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Abortion: When Is It Not A Sin?


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A friend of mine got impregnated due to adultery.. She says she had an affair a few months back from today.. And the guy who she had an affair with left after knowing that she is pregnant with him.. She knows its his because her husband has not made love to her for over six months.. Why? She would not let him.. Says she does not love him anymore.. And to make matters worse, is that the guy is a good provider, loving and understanding.. He has not done anything to her that would make her lose that love.. (How do I know this? Well, she told me herself.) And to compound everything is that they have a child who is now 6 years old..

 

Her husband learned about the infidelity and the unborn child but asked her to give the child up by aborting it, if she still would want to continue on with the relationship.. The wife wanted out of the relationship but cared for her child's (from her real husband) well-being.. Fearing of the consequences if a separation shall be done, she reluctantly had the baby aborted just last week.. But right now, she is really suffering miserably and no amount of comforting from anyone has made her lose the thought that she killed a life from her own womb..

 

I told her that it is wrong, but it was needed.. And maybe, God would understand and if she really is remorseful, than maybe God would forgive her from the adultery to the abortion.. What do you think? How about rape victims?

 

Rape victims who get impregnated, on the other hand, in the Islamic law are allowed to decide the fate of the baby.. But in adultery, Islamic law states otherwise.. What is your stand?

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the only condition that i know of, which excuses, and allows this act, is medically-related.

 

in bioethics in med school, we were taught to choose the lesser evil.

 

in our cancer patients who are pregnant, for example, we make sure that both husband/partner and wife are aware of the risks and benefits....

we can give chemo/radiotherapy during the first trimester, but spontaneous abortion would be a risk, and should be expected; this would have the benefit, though, of prolonging the mom's life.

 

or we can forego and do away with the treatment, and wait for full-term delivery, but will put the mom at risk of dying.

 

we always leave the choice to them, after presenting the options.

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only when the life of the mother is at stake... Thats all I know..

CORRECT! And let us further qualify that. The mother's life is at stake because of the pregnancy (and not because your father/husband is going to k*ll if ever they found out). The fetus is HUMAN LIFE. "Self-defence" is the only legal reason to end someone's life.

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FOR ME...abortion is a sin, you can never justify it. There is no such thing as small and big sin, murder, adultery, lying, stealing, saying bad things about others,these are all sin and all sins are equal. If she ask for forgiveness and repent, im very sure the LORD will forgive her. God is forgiving and He gives countless chances.

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Ooooohhhh.... Very touchy topic.

 

Just to add firewood to the flame so to speak, would abortion be justifiable if let's say the fetus was diagnosed as having no limbs, or has autism, or any debilitating disease that would make it hard for the baby to grow and be independent eventually?

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nice topic. let us remember we are not God to get a life of an innocent baby, your God given conscience will determine what is right and wrong for you. I'm a parent and the child has nothing to do with any mistakes of the woman or the man who made them.. the child/ fetus will bear the consequences of the people who had the power over it and one day we will be held accountable when we face God.

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A friend of mine got impregnated due to adultery.. She says she had an affair a few months back from today.. And the guy who she had an affair with left after knowing that she is pregnant with him.. She knows its his because her husband has not made love to her for over six months.. Why? She would not let him.. Says she does not love him anymore.. And to make matters worse, is that the guy is a good provider, loving and understanding.. He has not done anything to her that would make her lose that love.. (How do I know this? Well, she told me herself.) And to compound everything is that they have a child who is now 6 years old..

 

Her husband learned about the infidelity and the unborn child but asked her to give the child up by aborting it, if she still would want to continue on with the relationship.. The wife wanted out of the relationship but cared for her child's (from her real husband) well-being.. Fearing of the consequences if a separation shall be done, she reluctantly had the baby aborted just last week.. But right now, she is really suffering miserably and no amount of comforting from anyone has made her lose the thought that she killed a life from her own womb..

 

I told her that it is wrong, but it was needed.. And maybe, God would understand and if she really is remorseful, than maybe God would forgive her from the adultery to the abortion.. What do you think? How about rape victims?

 

Rape victims who get impregnated, on the other hand, in the Islamic law are allowed to decide the fate of the baby.. But in adultery, Islamic law states otherwise.. What is your stand?

 

I know some people who went through the same process. we really cant blame at this point what she needs is a time to heal and forgive her self. if she is still in the same condition you can have her go to CCF every sunday. a lot of people can talk to her there for counselling.. CCF is at St. Francis Square 4-5th floor. just ask for counselling.

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Just to add firewood to the flame so to speak, would abortion be justifiable if let's say the fetus was diagnosed as having no limbs, or has autism, or any debilitating disease that would make it hard for the baby to grow and be independent eventually?

 

No! Abortion is still not justifiable since the child has life already. Only God has every valid right to take the kid back to Him.

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It is always the choice of the woman carrying the baby....Seriously, it's a much bigger sin to give birth to the child and not give it the proper environment to grow up in......That's not the kind of life they would want to live in anyway...Look at the number of street children we have here in Manila alone....They either grow up to be petty thieves or prostitutes because their parents are too poor to give them feed them let alone give them the proper education so they can be productive members of society. That's not the kind of life they would want anyway given the choice. It is easy for us to pass judgments on women who underwent the procedure out of sheer desperation, personal tragedy, or low socio economic status because we are not in the unfortunate situations or circumstances as these women and what about children who are barely old enough to take care of themselves let alone take care of another human being??? Like children barely out of puberty....We are talking 12 or 13 year old.....It's good if the child comes from a well to do family where she can count on the financial and emotional support of her family.......What if the child is from a low income family??? How can she count on the support of other family members financially or otherwise if the family members themselves have trouble making ends meet??? What kind of life will the young mother have and what kind of life will she be able to provide for her child??? It's very likely that the young mother would have to resort to illegal or immoral means ie prostituting or selling drugs to support her child because 1st of all she is not alllowed to work and has very little or no education...How will she be able to support her child??? Sometimes it's not even a question of morality anymore....We are living in a real world with real problems........I am not here to belittle or inflame anyone's opinion regarding abortion.....It's just my opinion....Peace!!!!

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