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#9021 roxxxxx

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Posted 13 January 2017 - 12:08 AM

Pag may na feel kang spark, tinamaan ka nga talaga. at kung sa tingin mo may chance go lang basta wala siyang sabit maliban sa baby niya :)

i got this thera today... and something just went off.... the "spark" maybe .. it was so weird.. i don't think i've ever felt it before.. during our first meeting and this.. and i left with a smile on my face.. we didn't finish.. but i was satisfied.. i don't know if it was just on my end, but damn what an exhilarating feeling.


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Posted 13 January 2017 - 01:23 AM

i got this thera today... and something just went off.... the "spark" maybe .. it was so weird.. i don't think i've ever felt it before.. during our first meeting and this.. and i left with a smile on my face.. we didn't finish.. but i was satisfied.. i don't know if it was just on my end, but damn what an exhilarating feeling.


At ganun yung sinasabi kong spark. :)

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Posted 13 January 2017 - 03:03 AM

I also have my fair share of this. Please don't interpret this as me being mayabang. But I always have theras kiss me in a torrid way. I'm not saying na lahat, pero halos lahat. There are times pa nga na I just decline kasi hndi ko kaya makipagtorrid dun sa thera. But there is this one thera na may spark tlga, I believe we have a connection. And it did not happen in just one meeting. It grows from time to time. But the thing is, I'm not ready to have a commitment with her. I also understand that maybe I'm just being glared by how we are with each other. I like her but I'm not sure if she likes me. Yes, we went out several times already. There are exchange of messages not related to thera-GM business. We know each other's personal details. So does that mean that she is into me? You be the judge guys.

For me, if we aren't ready or looking at a commitment with a thera, the best thing we can do is enjoy everything while it lasts, and never take advantage of her kindness. Don't give actions towards her hinting her that you are looking for a relationship. Instead, simply be nice to her and be a gentleman.

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Posted 13 January 2017 - 04:11 AM

I also have my fair share of this. Please don't interpret this as me being mayabang. But I always have theras kiss me in a torrid way. I'm not saying na lahat, pero halos lahat. There are times pa nga na I just decline kasi hndi ko kaya makipagtorrid dun sa thera. But there is this one thera na may spark tlga, I believe we have a connection. And it did not happen in just one meeting. It grows from time to time. But the thing is, I'm not ready to have a commitment with her. I also understand that maybe I'm just being glared by how we are with each other. I like her but I'm not sure if she likes me. Yes, we went out several times already. There are exchange of messages not related to thera-GM business. We know each other's personal details. So does that mean that she is into me? You be the judge guys.
For me, if we aren't ready or looking at a commitment with a thera, the best thing we can do is enjoy everything while it lasts, and never take advantage of her kindness. Don't give actions towards her hinting her that you are looking for a relationship. Instead, simply be nice to her and be a gentleman.


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Posted 13 January 2017 - 04:25 AM

Sorry for the late reply.. actually this is not the 1st to happen to me.. but sa kanya kasi ako na tulala talaga.. yeah maybe some of guys says na.. its just a part of the ES sabagay parang medyo tama since i confirm it already and i dont want to push through more furthur.. siguro if ever we meet out own path in a different baka nga.. pero now i know na wala tlga.. but i still believe that may mahahanap at mahahanap pa rin dito na love.. sounds newbie?? Nah im not.. tao lang tayo.. sabi nga minsan Lust at first sight but eventually it will turn to love din.. napasarap ang kwentuhan dito ah haha.. well its very hard to find yung tlgang pwdeng mong mahalin na tao in this kind of industry but still pag love na tumama sa GM OR vice versa.. may patutunguhan pa rin..

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Posted 13 January 2017 - 06:59 AM

At ganun yung sinasabi kong spark. :)

the question though, is this spark totally 1 sided? can that happen? or maybe the thera is just really great at making the GM feel like there;s something between them? its so hard also to trust this feeling.



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Posted 13 January 2017 - 09:18 AM

Delikado ang spark. Nakakapaso. Nakakasugat.

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Posted 13 January 2017 - 11:23 AM

I will share my spark moment.

First time ko siya nakita nang pumasok sa room, parang tumigil ang mundo - na love at first sight sa sobrang ganda niya. Perfect. Tapos mabait pa, sweet at walang kasing gandang smile.

Suddenly, parang hindi na nag-matter yata ang massage and es. Basta kasama lang siya, more than enough na.

Too bad she isn't active no more.

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Posted 13 January 2017 - 11:56 AM

#usapangspark there was one thera that i really got into unti we met up outside just not as a guest but
A friend to talk to., she voiced all her life choices and stories and we end up dating
Fulltime., time constrain us from seing each other i even need to book her just to
Talk to her ...... It was really something special and real ..

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Posted 13 January 2017 - 12:13 PM

Kaya ayoko na magspa. Kung gusto nya makipagkita then she'll find time. Unless paasa girl lang sya.

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Posted 13 January 2017 - 12:14 PM

Falling in love is easy as there are different kinds of love depending on a person. The hard part is staying in love in which most of us failed to do.

 

 

Or, add her up on Facebook, if she gives you her personal details there. 

 

If she sends you messages (that has nothing to do with her line of work), likes your posts, etc., that's a good starting point. 

 

I do agree on the conversation that has nothing to do with her line of work especially if she is the one throwing questions to you like how's your day? Then she goes to the details not just to start or prolong a conversation, if she is interested in your daily routine or what you feel on things, I would say that one is the good start. While I doubt that giving personal details and liking of facebook posts have something to do with liking or loving someone. Base on my experience. But then again, liking and loving someone are two different things just to emphasize.

 

 

One indication that the therapist may have a "liking" for you is when she gives you SOMETHING (a gift, present, pasalubong, whatever) as an act of goodwill, without you even asking for it.

 

It has been said that you can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving. :wub:

 

This could be right, especially if she spends a lot of effort preparing that gift. For us GMs, money is not a question, so the effort is more important for us if I'm not mistaken or at least for majority of us. 

 

I also have my fair share of this. Please don't interpret this as me being mayabang. But I always have theras kiss me in a torrid way. I'm not saying na lahat, pero halos lahat. There are times pa nga na I just decline kasi hndi ko kaya makipagtorrid dun sa thera. But there is this one thera na may spark tlga, I believe we have a connection. And it did not happen in just one meeting. It grows from time to time. But the thing is, I'm not ready to have a commitment with her. I also understand that maybe I'm just being glared by how we are with each other. I like her but I'm not sure if she likes me. Yes, we went out several times already. There are exchange of messages not related to thera-GM business. We know each other's personal details. So does that mean that she is into me? You be the judge guys.

For me, if we aren't ready or looking at a commitment with a thera, the best thing we can do is enjoy everything while it lasts, and never take advantage of her kindness. Don't give actions towards her hinting her that you are looking for a relationship. Instead, simply be nice to her and be a gentleman.

 

I had same experience especially on that thing you called "spark". But still in this industry, you can judge "liking" through physical actions or attachment with someone but not as to "love". As to what you are saying, she seemed to like you. The worst part? She might like other guys too, so she might be doing it to others. Be careful if you are into the stage of falling in love to her. I'm not saying that you should stop what you are feeling towards her or a theras, but you need to at least be ready of the consequences. 

Most of us in early stage says that we accept them for who they are and what they do. In most cases, that is right and no one can question what you feel. The problem starts when your male ego comes in, or the natural emotions and feelings that a man has to his girl. We are generally territorial. We don't want to share what's ours, so who would want to see his girl with other GMs? Unless you have a certain and concrete plan on how you will love a thera (it includes loving her completely as to protecting her, and to get her out on the industry so she wouldnt be forced to do what she doesn't want to do with other guys), do not engage.



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Posted 13 January 2017 - 12:20 PM

The problem in my case is, i have no capacity to take her out of the industry. I don't earn that much to support her and her family.

Kaya i just need to understand her situation and accept the fact that she needs to be accommodating to her clients because she needs the money.

Edited by pepejose, 13 January 2017 - 12:29 PM.


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Posted 13 January 2017 - 12:30 PM

The problem in my case is, i have no capacity to take her out of the industry. I don't earn that much to support her and her family.

 

Well, that would be hard if you plan to have a romantic relationship with a certain thera. In the first place, she also have a great need financially that's why she is in the industry. Let's say you succeeded in gaining her heart. What would you do if she continues to work as a thera? Ask her to change her job? She might have the will to do it, but will she have enough income outside the industry to support her needs? If you say that you can handle even if she continues her work, until when? Until when can you endure having someone touch your woman?

 

If you will end breaking up with her because you just thought you can handle those problems then later on discovers that you can't, better not disturb her heart in the first place. You will just end up hurting her or hurting yourself.


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Posted 13 January 2017 - 01:22 PM

Thru test if a thera loves you, is her giving time to you...time she gives too you that you dont need to book or pay for. Ung siya pa mismo mag yaya sa iyo n magkita kayu outside.

Time n kahit pagod n siya s work she is dying to meet u without payment. Ung torrid kiss at gifts are not, wag maging tanga, ginagawa lng nila yan s regular at fav clients nila to keep them.

Its better for the thera to fall for you for it to work than a gm falling for a thera.

Next step is ipapakilala k na s mga close friends, relatives at parents nya. Those people n binubuhay niya kaya siya pumasok s ganitong work.


Edited by spirochete, 13 January 2017 - 01:30 PM.

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Posted 13 January 2017 - 01:24 PM

Pag wala n ung money factor thats when you can say may totoong nararamdaman ang thera sa iyo.

 

A thera should love and spend time with a GM because she is happy unconditionally not because of necessity.

 

Those relationships na binahay at inisponsor ng GM ang thera to supply all her needs and monetary problems are doomed to fail in time.


Edited by spirochete, 13 January 2017 - 01:30 PM.


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Posted 13 January 2017 - 03:14 PM

Well, that would be hard if you plan to have a romantic relationship with a certain thera. In the first place, she also have a great need financially that's why she is in the industry. Let's say you succeeded in gaining her heart. What would you do if she continues to work as a thera? Ask her to change her job? She might have the will to do it, but will she have enough income outside the industry to support her needs? If you say that you can handle even if she continues her work, until when? Until when can you endure having someone touch your woman?
 
If you will end breaking up with her because you just thought you can handle those problems then later on discovers that you can't, better not disturb her heart in the first place. You will just end up hurting her or hurting yourself.

 

Kaya nga too much complications and we know na walang happy ending kaya we evolved into being "friends" who understand each other's situation para walang ending (that's according to her). I still have feelings for her, sabi nya siya rin daw. Pero i believe na since walang future ang relationship namin, maaaring magkaroon din sya ng spark sa ibang clients nya (kung wala pa). Dun na mag end ang friendship namin. Baka hindi kasing understanding ko ang ipalit nya.

I was in this situation before when i had a top thera girlfriend when i was in College. Our relationship lasted for almost a year. It ended up when she went abroad.

 

Pag wala n ung money factor thats when you can say may totoong nararamdaman ang thera sa iyo.
 
A thera should love and spend time with a GM because she is happy unconditionally not because of necessity.
 
Those relationships na binahay at inisponsor ng GM ang thera to supply all her needs and monetary problems are doomed to fail in time.


I believe you kaya I stopped going to spa kahit miss ko na sya. I'm waiting for her to find a way to spend time with me. Mahirap na masakit.

Pakunswelo, nakakatipid ako
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Posted 13 January 2017 - 03:21 PM

 

Kaya nga too much complications and we know na walang happy ending kaya we evolved into being "friends" who understand each other's situation para walang ending (that's according to her). I still have feelings for her, sabi nya siya rin daw. Pero i believe na since walang future ang relationship namin, maaaring magkaroon din sya ng spark sa ibang clients nya (kung wala pa). Dun na mag end ang friendship namin. Baka hindi kasing understanding ko ang ipalit nya.

I was in this situation before when i had a top thera girlfriend when i was in College. Our relationship lasted for almost a year. It ended up when she went abroad.

 

 

You are still lucky being friends with her. Lalo na pag nakaalis ka sa label na "client" and went into true "friend". We just hope na makaalis sila sa industry soon since we already care for them hindi na mawawala na mag isip tayo ng ganun. Our experience are almost similar, it's just that it didn't last a year for us. There is a relationship but no label. We just like each other but it doesn't reach the state of being in love, at least for her. 



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Posted 14 January 2017 - 01:05 PM

My favorite thread ever.,interesting stories and exchangeof ideas

 

Tama, daming naging active.



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Posted 14 January 2017 - 04:04 PM

My ex chased me hard after no contact at nung lumayas me s amin. apparently walang kwentang lalake un papalit nya sana s akin may asawa na idedemanda cya at may kabit p with 1 yr old baby. Gave her another chance after her begging n patawarin ko na cya at nagkamali daw cya....pero this time d n kami live in. She is back to her work at ako din focus na sarili.

Do you think Gms and curver May tama naging decision ko?

 

Only time will tell sir. Some people will say that you are a fool for taking him back, others will applaud you for giving a second chance. At the end of the day, all of us here do not know the real score and we can only provide inputs based on what you have shared. It's possible she may have seen the error of her ways or it might simply be a case of you being a convenient partner. 

 

Hopefully, it is the former, and you get your happily every after...Balitaan mo kami sir sa lovelife mo. Keep us posted...hehehe  :D  :D



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Posted 14 January 2017 - 04:14 PM

Keep in mind that even if she kissed you passionately doesn't mean she likes you..
You never know if maybe she did it with everyone of her client too..
Don't fall for this line na "SAYO KO LANG GINAWA TO"

Tip pano malaman kung gusto ka ni thera...
Give her your contact no.
If she constantly text you like na hindi related sa work niya....
Like a typical message you would get with a GF or a friend...

 

Speaking from the point of view of a thera, I would say i agree with you sir. GMs, you have to remember that inside the cubicle, we try to treat you as kings. Thus, whatever we do inside, it will always have the connotation as being part of the job. Of course I admit, some may get higher mileage than others, but ultimately, the confines of the cubicle is our workplace where we try to maintain our professionalism as much as we can.

 

The real proof when you can deduce that the "sparks" are real is when the thera begins to act "un-thera" like towards you. Agreeing to go out on non-paid dates, returning tips, sharing real personal details, these are some examples. Of course the thera may do this because you seem genuinely nice and a great "friend" personality, it is a step in the right direction in dissolving that thera-GM barrier.  :D  :D  :D


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