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#1 Mr.Monday

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Posted 18 October 2015 - 02:59 PM

On the other thread "Falling for Therapist" majority of the comments seems to malign the therapists, psps and MPAs. Na kesyo mangagamit lang sila, or wag magpakatanga ang GM. (majority not all)

 

Let's hear the side of the girls. I'm sure some of them really did fall in love naman.

 

So ladies, what happened when you fell in love with a client? Did you get hurt when they availed other girls? How did you manage your relationship?



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Posted 18 October 2015 - 03:29 PM

People are often times angry of girls looking for financers or sponsors. They said, they are gold digging bitches. Well, for me nowadays, I don't see anything bad about the logic. Before, I used to disagree with this thought. I was too naive that there are loyal and faithful men. That love conquers all. But I was wrong. I was wronged many many times.

Now, it seems like I can even be proud and secured to have one. Why? It's because love nowadays are merely fantasy. We women are so vulnerable about men's false promises and we ended up expecting for the false hopes. Men use women for their pleasure and satisfaction and women let men use them for free. By expecting of the chances that "Baka mabago ko siya". We often times mistaken love for the need of companionship. Well, that's a win lose situation

I have seen the world much farther than the rest. More than cheating women, I have personally seen hundred and probably thousands of cheating men.

So as for me, men that finance women are generous and worth it. You may call me a bitch but I am jelous and proud of women that does the kink. I must commend their tactics for they have been using themselves to take care of themselves and do offer their service in exchange for the gratitude. They are practical and I must say good.

How do they do it? I don't know but from my point of view, with the generation we have, I cannot judge them anymore.



Although I don't generalize all men and women, therapists are human too. They feel the power of connection. They ofcourse experience jealousy. They feel the uttermost ego destroying thought of "I have given my best but why is he still looking for someone else?" especially if there was the spark between the two of them.

As for me, if you are really so into her, you will save her from the life and dignity destroying job. But if you are not doing anything to uplift her, then blaming her for providing a service is not for you.

You met her in that way, you know what she's doing, making her stop without you giving her security is like taking her capability of living and earning especially if she has no choice but to end up in that position.


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Posted 18 October 2015 - 03:53 PM

Thanks for the reply Mia.

 

Sabi nga nila, it takes two to tango, two hands to clap etc. For a relationship to be successful, there should be an equal give and take scenario happening.

 

Why does the thera fall for a client? Is it really just for material things, companionship or respect they receive from a GM?

What keeps their relationship thrive or what makes it fail?

 

I really hope other females can contribute din :) I can see a lot of status updates na puro hugot eh.



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Posted 18 October 2015 - 04:17 PM

personally..

 

i'd like to hear the ligaw stories and kung ano ginawa para bumagsak ang bataan. 

 

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Posted 18 October 2015 - 09:23 PM

The moral of this story is that no matter how much we try.. no matter how much we want it.. SOME stories just dont have a happy ending.. :)

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Posted 18 October 2015 - 09:51 PM

Come to think 0f it... if it really JUST for the material things. NAPAKADAMI namang nagbibigay and willing magbigay ng kung anu anu......... so its something more.......

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Posted 18 October 2015 - 10:48 PM

Cant help but smile. Nung nabasa ko title ng thread may mukhang nag appear sa utak ko. :)
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Posted 19 October 2015 - 07:59 AM

Cant help but smile. Nung nabasa ko title ng thread may mukhang nag appear sa utak ko. :)

 

Care to share your story? :P

 

Anong pinagkaiba nya sa ibang lalaki? Is a client or from outside?



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Posted 19 October 2015 - 08:03 AM

Come to think 0f it... if it really JUST for the material things. NAPAKADAMI namang nagbibigay and willing magbigay ng kung anu anu......... so its something more.......

 

Exactly the point of this thread. We're talking about real inlababo here :)

Na Di porket Thera/MPA/PSP may boyfriend eh material things na agad ang hanap.



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Posted 19 October 2015 - 08:41 AM

 

Exactly the point of this thread. We're talking about real inlababo here :)

Na Di porket Thera/MPA/PSP may boyfriend eh material things na agad ang hanap.

Meron ding na iinlove kahit palamunin yung lalaki. 



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Posted 19 October 2015 - 09:16 AM

Its hard not to very much like a client or the therapist. If that's the case, you should extend your bond outside the spa, if you choose to be not binded by professional boundary- not to fall for a client. No matter what techniques a therapist uses, the basic architecture of the one-on-one meeting provides an intimate setting where romantic feelings can grow. In a world of social media and text messages, just sitting across from someone breathing and attractive/interesting atthat for an hour or so is unique, and can be exciting.

Therapists feel a range of emotions toward clientsfrom disgust to lust. It's natural for therapists to feel attraction- they do experience an emotional intimacy with their clients. But it's not always genuinely reciprocal. That's the real and lurking danger....
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Posted 19 October 2015 - 09:27 AM

Mod Alex, if I can offer sana my two cents

 

Lagi kong sinasabi kahit sa kabilang thread na sa setup na ito, mas talo talaga yung babae kung hindi naman sya sineseryoso ng lalake. Lets face it, sa industry na ito puros palikero at babaero yung mahahanap na lalake. Patay pa tayo dyan kung me sabit na.

 

Marami kasi tayong naging kwento dito na nung sumama na yung babae sa lalake, nagbago ang ugali, at sinasaktan na babae. Kung kelan nagkaanak na sana sila. Tapos nung natapos relationship, balik lang si babae sa dating trabaho. Meron din na kung kelan move on na yung babae start na sana ng malinis na buhay, saka sya mumultuhin ng misis nung lalake.

 

Ano ba nawawala sa lalake? Pera na kikitain lang naman ulit? Pride na pag nasugatan gumagaling naman. Pero sa babae, buong pagkababae at buong pagkatao halos nawawala na sa kanya


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Posted 19 October 2015 - 11:10 AM

Ano ba nawawala sa lalake? Pera na kikitain lang naman ulit? Pride na pag nasugatan gumagaling naman. Pero sa babae, buong pagkababae at buong pagkatao halos nawawala na sa kanya

 

Well, if we talk about feelings, walang gender jan. It's a matter of how you portray yourself. So yeah, I don't go for the "walang nawawala sa lalake" because it's a hasty generalization.

 

To me, however, it's a mutual thing nga. It's true that you ought to save the thera from her current situation pero wag naman yung magpaka-sugar daddy din. Let her learn din on how to live siguro. Most of the women there are young naman so they could still pursue higher dreams :)


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Posted 19 October 2015 - 01:01 PM

Well, if we talk about feelings, walang gender jan. It's a matter of how you portray yourself. So yeah, I don't go for the "walang nawawala sa lalake" because it's a hasty generalization.
 
To me, however, it's a mutual thing nga. It's true that you ought to save the thera from her current situation pero wag naman yung magpaka-sugar daddy din. Let her learn din on how to live siguro. Most of the women there are young naman so they could still pursue higher dreams :)

I'll be straightforwardly mean. Most women in this industry are not educated and yes, most of them are from the slams which means, cheaper attitude, no brains. I am not generalizing everyone but most of these women have no etiquette and no eloquent reason to be in the corporate world.

I don't want to be a racist but you're really picking up a stone. I don't want to be a racist as it will surely hurt the theras and I'm not an exemption here. I, on my behalf is just extending myself to a deeper meaning in this industry, to see the world far beyond and for a strategic marketing and will soon be leaving however most woman that chose to work in this industry are incapable of working in legit places or in the corporate world.

Remember, sophistication is not seen in the way you dress and in the way you act. It is seen in the way you think. You're lucky enough if she is educated for she can live without whoring herself again
So here's my advice, think again but don't judge. I for the matter agree with Edmund Dantes, most men are only losing money, a money which they can earn. Eitherway, women are just used as a pleasure machine these days and women are losing their trust, dignity and themselves. Let's face it, we are in denial and will just be fooling ourselves if we say we are not whores, sluts and "bayaran".
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Posted 19 October 2015 - 01:25 PM

 

Well, if we talk about feelings, walang gender jan. It's a matter of how you portray yourself. So yeah, I don't go for the "walang nawawala sa lalake" because it's a hasty generalization.

 

To me, however, it's a mutual thing nga. It's true that you ought to save the thera from her current situation pero wag naman yung magpaka-sugar daddy din. Let her learn din on how to live siguro. Most of the women there are young naman so they could still pursue higher dreams :)

 

Ang ibig kong sabihin mas magiging emotionally scarring ito sa babae kesa sa lalake.

 

Yung lalake, me regular day job naman siguro. Me disenteng bahay. Otherwise papano nya masusustentohan bisyo na ganito. Pag niloko sya ng babae, ok his heart may be broken and all that, pero mas madali gumaling yung pride.

 

Eh yung babae? Ganyan na nga trabaho nya, lolokohin pa sya ng lalake. Ano pa matitira ngayon sa kanya? The job alone can be emotionally taxing. Talagang matinding depression kakalabasan nyan


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Posted 19 October 2015 - 01:28 PM

Interesting thought Mia... I'm surprised you're leaving soon. We haven't met in person, but I wish you well and all the best in your future endeavors...

Now back to topic, thank you Sir Alex for opening this thread. This is really interesting... hope more can share their stories or real life experiences...

More power to everybody and have a blessed afternoon... Stay dry and safe. :)
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Posted 19 October 2015 - 01:38 PM

correct lang kita mia, hindi pagiging racist ang sinabi mo, ang definition ng racism ay "discrimination against people of different race/nationality." mababa ang tingin sa ibang lahi.

 

yung sinabi mo is "Classism, discrimination against people of low social class". mababa ang tingin sa mahihirap



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Posted 19 October 2015 - 01:44 PM

Most women in this industry are not educated and yes, most of them are from the slams which means, cheaper attitude, no brains. I am not generalizing everyone but most of these women have no etiquette and no eloquent reason to be in the corporate world.
 

 

I truely agree with this.  Kaya yung mga relationships as nagiging marriage/live-in by convenience.  The thera will be financially stable and will be able to help her family  while the GM will be very much content kasi realistically he won't get a young beautiful girl that's outside this kind of industry.  Kesa tumikim ng iba ibang lalaki,  pipiliin nalang ng thera  sa isa na alam naman niya na mahal siya. Pwede naman kasi iisipin ng thera na matututuahn ko naman siyang mahalin.


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Posted 19 October 2015 - 01:51 PM

correct lang kita mia, hindi pagiging racist ang sinabi mo, ang definition ng racism ay "discrimination against people of different race/nationality." mababa ang tingin sa ibang lahi.
 
yung sinabi mo is "Classism, discrimination against people of low social class". mababa ang tingin sa mahihirap


Thank you for correcting me. I'll take note of that. I believe that racism can take the form of social actions, practices or beliefs, or political systems that consider different races and classes to be ranked as inherently superior or inferior to each other, based on presumed shared inheritable traits, abilities, or qualities. It may also hold that members of different races should be treated differently.

But yours is much better word. Kudos!

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Posted 19 October 2015 - 01:53 PM

I truely agree with this.  Kaya yung mga relationships as nagiging marriage/live-in by convenience.  The thera will be financially stable and will be able to help her family  while the GM will be very much content kasi realistically he won't get a young beautiful girl that's outside this kind of industry.  Kesa tumikim ng iba ibang lalaki,  pipiliin nalang ng thera  sa isa na alam naman niya na mahal siya. Pwede naman kasi iisipin ng thera na matututuahn ko naman siyang mahalin.


Thank you.

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