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#21 bonjing

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Posted 18 October 2005 - 11:58 AM

im sorry to hear about your stories...

i lost both my grandmothers to cancer too. my grandma on my dad's side died before i was born so i never met her. but it was tragic anyways since my dad was only 11 when she died... and before she died, she was crying and telling my dad's older siblings to take care of my dad since he was the youngest and would have to grow up without her...

on the other hand, me and my other grandma were really, really close. we didn't know she had cancer until it was too late. she was just in the hospital for a check-up and then next thing we know, they had to take her in. the next day, she had multiple strokes and fell into a coma. that same day, we found out she was already in the latest stage of cancer.

everything happened so fast. after she was diagnosed with cancer, i would wake up in the middle of the night and sit for minutes wishing everything was just a dream. it was crazy and i remembered that my eyes were swollen from crying every time i thought about it -- which was pretty much all the time. 3 weeks after falling into her coma and after being diagnosed with cancer, she passed away.

the lesson i learned from that was simple: never let a day go by without telling people how u feel about them. i regret not ever telling my grandma how much i loved her. when i told her, she was already in a coma and i don't know if she ever heard me...

to this day, it still bugs me that she never heard me say i love u. i sometimes dream about her and in my dreams, i usually run to hug her and i start crying and try to mumble the words "i love you". she usually doesnt say anything in my dreams but one time, she did say something: "i know you do, don't cry. i never got the chance to tell u either but i hope u know i love u..."


my dreams sound like movies.. i've had quite a few but they're all real and very touching for me...

cancer took away my grandma's life but not her love. if u lose someone to cancer, i hope you'll see it this way too.

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Thank you for sharing this with us.

I too lost my grandparents (lolo on dad's side and lolo/lola on mom's side). I do believe your dreams as i believe that people you love try to communicate to you through dreams.

I too, have dreamt of my wife telling me "i love you". The love that we both had (my wife and i) were evident and shown even during her later days. During her last day, wherein she wasn't able to speak anymore, she just looked at me and spread her arms (meaning "big hug"), i hugged her and told her "i love you" and she nodded back (her own way of saying "i love you too").

Haay!!! too sentimental..... sorry.....

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Posted 18 October 2005 - 12:41 PM

I'm sorry to hear about these tragedy's in your lives and after hearing stories like this I always try not to have anybody mad at me or be upset at anybody because they could be gone in a moment. I believe that when your time is up, there is nothing you can do about it.

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Posted 19 October 2005 - 10:42 AM

Thank you for sharing this with us. 

I too lost my grandparents (lolo on dad's side and lolo/lola on mom's side). I do believe your dreams as i believe that people you love try to communicate to you through dreams.

I too, have dreamt of my wife telling me "i love you".  The love that we both had (my wife and i) were evident and shown even during her later days.  During her last day, wherein she wasn't able to speak anymore, she just looked at me and spread her arms (meaning "big hug"), i hugged her and told her "i love you" and she nodded back (her own way of saying "i love you too").

Haay!!! too sentimental..... sorry.....

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:D its ok. i was the one getting REALLY sentimental here. hehe.
thats so sweet tho how u were able to tell your wife exactly how u feel... again, im sorry about your loss.

cancer really is scary because u can keep telling people to avoid eating this and doing that and so on but its not a 100% sure that these people will never develop cancer.... its just horrible. and once a person has been diagnosed with cancer, it seems like a life-long battle... even if they "heal" there's chances of it developing again.

i just recently found out that my best friend when i was in middle school has been diagnosed with cancer and is doing chemo right now... its just sad. all i can do is pray for him... i feel as if he's too young tho but cancer doesnt really pick its target based on vital stats... but i feel devastated anyways since i can't even imagine him having to go through chemo or being close to death's door. and what sucks is he lives soooo far away from me now so i cant even be beside him to offer moral support.

but if anyone here ever develops cancer, its not the end of everything. there is a saying that goes "life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by number of events that have taken our breath away..."

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Posted 10 May 2006 - 11:43 AM

lost my dad to lung cancer about two years ago, just when he retired. its still painful - and mind boggling - he was a non-smoker his whole life, had an active physical routine and took care of himself. why lung cancer, i don't know.

I missed this out. Early detection is key to surviving the BIg C. So better get a yearly executive check up just to make sure there are no surprises later on.

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get a good, high-quality yearly executive check-up. my dad had this done regularly and still the cancer was discovered too late. oh, and if you can, have everything checked.


Anyway, since then, i've been employed in a sort of alternative medical clinic which entailed not just the use of herbs, but also nutrition as a form of treatment for cancer. Sometimes it works on its own, however, i would advise combining it with conventional therapy. if anyone would like some info on cancer prevention tips and advise, just pm me would gladly help. Maybe if i could help others, i could at least diminish the helplessness i felt when my mom was sick.

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we did exactly this, radiation (cobalt) + homeopathy (alternative medicine) and extended his life for 4 months more (medical estimate was 3 months). doesn't sound like a big deal, but it is. we had more time to say goodbye and i love you and more time to get used to his nearing fatality. the nice thing about homeopathy is that my dad died peacefully, without the painful agonies of late-stage cancer.

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Posted 24 May 2006 - 03:07 AM

I was browsing to the site when I came across this topic, I felt so sad, not just because I could feel the pain you people are going through, but also because I was getting an idea how my family initially felt when the news was delivered to me.

I had thyroid problems and had thyroidectomy last December, I never felt anything until the first Friday of January 2006 came. I was on my doctor office and waiting for the pathological report. He told me right away what my condition was, the pathological report confirmed his speculation that I have THYROID CANCER, the type is follicular (the type of cancer cells that migrates from one organ to another) though my 90% of my thyroid was removed, it didnít gave me any comfort. It was on its 2nd stage. It felt like heaven and earth collided and I was left in the middle. No matter how much I try to convince myself that thyroid cancer is the easiest cancer to cure, Iím still having this worried feeling that somehow it is spreading. Sad but true, now I donít worry much on how I feel but rather how my close friends, relatives and family member is feeling.

There were few people who saw me crying as I was telling them my condition. I wanted too much to be strong, to be able to conceive whatever I was feeling because I donít want my family to suffer.

Iím current undergoing treatment and medication, my family was very supportive and so are my friends and colleagues.

I was once told that I should live my live as normal as possible and donít tell my condition get into my way.


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Posted 24 May 2006 - 05:48 AM

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Then I will post my views on cancer, which may sound offensive to those who have loved ones who have died of cancer. But could most likely save the lives of those who are diagnosed with cancer today.

I can only help you if you have an open mind.

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Posted 02 June 2006 - 11:22 AM

Good Day to all....

Just wanted your take on this subject. Your fears, questions, opinions, and whatever... If you would like support, I hope this thread can handle it too...

I'll start the ball rolling.

I lost my wife of 16 years to Breast Cancer.  We battled it for almost 3.5 years, but in the end, we lost.  It was a long, painful, uphill battle.  It drained us financially, emotionally, physically. Nearing the end my wife thanked me for the support.  Told her not to thank me, as I would have done it even without her asking for it.

But life has to go on.  Not advisable to just sit in a corner and sulk or be despondent about Life.

Life is to short not to enjoy it....

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just read this thread but every time i hear of the big C, our struggles, fears, uncertainties come back and haunt me again... my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2002 at the age of 35, was operated , chemotheraphy and the works... its been 4 years but i know in my heart there is no assurance on non recurrence but life has to go on.. from every 3 months check up, we are now in annual check up but we are still stressed during the time of the checkup or even a few weeks before that..it changed our outlook for life forever.. i guess now long term planning is out of the question. we are now living day to day but never forgetting to enjoy every minute of it.......

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Posted 04 June 2006 - 02:20 AM

after reading all y0ur p0st here, bumalik ulit yung mga experiences k0 dati...

i have w0rked in a h0spital bef0re specifically in radiati0n 0nc0l0gy dept. everyday cancer pt ang mga kasama k0 and every b0dy have their 0wn st0ries t0 tell

may 1 nga pt wh0 has been battling the big C f0r alm0st 13 years na and she is winning in the sense na 0k pa naman siya..

there is als0 this pt na 2 yrs 0ld lang-brain cancer grabe maaawa ka talaga sa bata na kailangan lagi pinapatul0g bef0re any treatment...

there are als0 s0me nuns naman na ang cancer naman is sa 0vary and I ask 1 d0ct0r kung bakit nagkagay0n ang sabi is "its either 0ver used 0r never use" gan0n pala yun!!!

p0int here is.....

1. lahat pwede tamaan ng cancer lalake, babae, bakla, t0mb0y...etc..and fr0m ages 1-101
2. there are 3 types 0f "cure" sa cancer
2.1 surgical - rem0val 0f b0dy parts na may cancer cells e.g breast etc..
2.2 medical - chem0 (by injecti0n, dextr0se type yung may bal0t ng carb0n paper, yung iba is cream which i guess is para lang sa mga superficial na cases )
2.3 radiati0n - c0balt, linear accelerat0r (LINAC),mer0n din yung isng type which I f0rg0t!
2.3.1 c0balt - sab0g ang radiati0n nit0 uses chemical element c0balt
2.3.2 LINAC - s0 far the safest radiati0n treatment uses electricity much much m0re accurate than c0balt.
3. between the 3, radiati0n ang safest (LINAC) sa chem0 kase b0th healthy ans cancer cells pinapatay kaya nanghihina talaga ang mga pt sa chem0. but 0f c0urse there are cases na chem0 lang ang pwede 0pti0n like leukemia...
4. early detecti0n, may hinala ka na may cancer ka??? have it check !!! its better t0 be sure than s0rry!!!
5. all and I mean ALL pe0ple have cancer cells its up t0 us para hindi sila ma trigger.

ang kailangan natin iwasan sa big C is magkar00n ng mets 0r metastasis in tagal0g yung pagkalat ng sakit. liver cancer im s0rry t0 say is 0ne 0f the m0st hopeless cases. h0peless might be a str0ng w0rd per0 yun talaga yun.


I AM N0T AN 0NC0L0GIST N0R DID I T00K ANY MEDICAL C0URSE . what I have written here are based 0n first hand inf0rmati0n fr0m d0ct0rs, pt and medical physicist ( the pers0n wh0 prepares the wh0le planning treatment 0f a pt in a rad 0nc0 treatment )

if y0u need a d0c maybe I c0uld refer y0u t0 s0me

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Posted 13 June 2006 - 10:41 AM

i have heard of two cases where they opted radiation before administering chemo treatments... what happened was, the cells didn't respond to the chemo treatments anymore kasi parang naluto na...

anyway... hopefully radiation will be good for my nephew who is only turning 3.... and has been battling cancer since October last year.

my Grandpa had prostate cancer and died... but he was almost 80 when that happened... and maybe because I was still a child, the implications of the disease didn't hit me as much

then his youngest son (my uncle) had colon cancer... had to even have a part of his intestines removed... but again, i didn't actually feel the impact of the disease in our family's life, despite the fact that i watched over him with his wife...

but when my nephew was stricken... a child i watched from infancy... a child i love and adore... we were really devastated... cancer really strikes in random inasmuch as it punishes those who led unhealthy lifestyles (smoking?)...

and we're still waiting for my nephew to be declared cancer-free... but there are more treatments ahead of him... and we're just really grateful that kids are more graceful and brave and resilient than we can ever be...

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Posted 21 June 2006 - 06:05 PM

i have heard of two cases where they opted radiation before administering chemo treatments... what happened was, the cells didn't respond to the chemo treatments anymore kasi parang naluto na...

anyway... hopefully radiation will be good for my nephew who is only turning 3.... and has been battling cancer since October last year.

my Grandpa had prostate cancer and died... but he was almost 80 when that happened... and maybe because I was still a child, the implications of the disease didn't hit me as much

then his youngest son (my uncle) had colon cancer... had to even have a part of his intestines removed... but again, i didn't actually feel the impact of the disease in our family's life, despite the fact that i watched over him with his wife...

but when my nephew was stricken... a child i watched from infancy...  a child i love and adore... we were really devastated... cancer really strikes in random inasmuch as it punishes those who led unhealthy lifestyles (smoking?)...

and we're still waiting for my nephew to be declared cancer-free... but there are more treatments ahead of him... and we're just really grateful that kids are more graceful and brave and resilient than we can ever be...

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sorry to hear that ms beautiful... I really hope your nephew would get the right treatment for him... may I ask kung ano case ng nephew mo? and saan siya nagpapa RT? ang RT kase is pinapatay ang mga cancer cells it is indeed possible na hindi mag respond sa chemo.... if your nephew is declared CA-free
(hopefully soon) you still have to give him check ups every now and then baka kase....


may suggestion lang me here sa mga taong may CA...if your family cannot afford the treatment, try to ask for assistance sa PCSO they do help patients na cant afford.... during these times, hindi na dapt mahiya its life we are talking here... sana po nakatulong ako sa inyo...

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Posted 15 July 2006 - 09:02 AM

I believe that if you catch it early enough, you stand a better chance against it.

Check with your doctor regarding your concerns and for those exams that are regularly done like Pap Smears and Breast exams for the women and Prostate exams for the men including PSA (Prostate specific Antigen) in the blood.

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Posted 24 July 2006 - 12:21 AM

mine is FEAR...

FEAR of losing a loved one...
he has colon cancer.stage 2...
and though i've heard of a medical breakthrough recently,
this damn fear is still creeping my spine...
he's the only person who show me what's life is all about :( :cry:

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Posted 24 July 2006 - 05:42 AM

Is he already seeing an Oncologist?

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Posted 24 July 2006 - 07:14 AM

We shouldn't immediately put down conventional medicine. My friend said that in china, east and west work together to treat cancer.

Like GL says, an ounce of prevention is worth a TON of cure. Check ups, check ups, check ups!

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Posted 24 July 2006 - 08:59 AM

Thanks KK,

again it is too bad that most people don't pay much attention to the signs till it is too late.

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Posted 02 August 2006 - 12:57 AM

Is he already seeing an Oncologist?


yes po..and he was advised to undergo surgery..but he didn't buy that option...
he's mother told him that it will make his condition worst than better...!!! :sick:

We shouldn't immediately put down conventional medicine. My friend said that in china, east and west work together to treat cancer.

Like GL says, an ounce of prevention is worth a TON of cure. Check ups, check ups, check ups!

i heard about this "stem cell weeks ago"...
possible or not...i wanna take chances but i still dont know how or where to start on having this procedure...can u pls fill me in po about all the infos i need regarding this...?
thanks so much po...!!! :(

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Posted 02 August 2006 - 05:41 AM

I'm sorry PeeJay Ong but stem cell therapy is not yet available in medical practice, this is still undergoing research and has a long way to go. I suggest you have a good, long, and informed discussion with your oncologist as to the options that he can offer.

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Posted 02 August 2006 - 07:43 AM

yes po..and he was advised to undergo surgery..but he didn't buy that option...
he's mother told him that it will make his condition worst than better...!!! :sick:
i heard about this "stem cell weeks ago"...
possible or not...i wanna take chances but i still dont know how or where to start on having this procedure...can u pls fill me in po about all the infos i need regarding this...?
thanks so much po...!!! :(



A lot of cancer patients cringe when they hear the word "surgery". For certain types of cancer which are caught early enough, surgery is actually the best option. Surgery is the ONLY modality available for cancer today which when done by a trained surgical oncologist for the properly selected patient can actually afford a CURE because you are able to remove the cancer EN BLOC (assuming, of course, you don't have metastasis yet)! The best results actually have been seen in patients treated with neoajuvant chemotherapy (chemotherapy before surgery) followed by surgery, then by another set of chemotherapy after. Theoretically by doing this, you k*ll the micrometastasis and shrink the tumor first, then do the surgery after the tumor has shrunk, then again k*ll what is left of the micromets after. Think of it this way - you are out to k*ll an Al Quaeda safehouse; some enemy fighters might be scattered in the structures in the surrounding building. You first drop the cluster bombs to take out as much of the surrounding area as possible, then direct your smart bomb on the safehouse for the surgical strike! Of course, it doesnt work all the time, but for the patients on whom this works, it makes all the difference!

Another reason why surgery is suggested even for some unresectable tumors or for mets patients is that surgery will decrease the tumor load of the body. Why is this important? If the tumor load is decreased, then there will be a smaller area on which the chemotherapy/RT would need to work on. So if your medical oncologist (assuming he is a well trained one) feels that surgery will be of benefit, it should be something you should seriously consider.

As for the stem cells, GL is right - the technology is still too far off to be of benefit to anyone for anything.

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Posted 02 August 2006 - 08:26 PM

Currently they are advertising a service for storage of stem cells from umbilical cords but this is only for unborn children.

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Posted 06 August 2006 - 10:59 AM

yes po..and he was advised to undergo surgery..but he didn't buy that option...
he's mother told him that it will make his condition worst than better...!!! :sick:
i heard about this "stem cell weeks ago"...
possible or not...i wanna take chances but i still dont know how or where to start on having this procedure...can u pls fill me in po about all the infos i need regarding this...?
thanks so much po...!!! :(


Stem cell is currently available right now..im working as a bone marrow transplant nurse or what we called the stem cell transplant medyo may kamahalan po ata ito and i dont know kung available ito sa pilipinas, as for the stem cord transplant ginagawa po ito sa mga pasyente na walang makuhang match na donor para sa bone marrow transplant some are succesful in doing this kind of procedure ung preparation and pagkuha ng donor ang medyo mahirap at ung process na dadaanan ng pasyente ang medyo dapat e paghandaan both physically and emotionally...kung may katanoungan po kayo tungkol dito ill try to answer them sa abot po ng ating makakaya pag di ko na po masagot magtatanong po tayo sa mas nakakaalam...my prayers to all those experiencing and battling the big C both the patients and relatives




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