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Would you go after somebody who's taken? (Not Married for the sake of Moral Issues)..... This is not about cheating (so dont go after me :P ) What if you meet the right one, and that person already has a boyfriend/Girlfriend? would you go thru it? Are we doing them a favor by testing thier relationship? What are your thought?

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Would you go after somebody who's taken? (Not Married for the sake of Moral Issues)..... This is not about cheating (so dont go after me :P ) What if you meet the right one, and that person already has a boyfriend/Girlfriend? would you go thru it? Are we doing them a favor by testing thier relationship? What are your thought?

Why not? Everybody deserves another chance.It happened to me, it can happen to anyone.As the song goes.."Over hearts I have painfully turned every stones just to find I have found what I've searched to discover.I've come much too far for me now to find the love that I sought can never be mine.."

U see..love will always be just as it is..silently mysterious and deeply profound..

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A contriversial topic, but nevertheless worth discussing:) Nobody really wants to lose somebody, but who are we to stand in the way of love... or is it just based on seduction... if thats the case, what is love then... are we just merely pressing the right buttons or is there really to be said about a real connection between two individuals.... :hypocritesmiley:

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I'd never pursue a relationship with a girl who's already spoken for. It doesn't sit well with me, knowing that I would be responsible for a breakup. Incidentally, it has happened to me already. The situation was ripe for just this type of scenario, because I was in a long-distance relationship. They were colleagues; both nurses in the States. It's a commonly held notion that pre-existing long-distance relationships do not pose any hindrance to courtship between fellow Filipinos there. Given the circumstances, I suppose one cannot fault the parties involved. Homesickness is no picnic. It's all a matter of faith that the relationship would survive such an onslaught. It may seem unfair at that instant, but I believe whatever was meant to be shall prevail.

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Sorry to hear about that brother. . .

 

but your right homesickness is not picnic. . .

 

it is really hard on anyone to be apart from their family and friends. . .

 

the hardest time was when the holidays are coming. . .

 

you will really feel so miserable. . .

Thanks, Bro'. Since it takes people to make a relationship work, then I believe there are many variables we have to consider. My situation is just one such example. Even if the relationship failed, at least I know that I did my best to work it out. I won't be bothered by "what-if's." I've been given a real sense of closure, that way.

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i'll not actively court the girl or even try something that may be percieved as leading to something more intimate.

 

friends? maybe. more than friends? i wouldn't even dream of it.

 

though if she's the one who decides to break up her current relationship and i soon end up being with her, that wouldn't qualify as me going after somebody who's spoken for, right?

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i'll not actively court the girl or even try something that may be percieved as leading to something more intimate.

 

friends? maybe. more than friends? i wouldn't even dream of it.

 

though if she's the one who decides to break up her current relationship and i soon end up being with her, that wouldn't qualify as me going after somebody who's spoken for, right?

If she broke off her relationship because she was interested in you, even if you never hinted on one, then that wouldn't be your fault. My ex's present husband approached her as a friend at the time. In the course of our conversations while we were still together, she gave away details which led me to believe he was interested in something more than friendship. I pointed them out, but she refused to attach meaning to his gestures. From a guy's point of view, his moves were pretty obvious. I suppose she never wanted to put malice into them, which was why she was comfortable sharing such details. As he ingratiated himself to her with all his favors, it came to a point wherein she even wanted me to befriend him. I knew where this was all leading to, so after telling her that he would confide his true feelings in due time, I decided to avoid playing the jealous card. While I was still in the process of making travel arrangements to spend some time with her, all I had going for me then were our conversations over the phone and the internet. Rather than being confrontational about the whole matter, I just said my piece whenever appropriate, and left it at that. True enough, he eventually proposed. The decision fell on her shoulders...it was out of my hands. It was rather unfortunate that being practically alone in the States left her emotionally vulnerable; otherwise, I think we stood a pretty good chance. She's been through quite a lot, really. That decision was a heavy burden, and I tried to do my part to ease it. All's well now. Her close friends speak of how happy she is with her married life. I'd do anything to make her happy; I'm glad it all worked out for her.

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In regards to the topic on hand. . .

 

I guess one can still pursue a girl even if she's already spoken for. . .

 

I see nothing wrong with it, as long as you have the noblest intention with the girl. . .

 

what I think is wrong is if the girl is already married or about to be married, but other than that, I see no wrong with it. . .

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If she broke off her relationship because she was interested in you, even if you never hinted on one, then that wouldn't be your fault. My ex's present husband approached her as a friend at the time. In the course of our conversations while we were still together, she gave away details which led me to believe he was interested in something more than friendship. I pointed them out, but she refused to attach meaning to his gestures. From a guy's point of view, his moves were pretty obvious. I suppose she never wanted to put malice into them, which was why she was comfortable sharing such details. As he ingratiated himself to her with all his favors, it came to a  point wherein she even wanted me to befriend him. I knew where this was all leading to, so after telling her that he would confide his true feelings in due time, I decided to avoid playing the jealous card. While I was still in the process of making travel arrangements to spend some time with her, all I had going for me then were our conversations over the phone and the internet. Rather than being confrontational about the whole matter, I just said my piece whenever appropriate, and left it at that. True enough, he eventually proposed. The decision fell on her shoulders...it was out of my hands. It was rather unfortunate that being practically alone in the States left her emotionally vulnerable; otherwise, I think we stood a pretty good chance. She's been through quite a lot, really. That decision was a heavy burden, and I tried to do my part to ease it. All's well now. Her close friends speak of how happy she is with her married life. I'd do anything to make her happy; I'm glad it all worked out for her.

 

dude, idol kita! i would have done exactly what you did if i were in your shoes, and it is good to know you played it cool. :cool:

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Would you go after somebody who's taken? (Not Married for the sake of Moral Issues)..... This is not about cheating (so dont go after me :P ) What if you meet the right one, and that person already has a boyfriend/Girlfriend? would you go thru it? Are we doing them a favor by testing thier relationship? What are your thought?

 

i wont... simple lang ang patakaran ko sa buhay, "kung ano ang ayaw mong gawin sa iyo, wag mo rin gawin sa iba"... antayin ko na lang maghiwalay sila bago ako umeksena...

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Would you go after somebody who's taken? (Not Married for the sake of Moral Issues)..... This is not about cheating (so dont go after me :P ) What if you meet the right one, and that person already has a boyfriend/Girlfriend? would you go thru it? Are we doing them a favor by testing thier relationship? What are your thought?

 

For me...why not? As long as they are not married, I would go for it. I love the girl so might as well express it to her and see what happens. And YES you are doing them a favor by testing their relationship. But for me its not like that...its all about what I feel about the girl. :rolleyes:

 

And also if I have a gf at that time, I would tell her immediately about what I feel about the girl. I wouldn't want her to be a buffer in case the girl doesn't reciprocate to what I feel.

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For me...why not? As long as they are not married, I would go for it. I love the girl so might as well express it to her and see what happens. And YES you are doing them a favor by testing their relationship. But for me its not like that...its all about what I feel about the girl.  :rolleyes:

 

And also if I have a at that time, I would tell her immediately about what I feel about the girl. I wouldn't want her to be a buffer in case the girl doesn't reciprocate to what I feel.

 

 

I agree with you!!!!

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