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#9021 Usebyo

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Posted 16 January 2017 - 08:56 AM

"Falling inlove is easy, Having sex is easier, but bumping into someone that can spark your soul is rare."
-Spark.


Have you bumped to that rare someone recently?

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Posted 16 January 2017 - 09:20 AM

Girlfriend nyo na nga sila for 1hr,2hr or more. Bakit kailangan nyo po mainlove sa gf nyo. Huwag nyo na gawin complicated para sa inyo at sa thera nyo.

Easy money pinasok nila. 99% thera pipiliin ang easy life or way out (rich guys) Kung kaya nyo sila buhayin ituloy mo yan pagibig nyo.

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Posted 16 January 2017 - 09:37 AM

ako rin, call me curious Solaryan. Bakit nga di nagtagal?


Bakit di nagtagal?It was a mutual decision for us to end it.Ako kasi naging super seloso. Inis ako pag may mga pumoporma sa kanya. Paranoid ako and I always question kung loyal siya sa akin.Yan ang madalas namin pag awayan.Nag adjust naman siya for me pero over time bumabalik siya sa dati niyang ways na sumasama for lunch/dinner with clients sa labas, gimmicks with her friends.Naintindihan ko na ganun ang work niya at ang naging buhay niya before I met her. Ako sa expectations ko sa kanya as a girlfriend at siya naman sa kelangan niyang gawin as part of the job. To be fair, sobrang honest siya sa lahat ng ginagawa niya kasi sinasabi niya sa akin lahat.Siguro ako lang talaga may problema.Love namin isat isa pero pareho kaming nahihirapan dahil sa mga priorities at expectations namin. Kahit open pa ang communication namin sa isat isa. So, In the end hindi namin napanindigan ang love namin.

Ang pinakamasakit is naka move on siya ng mabilis at may nahanap na siyang bago. Siguro may "Spark" na naman siyang nakita with another client.

Kaya di ako masyadong solve sa spark na yan. Pang pelikula lang at kilig.It's so Hollywood culture. Ang totoong honest to goodness relationship is beyond the kilig part.Dun masusubukan ang love ninyo sa isat isa. So goodluck sa mga naka feel ng spark jan with their special someone.Stay with the feeling pero it takes lots of work to make it last.

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Posted 16 January 2017 - 10:03 AM

I can relate to you, dalisay. Question is kumusta ka na? Do you still go to Espa? Do you still visit her again sa work nya?

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Posted 16 January 2017 - 10:16 AM

I can relate to you, dalisay. Question is kumusta ka na? Do you still go to Espa? Do you still visit her again sa work nya?

Sa work kasi ng theras, ang dami nilang namimeet na guys. And they're are still human who have emotions and libidos. Ako, Sa ganyang situation, nagreretire muna ako sa pagpasok sa mga cubicles.

12 years na akong member ng MTC. I don't give frs, I seldom post, I occasionally lurk, pero now dahil sa spark which happened in October last year, halos araw-araw akong nakalog-in sa MTC. Sometimes I feel happy, sometimes sad. Now I'm sad. Hay buhay.

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Posted 16 January 2017 - 10:39 AM

i always keep in mind thats theres no exclusivity in espas,  bars, ktv etc ...it only during the reserved time slot na exclusive ka...and when hindi available yung gusto ko...i see it as an opportunity to try other options...another learning opprtunity



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Posted 16 January 2017 - 01:35 PM

"Falling inlove is easy, Having sex is easier, but bumping into someone that can spark your soul is rare."

-Spark.

 

true...



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Posted 16 January 2017 - 01:52 PM

Bakit di nagtagal?It was a mutual decision for us to end it.Ako kasi naging super seloso. Inis ako pag may mga pumoporma sa kanya. Paranoid ako and I always question kung loyal siya sa akin.Yan ang madalas namin pag awayan.Nag adjust naman siya for me pero over time bumabalik siya sa dati niyang ways na sumasama for lunch/dinner with clients sa labas, gimmicks with her friends.Naintindihan ko na ganun ang work niya at ang naging buhay niya before I met her. Ako sa expectations ko sa kanya as a girlfriend at siya naman sa kelangan niyang gawin as part of the job. To be fair, sobrang honest siya sa lahat ng ginagawa niya kasi sinasabi niya sa akin lahat.Siguro ako lang talaga may problema.Love namin isat isa pero pareho kaming nahihirapan dahil sa mga priorities at expectations namin. Kahit open pa ang communication namin sa isat isa. So, In the end hindi namin napanindigan ang love namin.

Ang pinakamasakit is naka move on siya ng mabilis at may nahanap na siyang bago. Siguro may "Spark" na naman siyang nakita with another client.

Kaya di ako masyadong solve sa spark na yan. Pang pelikula lang at kilig.It's so Hollywood culture. Ang totoong honest to goodness relationship is beyond the kilig part.Dun masusubukan ang love ninyo sa isat isa. So goodluck sa mga naka feel ng spark jan with their special someone.Stay with the feeling pero it takes lots of work to make it last.

 

 

tama ka, madali lang ang kiligin.  Yung mga unang moments sa relasyon.



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Posted 16 January 2017 - 04:08 PM

"Falling inlove is easy, Having sex is easier, but bumping into someone that can spark your soul is rare."
-Spark.


Love this quote, Mavic.Difficult but possible.This takes deep connection for both parties for it to evolve at this stage. Ibang level na talaga ang relationship pag umabot na dito.
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Posted 17 January 2017 - 12:09 AM

Like Jack Nicholson related in an interview, there's an infatuation cycle of 18 months- that's the "honeymoon" phase so to speak. In relations like these, that part is not always easy as the job entails things the guy might not really be down with in the long run. And then after that that's when you start the "real" relationship, as the novelty fades, you need to choose to be together, you need to choose to see past the flaws and faults that become apparent. A relationship is complicated when there are primarily two people involved, but one with other parties intruding? You may as well just make it about sex (in truth many will succumb to mistaking the sex for intimacy- the feeling of closeness being simulated by the physical acts and seeing the other naked)

 

That's why its easy to get to the edge of closeness, but if you step back for a moment, it makes no sense. Best to treat the relationship like a snack with an expiry date. There's no real substance to be gained unless you really really try, and chances are, its gonna smart like the dickens- the massage parlor types having ATW every day come with a lot of baggage, that's just the way it is. The act is often an act; what you see is not what you get if you pursue. But still I know of at least two instances where being a KISA worked insofar as the girl got out and lived not quite happily ever after, but got out nonetheless.    



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Posted 17 January 2017 - 12:18 AM

Bakit di nagtagal?It was a mutual decision for us to end it.Ako kasi naging super seloso. Inis ako pag may mga pumoporma sa kanya. Paranoid ako and I always question kung loyal siya sa akin.Yan ang madalas namin pag awayan.Nag adjust naman siya for me pero over time bumabalik siya sa dati niyang ways na sumasama for lunch/dinner with clients sa labas, gimmicks with her friends.Naintindihan ko na ganun ang work niya at ang naging buhay niya before I met her. Ako sa expectations ko sa kanya as a girlfriend at siya naman sa kelangan niyang gawin as part of the job. To be fair, sobrang honest siya sa lahat ng ginagawa niya kasi sinasabi niya sa akin lahat.Siguro ako lang talaga may problema.Love namin isat isa pero pareho kaming nahihirapan dahil sa mga priorities at expectations namin. Kahit open pa ang communication namin sa isat isa. So, In the end hindi namin napanindigan ang love namin.

Ang pinakamasakit is naka move on siya ng mabilis at may nahanap na siyang bago. Siguro may "Spark" na naman siyang nakita with another client.

Kaya di ako masyadong solve sa spark na yan. Pang pelikula lang at kilig.It's so Hollywood culture. Ang totoong honest to goodness relationship is beyond the kilig part.Dun masusubukan ang love ninyo sa isat isa. So goodluck sa mga naka feel ng spark jan with their special someone.Stay with the feeling pero it takes lots of work to make it last.

 

 

salamat sa pagshare bro...

 

oo nga, may ganyan talaga. It just goes to show na thera-gm relationship or any other boy-girl relationship posibleng sa una lang masaya at once reality/ real-life takes effect nag biburst ang bubbles at nauuwi sa hiwalayan..

 

I feel for you bro. Pero, in my book, mejo pinalad ka na rin (pun intended. hehe) kasi you and your ex were able to experience those moments together, di ba?

 

Nakakarelate din ako kay pepejose. araw2 din ako nagchcheck ng mtc dahil sa kanya.. yun na rin way ko para makasagap ng news/update about her... hay.. ako rin sad today. walang nakuhang reply :(


Edited by Solaryan, 17 January 2017 - 12:18 AM.


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Posted 17 January 2017 - 12:24 AM

salamat sa pagshare bro...
 
oo nga, may ganyan talaga. It just goes to show na thera-gm relationship or any other boy-girl relationship posibleng sa una lang masaya at once reality/ real-life takes effect nag biburst ang bubbles at nauuwi sa hiwalayan..
 
I feel for you bro. Pero, in my book, mejo pinalad ka na rin (pun intended. hehe) kasi you and your ex were able to experience those moments together, di ba?
 
Nakakarelate din ako kay pepejose. araw2 din ako nagchcheck ng mtc dahil sa kanya.. yun na rin way ko para makasagap ng news/update about her... hay.. ako rin sad today. walang nakuhang reply :(


We're members of the asado club. LOL

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Posted 17 January 2017 - 12:25 AM

 

 

salamat sa pagshare bro...

 

oo nga, may ganyan talaga. It just goes to show na thera-gm relationship or any other boy-girl relationship posibleng sa una lang masaya at once reality/ real-life takes effect nag biburst ang bubbles at nauuwi sa hiwalayan..

 

I feel for you bro. Pero, in my book, mejo pinalad ka na rin (pun intended. hehe) kasi you and your ex were able to experience those moments together, di ba?

 

Nakakarelate din ako kay pepejose. araw2 din ako nagchcheck ng mtc dahil sa kanya.. yun na rin way ko para makasagap ng news/update about her... hay.. ako rin sad today. walang nakuhang reply :(

Let us move on na siguro. Our beloved theras have lives outside the spa, so do we. In the first place, we were fine before they came.  :rolleyes:



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Posted 17 January 2017 - 12:27 AM

We're members of the asado club. LOL

 

LOL!

mukhang same boat tayo ah. may bf din ba si thera mo? PM kita bro.. hahaha :D


Let us move on na siguro. Our beloved theras have lives outside the spa, so do we. In the first place, we were fine before they came.  :rolleyes:

 

dude thanks sa advise ah.. :)

 

i am trying naman.. 



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Posted 17 January 2017 - 01:02 AM

I can relate to you, dalisay. Question is kumusta ka na? Do you still go to Espa? Do you still visit her again sa work nya?
Sa work kasi ng theras, ang dami nilang namimeet na guys. And they're are still human who have emotions and libidos. Ako, Sa ganyang situation, nagreretire muna ako sa pagpasok sa mga cubicles.
12 years na akong member ng MTC. I don't give frs, I seldom post, I occasionally lurk, pero now dahil sa spark which happened in October last year, halos araw-araw akong nakalog-in sa MTC. Sometimes I feel happy, sometimes sad. Now I'm sad. Hay buhay.


Salamat Sir Pepejose at naiintindihan mo ang kalagayan ko. Kumusta ako?Eto, medyo recent pa kasi kaya sobrang sakit pa. So anjan yung feelings na napakarami - guilt, anger, frustration, sadness, depression, denial. Because of this i've had sleepless nights, walang focus sa work, stressed at windang... Parang roller coaster ride brad. Pero buhay pa naman.Kailangan yatang daanan ko ito eh...

Alam ko naman na pag na forgive ko na sarili ko at siya,dun ako makaka move on...As to how long? di ko masabi.

Kahit naging mutual ang desisyon namin maghiwalay- wala naman kasing madaling goodbye eh.

Para sa akin hindi madaling mag move on kung makikita ko pa siya, so iiwas na ako. Plus, baka magtagpo pa kami ng recent na ka 'spark' niya at maupakan ko pa yun.

Tigil na rin lahat ng communications ko sa kanya and her friends , isama mo na sa viber, FB, IG and twitter. Out of sight, out of mind, ika nga.

Ang reason ko? To forget, forgive and heal. Tapos na kasi yung love story namin. Hindi din ako magiging fair sa next relationship ko (kung magkakaroon pa) kung hindi pa ako naka move on at hindi pa buo pagkatao ko. Hanapin ko muna sarili ko.

Salamat ulit sa pakikidamay mga brad.

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Posted 17 January 2017 - 01:04 AM

Salamat Sir Pepejose at naiintindihan mo ang kalagayan ko. Kumusta ako?Eto, medyo recent pa kasi kaya sobrang sakit pa. So anjan yung feelings na napakarami - guilt, anger, frustration, sadness, depression, denial. Because of this i've had sleepless nights, walang focus sa work, stressed at windang... Parang roller coaster ride brad. Pero buhay pa naman.Kailangan yatang daanan ko ito eh...

Alam ko naman na pag na forgive ko na sarili ko at siya,dun ako makaka move on...As to how long? di ko masabi.

Kahit naging mutual ang desisyon namin maghiwalay- wala naman kasing madaling goodbye eh.

Para sa akin hindi madaling mag move on kung makikita ko pa siya, so iiwas na ako. Plus, baka magtagpo pa kami ng recent na ka 'spark' niya at maupakan ko pa yun.

Tigil na rin lahat ng communications ko sa kanya and her friends , isama mo na sa viber, FB, IG and twitter. Out of sight, out of mind, ika nga.

Ang reason ko? To forget, forgive and heal. Tapos na kasi yung love story namin. Hindi din ako magiging fair sa next relationship ko (kung magkakaroon pa) kung hindi pa ako naka move on at hindi pa buo pagkatao ko. Hanapin ko muna sarili ko.

Salamat ulit sa pakikidamay mga brad.

 

 

Ilabas mo lang yan bro. At aliwin mo sarili mo. Unti unti maayos mo rin sarili mo.. :)


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Posted 17 January 2017 - 01:37 AM

I am believer in true love too...but more often than not, this is not the place to find it. 99% of the time it will fail because of the factors surrounding the industry. If you are part of the 1% who succeeded, then I congratulate you, its a very rare occurrence. 



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Posted 17 January 2017 - 01:46 AM

I am believer in true love too...but more often than not, this is not the place to find it. 99% of the time it will fail because of the factors surrounding the industry. If you are part of the 1% who succeeded, then I congratulate you, its a very rare occurrence. 

 

Agree idol. I can't speak for most people here, but, I can flat out admit I didn't visit a spa to look for love. Worldly desires (a.k.a. libog) is what led me to this. :D

 

I just happened to have met someone who makes my worldly desires, a second reason as to why I want to visit and be with her..  As for the lucky guys who succeeds in a gm-thera relationship, congrats! heheheh 


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Posted 17 January 2017 - 08:06 AM

Bakit di nagtagal?It was a mutual decision for us to end it.Ako kasi naging super seloso. Inis ako pag may mga pumoporma sa kanya. Paranoid ako and I always question kung loyal siya sa akin.Yan ang madalas namin pag awayan.Nag adjust naman siya for me pero over time bumabalik siya sa dati niyang ways na sumasama for lunch/dinner with clients sa labas, gimmicks with her friends.Naintindihan ko na ganun ang work niya at ang naging buhay niya before I met her. Ako sa expectations ko sa kanya as a girlfriend at siya naman sa kelangan niyang gawin as part of the job. To be fair, sobrang honest siya sa lahat ng ginagawa niya kasi sinasabi niya sa akin lahat.Siguro ako lang talaga may problema.Love namin isat isa pero pareho kaming nahihirapan dahil sa mga priorities at expectations namin. Kahit open pa ang communication namin sa isat isa. So, In the end hindi namin napanindigan ang love namin.
Ang pinakamasakit is naka move on siya ng mabilis at may nahanap na siyang bago. Siguro may "Spark" na naman siyang nakita with another client.
Kaya di ako masyadong solve sa spark na yan. Pang pelikula lang at kilig.It's so Hollywood culture. Ang totoong honest to goodness relationship is beyond the kilig part.Dun masusubukan ang love ninyo sa isat isa. So goodluck sa mga naka feel ng spark jan with their special someone.Stay with the feeling pero it takes lots of work to make it last.


That's the problem when you let your feelings "love" totally control you and get thru your head you already plan and expect...
Jan pumapasok ang pagiging obsessive sa relation...
The jealousy already control you and you become paranoid...
This applies to every relationship not just with therapist...
But it is much more complicated with a thera...So the next time you fall in love with a therapist again...
Number 1 rule don't put so much expectation in your relationship...Just go with the flow and enjoy the companionship and hope that everything will fall in to place...

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Posted 17 January 2017 - 08:52 AM

I think in the ESpa world, it's a very rare thing to find and build a lasting relationship with a thera especially in a world driven primarily by money. 99% of the time, it would most likely fail unless you two both leave the industry for good. you guys are right, this requires a ton lot of money to get out of, and most of us are not that rich.

 

I only know of one successful case where the customer successfully got his thera, married her and got her out of the industry. This guy has his own business and made sure his wife was happy.

 

It's not impossible for this kind of relationship to last, it's just really rare and needs you to be financially well off. I know it's a cynical/ materialistic point of view but this is reality, right?






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