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Friends With Benefits - How to Handle? (Merged with FUBU rules)


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#2581 mrbig86

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Posted 18 September 2019 - 01:23 PM

It all starts with drawing the line.

 

Sa simula palang, dapat both of you agreed in all the terms of your friends with benefits setup. However, mahirap gawin yung walang ma fa fall in love. Yan yung biggest challenge sa friends with benefits. It doesn't matter whether or not both of you agreed with the terms and conditions from the very beginning, one or both of you will have a tendency to eventually fall in love. Nangyari na sa akin yan - I lost three good friends because of that.

 

Pero, yung mga failures ng friends with benefits set up ko before taught me a few lessons:

 

1. Don't text/call that person frequently as if you care for her/him - draw the line sa barkada setup. You don't care if kumain na ng lunch or dinner yung kabarkada mo.

2. Make sure that if your friend starts a romantic conversation, you will shoot it down instantly - wag mong bigyan ng konting pagasa yung friend mo na may romantic feeling ka sa kanya kahit konti

3. As much as possible, don't go on a date na kayo lang. Or at least 90% of the time, may iba kayong kasama. This brings us back to my second point - wag paasahin yung friend na may romantic feeling ka sa kanya


Edited by mrbig86, 18 September 2019 - 01:23 PM.

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#2582 jaszy

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Posted 18 September 2019 - 02:29 PM

nangyari sakin noon first time ko.. most of my officemates were hitting on her pero ako deadma lang kc di kami gaano close.. one night during OT doon ako nagtrabaho sa office room nila and then naiwan kaming dalawa.. ayun konting usap tapos mejo nakapalagayan ng loob tapos asaran, tawanan hanggang sa nag open sya sakin na may 3 nanliligaw sa kanya pero di nya daw type.. we had this kind of setup na kapag nanjan ang mga officemates namin hindi kami masyado nag-uusap pero pag kaming 2 na lang magkasama lagi kami naguusap (ganda nya kahawig si Jessica Alba) and it happens during OT kadalasan.. but i only treat her as a friend dahil intimidated din ako sa katayuan nya sa buhay (mayaman family nya).. di kalaunan sya na mismo nag-invite na magdinner kaming 2.. sya na ang sagot kasi mayaman tlg sya at may sariling car pa.. wala naman nangyari after first dinner kasi nauna akong umuwi (mejo inosente pa ko nun eh).. pero yung 2nd dinner dun na sya nagbiro ng "quickie" daw kami kc maraming malapit na motel sa kinakainan namin pero tinawanan ko lang sya tumatawa kasi sya habang sinasabi nya yun.. akala ko nagbibiro sya pero habang nagddrive sya niliko nya nga sa isang motel na may drive inn.. kinabahan ako nun kc first time ko.. tahimik lang kmi sa loob ng car tapos sya na nakipag-usap sa roomboy.. sunod lang ako sa kanya pero pagpasok sa kwarto sa pinto hinawakan nya kamay ko.. eye to eye contact kami then after 10 seconds french kiss agad kami.. sa kissing pa lang umabot n kami ng 10min mahigit and then 3 rounds of sex.. the rest is history and that was 6 years ago.. natapos lang yun nung magresign sya sa work to continue her studies.. nagmessage sya few months after namin huling magkita na masaya sya na malungkot kasi hanggang doon lang ang naging pagsasama namin at kung magkakaroon sya ng bf gusto nya ako.. hindi ako nakareply kasi nagdeactivate sya ng fb..



#2583 Godfather435

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Posted 22 September 2019 - 04:59 PM

5-Strike Rule. After, End of Contract.



#2584 margallo123

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Posted 23 September 2019 - 04:42 PM

anu ba teknik para magkaroon ng FUBU

#2585 bubbaa

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Posted 10 October 2019 - 05:12 PM

dont fall inlove jdkdbd

#2586 LV_YOONAH

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Posted 11 October 2019 - 06:42 PM

hi 😊

#2587 SunsetDaze

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Posted 11 October 2019 - 08:46 PM

Can't really give advice since never ko naranasan to

#2588 Mr. Two

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Posted 15 October 2019 - 07:39 PM

1st fubu ko 2011 wala pa ko masyado alam nun how to handle fubu kasi kakagaling ko lang sa break-up serious relationship tapos wala pa nga ko balak mag hanap ng syota ulit. I met her sa isang binyag ng friend ko lalaki. Sya naman friend nung girl. After ng inuman nagkayaan pa mag padis. Exchange ng #'s after a month 2nd date na namin pero uminom lang kmi after ng 1 bukcet nagyaya na,ayun napunta na sa motmot. Nung pang 3x times nag sabi ng L word eh wala pa nga sa plan ko mag seryoso ayun palit ng cp #. No contacts na. Yung mga sumunod na na-meet ko sa tagged 3 girls din umpisa pa lang dapat malinaw na sa girl kung ano lang kayo para hindi rin mag expect, pero sabihin in a nice way hanap ka lang tamang timing kung kelan mo sknya sasabihin wag agad agad.

Edited by mister.9, 15 October 2019 - 07:40 PM.


#2589 chapschaps

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Posted 07 November 2019 - 04:06 PM

banat lang hanggat gusto at kaya.. pagtanda mo iiling at manginginig na lang 


hi

 

hello



#2590 Extreme Noah

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Posted 07 November 2019 - 06:18 PM

Enjoy lang,,,and control your feelings...

#2591 Pentatonic88

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Posted 25 November 2019 - 12:47 AM

experience on having FUBU

 

1. Learn to set the limits from the start. No falling in love. NO strings attached.

    - It will be a big help for your FUBU to know your status if it's going towards a romantic status or " Just for fun"

 

2. Respect her & what she wants.

    - Wag mapilit sa gusto mo mangyari kasi FUBU lang kayo.

    - respect her as a female even though having FUN is the core of the relationship

 

3. Know when to stop

    - There will come a time that having FUBU is not gonna be beneficial for you.
       This is the time that your FUBU is crossing the boundaries that you dictated from the very start.

   - Lalo na sa point in your life na gusto mo na mag hanap ng serious relationship(for single men). having a fubu will be a hinderance
     believe me.


Edited by Pentatonic88, 27 November 2019 - 01:45 PM.

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#2592 strikingvipers123

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Posted 25 November 2019 - 09:05 PM

Know the limits. Kahit kating kati kana na to the point na gusto mo sana maging clingy sa kanya, stop it. You are just there for sex.

Do not expect. Have fun if nagsex kayo ofc. Wag haluan ng feelings. Tropa tropa lang ganun.

Way better no sharing of personal info para di masakit if may nakita ka sa fb lol.

If sawa na or ayaw na, just say a clear goodbye. Though fubu lang yan but nobody deserves din naman to be left hanging.

It sucks kase syempre, hanggang sex lang e. Pero nasa sa inyo if want nyo to the next level.

But i dont think so if tatgal din kayo pero depende. Self self self love. :)
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Posted 26 November 2019 - 06:54 PM

Almost had one pero nagiba ihip ng hangin. Sayang tuloy ang pagkakataon. 



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Posted 08 December 2019 - 11:40 PM

Hello po

#2595 shigeno goro

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Posted 12 December 2019 - 08:29 AM

Need talaga clear for both parties.

1) Enjoy each other's companies but know your limits.

2) Pag usapan mabuti, wag ung bahala na attitude. Yari tayo diyan.

3) Pag na inlove ka, tapos na ang laban. bahala kana. HAHA!

Enjoy the thrill!



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Posted 15 December 2019 - 10:44 AM

Just be professional and stick of what you have agreed..

#2597 TheRedHood

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Posted 30 January 2020 - 10:23 AM

hmmm. . . kasali na ba ako dito?. . . only time can tell  :P



#2598 barbie yen

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Posted 30 January 2020 - 04:12 PM

Enjoy nga pag friends with benefits hehehe

#2599 Aries.Maximus

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Posted 30 January 2020 - 04:33 PM

acknowledged the limitation, expectation and protection coz if not, feel the pain of headache and heartache.



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Posted 07 February 2020 - 03:07 PM

Number one rule wag paasa and find somebody who doesn't need commitment ....just fun.






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