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Posted 22 June 2006 - 09:44 PM

Against all Odd's

I'm a type of person who knows what I want… Just so happen that people are married means they can't be in love to someone else around them! I've proven that it is wrong…Why? Because I'm crazy in love with my girl right now and you know what's crazy about our relationship… Oh you might be surprized, why? We're both married, we both have partners on the side, She has his Daddy and I have my Wifey. We don't know why we fall inlove to each other that deep like where we are right now. We just don't know the answer because we don't what things to be more complicated, say we just live everyday of our lives loving each other… Crazy part is, she lives with her daddy, mine ain't here - working abroad

Here goes the story:

She was my classmate, training for a job which involves talking over the phone solving other people's problem about their telephone… She's actually older than me and the fact that we're both married with our partners on the side.. I didn't mind her the first place, I was flirting with other girls then. Things didn't work out fine with the girl i was trying to flirt with' for all I know I just want that girl for sex - she was hot but her brain is some kinida empty. Then we started our group of four with my homie and other mommy figure on the side her and me… Our friendship was sweet because we always kiss each other goodbye before we go home after the training. We started going out eating breakfast - one funny day in the training I won a certain amount of money which I ended spending it with them. That was the start of it, It has been days when I stared to kiss her on her lips when doing goodbye's I don’t know if she noticed it - anyways for all I know, I'm doing the moves I can everytime I have the opportunity. It was just so nice to kiss someones lips which are so sweet and soft. I said to myself, this is it and nothing can stop me from loving her. I know that I'm beginning to like her and Im actually falling her for her. That was also the day when I noticed that she is indeed hot.

A lot of things passed by and I'm still doing my moves one way or another, that time I already knew that she knows what I'm doing. We went to our friends place and a lot of crazy things happened there. We had brunch there, I managed to take shower to drain the excess oils in my body, since our friend is kind enough to give me a squirt of a perfume which she eventually like because she started to hug and kissed me telling me that I really smell good… That was it:

I layed out the plans and everything has been planned without her knowing. It was a perfect plan, it was a Saturday, we had breakfst and strolled the mall until I managed to shhove the other two people away. Sems like highschool because I started the moves inside a movie house, While watching as if I'm watching - I started to caress her arms and we ended up kissing each other… That was cute, we did admit to each other that there's something in our personality which keeps us attached, say we simply like each other. We're simple people with attitude. At first things went just fine, maybe because we're both excited. Then things started to go wrong, people around us suspects that we are having an affair which is a no no for them knowing our status, I also started to be possesive and tends to be jealous to all people around her. But what can I do? I'd been loveless for almost a year now, yeah coming off from a bad ending which still ended to a friendship. One day she said "It's over - let's just be friends like before" I said NO! But she insisted……

That was one of the darkest moments I ever had… I wanted to die I'm asking myself why? When everything seems to be working just fine it'll be lost in a snap wwhheeww…. That was unfair, I said to mself, The next thing I know I was driving my way North to my ex-girlfriend's crib just to ask advice - stupid me I took in 12 tabs of DULCOLAX which resulted to my dehydration, then that's it I was abou to go somewhere else not sure where when I collapsed on her garage. My head hit a corner of table then I was unconcious for the next 8 hours. What I remember is that she was using my phone and she was the one who took care of everything… I don't know if she got affected with what had happen but it triggered to a new start…

Love is just like that… It strikes anywhere - once it start popping, you can’t stop! Again we found ourselves in each others arms crazy in-love with each other. We're not classmates anymore because we both decide to move on with our lives making our choices, she choose a day job - I choose a much better paying job. Things work out just fine, we were able to lay out a much better plan and schedule, we were able to understand each other more compared when we started this out. People will say we're crazy, NO - we're just simply in love and being honest to ourselves. I want to say sorry to those people which we might hurt, but then again, she managed to belive in my principle also "What you don't know, you don't hear and you don't see will not hurt you" and also "Life is a matter of choice". Since life is a matter of choice and we both made this choice we should live the consequences, struggles and hardship.

What can I say we're happy and we simply miss each other and fall in love to each other as the day passes by… Nothing, no one can stop us from loving each other especially right now that we're so attached. Can't imagne life without each other. We really don't make a lot of plans we just live everyday as a new day, just in case we'll have our own baby then it'll be okay. Im still looking forward of keeping her and starting a new family with her. Love is unfair - fun - aggressive and involves a lot of pain… People involve simply needs to make a choce to be in love or not… We're together for how many months now and life between us is simply getting better. We're simply in-love...

By: Corvine Johnson aka: CJ
June 20, 2006 / Tuesday
DELL Facilty, Manila

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Posted 22 June 2006 - 11:52 PM

I agree, love strikes anywhere at the time you least expect it. I'd love to tell you my story but my girl tells me not to... sorry guys. Perhaps, if and when we meet personally then I could tell you guys what happened to me when JOY came into my life...

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Posted 25 June 2006 - 02:59 AM

i got this from The Philippine Star a couple of years back, can't remember who wrote it though...

THIN, LONG WIRE

Robert was finishing off the last bites of the stale egg and cucumber sandwich his mum made him for lunch when he looked at the time. It had been a rough morning at work; with him finding out that he had to submit all the paper reports that afternoon. He frowned. And after mentally insulting the food, he put a small pillow behind his head and leaned back on the chair. Putting his feet up, he lit a cigarette.
It has been three weeks now and he still could not get Dana off his mind. He was such an idiot, he thought, for having fallen in love with an attached woman. And he was a total bastard, he knew, for letting her go. He was sick and tired of seeing her every five minutes on his work table, and suddenly, he was glad that he had a lot of grinding to do.

Robert had met her five months ago in a mall parking garage. He had just bought some canned fruits for his mum and was just about to get going when he dropped the bags on the floor, seeing that he had left his car keys inside the locked vehicle.
Dana, whose car was parked alongside his, was also leaving at the time. And after letting the expletives fly, he slapped his forehead hard. Apparently, it was loud enough to catch a stare from her.
“p#tang$na! Buwiset!” he said.
“Hoy! Wala naman kasalanan nanay mo sa’yo, noh! Wag mo murahin!” she joked.
“Ano bang paki mo?”
“Amina nga! Tabi dyan!” she moved and brushed him aside.
She took out a thin, long wire from her handbag and after several minutes of prying the windows ajar, she successfully hooked onto the lock and pulled it up. She smiled and nervously handed the wire to a flustered Robert.
“Bakit ka may ganito? Carnapper ka ba? Hehehe! Maraming salamat, ha?”
“Well, yeah. Sideline ko yan eh. Pero oks lang yun. Madami akong ganyan actually sa bahay eh. Sobrang dalas ko na naiiwan susi ko sa loob ng kotse kaya nagpagawa na ‘ko ng mga wire,” she said.
“Ah, okay. Er, I’m Robert, by the way. Thanks uli. Can I show my appreciation by treating you to a meal? Have you eaten already?”
“Ay naku! Tempting pero hindi na. Yung boyfriend ko manlilibre daw sa akin ngayon eh. Next time na lang, Robert. I’m Dana nga pala.”
“Nice to meet you. O, siya! Alis na ako. Hinihintay ng mummy ko itong prutas eh. Ingat ka and I can’t thank you enough.”
“Hehehe. Sige! ‘Tago mo yang wire. Feeling ko kakailanganin mo ulit yan very soon, eh”
Just as soon as he was geared to reverse, Robert heard a soft tap on his window. It was Dana.
“O bakit? Did you change your mind about the free lunch?” he asked.
“Er, not exactly. But can I borrow back the wire I gave you for a second? I uhm...”

So they had been close friends since then. They went out to movies, dinners and such. And he even met Dana’s boyfriend Edward, whom he really thought was a very good lad for her at the time.
“They’re both so lucky to have each other!” he once said aloud.
In any case, like many other “innocent friendships” between a boy and a girl, the frequency of their “platonic meetings” and phone calls eventually took its toll. Whereas in the past, their pet names for each other were usually “sis” and “buddy”, it was later upgraded to “dear”.
His friends knew that it would lead to this, but naturally, nobody had the guts (or the brains) to tell him. And Robert, for all his jaded emotions, first felt this kind of sensation after Dana had a fight with her beau.
“It’s no one’s fault, Dana. Talagang may tampuhan sa mga relationships.”
“Yeah? Eh bakit parang nag-iba sya months after sagutin ko sya?”
“I don’t know. Only you can answer that, my dear.” Robert said.
“Ewan ko ba! I’m getting tired of this. I still love Edward, pero it’s getting to a point na nagsasawa na ako sa mga away namin.”
“Well hang in there, dearie. Fight for love despite the obstacles.”
Robert choked as he said that, for he was now feeling more than just sympathy for the friend who had helped him unlock his car a few months ago. He eventually felt deep resentment towards Edward, because he felt that the guy was kind of shallow to get angry over the fact that Dana wore spaghetti straps to parties. Her sense of style should be hers and no one else’s, he once thought.
And even though he ached to openly express what he really wanted, he felt it was none of his business, so he kept his mouth shut.
It was only after her fourth argument with her boyfriend in less than a month did he have the courage to tell her off.
“Eh bakit ka pa pumapayag na awayin ka nya ng ganyan?” he furiously asked.
“Because we’re together. And I still love him.”
“Then why do you complain about him all the time to me? I’m getting a bit tired of this Edward s@%t, Dana! I can’t stand to see you cry all the time!”
“I’m sorry! But if only you came first... Pero ikaw kasi ang friend ko!” she sobbed.
Now there was a twist!
“Listen, I’ve been wanting to tell you something, but I’ve been afraid it would only give you more problems.”
“Ano yon?”
“Uhm...”
“Out with it, Robert!”
“I, uh... I think I’m falling for somebody who can unlock a car with a thin wire.”
“What!?” Dana shouted.
“I’m so sorry, my friend. But I wanted you to know that. I know the timing is s@%t and all, but...”
Now there was an even bigger twist.
“I’m really sorry, Dana.”
He couldn’t even look at her when he said that.
“Oh, Robert! If only you came first!”

Their talk was cut short when she heard her mobile phone ring. They both knew who it was and with that, Robert gave her a hug and left. He felt sick to his stomach. He was so selfish, he thought, for having spilled his guts to Dana when she already had enough problems as it was. He slapped his forehead hard. Apparently, it was loud enough to catch stares from several bystanders.
In his heart he felt Dana liked him, too. And that even added to his emotional pain. As the weeks passed, he stopped calling her. He would rarely answer her text messages. And if he did, it was always straight to the point – no flowery words whatsoever. She, on the other hand, naturally noticed the change in Robert, and it hurt both of them.
This was the only way, he thought, to fight the feelings he was having over the last month. He knew he couldn’t have her, so what was the point of risking it all? No way was he going to “steal” Dana from her Beau because he thought it was too illicit and too devastating for Edward to handle – no matter how much he hated the bastard. Besides, he didn’t want her to leave Edward for him in the first place. He had never been a cause of a bitter breakup before. And there was really no reason to start now. That was, until they accidentally bumped into each other in a grocery store.
“Buying more canned fruits for your mother?” Dana tapped him on the shoulder.
“Hoy! Kamusta na? How’s everything? How’s Edward?”
“Ayun. Ganun pa din. But we’re trying to compromise and...”
“So he’s allowing you to wear spaghetti straps na?” he jokingly asked.
“Hey! Why did we stop talking and hanging out? Dahil ba sa akin?” she sadly asked him.
Robert sighed. It had been more than a month since she last saw her. And he thought his feelings for her had subsided. But right now, he wanted to smack himself in the ass because he was still in love with the girl. He realized now it was more than just a silly crush. It was real love (or whatever).
“Yes, Dana. It was because of you.”
“Is that right?”
“Kasi tuwing magkasama tayo, I just can’t help but fall for your wicked charms. That’s why you must forgive me if I’m avoiding you. It’s for the best.”
“Robert.”
“And I’m sorry if I had to be so honest with you about how I really felt. I should’ve just kept it to myself.”
“Rob...”
“I also don’t want to be the cause of any breakups. Alam mo, I really care for...”
“Robert!”
“Huh? Ano? Bakit?”
“I-I’m falling for you, too.”
“What?!”
“I started to miss you when we stopped communicating. And it was then that I knew I needed you a lot. Sounds selfish doesn’t it? But hey, pareho naman tayo eh.” Her eyes were watery, but she tried to smile.

Robert fixed his gaze on her. He was both happy and sad at the same time. He touched her hair softly and carefully handed her a handkerchief. He felt glad that Dana somehow kind of felt the same way he did about her. But he also felt remorse for being a burden on such a nice girl. And it was time to set things straight. He owed her at least that.
“Dana, do you love Edward?” he asked.
“Yes.”
“Do you love me as well?”
“Uhm...”
“Ano?”
“Yes,” she meekly replied.
“I guess it would be stupid to ask you who you like more, huh?”
“Oh Robert. I don’t know what to do. Please tell me. If only you came first.”
“Dana, I’ve never regretted ever knowing you. In fact, I’m thankful that I do. But it’s wrong for me to step in when you’re having fits with Edward, because it would be biased against the relationship itself. Do you understand, sis?”
“What happened to ‘dear,’?”
“The thing is, you loved him for the man that he was. And as much as I would regret saying this, I feel that you’re as in love with the idiot now as you were before. And anyway, I’m just here to mess things up.”
Dana’s eyes narrowed with confusion.
“So what are you saying?” she innocently asked.
“I’m saying that we shouldn’t hang out anymore.”
“But we’re friends!”
“And it’s very hard for both of us to stay that way when we’re together!”
“Robert...”
“I really love you, girlie. Kaya I’m letting you go. I’m stepping aside and I’m sure that one day you’ll thank me for all this.” He said.
“I love you too, buddy.”
“Now promise me you’ll be happy again, okay?” It sounded plastic, he thought, but he didn’t give the slightest damn.
“I’ll try. Thank you, dear. If only...”
“I came first. Yes, I know. Now run along. Bibili pa ako ng prutas para sa nanay ko eh.”
That was the last time they ever saw or spoke to one another.
He was now starting to get back to work as he threw the cigarette in the trash bin. In his mind, he could now see Dana going back to being who she was before he came along. He had lost the game, he knew, but he was relieved to be out of the situation. Robert smiled. If he could give up an honest friendship to make someone he loves happy and free, then maybe he wasn’t such a selfish bastard after all, he thought.
With that, he pulled out the thin, long wire, which Dana had given him many months ago. And except for the memories, it was probably the last remnant of Dana that remained with him. So after taking one last look at it, he pried his office windows open and threw it out.
“I better start learning how to make myself one of those,” he said.

-o0 END 0o-

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Posted 25 June 2006 - 03:21 PM

=( beautiful sad story...... got from a friend...

I have a boyfriend who grew up with me.
His name is Jin.
I always though t of him as a friend until last year, when we
went to a trip from a club. I found that I fell in love withhim.
Before that trip was over, I took a step and confessed my love for him.
And soon, we became a pair of lovers, but we loved each
other in different ways.
I always concentrated on him only, but by his side, there
were so many other girls.
To me, he was the only one, but to him, maybe I was just another girl…
“Jin, do you want to go watch a movie?” I asked.
“I can’t” “Why? You need to study at home?” I felt disappointment
grabbing me. “No… I am going to meet a friend…”
He was always like that.
He met girls in front of me, like it was nothing.
To him, I was just a girlfriend.
The word ‘love’ only came out from my mouth.
Since I knew him, I had never heard him say ‘I love you’ before.
To us, there weren’t any anniversaries at all.
He didn’t say anything from the first day and it continued till 100 days…200days…
Everyday, before we say goodbye, he would just hand me a
doll, everyday, without fail. I don’t know why…
Then one day…
Me: Um, Jin, I …
Jin: What…don’t drag, just say..
Me: I love you.
in: ……you….um, just take this doll and go home.
That was how he ignored my ‘three words’ and handed me
the doll.
Then he disappeared, like he was running away.
The dolls I received from him everyday, filled my room,
one by one. There were many…
Then one day came, my 15th year old birthday.
When I got up in the morning, I pictured a party with him,
and stranded myself in my room, waiting for his call.
But… lunch passed, dinner passed… and soon the sky was
dark… he still didn’t call.
It w as already tiring to look at the phone anymore.
Then around 2am in the morning, he suddenly called me
and woke me from my sleep. He told me to come out of the house.
Still, I felt joy and I ran out happily.
Me: Jin…
Jin: Here…take this…
Again, he handed me a little doll.
Me: What’s this?
Jin: I didn’t give it to you yesterday, so I am giving it
to you now. I’m going home now, bye.
Me: Wait, wait! Do you know what today is?
Jin: Today? Huh?
I felt so sad, I thought he would remember my birthday.
He turned around and walked away like nothing had happen.
Then I shouted…
“Wait…” Jin: You have something to say?
Me: Tell me, tell me you love me…
Me: Tell me
I put my pathetic self behind and clung on to him.
But he just said simple cold words and left.
“I don’t want to say…that I love someone so easily, if you
are desperate to hear it, then find someone else.”
That was what he said. Then he ran off.
My legs felt numb…and I collapsed to the ground. He
didn’t want to say it easily…
How could he…. I felt that…
M aybe he is not the right guy for me…
After that day, I stranded myself at home crying, just crying.
He didn’t call me, although I was waiting.
He just continued handing me a little doll every morning
outside my house.
That’s how those dolls piled up in my room… everyday
After a month, I got myself together and went to school.
But what made the pain resurface was that… I saw him on
a street…with another girl…
He had a smile on his face, one that he never showed
me…as he touched the doll…
I ran straight back home and looked at the dolls in my
room, and tears fell…
Why did he gave these to me…
Those dolls are probably picked out by some other girls…
In a fit of anger, I threw the dolls around.
Then suddenly, the phone rang. It was him.
He told me to come out to the bus stop outside my house.
I tried to calm myself down and walked to the bus stop.
I kept reminding myself that I am going to forget him,
that… it’s going to end.
Then he came into my sight, holding a big doll.
Jin: Jo, I thought you were pissed, you really came?
I couldn’t help hating him, acting like nothing had happen
and joking around.
Soon, he he ld out the doll as usual…
Me: I don’t need it.
Jin: What….why…
I grabbed the doll from his hands and threw it on the road.
Me: I don’t need this doll, I don’t need it anymore!! I don’t
want to see a person like you again!
i spitted out all the words that were inside me. But unlike
other days, his eyes very shaking.
“I’m sorry” He apologized in a tiny voice.
He then walked over to the road to pick up the doll…
Me: You stupid! Why are you picking up the doll?! Just
throw it away!!!
But he ignored me and just went to pick the doll.
Then…Honk~ Honk~
With a loud honk, a big truck was heading towards him.
“Jin! Move! Move away!” I shouted…
But he didn’t hear me, he squatted down and picked up the
doll. “Jin, move!” HONK~!!
“Boom!” That sound, so terrifying.
That’s how he went away from me.
That’s how he went away without even opening his eyes to
say one word to me.
After that day, I had to go through everyday with guiltiness
and the sadness of losing him…
And after spending two months like a crazy person…
I took out the dolls.
Those were the only gifts he left me since the day we
started going out.
I remembered the days I spent with him and started to
count the days… when we were in love…
“One…two… three…”
That was how… I started to count the dolls…
“Four hundred and eighty four… four hundred and eighty five…”
It all ended with 485 dolls.
I then started to cry again, with a doll in my arms.
I hugged it tightly, then suddenly…
“I love you~, I love you~”
I dropped the dolls,shocked.
“I….lo..ve…you??”
I picked up the dolls and pressed its stomach.
“I love you~ I love you~”
It can’t be!
I pressed all the dolls’ stomach as it piled on the side.
“I love you~”
“I love you~”
“I love you~”
Those words came out non-stop.
I…love you…
Why didn’t I realize that…
>That his heart was always by my side, protecting me.
Why didn’t I realize that he love me this much…
I took out the doll under the bed and pressed it’s stomach,
that was the last doll, the one that fell on the road.
It had his blood stain on it.
The voice came out, the one that I was missing so much…
“Jo…Do you know what today is? We’ve been loving each
other for 486 days. Do you know what 486 is? I couldn’t
say I love you…. Um… since I was too shy… If you
forgive me and take this doll, I will say that I love you…
everyday… till I die… Jo… I love you…”
The tears came flowing out of me. Why? Why? I asked
god, why do I only know about all this now?
He can’t be by my side, but he loved me until his last
minute…
For that… and for that reason… to me… it became
courage… to live a beautiful life…

>> >END OF STORY.....

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Posted 26 June 2006 - 06:09 PM

once upon a time der was a lady and a guy,

and dey fall inluv wid 1 anoder...

dey married each oder.......

hav children...

and liv hapily ever after..............


"DIS IS D SUMMARY OF A TRUE LOVE STORY"

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pamprami ng post......

oks pla gumwa ng luv story....

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Posted 17 August 2006 - 06:52 PM

I was just trying to start my blog so I decided to read some to somehow inspire me to write again. Then my best friend in highschool posted this in his blog. Then I started thinking about my relationship(s) both past and present and the foundation that came with it.

Ten Relationship Myths by Dr. Phil


Think your relationship is a failure because you and your partner aren't following certain "rules" or meeting certain standards? Dr. Phil blows the whistle on 10 of the most common but dangerous relationship myths.


MYTH #1: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP DEPENDS ON A GREAT MEETING OF THE MINDS



* You will never see things through your partner's eyes because you are two entirely different people. You are genetically, physiologically, psychologically and historically different.


* You will not solve your relationship problems by becoming more alike in your thinking. Men and women are wired differently. Attempting to blur your fundamentally different viewpoints is unnatural and even dangerous.


* Recognize that a relationship is far more enjoyable when you're with someone who enriches your life, not simply reflects it. Appreciate your differences.


MYTH #2: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP REQUIRES A GREAT ROMANCE



* Yes, your life with your partner should include plenty of romance. But don't kid yourself and expect an unrealistic Hollywood fairytale. The truth is that in the real world, being in love is not like falling in love.


* Falling in love is only the first stage of love. It's impossible to remain in that stage. A mature relationship will shift from dizzying infatuation to a deeper, more secure love.


* Don't make the common mistake of thinking that when the initial wild passion fades you aren't in love anymore. The answer is not to start a new relationship so you can recapture that emotional high with someone else. The answer is to learn how to move on to the next stages of love for a different but richer experience.


MYTH #3: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP REQUIRES GREAT PROBLEM-SOLVING



* Don't fall into the trap of believing that you and your partner can't be happy if you can't resolve your serious disagreements. Ninety percent of problems in a relationship are not solvable.


* There are things that you and your partner disagree about and will continue to disagree about. Why can't you once and for all resolve these issues? Because in order to do so, one of you would have to sacrifice your values and beliefs.


* You can simply agree to disagree and reach "emotional closure" even though you haven't reached closure on the issue.


MYTH #4: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP REQUIRES COMMON INTERESTS THAT BOND YOU TOGETHER FOREVER


* There is nothing wrong with your relationship if you don't share common interests and activities.


* If you and your partner are forcing yourselves to engage in common activities but the results are stress, tension and conflict, don't do it!


MYTH #5: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP IS A PEACEFUL ONE



* Don't be afraid to argue because you think it's a sign of weakness or relationship breakdown. Even the healthiest couples argue.


* If approached properly, arguing can actually help the relationship by (a) releasing tension and (B) instilling the sense of peace and trust that comes from knowing you can release feelings without being abandoned or humiliated.


* Instead of worrying about how many times you argue, worry about how you argue. Here are some guidelines:


o Don't abandon the issue and attack the worth of your partner during an argument.
o Don't seek conflict because it's stimulating.
o Don't pursue a take-no-prisoners approach in your arguments.
o Don't avoid achieving emotional closure at the end of an argument.


MYTH #6: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP LETS YOU VENT ALL YOUR FEELINGS


* Getting things off your chest might feel good, but when you blurt something out in the heat of the moment, you risk damaging your relationship permanently. Many relationships are destroyed when one partner can't forgive something that was said during uncensored venting.


* Before you say something you might regret, bite your tongue and give yourself a moment to consider how you really feel. The things we say while we're letting loose often don't represent how we really feel and shouldn't be communicated — especially if they are potentially destructive.


MYTH #7: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH SEX



* The belief that sex is not important is a dangerous and intimacy-eroding myth. Sex provides an important time-out from the pressures of our daily lives and allows us to experience a quality level of closeness, vulnerability and sharing with our partners.


* Sex might not be everything but it registers higher (90 percent) on the "importance scale" if it's a source of frustration in your relationship. If your sex life is unfulfilled, it becomes a gigantic issue. On the other hand, couples that have satisfying sex lives rate sex at only 10 percent on the "importance scale."


* Don't restrict your thinking by considering sex to be something that only consists of the actual physical act. Touching, caressing, holding hands and any means by which you provide physical comfort to your partner can all be viewed as part of a fulfilling sex life.


MYTH #8: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP CANNOT SURVIVE A FLAWED PARTNER



* Nobody's perfect. As long as your partner's quirks are non-abusive and non-destructive, you can learn to live with them.


* Instead of focusing on your partner's shortcomings, remember the qualities that attracted you in the first place. Perhaps some of these idiosyncrasies were part of the attraction? Just because a behavior isn't mainstream, doesn't mean that it's toxic to the relationship.


* Be careful to distinguish the difference between a partner with quirks and one with a serious problem. Serious problems that are destructive and abusive include substance abuse and mental/physical abuse. Unlike idiosyncrasies, these are not behaviors you should learn to live with.


MYTH #9: THERE IS A RIGHT WAY AND A WRONG WAY TO MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP GREAT



* Nothing could be further from the truth. There is no definitive "right way" to be a good spouse, good parent, or to handle any relationship challenge that life throws you.


* Do what works for you rather than following some standards you might have read in a book or
heard from a well-meaning friend. If what you and your partner are doing is generating the results you want, stick with it. If both of you are comfortable with the principles that work, you can write your own rules.


* Remember not to be rigid about the way in which you accept your partner's expressions of love. There is no "right way" for someone to love you. The fact that your partner expresses feelings differently doesn't make those feelings less genuine or of less value.


MYTH #10: YOUR RELATIONSHIP CAN BECOME GREAT ONLY WHEN YOU STRAIGHTEN YOUR PARTNER OUT



* Don't fall into the trap of believing that if you could change your partner, your relationship would be better. You are, at the very least, jointly accountable for the relationship.


* Let go of the childlike notion that falling in love means finding someone who will be responsible for your happiness. You need to take responsibility for your own happiness.


* If your relationship is distressed, the most important person for you to change might be yourself. Once you identify the payoffs you are subconsciously seeking with destructive behavior, you can choose to remove them from your life.


Edited by Phrozhen.Khold, 17 August 2006 - 06:53 PM.


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Posted 17 August 2006 - 11:58 PM

tinamaan ak0 dun ah! but very true!!!

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Posted 18 August 2006 - 04:55 PM

seee,everything's been said! so true indeed

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Posted 19 August 2006 - 02:54 PM

CONSTELLATIONS
by me

As he walked along the road, the excitement of his thoughts made him sweat. Cold droplets of perspiration trickled down his nose. Instinctively, he reached for his handkerchief at the back pocket of his worn-out jeans.

“Oh s@%t,” he thought, “my cologne’s going to rub off because of this sweat.”

But he couldn’t reach his handkerchief. He found it difficult to move both arms anywhere. But as the beads of sweat dropped down to the huge box he was carrying, he stopped walking, took a deep breath, and gently laid the package on the ground. The box read, “A245 Telescope” as he finally wiped the sweat off his face and neck.

“What’s the address again?” He thought to himself as he pulled a small, crumpled piece of white paper from his jeans. 26 Boungavilla, it read, “I’m still a long way off, and I better get moving.”

With a small grunt he picked the heavy carton, and continued his long walk to “26 Boungavilla”. Again, he couldn’t keep his excitement and a smile creped from his long, thin face. He remembered the first time he asked her out. It was during a class outing at the beach. The sky was sprinkled with stars and the breeze blew calmly across his face, gently moving his short bangs to and fro. She was sitting alone on the sand gazing out towards the horizon, her legs outstretched that they could almost touch the waters edge. He knew it was his chance to pop the question he longed ask. Slowly, he made his way beside her, the sand tickling the soles of his feet. And as he sat down, legs crossed, beside her, she glanced at him for a brief moment, and looked back at the sea.

“I know what you’re going to ask me,” she told him, “but I just can’t. I‘m sorry, I have other obligations.”

At that instant, she stood up, the stars reflecting on her smooth, moist skin, and went inside the girls’ quarters, leaving him utterly alone.

He gazed at the stars above and told himself quietly, “It’s all right, I’ll try again next time. I won’t give up.”

And for the next few months, he tried his best to ask her, popping the question at every available opportunity he could grab. But still, she refused. Every question led to the same answer. I can’t, I have obligations, I’m sorry. Until one day, he gave her a card which he had worked on for some time now.

“I know your answer will still be no, but I wanted to give this to you anyway.” He handed her the card and waited in anticipation. “I’m sorry if it’s a little cheesy, but it’s the best I could think of.”

She opened the glittered flap of the card and inside, a black background was illuminated by countless white glitter. In the middle was a slightly bigger glitter which shone brighter than the rest. She smiled. The silver colored words, “YOU ARE THE NORTH STAR IN MY DARK SKY, will you go out with me?” made her blush.

“I think this is a little awkward for you,” he told her, “I think I should go.”

He breathed a big sigh of disappointment and started to walk the other direction. And as he did this, he thought to himself, “At least I gave it my best shot, I guess it’s just not meant to be.”

He was a few paces away when a sound stopped him dead at his tracks, “Wait”

He turned around, “I’m sorry I’ve been so rude to you all this time. Okay, I’ll go out with you. Meet me at my place at 8 o’clock pm on Friday.”

She handed him a piece of white paper with the words “26 Boungavilla” on it. It was the exact same paper he held in his hand. “Don’t forget,” she told him as she walked away, “I’ll be waiting.”

He remembered that day so well. He remembered telling everyone about how she said “yes”, and how he kept jumping up and down. His smile had been the widest anyone had seen in a long time.

Now, he was walking to her house for the first time. The euphoria he felt after that day was still visible on the smile he bore. He was so nervous and ecstatic that he almost dropped the box he was carrying. Tonight, he would make his move. He planned this night ever since he had met her. Day after day, he replayed it in his mind. It would be the most romantic evening she would ever experience.

He would take her to the nearby cliffs, pull out a blanket and place it on the grass. They would be sitting in the middle of the blanket and he would light some candles and hand her a beautiful poem he had made for her. As she read the poem, he would setup his telescope and open a bottle of red wine and pour each of them a glass. After she had read the poem, he would show her the most beautiful nebulas and galaxies she could ever dream of. She would be dumbfounded with awe and he would sweep her off her feet.

“It will be perfect,” he thought to himself confidently, “I’ve replayed this more than a hundred times, nothing can go wrong.”

He was near now. The sign “Boungavilla St.” grew more visible as he walked along the sidewalk. Darkness was coming as he reached her street. The number “26” kept replaying in his mind and he felt even more excitement build up within him. He looked to the right, “8”, the number read. He was so nervous as he walked that he almost dropped the package, his most precious package, yet again.

10… 12… 14… He felt the butterflies in his stomach. 16… 18… 20… His heart beat faster and faster as the number “26” drew nearer and nearer. 22… 24…26.

At last he was there! Oh, how grand the house was. It was a beautiful Spanish style house with deep brown wooden carvings on every window frame and a dark brown wooden wall to complement it. At the middle of the garden, a huge Acacia tree provided shade to visitors who dared to wonder and marvel at the beauty delved inside. On the left of the house, a small grove shows itself ever so slightly, revealing only a small fish pond that surrounds it. A sculpture of the Virgin Mary resides in the middle of this grove and she welcomes any who seek refuge in her presence. At the right of the house is an empty garage, illuminated only by the sign: “SOLD’.

The clock stuck 7 in the evening and he reached the cliffs. He took out a blanket, carefully set it out on the grassy surface, and placed a piece of paper on the blanket. He then took out his telescope, set it up and poured two glasses of red wine. He took a sip from a glass of wine, laid on the blanket, and stared into the constellations above.

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Posted 19 August 2006 - 04:06 PM

there's no hard and fast rule in any relationship.

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Posted 19 August 2006 - 11:22 PM

Couldn't agree more ... A reality that everyone must learn to live with... NO MORE DAYDREAMING AND SOULMATES ! LOLZ!

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Posted 19 August 2006 - 11:30 PM

:P
lalim naman ng thread na to.......

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Posted 19 August 2006 - 11:47 PM

not really a myth... :hypocritesmiley:

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Posted 20 August 2006 - 10:02 AM

This is the love story of Jack and Jill:

Jack and Jill went up the hill
With a keg of brandy
Jack got stewed, Jill got screwed
Now it's Jack, Jill and Andy.
Jack and Jill went up the hill
For just an itty bitty.
Jill's now two months overdue,
And Jack has left the city.
Jack and Jill
Went up the hill
And planned to do some kissing.
Jack made a pass, and grabbed her ass
And now two of his front teeth are missing.


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Posted 20 August 2006 - 10:59 AM

hi wanna meet up?

i dont' know...i got work and...


thought maybe we can have ice cream...

uhh..let me think about it..i thought you'd like to see me next month..

i think it's the right time, i can't wait that long...you're really nice girl and i'm wondering if you look like the girl on your avatar..

hmmm alright...but i gotta admit..you will be disappointed.

why is that?

because my face is not red

it doesn't matter...i wana see you without wearing makeup...

okay (hahaha) all you can see is a canvas

much better!

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Posted 21 August 2006 - 07:26 PM

More like popular beliefs... because most of us thought what our relationship should be or would be like... one way or the other :hypocritesmiley:

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Posted 04 September 2006 - 09:03 AM

I was just trying to start my blog so I decided to read some to somehow inspire me to write again. Then my best friend in highschool posted this in his blog. Then I started thinking about my relationship(s) both past and present and the foundation that came with it.



interesting. quite true though.

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Posted 04 September 2006 - 10:02 AM



This is exactly the reason why until now I feel like I haven't met the guy of my dreams... he does not exist!

Thanks Dr. Phil. :lol:



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Posted 05 September 2006 - 01:31 AM

nice reading... yeps and so much more :)

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Posted 05 September 2006 - 06:30 AM

May point rin siya, iniisip ko lang kung asar na asar asawa ni Dr. Phil dahil feeling niya alam niya lahat ng sagot sa relationships. :P




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