turned 18. now looking back, we should have separated earlier so both of us would have a good chance to try again with another partner. alas time as past us by......

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and why do some people hold back, i mean may mga tao they love someone pero they choose not to show it... they just try to suppress it... why are they doing it..?

 

Well, sometimes you can call it the ego, or you can call it naninigurado. For some, you wouldn't really want to show your hand until you're pretty sure you've got the winning one, right?

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and why do some people hold back, i mean may mga tao they love someone pero they choose not to show it... they just try to suppress it... why are they doing it..?

For me people hold back they true feelings coz they think, if they will show the real feelings it will cause problem like bka lumayo yung taong minamahal nya pag nalaman na ganun ang na feel nya...

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