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#1 *Jessie*

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Posted 20 November 2013 - 02:35 PM

I want it frank, straight and honest. Para sa may asawa, planong mag asawa, open mag asawa, or may jowa.

No matter how happy you are with your partner, do you still see yourself getting involved with another person?

Why, why not? :)
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Posted 20 November 2013 - 03:10 PM

Involved as in deeply involved? Well, IMHO, there are different levels of involvement in relationships. Pero whatever level that may be, ang deepest and most serious involvement na aatupagin ko is towards my wife. Siguro naman I can be friendly with women but not to the point where my emotional involvement towards them are greater than that of my involvement with my wife. So, to answer your question, I say no, I don't see myself being involved (as in in a serious, romantic, or even sexual relationship) with another woman. For me, gulo lang un. Gusto ko simple lang ang buhay. ^_^
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Posted 20 November 2013 - 04:08 PM

hmmm napapaisip ako ah, I would not know im not in any situation now

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Posted 20 November 2013 - 05:27 PM

yes, coz it has happened to me before. but once you're in the situation, you would rather not have put yourself into it.

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Posted 20 November 2013 - 05:29 PM

If I'm happy and things are going great, the decision not to fool around is so much easier :)

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Posted 20 November 2013 - 06:03 PM

Involved as in deeply involved? Well, IMHO, there are different levels of involvement in relationships. Pero whatever level that may be, ang deepest and most serious involvement na aatupagin ko is towards my wife. Siguro naman I can be friendly with women but not to the point where my emotional involvement towards them are greater than that of my involvement with my wife. So, to answer your question, I say no, I don't see myself being involved (as in in a serious, romantic, or even sexual relationship) with another woman. For me, gulo lang un. Gusto ko simple lang ang buhay. ^_^


I somewhat expected this answer from you, silvervic. :)

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Posted 20 November 2013 - 06:06 PM

hmmm napapaisip ako ah, I would not know im not in any situation now


I think you do know your answer very well. ;)

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Posted 20 November 2013 - 06:09 PM

This might be a very straight to the point question but Ive thinking about it for quite some time so I thought of creating a topic related to this. I am interested in the answers I will get. The question is for men and women to answer. :)

BTW, I am kinda hoping to get good responses in spite of a huge possibility for most of us to hold back due to a loooooot of reasons. :rolleyes:

Edited by *Jessie*, 20 November 2013 - 06:11 PM.


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Posted 20 November 2013 - 06:14 PM

If I'm happy and things are going great, the decision not to fool around is so much easier :)


I feel you, man. :)

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Posted 20 November 2013 - 06:17 PM

yes, coz it has happened to me before. but once you're in the situation, you would rather not have put yourself into it.


I can imagine. And nobody in his/her right mind who would want to put themselves in that situation.

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Posted 20 November 2013 - 06:48 PM

NO.

Tapatan na. I have played around before and cheated once on an ex to get back at him but I think it's safe to say that if and when I am in a relationship or perhaps if I'm married then I wouldn't get myself involve with another person. It IS tempting. And masarap daw ang bawal. Pero I chose to be happy with that person hence I will be with him. :)



So true. It IS tempting. SOOOOO tempting. It never leaves because temptation is in our heads. It stays unless we cut our heads off. :P
I am glad you're setting you mind to choose the right and best decisions. :)

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Posted 20 November 2013 - 07:28 PM

Oo naman

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Posted 20 November 2013 - 07:40 PM

Once your committed to your marriage.No More Fooling around. I have friends who try to cheat or fool with other women. End result is they have another family to feed and support or end up being single. Women now are more determined to raise a family alone.

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Posted 20 November 2013 - 10:40 PM

Especially if lust overpowers you. But it is your (in this case, my) choice to be happy with someone :)

Thanks for your topic, sis!


Uh oh, lust when too much, just like other things, is bad enough. Haha! It should be pointed to the right direction :)

Thanks for sharing sis. I kindov think the question is too revealing so some might not leave any comment at all. Lol

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Posted 20 November 2013 - 10:42 PM

Once your committed to your marriage.No More Fooling around. I have friends who try to cheat or fool with other women. End result is they have another family to feed and support or end up being single. Women now are more determined to raise a family alone.



Very realistic and reasonable. Thanks for sharing LRO.

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Posted 20 November 2013 - 10:44 PM

Oo naman


Awesome. I wonder why. :)

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Posted 20 November 2013 - 11:19 PM

Being unhappy in a current relationship is not the only reason why one could cheat on a significant other. For me it's the thrill of the hunt; an inherent drive to conquer; to know for certain that one still "has it". Men have the need to feed their egos, and other than power, nothing feeds our ego more than a beautiful woman. But just because I cheat does not mean that I do not love my significant other, nor does it mean that I am not committed. Sure, this may be seen as weakness; to give in and succumb to a primal instinct, not being able to muster the strength of will to hold back. There will always be a tinge of regret in that feeling of satisfaction. But I would rather regret something that was, than what could have been. It is a risk, for by doing so I stand to lose the people I love. But I do it so that I do not lose myself. In a sense, it does not make me a better man, but at least in the end, I do not feel like a lesser one.

"I wanna be faithful but I can't keep my hands off the cookie jar."
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Posted 21 November 2013 - 12:35 AM

Being unhappy in a current relationship is not the only reason why one could cheat on a significant other. For me it's the thrill of the hunt; an inherent drive to conquer; to know for certain that one still "has it". Men have the need to feed their egos, and other than power, nothing feeds our ego more than a beautiful woman. But just because I cheat does not mean that I do not love my significant other, nor does it mean that I am not committed. Sure, this may be seen as weakness; to give in and succumb to a primal instinct, not being able to muster the strength of will to hold back. There will always be a tinge of regret in that feeling of satisfaction. But I would rather regret something that was, than what could have been. It is a risk, for by doing so I stand to lose the people I love. But I do it so that I do not lose myself. In a sense, it does not make me a better man, but at least in the end, I do not feel like a lesser one.

"I wanna be faithful but I can't keep my hands off the cookie jar."


i can totally relate to your point of view. I actually talked about this with my friend. He basically told me that i am probably not content with my life and i need certain things to do in order to keep things interesting. But he also cautioned me that i am also lying to my significant other by not telling her. I said why would i tell her, it would only get me in trouble, and he said you probably don't love her then. Regardless of your reasons for keeping things secret from your other. if you truly love them you would not keep things from them. you must be open in your relationship in order for it to grow. He also said people will always look for certain reasons to do certain things no matter how bad or unfair they are therefore in return, hurting the people we love. He also said that's I'm being selfish regardless of the reasons I do in order to cheat. We are being selfish to the person we love because we in turn are lying to them.

In the end he told me, sure you might get away with it and live happily with your significant other without her finding out. But know this. "When you do meet God, he would want an answer as to why you lied to your other without telling her what you did." and if you can't provide a sufficient answer for his question. He will definitely pass judgment on you when that time comes"

In hindsight, i thought what he said made sense. I was being selfish and i didn't think of anyone but my own desires and wants without realizing it would be detrimental to the person i love. It also scared me since he mentioned God would pass judgment on me when the time does come when i meet him in the other life.

I may get what i desire in this life. But i might also suffer the consequences of my actions forever in the other life and this made me realize my mistake and i promised never to do it again. i also came clean to my other and told her all the things i did. It was a bad time for a while, but in the end she forgave me and i have been honest with her from that point on. No More Secrets!

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Posted 21 November 2013 - 01:35 AM

Definitely not

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Posted 21 November 2013 - 10:27 AM

I second the motion to what Jessie said about you Vic. :)
So you.

To Pinai and *Jessie*: Now now, you two make it look like I'm sort of a saint because in fact I'm not. I've wallowed in some murky (read: lusty) waters before and I've learned my lesson because of it. I think having a couple of girls or even up to a harem is good for one's ego and carnal urges but I guess that's not the life I want for me. To each their own I guess. For me, I want a simple life--just to love and be loved by one person. It's too complicated for me to give a lot of attention to a lot of women. I only have one body and 24 hours to give that, and I think one girl can take all of that and then some. Sa akin nga, kulang na nga ang oras na binibigay ko sa biological family ko, tapus may asawa pa ako, kaya wala nang masyadong oras para sa sarili ko, tapus kukuha pa ako ng ibang tao na kakain ng natitira kong oras? Ano mangyayare sa akin? Maaaburido na ako nun. Gamitin ko na lang ang natitirang oras sa tulog at sa sidelines ko; healthy na, yayaman pa. Hehehe. Anyway, I guess it's a good thing na I've learned this particular lesson before I got married. I think I like to search out for life's lessons and learn them the hard way when I was young. So, lemme reiterate, I'm no saint; I'm just a normal guy--with a good head that knows what's what on his shoulders. ^_^




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